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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/27/2005 10:16:11 AM | I would definitely date someone with a "handicap". I detest that term too. Before I go any further though, I should say that I am considered legally blind myself, so my outlook (like some of the other posters in this thread) comes from a personal understanding of facing some difficult challanges. Over the years I have dated a couple of men who had disabilities. One became blind due to diabetes and the other was born with cerebral palsy. Their attitudes and outlooks were as different as night and day. One was very independent and self-sufficient, the other had been sheltered and held back from trying to achieve.
I would definitely date someone with the independent attitude. Since I have a lot of that independence myself, I find it partiularly attractive. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/27/2005 12:02:08 PM | | I probably would date someone who is handicapped......but most likely i'd be just in it 4 the parking...espically now during the holiday season....you ever see how difficult it is to find a spot?....wowzers!!! | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/27/2005 4:49:10 PM | | ^^^^ wrong on so many levels....., it would be like dating someone rich because they can afford to buy you whatever you want or dating someone famouse because they can get preferred treatment some places. I really hope you're only kidding. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/27/2005 5:33:11 PM | | I knew this woman with a glass eye. I meet her at a gym I was working out at. We went out once. I could never tell if she was looking for at me or the person next to me. I told her I wasn't interested in a romantic realtionship, but that we could continue working out together at the gym, and she said "ok I'll keep an eye out for you." | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/27/2005 11:33:20 PM | Do you count profound deafness as a handicap??? I ask 'cause there are many deaf people who do not .. I dated a girl when I was in the military and she was incredibly fun, vibrant, and sexy as all hell. We ended up in my bed after three dates and only then did I discover that she was in fact totally deaf without her hearing aids.....(sigh) I miss her sometimes...
Handicaps do not stop people from being people...just makes doing so in a world that is largely not built with them in mind more difficult... | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/28/2005 6:19:18 AM | | No I wouldn't. A handicapped person does not need me, I'm athletic and not at all into dating wheelchair occupants. I never come into contact with them, so I guess I know nothing about them. I need to be with an outdoors type who can keep up on a hike or a bike. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/28/2005 7:37:48 AM | dear Joey
My brother is in a wheel chair, he works out at the gym, plays basketball and competes in races, he would outhike your scrawny ass any day of the week. You sound like a completely ignorant female version of a jerk. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/28/2005 8:55:09 AM |
No I wouldn't. A handicapped person does not need me, I'm athletic and not at all into dating wheelchair occupants. I never come into contact with them, so I guess I know nothing about them. I need to be with an outdoors type who can keep up on a hike or a bike.
People are indiviuals. It all depends on the persons particular issue. "Handicapped" and "disabled" are not catchall phrases. I myself probably would not be able to keep up, and I'm not even in a wheelchair, but what about these guys?
http://www.murderballmovie.com/
I'll bet there are plenty of people here that *you* would have trouble keeping up with: http://caf.temp.powweb.com/
There are also these cycles available: http://www.cycle-n-sleep.co.uk/disabled.htm
I'm not saying you are wrong for wanting to be able to share activities that are important to you with your partner, but I do think you are lumping people together into a rather ignorant perception. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/28/2005 9:11:41 AM | | Yes, I would- i dated someone who had severe depression,and as i struggle with that a bit, i dont think i will date someone who has mental problems.Personally, the older i get,the less i am concerend with whether someone has all of the "normal" parts.It's what is on the inside that counts.Howeve,i would have to feel an attraction for the person-you know the butterfly thing in your stomach:P I have had the opportunity to teach dance to people who are able bodied,and who have some physical limitations-people are people-i am not going to limit myself to only people who are physically "normal" (whatever that is) Just my 2 cents.Shanna | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/28/2005 11:42:55 AM | People...I'm talking about me,,,I'm not putting "you" down. If I don't want to go out with people in wheelchairs I don't have to go out with people in wheelchairs, and I don't have to feel guilty about it. I didn't put them there and I'm not keeping them there. If a more accomplished athletic person thinks I'm unsuitable, then that's ok too. If you think I'm a jerk and state that here, I believe your statement says a lot more about you than me.
I don't want wheelchair people to feel second best, because they aren't. I just don't want to date a guy in a wheelchair, there's absolutely no point to it as far as I'm concerned.
As far as being ignorant in lumping people together, I guess I'm not allowed to state a preferrence without being maligned. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/28/2005 12:46:47 PM | | It's the way you did it. But that's fine. After seeing how you phrase things, I'm sure people in wheelchairs wouldn't have any reason to want to date you, either. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/28/2005 4:31:16 PM | Vegandude  agree totally!!
Your legs or any other physical problem someone has is not directly connected to there heart. It is sad that people think that way. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/28/2005 4:43:15 PM | | I know a very lovely woman here on POF who some people would think is handicapped, but I'd date her without any hesitation. She is about the most real, down to earth woman I have ever known and has feelings, desires and dreams just like everyone else! | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/28/2005 4:43:59 PM | | It's no good pretending that having a disabled partner doesn't affect your lifestyle because it does. Also the situation can vary tremendously depending on what help is needed and what is available. I would date someone who was disabled if I happened to get to know him and fell for him in ' real life'. Otherwise I would not knowingly seek out a partner with a serious disability from the net. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/28/2005 4:54:06 PM | How handicapped?
Like missing an arm or a leg?
Because she can still hobble..
And if they are in a chair you know they can't run away from you!
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I'll burn in hell for that one. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/28/2005 4:54:24 PM | | Yes I would, and I have. I was seeing a young lady when I was in my mid twenties who was death. We went out for about a half of a year. This experience opened my eye, and it gave me a chance to learn some basic sign language. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/28/2005 8:21:40 PM | You know what Joey-Anne42, I can respect choices but I cannot respect this...
I don't want wheelchair people to feel second best, because they aren't.
Did you happen to notice your use of the English Language here? Haveyou noticed, in your day to day business, people that look like wheelchairs, I've never seen that myself...
Your terminololgy is disrespectful and degrading and at best is meant to make a person who uses a wheelchair for mobility to feel like they are second best....think about it, reread it and maybe just maybe put on a therapeutic shoe for a moment and think about how you might feel if you were described as wheelchair people!
I have dated a person with a disability(notice the emphasis on person!), and I would again without hesitation, I learned alot about them, me and other people.
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/28/2005 8:23:39 PM |
That would be great to have a totally deaf woman, because you could fart whenever you wanted to.
Ah veedub, the vibrations darling, they would give you away! 
mc | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/28/2005 8:26:59 PM | gentle bear
I was seeing a young lady when I was in my mid twenties who was death.
eek, like the grim! You lasted 6 months, wow mate that is unbelievable!!!! I never knew the grim used sign language, maybe I stand a chance when it's my chance to date death.
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