K3VLAR
| | Joined: 6/13/2005
Msg: 101 | |
| | would you date someone who is handicaped?Page 5 of 20 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20) | thanks for the compliment nsk!
I think I also have ADD, so we have "interresting" conversations | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 12:03:15 AM | Not to be rude to the guy who wrote the subject, but it's actually a very shallow, and somewhat idiotic question. A person who is physically handicapped has absolutely no problem challenging you mentally right? So isn't that what a soulmate is supposed to do? It really doesn't matter if she's only got on leg, or lacks the use of her lower body. Just asking this question leads me to believe that you are worried more about what people will think of you for choosing to date a "handicapped person", rather than your own happiness.
So to answer you question my answer would be yes, as long as we were compatible. One thing this question is very good for is to truely test yourself. Everyone should ask themselves this question to determine the depth of your characture. Anyway good luck everyone. I love all of you. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 1:54:03 AM | I actually agree with a lot of the people replying....However I strongly believe in what coastar girl said. If you are attractive to the man why does his handicap bother you. But in a way i'm with rainbow fish. I have had so many friends and family die because of a handicap and burring someone again....would hurt even more. For example I have a cousin who was born with polo..and walks funny and holds his hand weird...however he found a girl that loved him for him....but me being his cousin I have a right to say this he pushes his handicap. Basically I'm saying he gets out and works a 10 hour shift job everyday but if he is feeling lazy one day his excuse is im handicap....and then I have a cousin who was in a car accident 8 years ago and I just had to burry him 6 days before the birth of my child. he sat up a bed sore and a staf infection and it killed him....and actually today is the 2 month annivesary of his death :( RIP but see....in ways people dont have a problem with it becuase it is something you can look past.....however when you have to burry someone you realyl love from something that happened to that person......you will thank twice........... | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 3:20:25 AM | i would. i have a friend that is handicaped since he was born and that hasnt stopped him from dating. when i say he's hanicaped i mean he doesnt have the use of his arms or legs but that has not stopped him from going for his dreams. i know i have "ADD" and its really not a problem and i have crappy legs that love to give out on me at random occasions. dont know if u would call that a handicape but it is when it happens. but ya i would date someone with a handicape. | |
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cornet
| | Joined: 11/20/2005
Msg: 105 | |
| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 3:30:11 AM | I think I agree with those who say it would depend on the handicap.
On a mental level the handicap would have to be mild, I don't think I could live with someone who isn't able to carry on a normal conversation.
On the physical side....well, I like physical contact, so if no sex was part of the deal...I'd have to say no. I also like to camp, Kayak, fish, etc...live an active lifestyle, so I think anyone I dated would have to be able and willing to go on a few adventures....Thanks. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 8:03:30 AM | | I dated a man when I was a freshman in college who was incredibly sexy and successful. I couldnt give two craps if he had a very pronounced limp. I never asked him "why" and we had a really fun summer together!!! The relationship ended because he was given a full scholastic scholarship to U of M and was moving an hour away. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 10:28:53 AM | I had a date once off of POF. We conversed by email, IM and phone for weeks. Hours and hours of conversing and he did not once tell me he was in a wheel chair. We finally met up and he showed up in his wheel chair. Like I wouldn't notice !!!!! I don't have a problem with dating someone who is Handicaped but please be honest about it. Don't tell someone your favorite past time is hiking if you are in a wheel chair. Needless too say I chose to never see him again.
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 11:47:05 AM | | Smootchie, I had a similar experience with POF. I think a person should be more upfront about their disabilities than your "friend" in this story was. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 11:51:58 AM |  Yes, if he's what I like and want in a man. Not if he has HIV. Nor a terminal disease. I need to plan for the future with the man. But, if he can perform in bed and keep up with me, so what if he's blind and cute and smart, or has mild cerebral palsy or something in this nature. But, date him just because he asks. No. To each his/her own. Peace and love babe.    | |
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c7t1
| | Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 111 | |
| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 11:59:56 AM |
But I do not attack someones beliefs and make lite of it or the fact that they are divorced or thier age. The person answered the question at hand and they are entitled to thier answer as we all are in the forums. now the person stated he would not date a person that was handicapped and thats his right. I would and I am damn proud of that fact. But i do not condemn him for not wanting to. Now if this post offended anyone I am sorry for that but I felt he was right in his answer to the question of the thread.
Moundpuppy
piont taken and it was a good point
got a bit carried away
my apologies for the post | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 1:15:50 PM | c7 I would most likely not have said anything but my brother brought it to my attention reading over my shoulder. he said he used to lash out at people when he first lost his leg and he took a long time to understand how some felt. I was not trying to come down on anyone I was just stating my opinion is all. I fully understand how people with a handicap can feel resentment towards those that do not have them. and I am not saying you do ok. See I don't feel that mine are disabilities and I know they are to a point. at least to my doctors they are. I sometimes speak with out thinking and I understand when others do as well. I just wanted to point out about thier response was all. Oh and I didn't need the appology guy. but thx anyways. see the way i have looked at it is everyone is handicapped in some way or the other no matter who they are. It could be nothing more than an attitude on things but a handicap is just that a handicap. So we all date a handicapped person in one way or the other just depends on how you look at it.
