| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 4/26/2006 2:00:21 PM | | I agree with blueeyedgirl...except that I am not a twig...but my guy is heavy and hairy..and he's the best...met him on one of these sites.... | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 5/1/2006 5:19:57 PM | | Why do you have to loose it all to show them what they lost?....Be proud of who you are..Those who will only love you, talk to you, date you or give you a chance if you fit a certain size, are not worth it...The one who is worth it, will not make you feel bad about yourself..Have more confidence about yourself..I see heavier men & women with average/normal sized members of the opposite sex all the time..The one thing I notice in these couples, is how confident each one is and the amount of love and affection they show one another openly..SO, stop thinking you have to loose it all to prove something to someone else..Star being happy with yourself and being more confident and perhaps things will change..Good Luck and smile! | |
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Posted: 5/1/2006 5:25:32 PM | | Never really had a problem with my extra pounds....and those that I had a problem with were so superficial that it was exhausting. lol Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I look in the mirror and I am beautiful regardless. Would I date someone with extra pounds .......why not? and if they are too skinny or short....who cares, as long as I like them. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2006 5:19:56 PM | | sweetgirl...I read this string and I disagree. I'm a large girl. I've also lost weight. But my experience on POF is it's full of men asking for someone honest and caring claiming they are romantic, sensual and ready for friendships but then you can't even get them to even meet you for coffee. Suddenly they become busy. If you just stop at any mall or where people congregate...check it out.. 3/4 of the population are large. It just kills me that weight is the first thing your judged by. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2006 5:47:08 PM | | I've been all over this. I've never been really overweight , more like a few extra pounds that should be gone but just keep stickin around! 2 years ago I slimmed down (not the good and healthy way) and it was ridiculous the increase in attention from guys I got. Now I'm back to closer to my normal weight and I don't think it's influenced the guys who have approached me one way or the other. I dated someone who like myself had a few extra pounds to lose and it was great. Weight has never been an issue for me in a relationship, and I'm hoping it never is , of all the things to affect a relationship , weight seems so superficial. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2006 5:55:13 PM | | I've said it once and I'll say it again ... too many times the only thing people associate "physical appearance" with is weight .. ...there is so much more to a person physically .. do they have hair in odd places ... do they have a third nipple ( okay sometimes third nipples are alright ) but seriously ..just because someone is "overweight" does not mean that they are an all around ugly person ... I believe if you choose to date someone date them for the right reasons .. their honest, caring, good in bed etc. etc. Don't date them because you're just attracted to their physical selves because in a few years you will be staring at someone across the bed that has wrinkles and sagging in places that they didn't previously sag or wrinkle .... physical ages but true love never does ... and that is all from tinkerbelle .. :P | |
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Posted: 5/8/2006 2:19:54 AM | A lot more women my age "tolerate" a lot more weight in their men than the men my age do in the women!
Men my age seem to want us to be like "twiggy" ... well sorry "BUD" ... it's not happening anymore than it's happening with you at my age. Suck it up ... getting older means a little more weight. If you have a "gut" going on, quit demanding "twiggy"!
Get real ... if you have a gut, chances are women the same age will have a little "tummy" thing going on too ... it's called "I had so many babies and now my stomach won't go flat any more" syndrome.
I'm not talking about "disgustingly" more weight ... just a few extra pounds. We all have it and get it the older we get. Live with it!
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Posted: 5/8/2006 8:23:25 AM | At my age this can be a problem...I do try to keep the weight off...but it just ain't happening...I think if men had babies like we do then they would be more understanding...it seems they are all looking for twigs...
I say if you don't like me the way I am then your not for me...I'm moving on!!!! NEXT  | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 5/8/2006 12:48:05 PM | | Everyone has their own preferences. Ever stop and think, maybe thats a turn on for some people. And its shallow to base your opinion of someone based on their appearance. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2006 2:23:25 PM | | I've only been on POF for a few days now, and at first I was rather miffed that I wasn't getting replies to emails I sent. It was deflating (no pun intended!) to say the least. But after thinking about it, I came to the conclusion that it's "okay". To each his own/beauty in the eye of the beholder/big girls are better lovers - whatever way you wish to look at it, we're damn lucky that there's a million different ideals of beauty and attraction. As I said earlier, I get very few replies to emails sent - probably because they look at my profile and see bbw. If they disregard me because of that then I'm glad they didn't reply, cause I want to meet ppl who find me attractive no matter what the scale says! | |
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Posted: 5/8/2006 2:40:39 PM | I know that there is someone for everyone, I am amazed at how many really fit men flirt and want to date me and here I am far from being slim and fit. I think that they know that us non skinny people are more compassionate and loving toward others and that we are real and not like some fake skinny person that is shallow. Not to mean that all skinny people are that way.
