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Posted: 11/24/2005 3:44:40 PM | oops, posted under dryspell, stupid shared work computer. | |
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Posted: 11/24/2005 5:33:06 PM | | totally agree...habitually late is someone's need to be in control, and it is totally disrespectful..everyone's time is valuable.. | |
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Posted: 11/24/2005 7:50:15 PM | How about this simple idea, ask here to call and let you know if she's going to be more than a few minutes late?
ok, I just learnt that one myself, but I'm very rarely late. | |
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Posted: 11/27/2005 3:31:45 PM | | I have 4 clocks in my house and they are ALL set at a different time....as long as I dont know if I am going to be late or early....I always end up on time..LMAO!.... | |
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Posted: 11/27/2005 3:33:50 PM | Simple...
If you have plans at 6:00pm, tell her they are at 5:30pm... always allow time for her to put her face on, or find it...
Other than that, you could take the harsher road like I do... to the curb with their rude asses...  | |
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g2theq
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Joined: 5/26/2005
Msg: 31 | |
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Posted: 11/27/2005 3:37:05 PM | | Just to play devil's advocate cause I loathe lateness myself but how come the term 'Fashionably late', came about then, lol? | |
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Posted: 11/27/2005 3:38:05 PM | | So that women could make a Grand entrance to a big function...you know kinda like they are the center of attention | |
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Rexlo
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Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 33 | |
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Posted: 11/27/2005 3:43:36 PM | | Only difficulty with telling someone who is habitually late an earlier time like a half an hour earlier when they find out you may do that they then will make a point of being a half hour plus late. I know because this has happened. So then the curb idea seems like the only alternative. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2005 3:44:46 AM | Show up early? Why bother, when your punctual nobody is there to notice, when your late people remember you for it.
It is all about fashionably late.
Except with first dates, for those i am 5 minutes early (usualy)... | |
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Posted: 12/10/2005 11:09:14 AM | "pathelogically selfish" <- right on the money...
If you don't like it now - ditch her; don't expect her to change for your sake | |
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Posted: 12/10/2005 11:24:16 AM | Being ADHD and the mom of three teens who move at their own speed.. I am chronically punctuality challenged. I can be on time.. and I try I really do.
I don't like to make people wait..
But my ex used to say that one of the reasons I was always late so that I underestimate how much it will take me to get somewhere. I always leave at the last minute and always seem to run into snags in traffic etc.
I'm not sure what that is.. I don't actually ever plan on being late. It just happens.
I overbook myself and I underestimate travel times.. Any suggestions?
BTW Rexlo.. those boxes were wonderful and are wonderful and you deserve a huge hug for waiting for my late ass to show up.. (He didn't leave .. but he did point out what he had said in this post!!!).. LOL | |
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Posted: 12/10/2005 4:29:17 PM |
Lateness is one of the most rude things you can do to someone you are basically saying "I do not respect you or your time, because I and my time are more important"
100 % agreed. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2005 4:39:49 PM | I am one that is a stickler for being on time. But my best friend of 12 years, she is just the opposite!
I bought her a watch for her bday -that didn't work
So what I have learned being her friend...I tell her to meet me lets say at 8:30pm, but myself not intending to be there until about 10ish - it always works - we usually arrive at the same time.
We are talking about a girl that takes 20 minutes to put on mascara!
One new years, in the time it took her to get up, shower and put on her makeup, I showered, styled my hair, put on nailpolish, makeup =- and yes MADE THE DRESS lol....
Some people just cant get it together when it comes to time.
I have talked to her about it - and she does feel guilty - but after years of wanting to kick her in the butt, I gave up and did the telling her to be there much earlier than I am really going to be. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 4:04:40 PM | Personally, I am not a fan of someone being late either. I agree with the others here that it is disrespectful.
One of my sisters is almost always late for just about everything. So, I solved that problem with her by telling her the time she needed to be ready for and it was always at least an hour earlier than it needed to be. Our whole family laughs about it now, but at times hasn't.
One year, my other sister was having Christmas dinner at her house. The late sister was told that dinner was at 5pm. Well, she showed up at almost 7pm. By that time, the food had all been put away and the dishes were done. She was pretty upset by those actions...did it teach her a lesson? No...hehe
Its not so bad now tho as her b'f keeps her in line pretty good. He gets on her case if she is running behind. Now, she almost always shows up on time.
Good luck with your g/f! | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 5:17:00 PM | | Is it ok then, if my time really IS more important than your time? | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 7:49:30 PM | | Groupies don't count, hellbenderz | |
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Posted: 12/12/2005 10:05:03 AM | You either respect a person's time, and GET there ON time, or don't bother.
I understand that there can be exceptions, but habitually late?! THERE IS SOMETHING wrong with that. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2005 2:30:54 PM | On time performance is the name of my game (or gameful employment for that matter)
Tardiness is not acceptable and is a dismissible offence... (See "stealing time")
When i dated a girl who was chronically late (getting ready, doing hair, makeup, whatever else is being constructed in the bathroom) i used to sit around for literally up to an hour some times, i just resigned myself to the fact that this chick is HIGH maintenace, and i started arriving later, and thus waiting less time for her. And, if I may continue, fooling my psyche into thinking that I was actually getting ahead in the situation...
Man i'm dumb. | |
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Posted: 1/28/2008 10:06:43 AM | Send her this blog and laugh at some of the other content - but kinda point out the punctuality piece :
http://sophiasparx.blogspot.com/ | |
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Posted: 1/28/2008 10:48:23 AM | I'm always late. what I find works is when the other party tells me to get there by 3 when the movie starts at 3:30.
since I'm always 15 minutes late the person ends up getting there at 3:15. I show up at 3:15 - 3:20 and everyone is happy
this is one of those cases it doesn't hurt to lie about when you need to get there. lights a little fire under the persons but, and gets them moving | |
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Posted: 1/28/2008 4:08:16 PM | I find I'm passively agressively late (diagnosed by the POF forums in the over 45 thread) and that I'm disrepectful of other people and maybe even rude and childish because I'm horrible at punctuality.
Everyone is treated exactly equal... I wil probably be late for my own funeral.. at least I hope so.
Friend, work, family or myself, I can and have been late. Doesnt' mean I'm always late.. but I can be late because I underestimate the time it takes to get somewhere or the time it takes to do a certain errand, or I simply hit the snooze button one too many times.
I've learned to accept it about myself... now if the rest of the world could just accept it it would be good!!! | |
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Posted: 1/29/2008 5:22:57 AM | | Sadly, I think it's an issue of respect, or the lack thereof. If a person's cronically late almost all the time and they know that, it's not very nice to tell somebody to meet you someplace at a time that's likely to leave them looking around for ya. An occasional dragging of the feet is understandable, but it's disrespectful to waste someones time and leave them searching and/or waiting on a regular basis | |
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Posted: 1/29/2008 8:01:11 AM | | there is a difference between deliberately being late and just being late | |
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Posted: 1/29/2008 8:46:15 AM | | Get used to it man because it'll never go away. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2008 8:59:02 AM | | I have a couple girlfriends that are chronically late and I try to accept that about them and take that into account when I make plans. It's a given they'll be 20-40 mins late so I ask them to phone me when they're on their way so I'm not sitting around waiting for them. BUT could I stand that in a partner? No frickin way, it would drive me slowly insane. Even raising twins, I'm on time so this talk about using children as an excuse is a cop out. Plan for the things that come up, know how long it takes to get ready, buy a watch, don't dawdle, it's really not rocket science, it's just time management. | |
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