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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/3/2005 10:14:27 PM | | A physical handicap would be a negative, but not a deal-breaker, so it could be offset by other positives. Coincidentally, I just finished reading one of the perennial short men, BBW women threads, and there was a strong recurring theme among women seeking men who are at least six inches taller than them. That would limit chairbound men to dating only dwarves... | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/3/2005 11:15:21 PM | I was disabled in a auto accident however I function just fine just a lot of pain. The Doctors. took me out of work 3 years ago and I have been trying for my disability ever since to no avail. I'm a really good person at heart I'm not abusive, I don't drink or do drug's don't smoke, I'm caring, loving, and sharing and I hate to argue "but you cant tell that from my post lol" I really love kids. But when women see I don't work the avoid me like the plague. I do volunteer a lot in my community I'm very active in my fraternal organizations and I coach little league football. I've been told I am attractive. When I was working dating was not a problem but now it is nonexistent. I am not poor by any means and Ive got a fine home to rest my head. Please someone give me some advice its getting awful lonely around here | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/4/2005 2:39:03 AM | | my girlfriend is "overweight", and that is considered a disability. Shes also "ADD", so theres another. I've never been more in love my entire life, than I am with her. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/4/2005 2:54:43 AM | ^^^^
this guy's got it right...the universal answer to this question is "if they make me feel attracted to them, I will date them" no one can deny it....
There are so many factor's surrounding this question....I know there are a handful of women who would love to date me....thing is....most people would never know I have a physical disability until I told them about it.....
and I agree with other's on this thread F*CK the term handicaped...such bad conotations | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/4/2005 7:32:52 AM | | If their disability meant a lack of mobility like walking with a cane, being in a wheelchair, I would not date this person. That's just me. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/4/2005 9:17:52 AM | Exactly SmartAlec,
Too many times people say they won't date someone with special needs, but what happens when life gives them a special need, do they just curl up and die?
Life gives us all challenges, who am I to say anyone is not worth my time? the best date I had was with a Quadgiplegic (sp), so I am open to everyone that I can meet. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/4/2005 12:57:12 PM | Hi there! I HAVE dated a person with what could be considered a handicap (loss of one limb ~ a leg) and he was wonderful..I enjoyed every moment with him..hell, he was more fun than most people who we wouldn't consider disabled in any sense of the word. I think we simply have to learn to look past the exterior...because even though it may be what attracts us initially it's what's inside that keeps us around and this man is still driving ladies crazy and not one of them could give a flying frog that he can park in the disabled parking spot!!! Personality and confidence speak volumes...nobody is attracted to self-pity..so be like jm and fly by the seat of your pants and live life like it was meant to be lived...Just the thought of him brings a smile to my face... | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/4/2005 1:52:20 PM | c7t1....I hear what you are saying, for sure, but everyone is entitled to their opinion.
I for one, believe that post was unwarranted, but if it is what she feels, then so be it. Turn the other cheek - that is a tough thing to do, (and believe me, I went off on good old Burroughs, only to have that post deleted).
I guess the bottom line is that there are people that would classify being wheelchair bound a deterrent, and that is a fair statment. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2005 2:30:34 PM | | Yes, because I would hope that I get the same in return... I'm hard of hearing, which is in some ways, harder than "dealing" with a deaf person because I CAN hear, so it takes a lot more effort (again, in some ways) to learn how to communicate with me comfortably without me saying "What?" all the time, but as far as I know, anyone that has really made that effort for me has gotten a great relationship/friendship out of it (and so have I). And believe me... It's just as hard for me as it is for the other person. It frustrates the hell out of me, not being able to hear like everyone else can, but being able to hear enough that people think I dont have a hearing problem. I've lost a LOT of potential dates and friends because of it. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/4/2005 2:50:43 PM | | Given the fact that these unscrupulous people never divulge their disability in profile you will have no choice to date them at least once. Integrity. Integrity means all in one piece. Something to think about. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2005 2:55:39 PM | just read this thread for the first time. Saw sierrasman post and agree I as well know a lady that some here would call handicapped. i also kow she is far from it. I am also thinking him and i both know that same woman. A very dear friend of mine.
