| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/2/2006 12:02:59 PM | I'm not talking perfect world here. I am talking about taking care of oneself. We ALL have stories.
They tested this guy who was considered over weight and the guy was a triathelete. Yet the test showed he was a prime candidate for a heart attack.
He ran some wild number like 20 miles a day,
Rowed, (in a boat) like 100 miles a day.
Biked like 100 miles a day and swam like 20 miles a day.
Yet he was considered over weight.
In Hawaii a lot of native people there are familiar with large things as is in Samoa
So it's a preferential issue. Still, if one is interested in health then one establishes a healthy lifestyle. I been through the whole depression thing.
I lost my home and my health and fiancee and most people I knew turned their backs on me. I lost more weight than I gained. Different people handle different situations differently. If it has to do with eating. Handle it differently. Bottom line, there is someone for everyone and you really want to know if a Hunk has the gonads enough to admit he would or wouldn't date what is considered to be a fat chick sound like to me. | |
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Joined: 2/27/2006
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/2/2006 12:35:16 PM | The quote is " If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, find an ugly girl and maker her your wife". Its from the 50's , a one hit wonder song.
hope that helps... | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 3:28:54 PM | Wow this thread continues to spiral out of control.
Certainly there are some people that unfortunately suffer from either glandular or metabolic disorders, but these still constitute but a fraction of the growing obese population. Everyone is born with their own basic metabolic rate, and this rate will slow down with age. However some are diligent in monitoring this decline and keeping the balance in check between caloric intake and caloric expenditure. Exercise, heart-thumping exercise still remains the best way to keep that metabolism up to its optimal levels.
There are too many cop-outs, but fitness does not come without sacrifice - it takes ages to get in shape, and yet so little time to fall out of it... The universe is a b*tch isn't it?  
So the only real way to avoid having to deal with the arduous effort of weight loss is to never put it on in the first place. Hindsight-holier-than-thou preaching? Yes True? Yes as well  | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/2/2006 3:43:07 PM | | keptreal.... friends in my book are for life... I would date a man if he was overweight because I love people. That is my preference. I do pick my friends for personalities rather than weight because online that is what comes across more than actual weight. Dig within each post and you will see glowing personalities there.As I have said super heroes. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 3:44:56 PM | | keptreal....yes you are a friend... friends in my book are for life... I would date a man if he was overweight because I love people. That is my preference. I do pick my friends for personalities rather than weight because online that is what comes across more than actual weight. Dig within each post and you will see glowing personalities there.As I have said super heroes. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 5:21:31 PM | Tiger Woods said:
"Exercise, heart-thumping exercise still remains the best way to keep that metabolism up to its optimal levels"
This is very true IMO. I have to admit (might as well be honest) that in the past I have not been as strict with daily exercise as I could have been. That has completely changed now but I did read somewhere that a woman with PCOS has to exercise twice as long to receive the same benefits metabollically (sp?) as a woman without PCOS.
That just means I have to work myself up to a 2 hour a day bike ride instead of a 1 hour a day bike ride. I don't mind that as it will keep me outdoors and outdoors is where I have found great joy in the past. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 5:35:33 PM | Good for you Venus,
Best of luck in your cycling  The hard part i find is not to get bored if it's a stationary bike, I almost have to do it with my eyes closed and pretend I'm somewhere else cycling... However from spring through fall I just pick a random direction and take off for 20 or 30km, then turn around while i still have enough juice and memory to find my wy home
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Joined: 2/25/2006
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/2/2006 5:47:14 PM | A littlle advice on the exercise thing.
Change it up and learn to sneak in exercise when you can.
- Walk up/down the escalator.
- Take the stairs. Even if you can't make it all the way, go as far as you can, then take the elevator.
- Park farther away and walk a little more; walking doesn't burn much but every little bit helps.
I truely believe, it is not just about a couple of hours a day, but about the life style. Spread it out, and it might not be as hard to keep it up.
And, the reason for the change up is that the human body learns and can become efficient at doing repetative tasks. Ride bike for a few weeks, cut back on it some and do something else, then later on go back to more intense bike riding.
So, I like to spread it out a little, change it up, and keep my body guessing(except that it nows I am active and want to burn fuel).
One last thing, drink ice water. I have read that drinking a gallon of ice water a day burns over 120 calories.
Lastly, remember, you are doing it for yourself and your health, and those are the best motivations of all. | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/2/2006 6:06:56 PM | That effing sucks man. What a total ****! Let that be a lesson, no good deed goes Unpunished.  | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 8:01:37 PM | Oh Keptreal... chill out!!! Read what you wrote... it sounded shallow.. but oh excuse ME for voicing MY OPINION... if you are trying to say Lady is your friend and I'm not.. then.. your loss ....
Wait.. not a loss that Lady is your only life long friend.. that wasn't what I meant.. I meant your loss if you don't want ME as your friend..... but whatever, you seem to be getting a wee bit of "attitude" lately.. don't take it out on me!! | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 8:30:16 PM | NO... you are not playing nicely.. and I'm not going to play with you!!! I"m taking my toys and little red ball and going home. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 8:39:33 PM | If you don't stop trying to pick a fight with me I'm going to hit you over the head with my barbie doll!!!! You need to lighten up some dear.... this is all in fun.... I stated that the way you said something bothered me and you keep wwanting to argue about it.. it was said.. it's OVER!!! And if you'll read.. .I was not the only person who was surprised at what you said so stop picking on me or I'm telling.. someone.. not sure who but I'll tell on you!!! | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 8:56:47 PM | | WHAT??? What are you saying I started??? YOu need to get a grip and drop this Kep!!! I didn't "start" anything!! I voiced my opinion.. do you really need the mods on this??? You are throwing out personal attacks on me and I'm getting a wee bit fed up with it!!! | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 8:59:58 PM | | form of racism? wish you all would get over the dating ,being with a larger than life person for gawds sakes!! were all people!! lets talk about unisex bathrooms and how theres not enough ..lol now thats entertaining ..haha | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 9:16:28 PM | Actually Keptreal, I am *extremely* easy to live with. I never ask for very much and I have very few and simple needs which I look after myself. BTW I am fine since you asked. I am happily and excitedly looking forward to getting my exercise bike this coming Saturday.
