| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 8/29/2007 7:35:57 PM | | thares nothing wrong with not drinking.i don,t drink and i don,t want nobody who douse drink a lot.i was married 2 acholic who use to bet me.so thares somthing wrong with drinking | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 9/3/2007 10:04:54 PM | Pish. I rarely drink. Twice a year if that.
If someone said they couldn't date someone because they dont drink, I'd personally think they were alcoholics. Then again, most people in the univeristy ages ARE alcoholics.
Limits my dating options too. | |
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Maesta
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 9/4/2007 11:17:51 AM | First, I like the taste of good wine and beer. And - sometimes - whisky.
I'm not a habitual drinker, however, I like good food and good wine. It's a part of gastronomic culture, and I enjoy both the process of combining food and drinks and the result.
That is to say, for me the culture of alcohol consumption is a part of general culture. I like decent meals and I know what drink brings out the best of, say, cheese flavour.
My food habits are important to me, though this may sound shallow :) After all, it's one of the primary needs of any living being. I'd think twice before dating someone who's unable to share it and prefers to "grab and go".
Second, I know that many people are suspicious of non-drinkers simply because there is a possibility they used to have some problems with alcohol in the past. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 9/4/2007 3:52:04 PM | I have had that too.
What she means is she becomes self conscious when someone makes her realise she has a drink problem. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 9/4/2007 3:53:35 PM | Quite often alcoholics became that way via social drinking with other people who drank heavily.
Once someone is seriously into drink they tend to stick with other heavy drinekrs so they dont feel guilty about it.
Well it must be OK coz my mate does it too. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 9/4/2007 4:05:00 PM | HOla my love. (lol)
There's nothing wrong with not drinking. There is something wrong with people who have a problem with it and he/she that feels guilty have some kind of issue.
I drink socially and like you, can act silly with / without alcohol. Normally I volunteer to be the D.D. & others that meet us can't believe I'm the D.D.. Just a social butterfly who likes to laugh & meet others.
I don't have any hang ups with non-alcoholic drinkers. In fact far from it - one would think they'd like the idea of non-alcohol drinking friend - no drunkeness, out of control behaviours to deal with, inexpensive / spend money elsewhere, etc..
THere's definitely other issues to that send RED signals my way! | |
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| What is wrong with not drinking
Posted: 9/7/2007 8:02:35 PM | Dude...My question exactly! Why would a woman want to be drunk on the first date? I would think that if she were smart, and seriously wanted to size up the guy she meets, she would want to make a sober decision as to wether or not he is of strong character. But then there is always the excuse, "I don't know...I was really drunk at the time." It is difficult for me to consider a woman that has to have a few drinks on the first date. I don't think I am out of line when I say...If you have to be drinking to have a good time, what happens the next day when you sober up? I guess you would have to start drinking again to have a good time? Yuck! 
Where are the non-drinking women? Are there any left? Does anyone really care? | |
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| What is wrong with not drinking
Posted: 9/7/2007 9:06:31 PM | Absolutely not a thing wrong with not drinking. I drink socially, but I have no problem NOT drinking. I have no problem with non-drinkers. I'm pretty easy to get along with  But I do have a problem with those who think they have to get drunk to have fun. Or have to drink EVERY time you go somewhere. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 9/7/2007 9:15:16 PM | I drink on rare occassions and when I'd go out with someone who does drink I drink soft drinks ... haven't had a problem.  | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 9:56:49 PM | | As a guy trying to live a straight-edge lifestyle, it's a frequent problem to find girls who'll accept it. I think they feel you'll be unwilling to go places they frequent and perhaps that it's not social behaviour. Whatever they feel, no matter how much I might want to be with them, I flat out refuse to change this lifestyle choice. If they cannot accept me for who I am, there's no point in there even being a relationship to begin with. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 9/7/2007 9:58:14 PM | | Nothing wrong with drinking..nothing wrong with not drinking. I understand the "guilt" feeling though. I admit I am a social drinker..I may have a drink while out..or (GASP) TWO drinks. I probably wouldn't feel that feeling if I were out with someone and either she just didn't feel like drinking or was a non-drinker by choice and not because of alcoholism fear hangups. I would feel pretty weird though if we were out and I ordered a drink, followed by a lecture on the evils of alcohol then followed by a long, long, long story of her alcoholic ex who drank a case of beer a night. I would feel...guilty. It would be hard to date someone who fears alcohol or has some sort of religious/moral issue with it. I could and have dated nondrinkers..just spare me the lecture please. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 9/8/2007 12:13:05 AM | Just tell her you can enjoy the evening without drinking, and you'll even hold her hair when she pukes!!!!
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 9/8/2007 1:19:13 AM | tons of people do not drink, many alcoholics want a partner in crime, if they get drunk and stupid then they feel they wont be judged if you were too.
I would stay away from people that dont date sober people...
I dont drink and actually prefer men that dont drink, there is nothing attactive about a drunk!
