| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 4/14/2006 7:31:59 PM | @dw... regarding your friend who is blind in one eye, and flies a plane... i'm not sure that's such a great thing... i know that here in bc, and also in the states, that one MUST have vision in BOTH eyes to operate any moving vehicle... my father in law had to cheat on all his eye exams in order to get his pilots/drivers licence in nh, az and cali... my dad got a driving suspension after the police pulled him over because he was wearing an eye patch...
anyways, ot... yes i would date a disabled person | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 4/14/2006 7:46:32 PM | Depends on what we mean by disabled really.
There are plenty of people who call themselves disabled as it suits their needs. I'm not interested in them but it has nothing to do with their condition.
Then of course there are the mentally disabled. Can't say I'm particularly attracted to them in any way.
Then there are those that are wheelchair-bound. That's iffy territory because it depends on what kinds of demands I would be expected to fulfill as say, the husband. If my wife became that way, that's something I wouldn't think twice about but I can't say that I'd consciously seek out somebody in a wheelchair for a romantic relationship.
Then we have people who are otherwise healthy but have , say MS for example. I simply wouldn't want to get involved with somebody romantically who had MS due to the fact that in the not too distant future, I would be laying her to rest.
That still, believe it or not, leaves many hundreds of thousands of people in the world who are not what we would call fully able bodied that I would consider dating. For example, somebody who needs crutches to walk or has a minor deformity. Maybe even a major deformity...depends on what it is I suppose. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 4/14/2006 9:24:23 PM | | @dw... thanks for the info, that's good that allowances are made... however, as far as driving, binocular, and peripheal vision are required, and a good thing too... | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:45:08 AM | Just a little note....I have MS....and I'm not going to die of Multiple Scelrosis Hell NOOOOOOOOOOO! My uncle who also had MS died when he was in his 70's and had heart failure! Belle Starr a fiesty women of 77 ....also has MS runs a horse refuge and is going strong! So don't be thinking MS kills....HELL NOOOOOOOO!   | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 2:36:37 PM | I'm amazed this question is even being asked.
I was married to a handicapped person for eight wonderful years until she died, seven of them confined to a wheelchair. Kathy did more, with less, than 90% of the so-called "whole" people I've ever known, and that includes myself. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 5:22:54 PM | IM "HANDICAPPED"
I HAVE MUSCULAR DYSTROPHY
USE A WHEELCHAIR{ELECTRIC}
IM A PHYSICIAN TOO
WHOAS ANYONE WHO THINKS THEY MAY NEVER WIND UP "HANDICAPPED" | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 4/20/2006 11:28:33 AM | .
. . . As posted by me on another thread; but perhaps goes better here. . . .
A couple days ago, while I was out of town, I had occasion to cause a surprise visit with a gal almost my age who I have been “talking” with over the net and by phone almost since the net started. She had a major stroke a while back and would have been relegated to the dust-bin for humans had it not been for her excellent attitude and the help of her family physician. Over the past couple years I’ve been reading her medical records (she provided them) and commenting on therapy tricks she should try.
Anyway, I know enough about her to know that she cannot yet drive and depends on public transportation to get to work. So, it didn’t take me long to learn where the bus would stop when she arrived home and so stationed myself across the street and a little bit away from where she would see me while crossing the street. I wanted to watch her natural movement, after all, without her realizing I was watching.
What a treat this long, tall gal was to see! Dressed quite nicely, walking tall and with class, only the hint of a limp that few without a trained eye would notice. Sure, I could see the affect of the stroke, but she covered very nicely.
And then she spotted me standing there alone (some of us put up photos that look exactly like we do), stood there and smiled, asking, “Is that you?” No answer was necessary. I just held up my arms for a hug and let her come to me. And so I learned two important things at that moment: She can walk quite fast when she wants to and her so called “limp” arm can hug tightly.
So that’s what put a large smile on my face: knowing that an old Internet friend is progressing very well and is again a beautiful and productive lady. Besides, I got to take her out to dinner so we could talk.
Was I stalking? Sure! So what? She sure didn’t mind. Some of us are not afraid to meet people from the net. In this case, the first message on my answering machine when I got back home was a very happy one from her.
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 4/25/2006 5:14:28 PM | | I am deaf, but I don't see myself handicap. Plus I don't see the handicaps handicapped either or retards. Communication is everything, if one person can commuicate, go for it. Why is everyone thinking with their head in the gutter when they are dating handicap? If one person worries how to have sex with a person in a wheel chair, that's definely a very shallow person. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2006 5:23:09 AM | | Hi all!!!! Yeah its no surprise 1 your a pretty lady and 2 u have a kind face so of course they approach! When your faced with a handicap and faced with dating, its not easy! Its diffecult enough even when your not...right? LOL Don't shut the door even if u do know within yourself that u couldn't date someone with a disability u might be able to make a great new friend! Have a good one guys and gals!;-) | |
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Posted: 4/26/2006 6:21:14 AM | What if its a mental handicap?
And she's attune to moments of delutional rage?
Depending on the kind of handicap maybe I can be friends with a handicap, but no, I would never date a handicapped person. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2006 11:00:00 AM | I really really really despise the word HANDICAP unless it's referred to in a golf game...A politically correct word could be disability or limitations....
