| Ok, Chica how 'bout this one??
Posted: 11/28/2005 6:55:59 PM | No, Chica, do not feel bad for you opinions and comments. You offered, up front you said that you would not hold back, and I took you up on your offer. I did not have to listen to or like what you wrote, but I did and I have already made some changes. Sometimes you need that extra outside "3rd eye" to see things objectively. I obviously needed that. I had to giggle a little about the hair thing-----I have had long straight hair for decades and this last April I got really brave and had it all chopped off to what you see now. This IS a new style for me already. Now that there is some silver coming in, it even has a little bit of a curl to it that I have never had before. 70's style?? Well, bell bottoms came back into fashion didn't they? 
Seriously, Thanks again for your time and brutal honesty. I know your intentions are genuinely pure gold and in our best interests. | |
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Posted: 11/28/2005 7:33:14 PM | Ok CC I'll play along in the spirit of an honest desire for self-improvement. The old profile is copied to a text file on my hard drive though, so my bases are covered.
I took a whack at it and trimmed the fat. Best I could do on the first pass is 4 "paragraphys." I know you said 3 but I think this is a good compromise.
Let me know what you think. | |
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Posted: 11/28/2005 9:16:44 PM |
I don't like your title: a study in contrasts it would be more a study in contradiction. See your user name and your title. Are you a pisces? Seems you don't know which way you're swimming...
I'm not sure what you mean about a study in contradiction. Not trying to argue, just confused.
Oh, and Pic #3? Bad -incandescent- lighting. Heh.
I'll work on trimming the profile down: you're right that it's a touch long.
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Posted: 11/29/2005 7:55:11 AM | Paladin1
You're profile isn't shorter. It's still too long. And save the stupid lesson on nouns or verbs or whatever at the end...??! You just annoy me. You're preachy and pontificate. This is a DATING web site, not an online class web site! Do you think you're such hot stuff that I'm interested in wading through the garbage you call a profile?
Your pics are stupid. You have a nice face and a full head of thick curly dark hair. You have a great smile. But all your pics are from a web cam? Don't you ever go out in the light? Kill all pics...especially the dippy picture of the waterfall.
Unless you are a white water kayaker and have gone over those falls...then you include a pic of you in a white water kayak going over the falls. Now that's hot. But something tells me you're too busy jerking off to Shakespearean sonnets to be out doing anything that exciting.
Total redo. Cut your profile down by half. And get rid of the f-ingly annoying english lesson. If you ask me to take a look at your profile and you're still as annoying, you are officially banned from this thread. Stop wasting my time. You'll never get a girl if you keep going at this rate and there is nothing I can do to help you. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2005 8:22:19 AM | Cute Chica List of Do's and Don'ts
 1. Do not put LOL or LMAO or any other acronyms used in IM in your profile.
Your profile is a warm and intimate note to your hopefully future significant other. Guess how you're going to be dealing with this new love of your life? In person. Not on IM. So please, do away with the LOL...I hate them. They are stupid. And if you use them, it makes you look stupid and like you spend too much time on the computer instead of face-to-face with other fascinating human beings.
2. Do not use those annoying animated emoticons  in your profile.
I know. they're cute. And addictive. But DO NOT USE THEM! They are cute in the forums. But they are immature and annoying in a profile. If you have dozens in a row you make yourself look very amateurish. You look like a dork. A stupid dorky amateur. If you use them, you will get emailed by all the 50-year-olds who still sleeps in fleece Disney pajamas with feet. Don't get me started with people over the age of 12 who wear Disney clothing. Your profile is not a video arcade. Why make it look like one?!
3. Do not use Poetry, sonnets, definitions, lists, etc.
Unless you have a very short line or two, DO NOT TORTURE US with your pathetic attempt of looking erudite, literary or intellectual. It DOES NOT WORK. What it does is make you look like your are full of yourself. You like the sound of your own voice and have no friends. Like you're trying too hard. And that is Pathetic with a capital P. If you were and English major in college, or have a Ph.D. in philosophy or literature, or are an award-winning poet and this line or two encapsulates the marrow or your soul, I want to see it. But 99.7% it just shows you are a pretentious prick of a loser. And no, you are not part of the .3% who need to give us an English lesson. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2005 10:46:07 AM | Cute_Chica:
While I'm still not completely sure of what you meant by study in contradiction--none of my statements read to me as contradictory; then again, I'm a fairly contrary person in my own right, so that's hardly surprising--but I did cut my profile down by about a third and reworded some of my poorer choices. As well, I swapped out the third photograph.
