| Why dont most women ever follow through?
Posted: 7/19/2006 7:27:03 PM | Would Sombody please tell what kind of a "Testimonial' this is????
Testimonial: (something given or done as as expression of admiration or gratitude) | |
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| Why dont most women ever follow through?
Posted: 7/19/2006 8:14:27 PM | Sounds like you are complimenting women to get thier attention at first contact. Did you know that most beautiful women are approached between 15 nad 25 times a day. They do not have enough time to respond to every guy's compliments so most of the time they say thanks or nothing at all. Lines don't work. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT compliment a woman on her looks within the first three conversations or meetings. They usually respond with a thank you but no follow thru. If you must approach women that think they are God's gift to men all the time, change your approach. Just say Hi, I am here meeting new people and find out what she is interested in. Do not tell them your whole story in the first email......you have nothing to talk about later unless you use 90/10. You ask a question 10% of the time and listen for the response and make conversation with her responses the othre 90%. If she is not running away then she is still interested in you. If she splits then you are closer to finding the right person for you by noticing the qualities sooner in the next woman. Go into the fishing mode with the attitude that you already have 2 girlfriends and this one right here is not the last one in the sea. The attitude is not clingy or needy. Don't act like you have woman poverty because women are very intuitive creatures and they can sense that kind of stuff. Keep a laid back attitude. | |
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| Why dont most women ever follow through?
Posted: 7/19/2006 9:00:56 PM | yupp...certainly had my share of men who send a message...I reply saying I am interested
and never hear from them again LOL. But like was just said....this IS a dating site so we have
to realise that people are talking to more than just one person and can get very easily
sidetracked! LOL If I dont hear for a week or so, I just delete them from my faves and move
on...its the best way. | |
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| Why dont most women ever follow through?
Posted: 7/20/2006 8:09:39 AM |
SO MEN! Go and chose 5 women this week on this site that you can date that is close to you not more then 1hr a way. Talk to all of them then pick one and only one women.
Dear, Steffane I would like to date you this weekend would that be possible. I will plan the date for Saturday at 5pm. I would like to take you out to the cattleman's then to the comedy club show at 7pm. If this would be fine with you. We could meet at the Restaurant. As for your car since it is the first date we will just follow each other to the comedy place it is a hassle but i do not want your car to be left in a parking lot.
I hope to hear from you before Friday. It is not Monday 3rd thank you Ron.
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OK men see how easy this was. This is the reason you are not getting dates, This is the reason why your 1 1/2 hour [meet me for dinner] is not working.
This is all a very interesting strategy littlesassy, but unfortunately internet dating doesn't really work like this. Where to begin . . .
If a guy chooses 5 women, the most likely outcome is read/deleted, read, or unread/deleted. The response ratio is 1 out of 20 for most guys.
One problem you have here is you assume the lady is who she says she is, and the guy is who he says he is. The best first date for someone who you meet via the internet is a short meeting for coffee or a drink after work. Corresponding via e-mail is not like meeting someone face-to-face and then asking them out for a date. Treating internet dating like face-to-face encounters is generally going to create serious misgivings.
Third, most women who I have corresponded with seem to want to e-mail you like a half a dozen times or more before even giving you a phone number. Asking them out in the first correspondence seems a bit overdone. The ladies who do want to meet you right away, they seem to be looking for something purely physical, the guy gets sized up in 10 seconds and usually discarded, as the lady is probably doing this as often as possible until she sees a guy that strikes her physical fancy.
Sorry if this sounds negative or cynical, but that's my experience. I will admit that I have had about half a dozen substantial relationship out of internet dating in about 4 years of trying. This is with e-mail responses rates of 1 out of 20, with say 1 out of 3 with a first date, then about 1 out of 5 followup with a second date. It's tough but it can be done. I'd rather have another hobby. | |
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| Why dont most women ever follow through?
