sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 101 | |
| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/28/2007 2:17:26 PM | | well some women I have met say it is okay not to be a drinker , I do not drink but I am learning , I have found that alot of women are more accepting socially to drinkers in a drinking setting , I am learning to like alcohol and not think of it as rotten juice hehehehe | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/28/2007 3:08:19 PM | | I wouldn't date anyone who didn't drink. It would affect my comfort level. I get drunk sometimes... I act dumb... I need to know it will happen in the reverse on occasion so I have something to laugh at! | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/28/2007 6:33:42 PM | | my guess was the problem was with her and not with you. many people are functional alcoholics and maintain a job and a outwardly normal appearence. Because of social rules its very acceptable now. I have dated someone of this site who said she worked hard and played hard. What that translated to was she worked ten hours a day and as soon s she got out of work she would drink at least a bottle of merlot ever night mon- thursday. on the weekends she drank from almost in the morning till bedtime. The point is she had issues which she later confirmed to me. She said she drank to forget,to help her sleep ,and it was a habit. There is nothing wrong with drinking when done in moderation. Jose and I somtimes hook it up for the weekend. Not ever weekend or on a regular basis. Most people who need to drink are self medicating and have deep seated issues. She most likely did you a great favor as she seemed willing to judge you on your choice not to drink. What does that mean or say when it is a priority that her mate must drink.? | |
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| What is wrong with not drinking
Posted: 8/28/2007 9:50:02 PM | | I wouldn't want to be around someone so incredibly boring and uninventive that the only way they can have fun is if they are smashed out of their head. I have no problem with alcohol or with someone who has a drink every now and again . I question someones dependency on alcohol that the only way they can relax ,unwind and have fun is to get drunk. | |
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| What is wrong with not drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 11:27:05 AM | I like how everyone here associates:
Will not date someone who does not drink...
They must be alcoholics if they say that...
I won't date anyone who doesn't have sex...
I must be a nympho...
I think if you have to have sex to have a good time it's pathetic! (do you see how stupid that sounds?) | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 1:38:28 PM |
I recently had a date with someone who said she could not date someone who doesn't drink because she would fell guilty for drinking.
Why are you asking a question that your date already answered? And in her answer she didn't say "not drinking" was wrong. She said she couldn't date someone who doesn't drink. Just like some smokers don't date people who don't smoke. Should we then ask what's wrong with "not smoking"? | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 1:57:40 PM | | Isn't it sad that it isn't acceptable behaviour if you don't drink. I didn't think it would be a big problem. Maybe that is why I am finding no one sticks around longer than a week... We have to learn be drunks , have no morals and look like a super model in order to have friends or be in a relationship with someone. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 2:26:40 PM |
Maybe that is why I am finding no one sticks around longer than a week Then date people who have morals, don't drink, and don't look like supermodels. Maybe your luck will change. | |
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lulu8
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Joined: 8/2/2007
Msg: 111 | |
| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 2:36:42 PM | | absolutely nothing, i would definately go out with a guy who didnt drink, it wud be a pleasure, as my ex boyfriend was an alcoholic! lulu aberdeen | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 2:37:54 PM |
Isn't it sad that it isn't acceptable behaviour if you don't drink. I didn't think it would be a big problem. Maybe that is why I am finding no one sticks around longer than a week... We have to learn be drunks , have no morals and look like a super model in order to have friends or be in a relationship with someone.
Tough week?... I would bet there are more reasons then you having morals and not drinking that is driving people away. It might be your attitude? Because I don't see anyone saying whether it's acceptable or not, it's just a strong preference.
And FYI, drunken supermodels with no morals are AWESOME!!! | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 2:49:51 PM | Mi Amore,
I am int he same boat as you... I frequently have been asked "OMG You don't drink??" and my answer is i have only one vice...and Im not goign to waste it on drinking... or i wink and say Im the inspiration for Adam Ant's Goodie Two Shoes song...
I guess for women it may be a bit different...I have no problem with those that choose to imbibe, but for me I may have an alcoholic drink once every few years I wake up sick and it cures me for the next few years... But unfortunately it is kind of expected for guys to belly up tot he bar and at least have a beer...me i don't even keep anything in the house.
