| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/1/2006 2:04:54 PM | Think larger people are generally nicer too
We tend not to base most of our friendships purely on looks alone &
Accept people for who they are not what they look like
IMHO
Miss_BBW
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Posted: 3/1/2006 4:20:28 PM |
has anyone dated and or married someone who was very overweight, and then lost it all?
ever been snubbed my a member of the opposite sex, and then lost all your weight just to show them what they lost?
if so, call maury? | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 4:34:25 PM | I am overweight, have been most of my life, married several times, but the marriage failures were not about weight issues, simply immature choices of partners. We overweight folks are sexy, sensual, loving, kind........ or not, doesn't have a thing to do with size, has to do with heart, and needs of your partner.
We seem to be the last of the politically incorrect areas to make fun of, and for every overweight man or woman someone passes by, there may go the person of their heart.
We have feelings, wants , needs and the capability to be what you need if the chemistry is right. Give us a chance, instead of a snub. You may find rewards you had no idea could be met. Tomi | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 4:37:55 PM | i dont like how fat people are always said to be jolly.
i am not friggen mrs. claus!
what is there to be happy about?
the heat?
the extra weight?
being the outcasts of society?
being the last group of people who it is still socially exceptable to make fun of?
the more expensive clothes?
meh. although i deal with it and accept my body as the way it is and try hard to make it better, i am not proud of its soft flaws. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 4:45:55 PM | I agree with you .... while being overweight can be unhealthy you have to admit that theres a bit more you to be loved ..... I, myself am overweight but I actually lost weight to the point where I looked ill and I found that once I had lost the weight I had also lost my personality and sense of humour.
I have looked at your profile and I still think that you are a babe and whoever judges you should take a long hard look at themselves.
Remember .... it may look like fun to make fun out of a person for the way they look, but until you can say that you have felt the way they do ..... you havent lived to understand it.
While all the so called pretty people and supermodels go on about how they cant live without a personal trainer ...... put them in the real world and watch them shit their pants.
GinNjuice ...... be you ..... be yourself because you are unique.
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Posted: 3/1/2006 5:22:56 PM | Simple solution, take interest in your healthy, safety and well being. I mean, this should come natural, you, wanting the best for YOU? Health is best unless you have a medical problem that hinders the process, no one should just "let themselves" go.
I was overweight tremendously beginning of 2005. I saw a website that had used a candid photo of me for a promotional and I screamed. My stomach had a smile an dimples and was eating my belt. Well by gum, I swore by April, it being January, I was going to lose the extra weight. And dag nabbit, I done did it! I went from 225 down to 185 then up to 200. Stable now at a solid 200. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 5:28:35 PM | | Well said Tomijay. A real man or a real woman see's the other person for who they are. Just because I have a few extra pounds doesn't mean I'm not a good woman. I was on 3 other sites before this one and connected with some people until they saw my pic and then everything changed. I finally made the decision to get myself in shape but not for anybody else but myself. My motto is you either like me the way I am or you don't like me at all. I know who I am and that's all that matters. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 5:37:51 PM | Keptreal... i had no idea you were this way at all!!! I didn't realize you didn't like women a bit overweight.. hmmm... I have some thoughts n this but think it best I keep them to myself right now. I'm very disappointed however. You will never have to worry about this overweight gal going after you.... so feel safe with that knowledge...Good luck losing the weight and finding your miss perfect barbie doll girl. I wonder what will happen if you do then gain your weight back... will she look for a ken doll... hmmmm... makes one think..
Well, today... I came home rode for 3 hours back behind my house.. darnk about a gallon of water, ate a salad and tried to sleep, so far I've only gotten 2 hours and it's time to go to work... so now you see what my doctor was referring to regarding sleep and weight gain. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 5:38:37 PM | Keptreal... i had no idea you were this way at all!!! I didn't realize you didn't like women a bit overweight.. hmmm... I have some thoughts n this but think it best I keep them to myself right now. I'm very disappointed however. You will never have to worry about this overweight gal going after you.... so feel safe with that knowledge...Good luck losing the weight and finding your miss perfect barbie doll girl. I wonder what will happen if you do then gain your weight back... will she look for a ken doll... hmmmm... makes one think..
Well, today... I came home rode for 3 hours back behind my house.. darnk about a gallon of water, ate a salad and tried to sleep, so far I've only gotten 2 hours and it's time to go to work... so now you see what my doctor was referring to regarding sleep and weight gain. Remember this w | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 7:05:44 PM | A lot of women are overweight due to metabolic disorders. One such disorder is called Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. For YEARS I wondered why my weight continuallywent up and up even though I was eating the same way as I had always done.
To make a long story short I was diagnosed in 1997 and with a few changes to my diet (simple carbs make women with PCOS gain very easily...easier then most) I am slowly dropping the weight. We ladies with PCOS drop weight extremely slowly.
PS. Mesna: I'm rather disappointed with Keptreal too. I was certain HE might of been different until I read one of his recent posts in this thread. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 8:05:07 PM | Message #318. Your last line bothered me in particular. It sounded like she was not good enough for you to date simply because she was overweight.
If I am wrong in my assumption please accept my sincere apology but that was the impression I got when I read it and where my disappointment lies.
It just seems that so many overweight men on this site are continually seeking that perfect image of what they think a woman should look like for themselves instead of looking at the person inside first.
