| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/4/2006 9:20:50 AM | Maybe the risks and expenses of dating an overweight person are part of what deters healthier people.
http://www.ediets.com/news/article.cfm/cmi_1799953/cid_5/code_24908 | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/4/2006 9:39:21 AM | Not at the moment, and yes I like BHM, I'm a BBW. I need something to hold onto while we get creative!!! hehehe | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/4/2006 10:47:04 AM | | I know that I'm pretty dang big, and I met my bf on here and he loves me as i am and he thinks im beautiful but he has said he doesn't think I'm very healthy, which is probably true and that he'd like for me to lose some weight. And he said it in a helpful loving way so since then I've been working on that. But as far as our relationship it hasn't really affected anything. | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/4/2006 1:40:29 PM | 100%....thanks for keeping it real!..mesna everyone get's in a miserable mood once in a while. I do apologise for anything I said out of context and hurtful regarding my own personal preferences. You know ladey and you are my dearest friends on here. I certainly wouldn't want to throw everything we have shared away because of a cranky, cynical mood that had taken control because I had a really bad day. Mesna you are an angel, and a forgiving one at that. Ladypagey, a gift to all of us with a big heart and a wise voice to those who seek wisdom.....keptreal | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/4/2006 2:45:26 PM | keptreal... thank you for your words here. When I say a person is a friend they are one for life. I truky feel you are super heroes. I would sincerely date someone over weight because the true worth of the person.
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/4/2006 3:04:35 PM | When my ex boyfriend and I met over the net, we both were overweight. We both ended up gaining weight during the course of our relationship. The fact of the matter was that we were both insecure about being overweight, and it was nice to finally find someone who accepted us. He wanted to lose weight for health reasons and I wanted to lose weight to fit into better looking clothes. We worked on it together.
Personally though, I have dated a lot of think guys, and its okay- but honestly I have always liked the bigger guys better. I have had two long term relationships where I was able to feel like I could really be myself- they were both with bigger guys, and I am still friends with both of them now. I really don't think the weight is the issue- it's letting people see who you really are under the weight. | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/4/2006 3:11:17 PM | | I was overweight during college, and my fiance dumped me b/c I lost weight. He said he couldnt handle how much attention I was getting. Go figure! I am sooo lucky he did though. | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/5/2006 6:41:34 AM | | To 100% Sweet---You're name is perfect because that's exactly how you sound. If you ever feel like a drive I'm not to far away! lol! | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/7/2006 1:05:15 PM | | What about two overweight persons dating each other? Ya think they are this obsessed? Not all couples are out of Vogue Magazine. Try opening your eyes the next time you are in a mall and see if you see two Michelin Man looking people holding hands or kissing. That's your answer. Overweight and underweight people date. Dwarfs date, quadraplegic people date. Hell, the green river murderer gets love letters. Even Timothy McVey. I godda be on a date line, SHEESH!!! | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/8/2006 3:09:25 PM | | I have struggled with my weight since being put on Prednisone years ago. I've lost it, gained it, lost it again. There was a man who I always found physically attractive, yet he never really "noticed" me - I've lost almost 200 pounds, and now he knows who I am ... but the tables are turned. I know he's a shallow, insensitive, superficial jerk and would not give him a shot if he were the last man on earth. Truthfully, any person who judges based on weight does not deserve to take another breath IMO | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/8/2006 8:24:36 PM | | I totally agree Lilsheeba!!! Revenge is sweet!!! That is why so many people miss out on wonderful people they are just too shallow. | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/11/2006 1:13:18 PM | I would like to bring your attention... to my recent Thread named "Get a load of this"
This is a true example of a guy using the fact that I am overweight to cover-up his own self-esteem issues, and a shallow person..............
Again I would like to point out that seeking a certin body type is NOT shallow..... however using someone else's physical features to cover up how you feel about your self is...........
Happy Weekend everyone  | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/13/2006 7:05:22 PM | | OK..OBVIOUSLY I'm a bigger girl..( OMG, when did that happen, I swear I woke up skinny this morning!? *LOL* don't you LUV how people like to point out you're overweight like you had NO idea- had one guy comment when I sent himmy pic- "you're a little chubby aren't you" uh, yeah. that's what BBW means..anyway, OT when you purchase something, you but the product because you like it, not for the fancy packaging. I'm happy with myself for the most part, and I'm not a lazy, junk food eating, individual ,well, from time to time like most people, chubby or otherwise. I Find men of all shapes attractive. True beauty radiates from within. No doubt, chemistry must be present, but sparks don't go by your dress size! | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/13/2006 11:30:56 PM | Alright, don't get me wrong, I'm not skinny, and I haven't really put a lot of thought into dating a fat chick or a skinny chick. To me, weight isn't an important attribute. Really though, us overweight people have to stop with this "beautiful on the inside" schtick. you never see a skinny person saying they're beautiful on the inside, just let that shine through for itself. It's almost like selling yourself as a consolation prize. Don't sell yourself short, there's always someone out there who thinks you're far more outwardly beautiful/handsome then you can ever imagine.
Some people are just really enraptured with the image thing, and although I've been on the butt end of it, you can't fault people for their personal taste. Some people don't like blondes, some people don't like skinny girls, and it's a matter of many elements, whether it's social, or mental, it's so deeply ingrained that they think that overweight is just an unattractive feature, like some people think about beautymarks, tattoos and piercings.