I dated a deaf guy once and we are still very good friends after all these years.....I dont know if that counts but if I were with someone and he became physically disabled then yea I would still date him, that would just be shallow to dump him....
If I got to know someone well and they were physically disabled...hey as long as we get along and click...why not....we have to remember one day it coould happen to us and then what.....we would be the ones asking the same questions....who'd date me...or would anyone be interested because of my limitations.......
There are challenges but that's why it's called life...we deal with it and move on and be happy | |
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Posted: 5/16/2006 3:55:04 AM | A politically correct word could be disability or limitations....
My wife was severely handicapped even before I met her & spent the last seven years of her life bedridden, and she preferred the term "handicapped".
Now, for guys like me now, out here, in the dating world, I prefer to be called a "gravitationally-challenged Uglo-American"...  | |
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Posted: 5/16/2006 9:00:33 AM | Ohhhh I like that "gravitationally-challenged" Can I use it?
Really sorry about your wife....must have been very diffecult, but I know its made a better person of u! Commenadable darlin!
Jackie | |
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Posted: 5/17/2006 4:02:21 AM |
Commenadable darlin!
Finally, a woman who'll call me darlin and she has to live in Canada!
Seriously, thanks. Despite Kathy's handicap, that little tiny woman did more, with less, than 90% of the "whole" people I've ever known. She was an inspiration to everyone around her. I still to this day don't know what she saw in a lunkhead like me. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2006 6:24:33 AM | Heh Heh!
And yes seriously, your lucky to have known a women like that, I'm sure she was an inspiration to everyone. May she rest in peace and be in a better place, my heart is with you! I can see why she was with a lunkhead like you, and so can everyone else! ;-) DARL'IN!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/17/2006 6:45:53 AM | OP do you want to try being in my place say for 2 years see how it feels when i,m 80% disabled ? if not then why asked a moronit question for their only human also i,m 80% disaabled male in calif but i don't let that stop me from going doing the things i want to do i do alot of fishing and helpin out others with thir computer problems, i had more and more people se how i,am and tell me they feel sorry for me after they see all what happen to me in 91 but i still go on, i was in a wheelchair for 2 years and its fun in alot of ways but now sincei,m able to walk again loook out oh where the next dance at anyone know?  | |
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Posted: 5/24/2006 1:45:42 PM | I was born w/o a right hand, and I have all but given up on dating. Men are horrible, awful, terribly shallow creatures that think of nothing but looks and if they can get laid. All I look like to them is an overweight (not obese) waste of space gimp that isn't wearing a skimpy enough top to show off my boobs.
No one dates 'handicapped' people in this day and age! They all say they would, but when it comes down to it, they're lying **stards who only consider doing it if it benefits them in some other way-- like a ride or she pays the bills or buys him cigs-- or if the chick puts out and doesn't notice he's seeing his real GF on the side. When we can't get treeated the sameway at work, why would dates treat us any different?
All men want are perky, petite figures with a big rack, no brains, and a submissive attitude-- I only have one of the three, but no one dates a 'stubs'. I keep trying these stupid sites, but I may as well put my head in the oven for all the good it'll do. Why do I even bother? People suck. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2006 2:02:35 PM |
All men want are perky, petite figures with a big rack, no brains, and a submissive attitude-- I only have one of the three, but no one dates a 'stubs'. I keep trying these stupid sites, but I may as well put my head in the oven for all the good it'll do. Why do I even bother? People suck.
Makes me really want to spend time around you. NOT!
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 5/24/2006 5:49:33 PM | Brawny, how can you be positive when everything is so negative? I NEVER talk that way when I talk to people...I'm practically saccharine-nice. The kids at work love me, and so do my co-workers---
But why do I have to be so damn nice all the time? Your reply is exactly what I mean. If a guy said that, it would be 'great, man...speak your mind'. Because it's me, a woman, it's 'what a ****'! Girls do not have to be nice all the time! I am bitter and tired of the way I am treated, and I'm not allowed to be angry about it...everyday, I'm just nice, nice, nice. I always go the extra mile, do all the unpaid favors, take the blame for others so they don't get fired, give the free rides home after work...I take care of my mother and father (alcoholic and addict in that order), who act like 50 year old kids that think I owe them ( thanks for the abuse, guys), my roommate cousin hates me because I went to art school and she didn't, my other roommate is a recovering crackhead I have to drive everywhere ('he's family' my ass).... I just smile and sigh-- "You know I do it for you, guys...."
And all I ever get is 'Lighten up! You have no real problems!' Sure. I'm going to be alone forever because I care about more than lipstick and my skirt length, and it's absolutely disgusting. Deep down, I am a very nice person, but I refuse to act like a submissive priss just to get a man. Aren't there guys out there that like assertive women who don't follow the norm of Oprah, American Idol and 'squeee-- it's that 'Had a Bad Day' song! Turn it up!'
I guess, though, I never even have to worry about that, either...remember, folks-- even though they say 'personality is what's important', try that when you go to a bar and a guy all but screams and runs at the sight of your missing hand. It's happened to me. | |
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