makewe
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Joined: 10/22/2005
Msg: 51 | |
| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 1/10/2006 2:07:42 PM | I read all these super replies :its whats inside and beauti is skin deep:i do agree but get so tired of preaching hippocrates, who say the words but dont mean the sentiment..and the myth that fat women find it harder to find men than fat men women...how meny fat women clubs do you know.... now how meny fat men clubs...It seems more men are open minded to larger women than women to larger men.....but hey ive been wrong before hmmmmmmm not sure ive ever been rite lol | |
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Posted: 1/10/2006 2:54:14 PM | .....most girls I date think I'm like Santa Claus,(I don't know why) some of them thin, some chubby doesn't matter to me that much as long as I keep them laughing, their a pleasure to be with. I own 5 red shirts. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2006 9:08:48 PM | I have a pretty good looking ex-boyfriend who now exclusively likes/dates fat girls, and I mean FAT - from the pics I've seen, these women are at least 300 pounds, maybe more like 400. I was pretty shocked when I found that out about him, so yeah, there are men who date morbidly obese women.
I'm on the road to losing weight myself. I definately do not mean to offend anyone by saying this, but I don't want the kind of man who would date someone who didn't take care of their body (me, until recently). | |
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Posted: 2/1/2006 9:40:04 PM | | to myself it doesn't matter if they're overweight as long as they have a good heart to me it's more to cuddle into I'm currently dating someone with extra pounds and it's very comfortable to snuggle up to. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2006 9:57:02 PM | im overweight,I feel great,but as you hear,your overweight,you must be Lazy ?
but im not,I walk,eat good food,and like sex.
as I notice it's not the looks,it's really the weight,
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Posted: 2/1/2006 10:28:10 PM |
Some days I'm glad I have this weight... Because I get to weed out the morons from the quality people...
You got that right sistah!!!
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Posted: 2/1/2006 10:32:46 PM | I do not really like skinny men... unless they are super tall. I like a man with meat on his bones. It seems all you "exercise jocks" are so into yourselves!! I hate to generalize and I know not everyone is like that who exercises but I've seen it in men and women who dwell on their appearance and weight. I have too many other interests to spend time at the gym and be that concerned about what everyone else thinks of me. I'm a very happy go lucky person and YES I'm overweight. And there is actually a medical reason so I have to try very hard to loose the weight. But hey... I can still get on my horses without pulling them to the ground and I can get into my fishing boat and/or kayaks without them sinking so I guess I'm ok. | |
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AI03™
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Joined: 5/3/2005
Msg: 58 | |
| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 2/1/2006 10:34:47 PM | | Mes... you're more than OK girl!!! Never doubt that. Superficial people are simply that, superficial. There isn't anything else to say about them. Sad for them huh?? | |
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Posted: 2/1/2006 10:54:38 PM | | Thank you AI03.. I do try hard. I have no tolerance for superficial and shallow people. If they look at me and think "hey, I don't like her she's just too big" then you know what... it is totally THEIR loss not mine. I like real people around me not the ones who like to be around people they think are not equal to them in some way. Ok.. I'm off my soapbox now.. of course I busted my FAT AZZ getting off of it!!! LOL | |
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Posted: 2/1/2006 11:07:30 PM | | mesna... dear friend... your personality rates a 10... I am going to have to get a new picture posted. Am 40 pounds lighter and my hair style is permed.. I look younger so I was told today. I think the weight of a person is extremely unimportant... What is important is how they treat me..... | |
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AI03™
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Joined: 5/3/2005
Msg: 61 | |
| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 2/1/2006 11:10:28 PM | | ^^^ Another "more than OK" person.... Ladypagey!!!!!!! Congrats on the weight loss!!! | |
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| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 2/1/2006 11:14:40 PM | Don't worry ladypagey... I know where you lost your weight.. on my back side I think!!!
I swear, everytime someone tells me they lose weight... it finds me... LOL
I'm happy for you in all honesty.. I think that is great. The only problem with changing your picture is you just look so much like an angel in the one you have on there now. With the new picture will your wings show more? I would like to see what your new "doo" looks like. Wow 40 pounds AND a new hair style.. Makes you feel like a new person doesn't it? Put your new pic on your profile so I can see it. I know it will be pretty. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2006 11:26:36 PM | | Yes I am loosing weight. And I cant wait to rub it into everyone's face who has ever said I was too big or blew me off once they had see a pic.. So any one who is in nova scotia and who wants to date a real girl get back to me.. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2006 11:30:16 PM | | thanks A103 and Mesna... you two super hero ladies are fantastic.Will add new pic when I can figure out cool cam...what is important is the beauty within that radiates outward not a person's weight. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2006 11:33:57 PM | | But but... angel ladypagey... meanwhile what am I supposed to do with all this weight you lost that found me????? whaaaaa..... | |
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Posted: 2/1/2006 11:41:24 PM | | oh princess mesna... e-mail it to the knight kr. he will know what to do... a super hero to the rescue. remember weight is not your inner beauty..... | |
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Posted: 2/1/2006 11:53:52 PM | I'm just joining in ... haven't read the entire post, but ...