Posted: 7/20/2006 10:15:57 PM | | [My two cents] I think we live in a i want it now sociaty. Nobody wants to to work at having a relationship If you really want to get to know somebody it takes time your not going to see what's inside a person with 1 email it may take month of email's. if you think you might click email them back and don't expect miricles overnight. Chatting online to me is kinda weird i try to be a gentleman but your chatting at a picture and have no idea of each others personality so i'm really not showing my true self until maybe after the 3rd email and hopefully theres more to come. I met a beautiful women on another website emailed every day for a month before i asked for her phone number and we get along great.But you babyboomer generation people as i i'm also in that group of {I WANT IT NOW}need to change your way of thinking and take it a little slower. Hey i'ts just my opinion. beachbum | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 11:21:49 PM | What I am starting to learn about the dating sites and this site is this....... Yes they get the mail, read it, then off to the next one by the time they are done they do not know who is who because they have read so many, Women look for the one man who will come out and make a date.
Hey Tiff will you make a date with me on Friday, I would like to take you out. this is fine. but still it is not enough for a women..
Women need direct words. Not Iffy as I may call them
Tiff, ON Friday I would like to take you out to chichi mex rest at 7:30pm on Friday would you be available at this time too meet me. If so please write me back. it is Monday.
As for the phone number thing. Most say they will not call the man do to they do not want the man or 'STRANGER' to have there number// lot of crazy people they say..
so men wait until the women gives the number and then call her.. Women have fear. men have rejection.
All I can tell you is what i am finding out why all this dating sites are not working for some people.
One lady told me last night that she only dates men who make dates the rest she just reads and then empties her mail box.. Granted she has many in her favorite box but the rest is useless. She said if a man can not have the courage to make the date and not..
we should go out some time. OK.. or I would like to date you. OK, How about if we get to gather. again OK.. But these are all ended conversations they lead no were. The men are not stating what they want.
Remember men are two words. DATE ME>>>
Women are , Hi, I am frank i would like to take you out for dinner and then for a walk in the park, on Friday at 5:30pm on July 21st. We will meet at restaurant "name"? and then drive over to the park, Hope to here from you before Friday. If this day and time dose not work please contact me before hand if you miss this may we make it next week. at the same place and time.
Now this is what men are missing I have found out from talking to other women. As for the man's side.
Women are Blabbing about this and that and are skeptical they are not sure so they babbling trying to convince the man that maybe they are not right for him, or making the man understand that they are a larger size, or what ever they come up with. It is not to offend the men, it is a image that man has placed on women so the women is fearful that the man will not like her before he even meets her.
One lady told me. she got all dressed up and ready then at the last min she has anxiety attacks so bad that she started to sweat well doing so she worked herself up so bad that she chose not too go..
Just take all this into consideration.. on the other 50% please. | |
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| Why dont most women ever follow through?
Posted: 7/21/2006 7:37:40 AM | Well, from my prespective and experiences, some of the reasons I may choose not to follow through is due to a feeling of lack of sincerity in the messages I may receive. If I feel that I am just being sought out as a last resort, or for just sexual reasons...? Sometimes it is just a gut feeling. I mean, some people will tell you anything to just get what they want. If one feels that they are going to end up hurt, they will not respond.
As for me... I am just looking for a man who is serious in what they want, who is wise about the meaning of life, and respects it... one that can be fair and always try to feel what it is like on both sides of the fence, not just his side.
I don't know... it all so complicated... trying to fish through so many people trying to determine who is serious and who is out for one thing only... | |
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| Why dont most women ever follow through?
Posted: 7/21/2006 8:39:09 AM | I have had the same thing happen, I think we all have. It's just too easy to move on to the next person rather then get to really know one individual. I think also a lot of people are bored and use this for a chat line rather then a date line.
I don't think people understand that this should just be used to initially find someone, then you need to meet in person to see if their is any chemistry. Who wants to date a computer and wouldn't you want to save some questions anyway so that you have something to talk about when you first meet. Oh ya and to all those out there who say I'm too scared to meet or I don't have time or I'm not ready to move on from an ex, do us all a favour and get off this DATING site.