I'm still trying to think of a different heading, but--at this point, at least--I far prefer this iteration. Thank you for the suggestions. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2005 1:56:11 PM | found yet lost
your profile name is contradictory
Then your title states...A study in contrast.
I was making a play on words...aka A study in contradiction.
 It's a PUN. Get it? Sheesh.
Get a new profile name and title. It's dorky. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2005 2:00:55 PM | Hey CC!
I'd like for you to give me your best shot! I'd like to think that my profile is direct and to the point, but I would welcome your tips and pointers!
Cheers
Jesen | |
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Posted: 11/29/2005 2:22:33 PM | Jordanleon-
Right off the bat I get the sense you are a party girl. All your pics are of you and your gal pals out at bars, etc. I don't think that's bad, most okay, well all, of my pics with friends from the time I was 21-27 were at bars. You go out and your have an active social life. You're very cute. Great face, eyes, smile.
But the only problem is that your pics don't match your title: Looking for mr. right and not right now. Why are you spending so much time at bars? Cause the only thing you will find at bars is a mr. right now.
Okay, I don't believe that. I met some really great guys who turned out to be boyfriends at bars. So I totally blow that stupid myth away.
But you need to get rid of some of the party pics and get some other pics of you in DAYLIGHT! oooh! and maybe doing something other than being an alcoholic 23 yo. It's called having many facets. And that is what mr. right is going to look for.
Get rid of the pic of you in that nasty public restroom. EWWW screams skank
You need to use regular english:
You write: WARNING!!!!! good looking gal ,full ov energy,who gets BORED EASLY!!!ON THE LOOK OUT FOR A BIT OV EYE CANDY,
Should be: WARNING!!!!!!!! Good-looking gal, full of energy who has social ADD. On the look out for a bit of eye candy. (and you say you are looking for mr right??! Sure you are!)
Clean up your profile. Punctuate. Capitalize. Spell check.
Good luck and get rid of those obnoxious animated emoticons. They are stupid. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2005 2:35:52 PM | girly1022
Get rid of the blurry glamour shots picture. It dates you and it's blurry. Kill it.
Hello everyone...I will start by saying that I have a son that is the apple of my eye.
Good but don't start off like this. PUt this as 2nd or 3rd line. Still feel like you are using your son as a shield a bit. But I like how you worded it.
I am in search of "The One". By this I mean, the man that will always be honest, loyal, respectful, and a good role model.
How about stating you look forward to spending your life with a great guy. We assume that a great guy will be honest, loyal and respectful. Why does he have to be a good role model? Sounds like you need a daddy for your kid. Kind of would scare some guys...
I am looking for that man that will make my heart skip a beat just by looking at me.
I like this...but I think you need to remember your target audience: men. Suggestion: I want to meet someone who's heart skips a beat when I flash him my great smile. NOW it's about him, not all about you. And you give him a visual of you smiling at him...you are putting out the vibe that an ordinary man is 100% capable of making you happy!:)
I would love to wake up in 5 years and still look at him as if it was the first time I laid eyes on him.
5 YEARS?! You're only going for 5 years? You have Low LOW expectation. How about 50 years? Now that would be a challenge.
I really hope that I can find my soulmate.
Enough with the soulmate. You sound like you are pining away. Not the vibrant single mom who has a gazillin megawhat smile. The tiny firecracker! give yourself some credit! Confidence is sexy.
I would love to meet someone who enjoys being at home and watching a movie rather than hanging out at a bar.
Hmm...how about stating that you are looking for someone who like to relax at home watching a movie.
I hope to eventually meet the one that I was meant to grow old with.
Again with the pining tone of voice. Kill this sentence.
There are so many things I could put as likes/dislikes. I prefer to add just a few so that when I meet someone we can enjoy getting to know eachother.
