jimb77
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Joined: 8/30/2005
Msg: 51 | |
| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/28/2005 8:28:41 PM | depends how severe, I would never leave a wife due to a handicap after marriage though. I guess I was the one who paid attention to the vows | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/29/2005 6:21:34 AM | I was married to a spinal injuries woman for 4 years,until she died. She was the most wonderful&caring woman,that i had ever met.She died about twenty years ago,but i still miss her | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/29/2005 6:27:06 AM | I would. If one trult loves someone they will always love them and they will not let external
factors hinder and progress in love. When i am with someone ,I want to be committed to them and try to help them any way i can because it is whats on the inside that is inlove and nothing can break that bond and when you have that true love in you you will always see the beauty in all peolple no matter their race, gender, look, ethnicity etc   | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/29/2005 6:52:34 AM | Yes I would...love doesnt come in the form of what you are on the outside...but the finer qualities on the inside....
We are all handicapped in one way or another...therefore its not for us to pass judgement on others.
It has been my experience that almost everyone I have met that is handicapped....is very respectful, hard working, talented, honest, fun to be with, sincere, dont feel sorry them themselves, have morals, take very good care of themselves, generious, greatful, willing to do for others before themselves, and most of all are very loving people.....
The nice thing about special people is they are not fake. What you see is what you get and I really like that......
They have more to offer a person than most......
Special people have every right to be loved like as the rest of us......therefore if I was to date someone with disabilites, I know I would be getting the real person...in lieu of dating someone that wont show you who they really are until you have been dating for awhile...
The rest of the population can learn alot about the true meaning of life from a special person..... | |
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cgrcry
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Joined: 11/20/2005
Msg: 55 | |
| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/29/2005 4:55:02 PM | my answer to this question is that there have been many men who have not wanted to date me because of my disabilities. there are also men who have been "willing" to date me but not in venues where their friends would see us. there have been men who chased me because they couldn't believe a disabled woman could do ______(whatever i was doing). incredibly, there have even been a few who have not wanted to date me because they didn't like me - imagine that! bless all of you, but this debate(?) in whole shows more about what's wrong than anything else. (lest the smarta$$e$ take advantage of my omission, of course i have loved and been loved.  ) | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/29/2005 5:20:07 PM | Depends on the handicap most likely. I like to be active and do active things. If a person would be unable to join me in doing those things, I would probably not be very interested.
I know some people who, despite being stuck in a wheelchair, that can climb most mountains. I would not have a problem dating someone like that. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 11/29/2005 6:09:11 PM | Love comes in all shapes and sizes, and no one ever said that the box it's shipped in is perfect in every way. In that sense no ones perfect, whether it be a phisical defection or otherwise. I'd gladly date a woman with a handicapt as long as it's not mental retardation.
I know it may sound shallow to some people, but unless theres good communication it would never work.
-Venomous  | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/1/2005 6:33:07 PM | | I think if you get right down to it EVERYONE has a handicap of one type or another since I've never heard of any perfect human beings. But since I'm not perfect I could be wrong. | |
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c7t1
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Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 60 | |
| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/2/2005 9:22:12 PM | Wow there been allot of responses since I had been away on this topic.
I haven’t read them all but I will and will have more to say when I do; however there is one I would like to respond to right now.
Marabellesexican
I did, but as a favor.. does that count?
You are a beautiful woman. You are also proof of the statement that beauty is only skin deep because you are truly ugly on the inside and personally don’t do me any favors. I rather pay some skank than have anything to do with a person like you.
You might want to remember that I was rendered a paraplegic in a matter of seconds after an accident. Don’t think you are invincible; because no one is. I truly wish you good luck and hope your good looks pay off for you and provide with a happy fulfilling life because your black heart sure a hell won’t.
For the other who posted here I apologize for my rant.
Allan | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/2/2005 11:32:05 PM | For the other who posted here I apologize for my rant.
Allan
Hey Allan,
Trust me no need to apologize for your rant...You are a better man than I could ever dream of being.I have read your posts...and if I am ever in Ontario... I promise the first
 is on me.
NoNo | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/3/2005 12:10:29 AM | Depends on what there disablity is and how it would effect ur life. I want someone who is able to join me on hikes and camping since that is one of my fav things to do.
I think generaly we all have this ideal check list of what we want in a person, but when it comes down to it sometimes u get suprised, and u meet someone who is nothing close to that list yet u are blown away. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/3/2005 6:04:29 PM | | Well..if she is mentally fine, then absolutely yes, because she is probably for sane then 90% of the women out there. And to AbH...good on you! Your attitude ROCKS! | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/3/2005 6:13:46 PM | | Yes I would and I have. I moved away for 4 years and when I came back, I'd found out a friend of mine had had a serious logging accident and had broken his back. He is now confined to his wheelchair. We dated for a couple of months at the time. Sure he has bad days, heck, we all do but he's still an awesome person. He is probably one of the kindest people I know, and he has a wicked sense of humour. I introduced him to his now-fiancee and she loves him for who he is, not how he is. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/3/2005 6:48:15 PM | | I would definitely date a man that's handicapped, but it would depend on how profoundly. I consider myself a giver rather than a taker, and I already am a caregiver for two people. But I HAVE initiated contact with men here who state in their profiles that they're wheelchair bound. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/3/2005 6:53:27 PM | I have a permanent brain injury from a mountain biking accident 6 years ago. I'm still a good human being, (maybe a bit better since my close call with death), but I know some people can't seem to get past that, thinking I'm "mentally unstable". I may have had some problems with emotions in the past, but I'm not dangerous.