Now so I am not accused of being off topic my answer is hell yes and I have. I was deeply in love with a lady when I was younger and she was shot due to an idiot with a gun. She became paralized from the waist down. She knew how I felt for her and never once told me of how she felt for me. The accident had nothing to do with why we never got together she left and went to NY and I was still in florida at the time. Took some four years to over come the feelings i had for her. Now so I make this short last year I happened to find her address online and contacted her. after talking over the past and what all happened she then told me some 35 years later that all I had to do was ask her to stay. However in the same breath she told me that because of what happened to her she felt I had lost what I felt for her. That was until I told her how long it took to get over her. We are very dear friends and she is and always will be special to me no matter where or what she is doing. A handicap does not stop the heart from caring or feeling. It by far does not stop the wanting of the one you love for any reason. I as well don't use the term handicapped for my brother has only one leg and does things that I can not do and i am not in the same health as him by any means. It is a way it is looked at and how the person feels for themselves people.
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/4/2005 3:42:56 PM |
Integrity means all in one piece.
in·teg·ri·ty ( P ) Pronunciation Key (n-tgr-t)
n.
Steadfast adherence to a strict moral or ethical code.
I have never seen anyone come in 2 or more pieces. All people I have met have been in one piece. Just because they don't have the same shape as you or have equipment to help them doesn't mean they have no integrity. My ears are in one piece, they even have more to the eardrum than most people. But they don't work as well as other people ears so I have hearing aids. I am more than just my level of hearing and if a man shows an interest in getting to know me I will tell them about my hearing loss, but I refuse to post it on my profile for the shallow people to use against me. I have more integrity than most "normal" people. I have morals that prevent me from being a selfish, prejudice person that has nothing more to do than bash people who aren't "normal". There is so much more important about a person than what their body looks like or works like.
So back on topic. Yes I would date people with a disability, unless their disability is a narrow mind. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2005 3:51:34 PM | Well, you just provided an incomplete definition of integrity. You are morally bankrupt.
in·teg·ri·ty ( P ) Pronunciation Key (n-tgr-t)
n.
Steadfast adherence to a strict moral or ethical code.
The state of being unimpaired; soundness.
The quality or condition of being whole or undivided; completeness. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/4/2005 5:01:02 PM | In Your Dreams
Let me see here a 76 yr old divorced Baptist (now there is a contradiction of terms) And I thought I had problems lol lol
littletwin2000
I have a good pension live well have a nice house, so when I figure it out I let you know  | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/4/2005 5:47:34 PM | | maybe... if they had a lot of money.... and allowed me access to it. Uhhh, that is the only reason I can think of. Oh no, wait! I thought of another reason. If they for some reason had access to rare drugs..... and allowed me access to it. Otherwise, NO!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/4/2005 6:40:27 PM | I will stay with in topic on this but i would like to add something here. It was asked if a person would date someone that was handicapped if i am right. Now I will say I am one that at times walk with a cane when I have a problem with my legs. I have seen that some here are in wheel chairs and I have no problem in that area. But I feel that even tho the one replied that they would not date someone with a cane, in the inability to walk as with a wheel chair or the mobility in any aspect is thier right. Now at the same time the person replied as we have and others came down on him due to his age, his beliefs, and the fact that he is divorced is some of the reasons why a lot of people take offence in dating people with handicaps. people with handicaps do as well have attitudes at times towards people that prefer not to be with a person with said handicaps. I have seen and also been thru some of the remarks dealt from people that can not cope with someone with handicaps. I find that when it is a person with or without a handicap that offends someone then what makes the difference between the two groups. I don't post my handicaps in my profile as I am not wanting to bring it to the open it is my business and I do and will let people know of it long before I even meet them face to face. But for the sake of this thread I will as I have in another thread that was posted on this subject not long ago. I have had a stroke, I am a diabetic, high blood pressure, asthmatic( cronic), broken back, and near sighted. Now on the legs I have been told that they will be what goes first on me due to the broken back. This is not in my profile and will not be but I don't think that I need to flaunt my disabilities to others. I do not look at people for what they can not do or thier inability to do. Not for thier lack of a part or the lack of use of a part. But I do not attack someones beliefs and make lite of it or the fact that they are divorced or thier age. The person answered the question at hand and they are entitled to thier answer as we all are in the forums. now the person stated he would not date a person that was handicapped and thats his right. I would and I am damn proud of that fact. But i do not condemn him for not wanting to. Now if this post offended anyone I am sorry for that but I felt he was right in his answer to the question of the thread.