So as far as Im concerned A guy who doesnt drink is okay by me...ater all i would rather not have a guy that depends upon something to relax and have a good time with me
red | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 2:50:11 PM | I would rather go out with a man who simply says "I don't really like alcohol" or whatever. Lots of people who "don't drink" (and that's a silly phrase because of course you drink) don't do so because they have a problem. So, I usually figure someone who "doesn't drink" is in one of three categories;
1) Has been through AA or otherwise has an propensity for addiction and cannot drink because he cannot control his drinking.
2) Believes that drinking alcohol is wrong.
3) Just really doesn't like the taste of alcohol.
I don't want to be involved with someone prone to addiction problems (I've already done that). I don't believe that drinking alcohol is wrong (getting drunk is wrong, a drink or two can be quite enjoyable). So, I'd probably want more information. Categories 1 and 2 probably wouldn't be a good match for me but Category 3 is fine. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 3:01:51 PM | OK> OK> I have a solution! All of you pretty ladies who DON'T DRINK start dating the guy who put up this forem.... If HE will have YOU! All the ladies that dont mind if a grown fre willed man drinks a little can date anyone that will have them. PROBLEM SOLVED! | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 3:05:31 PM | No problem..
As a social drinker.. maybe 1 or two at the most maybe three or four times a year.. I want to enjoy myself when I do go out.. I can understand how someone does not want to date a Teetotaler.. (nondrinker) because they can have a holier than thou attitude.. just like being around a non-smoker.... So if my date does not drink... I prefer not to frequent places with alcohol being served and that limits the places we can go out to..... but I just dislike being judged by anyone.... !!!!!!
Check the posts and see what I mean.. soapboxes galore!!
That's the reason I'm cautious of dating non-drinkers.... | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 3:08:39 PM | | Personaly I want a girl that is not biased. or is that BI-ASSed. I want someone that understands how to respect another human being! | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 3:13:58 PM | not the alcohol I have an issue with, its their personality changes when they have little to much.  | |
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lgc44
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Joined: 2/10/2007
Msg: 119 | |
| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 3:35:43 PM | | most people that don't drink have a holier than thou attitude..if u r a social drinker then when u go out it's like being with mom or dad always giving u that "look," that u r definitely doing a bad thing...tsk tsk tsk,,shame on you! | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 3:43:00 PM | Gee ..... I always thought if you didn't drink ... you would either have to eat a lot of salad or you would dehydrate and die.
and who want to date a corpse? | |
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clay71
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Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 121 | |
| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 4:15:16 PM | | I don't drink, I drank for everyone in the state of Washington in my 20's. By 33 I almost died from liver and kidney failure.Took 2 years to recover, for a week they thought for sure I was dead(LONG HORROR STORY).So now I don't drink, everybody's different.I still go out and hang with the best of em. But now they now know they will get home safely.I tell people all the time not to frett about it, I'm not going to stop hanging out with people(my friends) who drink(they know I won't preach at em),It does'nt bother me. I have 2 choices don't drink live,or drink and die in a matter of hours horribly.It's an easy choice. Besides it is kind of funny being the only sober person in a building full of drunk people. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 4:42:46 PM | clay71.. 99 times out of 100 I'm the designated driver with my friends and it gets to be a real bore being around a bunch of drunks.. especially when you're ready to go home and they aren't.... but still it's kind of nice to have a date and not be the responsible one for a change.....like one of the other girls said.. gee I want to go out and get a little silly.. (not smashed) I get kind of firtatious... snickers.. and my date usually doesn't complain..... hehehehehehehehehe!
I have a single friend who carries a picture in his breast pocket of the liver that was transplanted.. that's enough to make anyone careful of the boozing....
Little Dog who stays on the Porch... found out years ago I can't run with the Big Dogs..... | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 5:15:04 PM | I was married to a weekend alcoholic and couldn't keep any liquor in the house, so rarely ever drank. Now I do like to have a social drink or two but would certainly have no problem if my date wanted to have a drink or not. Would rather date someone who didn't drink than someone who drank too much too often. I think she has the problem not you.......
Sandy:) | |
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ponie
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Joined: 1/25/2006
Msg: 124 | |
| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 6:09:05 PM | (clearing of throat) Maybe, that was the best thing she could come up with! At least she tried to be polite!
The real question should be: why it bothers you so much?
Is it the pride or the ego that is hurt here? Or is it both?
A friend of Bill.W | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 7:11:28 PM | I drink frequently.
If the girl I was seeing didn't drink at all, thats fine, as long as she's not giving me AA pamphlets. | |
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