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Posted: 7/21/2006 8:44:07 AM | I get alot of these emails as well.It drives me crazy men have such a short time for you to reply...When u have alot of messages to go through, its hard to get back to everyone all at once, and logging in, sends just MORE messages, which I appreciate all of them , and try real hard to answer them all( Unless there is NO picture, of course!)
For me personally, location is a real problem, Im stuck in one city, with no vehicle, and there are soo many awesome guys outside my city....So, when men wanna follow thru and meet, welll.....If im really attracted or not...location is my hardest to deal with, when it comes to follow thru..How many men will come to Kitchener for a coffee, not many
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| Why dont most women ever follow through?
Posted: 7/21/2006 8:46:46 AM | | It's because you have a pic that makes you look like a migrant worker in California. Change it or remove it and your response rate will be much higher. | |
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| Why dont most women ever follow through?
Posted: 7/21/2006 8:53:15 AM |
What are they looking for? Antonio Banderez???
Wow....is he on here?
Sorry....not trying to be a smarty pants here. My guess, to answer your original post, is that those women who are on hundreds of favorites lists haven't had time to get back to you. | |
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| Why dont most women ever follow through?
Posted: 7/26/2006 5:40:02 PM | [QUOTE] My guess, to answer your original post, is that those women who are on hundreds of favorites lists haven't had time to get back to you. I guess that is there loss then. | |
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| Why dont most women ever follow through?
Posted: 7/26/2006 5:52:05 PM | To answer one of your questions, actually, yes, Antonio Banderas can come to my front door right now and I would let him in and have sex with him. Same for Mel Gibson, Adrian Paul and Wesley Snipes, to name but a few. That doesn't make me a whore, just a person with a really fun imagination. None of them actually know where I live.
Real men have to win us over with personality, maybe you are not funny, or interesting or whatever. Maybe you are contacting the wrong types for you. Don't blame us for your shortcomings, I date 3-4 men a week from here and I am not expecting Antonio, just a nice interesting intelligent honest man. Maybe you give out bad vibes? I follow through fairly quickly as long as nothing you say sounds creepy or puts up red flags, put some effort out and see what happens. I didn't check your age, so you may be too young or old for me, (40-50) but good fishing, don't give up so easy, and nobody likes a whiner. Go for it!   | |
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| Why dont most women ever follow through?
Posted: 7/26/2006 11:54:24 PM | | Well, like the other ladies mentioned, the men do it too. I'm not saying it is right,but it happens. I even had an underage boy email me, and it was so rude, I had no idea what to say, so I did not reply.I usually do reply, one way or the other, I just don't understand when a man judges a lady after one measly phone call, or one date...I guess the secret is to not to just limit yourself to one dating service or site....and keep meeting new people, too... | |
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| Why dont most women ever follow through?
Posted: 7/27/2006 12:01:12 AM | bike man; Brad Pitt-no way-now Orlando Bloom, a cute man with an accent, or even a local man who treats me right, now *that* would be wonderful....! | |
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Posted: 7/30/2006 10:12:10 AM | | Well Cooldude747.. Ive messaged some guys on here.. and never get a response. You read there profile and boy sure sounds good to me and whatn im looking for. But now i think they just pump up there profile to see how many women will respond and then stick them on there favorites and thats about it. Or guys will only meet ya if they know there gonna get laid that night. well guys wake up and smell the roses. i aint gonna happen. Where is the respect in that. it only seem to be meet once and then so long sweetie it was a pleasure.... so what are you guys looking for Marilyn Manroe... if you guys just give us women a chance you just might find what your truly looking for. and other thing if someone truly wants to meet ya why put distance up as a barrier. break it down and do it. well thats my 2 cents worth. | |
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| Why dont most women ever follow through?
Posted: 7/30/2006 10:28:44 AM | cooldude747
you just made me laugh.(looking for Antonio Banderas)Lol I doubt that Antonio would go out with me.besides I dont find him attractive..it's my own Opinion. | |
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