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/4/2005 7:09:59 PM | | Hmm... I think I would... I guess it would depend on the guy and what type of handicap he had... I knew one girl in high school she had been in a wheel chair all her life ( im not sure why) but at grad she walked the stage slowly but surely and the crowd roared she absolutely deserved it!! (sorry off topic) But it was so inspiring and brought tears to everyones eyes who knew her. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/4/2005 7:32:33 PM |
Well, you just provided an incomplete definition of integrity. You are morally bankrupt.
I figured if you could change it to say what you wanted I could just post the part I wanted.
If you feel the need to look at the definition in the physical sense there isn't a person with integrity alive we all have a brain divided into 2 parts, we have a heart divided into 4 sections, we have arms, legs, fingers, and toes, that are divided. Furthermore, if I get a hair cut or cut my nails, does that mean I have no integrity? It is dividing what grows on my body naturally from the rest of me. What about people that are born without a limb, they are still whole in their being so they never lose any integrity. Only the people that have part of their body removed after birth have no integrity.
As you will most likely agree, this post makes no sense. Everyone with half a brain knows integrity has nothing to do with the physical body. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2005 8:01:04 PM | Yes I would and I have......
I have known him for about 10 years, and altho our situations prevent us from being together, I still love him, and would be with him in a heartbeat, if he chose to be with me......His being handicapped has nothing to do with it.
It is the inner soul and person I love, having nothing to do with the outside of him.
I am richer in my life from having known him. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/4/2005 8:19:49 PM | soooo Romantic, Kevlar she is sure one lucky lady another young one with a brain in his head and makings of a real man.. 
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OT: yes I would date someone with a disability, physical, mental health which is very different from being emotionally bankrupt. If they are in a wheelchair, have a prosthesis, walk with a cane or crutch is fine by me. I can also drive a handidart van and strap you in if need be. Pple with physical disabilities do have other needs as well and with some help by professionals we can all learn how we can become more intimate. You just have to be a willing student and both pple are mutually agreeing to do so.
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I love to be physically active as well outdoors silly ppl really! lol! There are disabled sports activities, sailing club, trails, camping spots, etc. Yes it's a pain to push a chair through sand, snow not that bad especially here in B.C. ignorant pple that won't move out of your way, I just bulldoze them over anyways.
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Mental health is more difficult as sometimes they don't stay on their medications and all heck breaks lose. There is more at stake here, the unpredictability does wear on you after a while and can wear down on your own mental health.
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Developmental disabilities no, however because they don't understand about healthy relationships. I worked in this field and there is no way of getting around this issue as it would be taking advantage of them.
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need to add my pet peeve related to this issue pls: many restaurants, buildings/ apartments, sidewalks, streets are not really wheelchair friendly. They say they are but have been designed by someone who is not sitting in a wheelchair think about next time you se a person struggling to punch in the floor where they need to get to in the elevator. Architects and engineers are just not doing the proper consultations. :fustrated
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To find out ways to familiarize yourself with pple with disabilities/abilites see your local vocational rehabilitation specialist/ counsellor.
Thanks for listening. | |
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