With that said, I have nothing against preferences. I have my own visual preferences when it comes to men yet I am very much willing to put them aside in the hopes of finding someone who is totally compatible with me personality wise. Looks are NOT everything. If they were I never would have gone out with some of the guys I have been with. I would not be willing to go out with a fellow I have been chatting with for several weeks if I refused to date him because he was a little shorter then my own preferences. For all I know he could turn out to be the guy of my dreams but I would never know that if I turned him away because he was a few inches shorter then my preference in men. (If you are wondering my preference is for tall, hairy guys with lots of facial hair)
I am willing to compromise and it seems like you are not.
Of course that is your choice but it sure limits your dating field when it comes to getting to know people and to be honestly I wish I had not taken what you said a little personally.
Your choice is after all your choice and it is your life. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 9:45:07 PM | Keptreal: You do not need to apologize for not understanding what PCOS is. Many many people have never even heard about it and have been living with it for years. This was true for me until I was diagnosed with it in 1997. Before that I lived my life suspecting something was not quite *right* with how my body was working but I could never put my finger on it until I was diagnosed.
Thank you for your compliments in my effort to lose weight but you better have your fingers and toes crossed that I don't become a total hottie and then refuse to date you because of your preferences in women. (smile...it's a JOKE!)
Of course MY plan is to BECOME a total hottie and fight the guys off with a very large stick. Woohoo! | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/3/2006 12:23:03 AM | | I'm new to this site, but being a BBW myself I wanted to add my own comments. I never had a weight problem as a child until my parents marriage started going bad. They stayed together for several years (for the kids), and made us very unhappy. Even after their divorce they continued to fight. During this time is when I started to gain weight. After awhile it was sort of a snowball effect. Once you get lots of extra weight it's very hard to get off. I'd like to lose weight for my health, but I could care less what others think of me. And since returning to the dating world (I'm a widow) I've found no trouble finding men. There are tons of men out there who like big women. And they come in all shapes and sizes. I've had men who are strippers and look like chippendales dancers all the way to the average joe. I judge a man on what's inside, not out. So far I haven't found "the one", but I'm having a good time and I've made a lot of friends. I think confidence makes a big difference in how others look at you. I know I'm not everyones cup of tea, but I also know there are plenty of men who like what they see. Just be yourself, make the most of the looks you have and be a caring person. The ones that will still pass you by aren't the ones you would want anyway. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 8:34:47 AM | Keptreal said:
"keep that positive attitude Venus you will be fine ,maybe not quite beating them off with a stick"
I never quite knew what my ex boyfriend meant when he talked about someone giving a backhanded compliment.
Now I know.
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/3/2006 12:41:22 PM | | I have had this problem several times on here. I get talking to a guy, then when we meet or I send him a picture, I never hear from him again. I think I am a nice person, I do everything I ever can to help people (volunteer firefighter/EMT, I work in the mental health field). I am not an ugly person, and I do not have low sef esteem. I just don't get some guys. | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/3/2006 7:50:23 PM | | None of us "get some guys"... I have decided I understand my animals much better. If they do not like the way you look then it is their loss firefighter26f. People have no idea what they miss out on by not getting to know some of us. There is nothing you can do about it but like yourself and enjoy your life. It's not you.. it's them.. good luck. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 9:04:54 PM | I've dated a few people that were heavier in weight but it suited them it seemed to suit their persona and they had phenomenal outgoing personalities. I couldn't imagine them all slimmed out and on diets. There life styles were different more laid back and amazingly way more fun because they don't have hang ups about all that stuff.
... and ... they always fed me first!!!
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/3/2006 11:54:55 PM | Perfect Topic my man!!! I hope you people don;t mind if I write a little story here:
I grew up fat after my parents split when I was six..For whaever the reason, it doesn;t matter..Maybe I was bored, a loner, afraid to be around people. It wasn;t until I was 20yrs old, 220 that I started working out hardcore..I got to a thirty inch waist and 150pds..and that was too thin actually for my frame..But anyhow..the guys that use to pick on me saw me later in life and my reputation had changed for getting good with my fists, never screwed with me again..IT was funny..my ten yr reunion they didn;t even know who I was until I wrote my name on a tag..lol..and then even a few of the old cheerleaders that would not have given me a second look yrs ago hung all over me while their husbands stayed home...So I enjoyed it for an hour and left without saying goodbye..But remembering to remain humble is the ticket and the key to inner peace and power..To keep the ego at bay. But being on both sides of the spectrum, I feel more blessed because I know NOW that no matter what is on the outside cannot not change the inside and integrity..
Anyhow, thanks for letting me vent a little..I don;t even mind sharing photos...lol..I know I probably will never have a six pack, but I get by just fine..You guys take care~
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/4/2006 8:25:28 AM | | 100% sweet... It is about the inner beauty, if you are a caring person it radiates outward. Regardless of weight, age or any other visual package. The true worth of a person lies within. | |
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