No one should ever judge a person from their appearence, they should get to know the person thats on the inside then they can enjoy that persons beauty on the outside aswell!!
I have met some really wonderful men by not judging them till I got to know them.
So ladies and gents out there that are overweight keep your heads and spirits up because there are alot of great people out there that will give us a chance to show them what caring people we really are. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2006 8:52:05 PM | Okay, I'm new to POF, and reading this thread (or trying to) I wanted the general consensus' opinions. At what size do you move from "Average" to "Thick" to "Vuluptous" to "BBW"? Reading people's personal descriptions of themselves, compared to their pictures (guys and girls included), out of 2 people who are relatively the same size- 1 says they are "average" while the other says "fit" or another says "a few extra pounds." I for one am an overweight girl... turned to food for comfort throughout my life. Now I am finally seeing that it is unhealthy, and trying to get my eating habits back on track. I have to date lost 3 sizes and 40+ pounds- and still going. While I still have a long way to go- I must admit that it is hard for me to decide where I should be. What the "ideal weight" for my height is just wouldn't work for my body frame (big boned, wide hipped, etc.). I know that no matter what size I am, I tend to be attracted to men that are taller and meatier than "average" (just for an idea- about 6' to 6'3" and a pant size 36ish). So my question is- for both men and women- what size frames/weight category do you consider a person: average, athletic, slim, thick, heavy, etc.?
On a side note- My best friend- who is also on the chunkier side- has a t-shirt that sums it all up:
"I may be fat- but you're ugly. At least I can diet."
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Posted: 6/7/2006 8:56:02 PM | | fhfiona.... "I may be fat, but you're uglay and I can go on a diet" I have that magnet on my refrigerator!!! | |
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Posted: 6/7/2006 9:40:02 PM |
At what size do you move from "Average" to "Thick" to "Vuluptous" to "BBW"? Not at all speaking for anyone else on here but myself ... I can accept a "little" overweight, as I myself am not a twig. I have a lot of practical thoughts about it. I'm a nurse ... thinking about what too much weight does to a person my age ... it's so awfully unhealthy that my logic in the whole thing is this:
If a man is going to let himself go to the extent that he is considered "overweight" (mostly at my age that involves a 50-pound or more beer belly), then one has to wonder if he has any respect at all for himself and his health. If he can't muster the caring it takes to take good care of himself ... how in the world is he going to muster the caring it takes to love a partner unconditionally?
So I'm not saying I wouldn't date an overweight person ... just would be very cautious about it. I personally am not "overweight" and it is my preference that my partner also not be "overweight". I like to be very physically active ... most overweight folks are not capable of riding a bike 20 miles a day ... going out dancing for hours at a time ... and that's just a starter for me. I have very little idle time ... so any gentleman who would get together with me would have to be somewhat programmed in the same way! Unfortunately, that generally excludes "overweight" men ... nice as they can be, loving as they can be. I need a man who can truly keep up with me physically!
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Posted: 6/13/2006 1:32:47 PM | 6-13-06
OK ALL YOU SKINNIES OUT THERE, THIS IS FOR YOU... NOT EVERYONE IS OVERWEIGHT BECAUSE THEY SIT AROUND AND EAT ALL DAY AND DO NOTHING PHYSICAL. THERE ARE MANY MEDICAL REASONS FOR OBESITY.
1- HEART PROBLEMS. YES, CARDIOMYOPATHY CAUSES WATER RETENTION = BIG TIME.