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c7t1
| | Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 114 | |
| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 4:26:30 PM | Chivalry still alive
The other day I went to the movies. A group of college students came in and of course they all went to the upper seats. All but one, a young girl in a wheelchair, who was left sitting on the main floor; I spoke with her for a few seconds all the time thinking how cruel her friends were for just leaving her there alone. Thank God I didn’t open my mouth; because to my surprise her b/f that had gone with the others returned minus the pop and popcorn pick this girl up and carried her up the stairs to the seat where they were all sitting. In my 50 yrs I don’t think I have seen or ever will see anything more romantic. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 6:40:34 PM | | for sure the kind of guy that you would take your hat off to. thing is more places should be equiped with access for wheel chairs and the likes. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 6:50:16 PM | | It all comes down to connection, do two people have it or not. I would not hesitate to date someone with a handicap, or an illness, or some other issues. It really seems shallow to me if someone would not date someone for these reasons. Often the non disabled see them as more disabled than they really are. Yhey can do almost anything able body people do just not always the same way. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 7:42:36 PM | yeah diesel I agree for my brother can do things I can not and he does it with one leg. for an example I work out and have for over a year now and he can still lift a refrigarator that I can not do. he does it by himself. I prefer to have help. when he goes dancing he catches the ladies attention and draws them like a magnet. doesn't matter if he uses his additional leg or is just on his crutches. yeah the handicap is only in the eyes of the beholder for sure. I think the only thing I have not seen him do is run with two legs but with one he can move almost as fast as I can with two. and balance his is by far better than mine. he can carry a cup of coffee across the room with one leg and never spill a drop. I can't do it with two when the cup is filled to the brim. one of the many reasons i don't look at someone as handicapped for they have ways of doing things I may not be able to do. So to date a handicapped person what classifies a handicap. I prefer to say it is just another lady i am asking out.
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 8:06:54 PM | | So, I'm not sure if this would be considered off topic, but, Moundpuppy, you said you don't reveal your disabilities/health issues up front in your profile. I can't help but think of the stigma folks have on them if they don't reveal if they're morbidly obese up front in their profiles. Why are they so criticized, but you think it's socially acceptable not to reveal that you need a cane and have serious health issues? Quite frankly, I don't think I'd want to put in my profile the things that you're not disclosing either, but really what's the difference between what you do and someone neglecting to reveal their size in their profile? I admire C7t1 for being up front about his situation. I'm sure that's not easy, but necessary for him. I wouldn't want there to be any hidden deal breakers or surprises. It's really a tough call sometimes. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 8:39:39 PM | What are some deal breakers...may i ask??pgooperman
as for me, I would mind dating someone who is handicapped, i am not some shallow ja..off that would do that to soemone, and see innocent people as "lower class" because of something they have no control over.
I swear if I see someone reject soemone and on ridicule and discriminate someone else for such a stupid reason, I will assert myself on then and let them know how they should treat others. People who act like this better change while they have their dignity! | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 8:59:29 PM | | have done and in one case regret having not done but she was not ready. all people need and are worthy of love and in my case I do not seem to have a lot of choice when i am going to fall. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 9:04:42 PM | ^^^ I agree with you sir, all people are worthy of love and even though many people may hurt me and make me angry by their actions or words or insults and views, I still see them as deserving of love and I would't stop loving another person becauset hey did something to me, I would lways be forgiving and willing to love others.
It's in our nature as human being to want to be loved and to love someone, nobody has escaped the grasp of deserving to be loved, we all need it all the time and we should show that to others more offen and with a brighter heart of love and compassion. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 9:10:21 PM | | I have in the past and would in the future... some of the best people I've dated have been handicapped. Perhaps it's because they aren't caught up in all the artificial and superficial bullshit that able bodied people are. In alot of sense, superficial BS is more of a handicap than an actual physical one. | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 9:25:30 PM | I know I don't disclose my health issues in my profile Pg but you see I don't consider them as disabilities. Health issues yes but I make it a point to keep them under control. Now on the cane issue I don't always have to use one. matter of fact the last time I had to use mine was over a year ago. I was over 357 pounds at the time. since I have lost the added weight I have not had the issues i had with added weight. Blood pressure has been under control, daibeties is well under control and hopefully will reduce with the loss of weight. I just preferred not to say anything of it in case I was able to over come some of what was wrong due to my weight. now i know I am not going to over cme my asthma or my stroke i have had but I am very upfront on that and I always let it be known when I speak to anyone. I have made it a point not to meet anyone from POF in person yet. I want to see where this will lead before i committ myself to that. I have spoken of my health issues in posts on a couple of threads and don't hide them. I just don't go into great detail on them. I also agree that c7 is very upfront with his and I also admire him for it. I just don't consider mine as handicaps or disabilities. I do not let them deture me from doing anything that I had done before I aquired them. Now I must take that back I do but it is with my asthma since I can not be around someone that smokes for to long as it set me into asthma attacks. But i do let it go for as long as i can even sometimes more than I should. as far as my stroke well with my BP undercontrol and keeping a close watch on it as I do i am aware of anytime it starts to bounce and i am doing something to correct the problem before it comes into a major one. see the only issue I have that is a problem is asthma since that can be set off by walking by a woman wearing perfume and it effecting me some six hours prior and I not know it until later. but a little breather and its all undercontrol. See I came into the POF for the forums but I am also open to long term since I am not foolish enough to shut that door . and as far as the person being handicapped or not doesn't not enter into it for me.
Mound | |
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| would you date someone who is handicaped?
Posted: 12/5/2005 11:03:10 PM | well, to me if you are into each other and enjoy each others company, share similiar views and attracted to each other. basically, all the things we are looking for, a person would be a moron to not date the person.
by the way, i must say, a major pet peave of mine is healthy people parking in handicapped stalls. what the hell is wrong with you people? | |
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