I spent some time in a wheelchair during my physiotherapy. My brain was still scrambled a bit, so I never got in any relationships. I was lonely, and I just wanted to have someone there for me, but I would NOT have been ready for a relationship. I just went out with friends to movies on occaission, cuz I used to be able to get an "assistant" in to the theatres for free with me in my wheelchair. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/3/2005 7:45:00 PM | Depends on the circumstances surrounding it. I know that's sort of shallow, but I'm not going to lie and sugarcoat it. I've taken care of those that were severly handicaped and I don't think I want the issues that seem to come hand in hand. Guess I'm selfish..  | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/3/2005 7:55:39 PM | | Most definitely. There is nothing unattractive about a person who is handicapped, unless she is bitter about her handicap. Everybody has something wrong with him/herself that presents itself as a handicap of one form or another--yes, even the "beautiful people" have issues to contend with. So, pigeonholing someone who has a physical handicap and deciding that she is unattractive because of it? Talk about shallow. I hate to be cliche, but you shouldn't judge a book by its cover. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/3/2005 7:57:23 PM | I think if you get right down to it EVERYONE has a handicap of one type or another since I've never heard of any perfect human beings. But since I'm not perfect I could be wrong.
I couldn't agree with this statement any more! If you really get down to it, the term "handicapped" is rather offensive to me personally! I have a sister, who's hearing impaired and other people within my family who are disabled. I just love when able bodied folks, pity my loved ones. My sister has her sh!t together and is living a wonderful life. She has to rely on some modern technologies that most folks don't (like her TDD). But the things she relies upon makes her life a little bit easier. I have learned so much about life and the things that most folks take for granted from my family members who don't have those things. If the right man were to come along, I know I could see beyond any disablilty. Who is to say any of us won't step in front of a car tomorrow and be changed for ever as a result???? Wouldn't you like to think someone would still love you despite it? Just my 2 cents!!! | |
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Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 73 | |
| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/3/2005 8:12:03 PM | Dear mr nonobaddog''
I AM VERY IMPRESSED WITH YOUR ATTITUDE AND THINK YOUR A PRETTY COOL GUY WITH THAT OUTLOOK''.kUODOS'' TO THE LUCKY ONE WHO GETS YOU AS A PARTNER,AS I THINK YOU SEEM TO BE A PRETTY WELL ROUNDED PERSON WHEN LOOKING AT PEOPLE AROUND YOU AND HOW YOU TREAT THEM. TO BAD YOU LIVE SO FAR AWAY'''''''. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/3/2005 8:58:30 PM | Ok there are a lot of insensitive people out there that obviously did not read this whole thread through.
ABH I'm glad to see you are upbeat. At 19 1000lbs of steal fell on my legs and although it did not leave me in a chair it did it's damage. I was offered several times a parking permit but I always thought I can walk why would I need that? So never took one. Now 21 years later you can hardly tell when you see me.
Now at forty I have what the Dr.s are calling another disability, please. So What I had a couple of heart attacks that needed surgery to fix me up, hence the name. I still do not want a permit.
What does bug me though is people that have these permits in their cars that park here and I cannot see any disability with them. Sure they may be like me or have breathing troubles but not all of them, some are just family members taking advantage. This really bugs me however, now in Ontario anyway the laws are a changing. Even people like me will not always qualify. Let's see how easily these people get by without their preferred parking permit.
Allan your a good man too.
Anyway enough of the rant the answer is yes for me and to all of the ones that are honest and admit it is hard good for you. At least you are honest. | |
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c7t1
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Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 75 | |
| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/3/2005 9:43:23 PM | Almost every one I know with a physical disability goes through life with most of the same problems able body people do. I have no qualms about any one who for what ever reason doesn’t care to date some one with a disability. Ace it that is their right. Some men won’t date ladies of a certain weight, ethnic group, religion or any one of many reasons. Some people just aren’t attracted too or fear they will become care givers; and that’s their right.
However as I have stated there are probably have more things in common than one would think. Do I wish ladies would give us guys and guys give the ladies a chance? Of course I do. Do I wish I had some significant other? You bet your bottom dollar I do. But I will not settle. Settling for some one is wrong in so many ways for both parties.
What does get my dander is up is people who patronize us. Forgive me for putting this in again but this post just pissed me off big time.
Marabellesexican
I did, but as a favor.. does that count?
That was just plain mean, malicious, and rude. | |
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