2- DIABETES
3- THYROID IMBALANCES
4- SLOW METABOLISM
SO...IF YOU ARE SKINNY AND DON'T HAVE TO WORK AT IT, THANK YOUR LUCKY STARS, BECAUSE THERE ARE MANY OUT THERE WHO CANNOT CONTROL THEIR WEIGHT AS EASILY. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2006 8:40:10 PM | | clubus.. as with many of these sites... skinny or smaller people do not realize how lucky they are to have those type genes!! And YES it is in your genes... some people are just smaller and built better because it's the way they are made up. Yes we could all be skinny if we wanted to live on diets.... stay at the gym or walk miles a day on our treadmills. I used to be small when I was younger but as I got older my metabolism slowed wayyyyyyyy down. And NO we don't just sit around and do nothing but eat. Some people just enjoy working out and then some do not. I'm not going to be miserable because other people think I should constantly diet... and/or exercise all the time. It's just not my cup of tea. More power to the ones who are into it.. I'm just not anymore. There are other things higher on my priority list!! | |
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Posted: 6/13/2006 8:56:36 PM | I think it would be...." More to love"
If you both have the chemistry & attraction....who cares?.....
everything else melts together....you at least have love handles...  | |
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Posted: 6/13/2006 11:50:30 PM | I just wanted to add a comment in here on this forum...I've been on both sides of the fence"weightwise," and its really sad how some people treat overweight people...almost like they are inhuman or something...I recently lost 96 pounds because I chose to be healthier as I grew older...but before I lost this weight,people would make comments as they went by me...some of my ex b/f's were verbally abusive towards my weight problem...cutting me right down to where I had little to no self-esteem left...
I don't believe anyone has a right to judge someone by their physical looks negatively.I believe the one who really has the problem...is the one who is non-accepting of a person with a weight problem...It must be hard living with their own garbage!
I see how some people treat me now~always smiling and saying hi when they walk by and I think to myself how plastic this world can be at times~It really makes me sad,Yet I know one thing that has never changed in me,skinny or fat...I still have a caring and loving heart~And one day...I will give that to a man who loves me for "who I am," not for who they want me to be~
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Posted: 6/14/2006 12:13:19 AM | So what?? nothing wrong with that.!!
I have a saying....as long as they can dance, and run as in make a decent sprint run about a 100 meters and can walk in the hot sun for an hour at a time then they are not too overweight for me and they are ok. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2006 3:44:07 PM | Nothing wrong with dating people with a BIG heart...most people that are overweight tend to have the most beautiful insides.
as long as they can dance, and run as in make a decent sprint run about a 100 meters and can walk in the hot sun for an hour at a time then they are not too overweight for me
I for one lost 72 lbs since HE left. I am more active, love walking, dancing and I'm eating differently. For me activity and stress has a lot to do with my weight issue. I'm not happy with my self-image for one. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2006 6:24:46 PM | OK. lucky its in your Gene's *jeans*, ( HaHa ) its our Western Diet . That whats killing (almost) every,man,women and child!
For those that can Read, and can use search engines , look up,,
*Mucoid Plaque*,! Big hint this leather like material is in peoples intestines ! I studied alittle about nutrition ,if you ever drank cows milk,white bread, Big Mac's ,gee i'm just repeteing our western diet.  .
Malnutrition, water weight ,obese and skinny, pimples,bad breath,even heart failure ,list go's on and on and on!
Anyway for all the gals that want too be healthy slim, read about , Mucoid Plaque . !
Thats all the info i can dish out today, i would hate to put Old Doc out of a JOB !
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Eat it Raw , veggys thats is,
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Posted: 6/14/2006 6:32:19 PM | I have actually gotten more positive responses since I have switched from beating around the bush with 'a few extra pounds' to what i really mean 'bbw'
I think there really is no point in lying really. Although, I am well on my way to achieving 'my idea' of what i would feel most healthiest at weighing. so who knows, by Christmas it may very well be back to 'a few extra pounds' truthfully!! :) | |
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Posted: 6/14/2006 8:36:06 PM | Gene's.... or jeans??? I wrote what I meant to say.
Anyone in particular you are referring to about IF YOU CAN READ??? So I guess now us people with extra padding are stupid and can't read????
Also.. .. I NEVER eat Big Macs or junk food!!!! So you can just go back to school and do some more studying on all this. | |
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