BL | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 9/8/2007 3:14:38 AM | Alway curious about people with kids who drink.. As it is you know the night you are out late it is almost a guarantee that that will be the night that they wake you up with the stomach flu all night.
If you drink to a point where you can't drive anywhere, what happens if you get a call in the middle of the night from a relative/friend who needs you. No sorry I was too selfish and got blotto like I did when I was a young adult and never grew out of it.. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2007 6:23:11 AM | Folks, since when did everyone who drinks automatically become a "drunk"?
So, is everyone who smokes automatically a "chain smoker"?
If you choose not to date a drinker that's a very reasonable standard. But to call everyone who drinks a drunk or alcoholic is rather ridiculous.
There sure is a lot of hypocrisy going on here in these forums. How come it's ok for smokers only to date smokers? There is a thread in these forums about folks who don't smokers and the overwhelming theme in that thread from smokers was that folks who don't date smokers are "pius, goody-two-shoes who judge everybody". | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 9/14/2007 2:15:20 PM | That all together depends on a few things,, do you care if i drink? is your not drinking going to hinde us from going into a bar at all?
lets say cuz thats where my sister in laws band is performing,, or we want to sing karaoke,, etc,,?? would you be opposed to going to the bar anyway?
see, on the flip of that,,
some ppl who are in recovery just cant and wont be around drinking at all, and i can respect that,, "know your limitations" good idea.
i am kinda havin an issue with your comment about " i can act just as stupid sober as a drunk person"
umm, i dont drink to get drunk, i dont get drunk, and i certainly am not stupid nor do i act as though i am. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 9/18/2007 4:12:31 AM | Not a drunk . But if you drink you can't drive.. If you can't drive you are no good to anyone who might call you either during or after your night.. When you have kids you are always on duty.
When they are younger you have to take care of them, when older they are out drinking or at a place where they need a ride home NOW to prevent something bad from happening (especially if your kids are girls). No sorry I can't come and help you, I was too selfish.. When you are young that is the time for drinking as you have fewer responsibilities.. Once you have kids it is time to grow up. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2007 6:29:42 AM | rjpeagles, you are so right on! I can't believe the number of people who seem to think drinking = getting drunk. GEEESSHH!! I think their AA programing is showing. I like to have a glass of wine with dinner. That glass usually lasts me the whole dinner. 1 glass! Does that make me anywhere near drunk!?! No way! For the most part, people who have to take an all or nothing approach have problems with control and moderation. It isn't the nondrinking that would scare me away; it is those types of problems which would make them tough people to be with. Not all nondrinkers have those problems, but a lot do. In fact, I applaud those who don't drink alcohol for health reasons, or who simply don't like the taste and won't "choke it down" because it's the social thing to do. I believe they are the minority though.
And goaliebns. PLEASE! One drink and you can't drive? One drink and you're no good for anyone!?! One drink and you're incapable of taking care of your kids!?! One drink and you're selfish!?! Oh, and I like your point of making it clear that you SHOULD drink while you're young ... get it out of your system, huh? Deciding not to drink has nothing to do with "growing up". I suspect you had the very control issues I mentioned above and you were forced to give up drinking because you couldn't manage your life if you were. We didn't all go through that experience so please stop judging everyone who is able to drink responsibly just because you can't. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 9/18/2007 5:39:29 PM | | Correct One Drink and you should not drive.. You can't control a vehicle if you have had even one drink.. I have never been a drinker. I tried it a few times and didn't like it. I don't like the feeling of not having all my faculties.. So it was by choice that I don't drink.. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 9/18/2007 6:22:41 PM | From MADD Canada..
We would have thought that the drinking and driving message would have sunk in by now.
It's a very simple message, actually: if you've been drinking, don't drive.
The MADD president pointed out, most people start to feel the effects of alcohol after only a drink or two.
“I know when I have one glass of wine I feel it,” she explained. “I know that after one glass of wine, if I was behind the wheel of a car I wouldn’t be feeling 100 per cent.”
“If you’re thinking of drinking, don’t drive.” | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 9/20/2007 3:58:21 PM | As somebody who's personally lived through some pretty hellish times with a partner who had an addiction problem, when I hear somebody say they don't drink it makes me ask why. If it's just because they chose not to that's fine, if it's because they had problems with it in the past it scares me. I know it's partly because of my own experiences with a partners addiction but it brings back so many memories of what I used to have to live with, and I keep thinking "what if this person falls off the wagon at some point" then I'm right back into the life I fought so hard to get out of .
By the same token if somebody says they drink daily or they do drugs I won't go out with them either. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/2/2007 9:19:24 AM | | Can you drink a little & still be able to operate your motorcycle/ How much can you drink & still ride your motorcycle effectively? I'm just saying that it's gotta be a lot different than operating your car, isn't it? Any studies done on this? | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/2/2007 9:20:59 AM | | I could grow a beard waiting for a reply, screw it, I'll just have to check it out for myself-LOL | |
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