PS. I never claimed you were not my cup of tea nor have I lost any respect for you. I simply said that I was disapointed. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 8:07:41 PM | HeartofVenus.. that is something I have to really watch is my CARBS!! But with my schedule it's still very very hard to lose the weight, Right now I'm happy just not to gain. But the weather is nicer now and hunting season is over so I'm out on the horses and riding more.
Yes.. Keptreal has broke my heart.. I thought he was a hero...  | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 8:09:47 PM | | Keptreal, my friend... I have to agree with HeartofVenus on #318, what you said made it seem that you were far better than to lower yourself to date an overweight person. I read the comment the exact same way. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 8:12:12 PM | That sounds nice Mesna. Riding out in the warm spring air.
Tommorow I'm picking up a stationary bike myself. I'm going to use that until I can get comfortably back on my street bike again for some outdoor fun. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 8:16:23 PM | | I'm going to start riding during the week when I get off work and on the days I don't ride I have a treadmill I need to get back on. Today was beautiful.. the sky was as blue as a robin's egg and the temp was perfect. No bugs YET... The horses enjoyed it.. we enjoyed it and today was my Shepard puppy's first trailride and she did great!!! Who could ask for more?? Well.. except for losing about 40 pounds out on the trail never to find it's way back to me that is!! | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 10:43:40 PM | | I am getting serious again about weight loss. I thought about it today and realized the motivation was missing...I was losing track of why I started losing in the first place. I need to lose for me. I am cared about at the weight I am but I want to be healthy. I am considered good to look at at the present weight but health reasons will help motivate me to lose...I see no problem with dating men that are overweight.... | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 10:53:33 PM |
A lot of women are overweight due to metabolic disorders.
Many people may be overweight because of this disorder, but the vast majority of people are overweight because of poor eating habits, over-eating and poor exercise (the North American life-style). You only need to compare us to the rest of the worlds population - something just doesn't jive.
Number 2: the poor me attitude won't get you a date anyway....if it could, this
thread wouldn't exist....so, what's the point in pointing this little metabolic disorder
out? Do you think there is one fat person who's going to post that he/she is
fat because they live a unhealthy life style?? EVERY SINGLE fat person
on this continent has a metabolic disorder - without exception ;) | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 11:02:20 PM | | You know lazyboy.. If I set around and ate bon bons in front of the tv... or ate out at McDonalds or BK all the time it would be different but I don't. I do not even keep chips or ice cream in my house!!! I am more active than most people I know.. Gee... I'm sorry I have the poor me attitude because at 45 years old I got put on the midnight shift, lost my state job TWICE and usually only get 2-4 hours of sleep PER DAY... I didn't ask my doctor to tell me those are the reasons I've GAINED 30+ pounds in the last year and a half!!! So unless you know what you are talking about... The metabolic disorder came up because GUESS WHAT... THAT IS WHAT THIS THREAD IS ABOUT... WEIGHT... and dating overweight people.. AND weight problems with people. Yes you are right.. People in North AMerica are usually lazy and they eat very unhealthy.. but do not say everyone is to blame for their own weight gains because sometimes it can't be helped!! | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 11:12:13 PM | | In my case I don't think laziness has made me overweight. I am too sensitive about how people treat me and when I feel somehow hurt by someone I withdraw into the old pattern of eating.. Guess what .. junk food and unwise choices...If it is any culprit I would say the culprit is me. And no I don't feel a pity party coming on as I realize I need to lose. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 11:14:56 PM | | Lady.. I don't think any of us were doing a "pity party" as accused ... but you know some people just do not understand it unless they've had to deal with it. Sorry, I should have just let what he said go but I couldn't. I'm still pretty floored about what Keptreal said about dating a woman overweight.. it really bugged me.. but oh well... If someone doesn't like me for me then it is their loss that is all I can say. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 11:21:03 PM | but mesnafugal, you're assuming that the non-fat people don't have their own
issues & therefore can't appreciate you. Everybody has challenges and obstacles they need
to over-come...myself included, but I don't try to bend time and space so that the world
adapts to my state of being - I had to over-come it through will power. What's happening
in North America is exactly what I'm suggesting; people have surrendered to a
poisonous life style and are now trying to make this life-style acceptable - perhaps
not you specifically, but others are. It'll never be an accepted by the general
population.......btw: if most people in Canada are fat now, why are they complaining
of not being able to get a date?? | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 11:38:38 PM | | Motivation and the love and care that people show you. The encouragement to lose and the great advice will do more good than a put down...will power can be lost if something or someone comes along and proves to you, why try to lose and weight will be regained... Some people have said.. you train your mind first and then get out there and exercise. Walking is a great way to start an exercise program... | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 11:40:36 PM | LOL.. I know what will power is... I just can't find mine!!! Well.. I have a doctors excuse to fall back on so I can feel sorry for myself because I'm so overweight... toothless... no job.. lazy.. a total slob... mean and basically just stupid and therefor I have NOTHING at all to offer anyone in this whole world... oh.. .whoa is me.. poor pitiful me... I'm just nothing without being beautiful... I think I'll just crawl in a hole and die....
Yeah right... NOT!!! As I said before, you obviously do not understand "some" people do have problems which cause them to gain weight and also to not be able to lose like some people. And then you have the lazy people who actually do not care what they look like and eat like pigs, dress like throw aways AND have crappy attitudes.. I just happen to not be one of them. Life goes on... and the world is full of skinny people.. fat people.. mean people and nice people. People are just different and that's that.
Denial??? WTF you talking about and who??? geezzzz | |
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