We only get one crack at life, I don't expect to settle for something, I don't see why you'd want to be with someone who settled for you. That would be a huge burden to live up to. you don't like me, screw off, there's someone out there who will.
Just don't make the physical attributes all that it's about. you may think it's love because he/she is pretty, but if a car accident destroyed the pretty, would you still have something to love? If you can't answer that honestly, then you're probably on the fast track to unhappy land.
Plainly put, at this very moment, no matter who you are, there's people out there that think you're too damn skinny, and others who think you're too damn fat. That's just how it goes. Find the ones who don't care. | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 3/14/2006 3:05:10 PM | I really like what you said Tall, about letting that inner beauty shine through.. I agree wholeheartedly. I guess the hard part is that we can't LET it shine through online where our words and our inner beauty aren't always viewed in the same light. And you are right on when you said that there are people out there who will think either extreme of us at any given time. Well put...  | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 4/12/2006 12:29:41 AM | Just wanted to point out that some people who don't have medical problems are bigger because they don't care what people think of them. They aren't lazy they see themselves as perfect and more power to them but there are many types of fat people some are fat and working had to lose the Pounds other love every roll and there are a few out there giving us all a bad name becasue they are sloppy gross lazy smelly nasty fatty mc fat fats who are that way becasue they can't be bothered to do anythign else. My only issue with them is that i get judged based on their flaws. Did you know all us fat people were the same? I think it's laughable that the topic has been so twisted do people realize that the OP still hasn't had anyone aswer his question, poor guy!!! | |
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Posted: 4/12/2006 5:40:27 AM | | I lost 130 pounds when I was married. I found myself agian after the weight loss. X couldn't handle it dudes paying attention to me I asked him to come out with me he got all possesive and stuff hand in the pocket silliness. Thinking it's not ok to ask some one to change for you, but how about with you? | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 4/12/2006 5:46:56 AM | I was on a diet 3 years ago and slimmed down 55 pounds in 2 months so one can control the weight and one should encourage NOT DISCOURAGE someone who is overweight to trimm down.
I know many nice looking overwieght people and thats not a problem to me, even though I must say that it is better to be healthy (OFFCOURSE) and to take care of oneself and their hygien.
So in other words, it's ok, AS LONG AS THEY RETURN THAT FAVOUR ACCEPT YOU/ME.!!!
Just to keep it fair. | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 4/12/2006 5:56:15 AM | WHO CARES!!!! who are you to judge others...take a good look in the mirror an try judging yourself.
i can think of betters things to worry bout...my goodness. if your gonna sit here an judge others by their looks...then i dont consider you a friend...i have obesse friends..sure its not healthy...but who am i to say...their choice in life an theyre ok with it...i accept them for who they are...thats right...its called acceptance. you accept the things you can not change. i wouldnt trade my friends for the world....for theyre the most respected...carin loving people in the world.  | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 4/12/2006 6:06:51 AM | {WHO CARES!!!! who are you to judge others...take a good look in the mirror an try judging yourself.
i can think of betters things to worry bout...my goodness. if your gonna sit here an judge others by their looks...then i dont consider you a friend...i have obesse friends..sure its not healthy...but who am i to say...their choice in life an theyre ok with it...i accept them for who they are...thats right...its called acceptance. you accept the things you can not change. i wouldnt trade my friends for the world....for theyre the most respected...carin loving people in the world. }
I agree, it is totally low class for people to judge others by their looks, and let alone to bash them for it and make unhelpful and discouraging comments about them!!!!!
That has been (as many may know by now) the essense of my posts that I have contributed to on here.
I also agree people do have better stuff to worry about like their attitudes and their shallowness and their judgmental views.
and yes, It's called acceptance and being OPEN MINDED!!!!!!! | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 4/12/2006 6:00:10 PM | thank you mardio...i was startin to loose it there for sec..lol...
man you people have really gotta stop an smell the flowers....seems when something drastic happens in their lives ..thats when the light comes on.
i dont care what anyone looks like or what they have ...shesh...what matters whos beside you...thru life and as long as they know how to treat others ....thats what matters. | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 4/16/2006 8:48:51 PM | what ever folks I love it when a overweight person whines boohoohoo
maybe if some of you overweight folks try and get off your ass and work out and stop whining , maybe and i do mean maybe things can be different in the love dept | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 4/17/2006 9:28:17 AM | ive struggled most my life with weight issues..being a more then average tall gal at 5'11' and big boned,i fine makes it harder as i convince myself i will never be petie,so look for all kinds of reason not to try harder,also lifes losses ive suffered has put me in a rut not to care but..recently joined "curves" a womens gym 2 months ago and feeling great,no more pity rides for me..long way to go but i have faith will make it..do find it said tho at times that men wont take a chance to get to know the person but then again,its all about first appearence,were all guilty of that, well thats just life and normal to expect that first eye view click so guess cant really be up set at men for their preferences as us women have them also,has to be a quick immediate spark to go further and personally if i was a man im sure i wud be more attracted to sum one that took care of their health and body,sum thing i regret not doing but cant look back now,doing it for me ,and when im ready i will take on the world with the up most confidence!  | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 4/17/2006 3:39:47 PM | Hi
Im new to this I think the person should come first not what they look like on the outside and besides the more there is there the more to love.B eing a over weight person myself and being past over many time myself for the Barbi,but none of that matters I know I will fit someones criteria real soon  | |
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