Kill this. It's a waste of time for a guy to read and a waste of your time to write.
I absolutely love mexican food, french fries, and PB&J sandwiches.
I'm addicted to mexican food. I could live on French fries and PB & J sandwiches.
I enjoy picnics, being with my family, walks in the park, and the way it looks when the first snow of the season covers the ground.
I have always had a dream to drag race just once in my life. And who knows maybe one day that will come true. I am very down to earth and laid back so that I suppose is the dangerous and wild side wanting to get out.
Why don't you put this down as your dream first date? Take it out of your profile. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2005 2:51:42 PM | dasmann
I like the conversational tone of your profile. Nice and friendly and approachable.
So your a young beautiful lady looking at my profile thinking "What the hell does this guy have to offer me?" Well I'm honest. Then you think "Every other guy on here claims to be honest also". Could he be funny? Well I am.
CC: What the hell makes you funny? I dont' see any evidence of that. Reciting 100 lame ass knock knock jokes is not funny. Making me squirt milk out my nose is funny. SHOW me, don't tell me you patronizing boy.
OK, he's honest and funny, but is he caring? Yep I'm caring too.
Again with the stupid claims. Show me. What the hell do you do to allow you to call yourself honest, funny and caring. SHOW ME!!!!! give me examples. Otherwise, kill these sentences.
But your still thinking of clicking the back button because he's boring and although he's caring, honest and funny it's not enough. Who really what's to hang out and have a silent conversation? Who is he? What does he do for fun? I'm smart, self-employed and interested in just about anything, I like history, live sporting event, going camping, fishing, working out.
CC: You had me until you got to you like to work out. Liar!!!! And if you do work out, it's time to get a new personal trainer. Cause I'm not buying it.
I enjoy debating, it's a pleasure to converse with someone about a topic, argue all night and then laugh it off afterwards.
When did arguing become fun? I don't want to argue all night, or debate. I want to get along with you dammit! An argumentative guy is ANNOYING!  | |
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Posted: 11/29/2005 3:29:57 PM | LOL, great review. Btw I do enjoy working out I just started, no obvious results yet. Also not everyone that works out looks like Arnold, check out some of the power lifters in the world. Point taken though. I'll fix the rest and kill the a argument line.
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Posted: 11/29/2005 6:19:48 PM | Hi Chica,
You ripped me to shredds, but I listened to you and made some changes that YOU suggested. 24 hours later I have 3 new men, all in my local area, who sent me e-mails of introduction and would like to try to get to know me better. I think you have a real talent here and even though I said it before, I will say it again. Thank you very much for your help. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2005 9:03:59 PM | Starryeyedinid
Thanks for the words of support. I am very happy that a few changes in your profile have netted you some new dating prospects. Hope they are worthy of you. You're a great catch.
BTW...take it slow. Don't EVER fly out to see a guy again. He should be coming out to see you!
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2005 9:39:15 PM | | Hey cute chica, since I have had NO hits on my profile... I suppose it's time for you to do your work... Thanks in advance (even if it hurts ). | |
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Posted: 11/29/2005 11:43:19 PM | Oh ouch... my pride.
Sorry I asked. Don't bother checking it again. I'm not interested in wasting your time, and I'm not changing another thing on your recommendation. The fact that it annoys you just means the filter is working.
Carry on though, you sad little queen on your sad little hill. Fact of the matter is that I've had several dates off this site in the month since I joined even with my "preachy pontificating" profile. You lost all credibilty when you resorted to ugly personal attacks.
Never in my life have I been so glad to be separated from another human being by an entire continent.
Oh by the way... "banned from this thread"? Nice touch.  | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 6:02:21 AM | Paladin- scurry along little ant of a man.
There are true men here who can take an honest opinion. Yep, I don't go for dorky full of themselves guys.
Just my opinion. But you did wittle down your profile due to my first recommendations and are getting dates...so obviously I have something of worth to say.
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Posted: 11/30/2005 7:53:32 AM | looks like your pretty busy cute_chica but it would be cool if you could take a look at mine. i'll warn you now though, i do have one or two emotes there  | |
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