I must say ... by what I have read ... I'm encouraged by the support we give one another.
I met a man on POF who listed himself as "athletic" in body type. And his pic did not reveal anything else.
When I actually met him ... he was 300+ lbs. He went to the gym every day ... so I guess that's why he considered himself athletic.
I am a few lbs. overweight ... but when I stated that in my profile ... I had very little responses. Very few men contacted me ... and very few responded to my contacts.
So ... after meeting Mr. 300+ (and a few others who were not QUITE what they advertised) I switched my description to "average" ... because ... really ... it is only a few extra lbs. (well ... 30 lbs.) I'm tall ... so I carry it well ... and many people tell me they don't think I'm overweight. I get plenty of excercise ... and I try to eat healthy (I'm on the road a lot with work so restaurant food is a hard challenge). Being in my 40's ... the weight is a little harder to lose ... but I'm always conscious of that.
Still ... I have never rejected anyone because of their weight. I dated Mr. 300+ for 8 weeks ... until I discovered his heart just wasn't in it. Mind you ... he too, was trying very hard to lose his weight as well.
It's not the packaging ... it's the inside that counts!  | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 12:02:01 AM | Auntie.. you are right, when you are honest on a profile then peopel don't appreciate it. I like you are about 30 maybe 40 pounds overweight but I'm short 5'2" so it shows more. Even though people call me a liar when I tell them what the scales say. I do have "a few pounds overweight" on my profile and I still get responses to it. When I talk to someone or they want to meet me.. I exagerate greatly... making me seem worst than what I am, that way they are always pleasantly surprised... LOL... Of course I tell them I'm like 200+ pounds and my hair has some bald spots where it's been falling out... I'm missing a front tooth you know.. stuff like that... then if they still want to meet me.. then... hey... maybe I'll seem like a princess to them!! LOL
My point is, I make sure not to blow smoke up someones butt... I do not toot my horn or try and make it out like I'm something I'm not. I'm athletic... I fish, ride horses, kayak and just about anything else outside. But if I said I was athletic, then they think I'm going to the gym everyday and working out and eating salads every day.. and THAT just ain't happening!! | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 12:13:21 AM | fickle is he, who goes with someone for the outward person. let me tell ya a little about me.
i'm about 100kg's which means i'm about 25 k's over weight. but that doesn't mean i sit around and do nothing all day, nor does it mean that i'm extremely obese either, i'll just say this, so listen carefully i shall say this only once (bad french accent, for those who remember 'allo allo' )
its never the outward person, it's more than that, its the personality. i dated a girl once she was slim trim, and quite beautiful. she had a couple of kids. but managed to maintain her figure. but she had a very poor self esteem and a very poor personality. she never knew how to show someone love, so not all slim janes are like this but it just reiterates my point that it doesnt' matter what you look like on the outside, it's what is in your heart that counts.
he who thinks he is with the perfect woman, because she's slim trim and sexy. he couldn't be further from the truth,
anyways just my take on it *gets off his soapbox and sits back down at the bar* | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 12:18:47 AM |
When I talk to someone or they want to meet me.. I exagerate greatly... making me seem worst than what I am, that way they are always pleasantly surprised... LOL...
Mesna ...thanks for the encouraging words ...
I, also, have never claimed to be a "beautiful bod" ... but recently ... one young man I had been chatting with (not ever having met him)... said in a recent chat ... "I bet you have a beautiful body". I froze ... I finally replied ..."be careful what you wish for ... don't set your hopes on that." I didn't want to lie to him ... but we were planning our first "meet'n greet" and I didn't want to discourage ... or encourage ... him. I wanted him to make up his own mind when he met me.
Turned out ... he was 1/2 hr. late for the date (I was on my way out the door when he showed up). He was backwardly shy and not at all what he had "chatted" himself up to be. He's very nice ... and I'm sure we can be friends ... but, I think ... in the end... he was more impressed with me than I was of him ... and I thought it would be the other way around. ... So I guess ... overall ... he was pleasantly surprised ... and I was pleasantly surprised that he was more surprised than I was. Make sense? | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 12:25:54 AM | | a person's weight is a minute portion of the total package.... beauty comes from within and radiates outward. I am 220 pounds now. Plan to with time to lose 80 more pounds but that is a long range goal and just taking it a day at a time. A person's personality and kindness and a caring heart attract me more. Total package... | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 12:32:44 AM | Yes Auntie... it makes total sense to me. It makes one feel good to know that the person you just met thinks well of you. And I know it sounds bad.. but for them to like you more than you like them on the first meeting... well.. ok so it helps our ego.. I'll admit it... at least I'm honest!!
I have met guys before and we ended up spending way more time on the date than I had anticipated, just talking and laughing having fun. I've walked away a couple of times thinking "ok, he was nice.. I like him.. but not enough to make much time for him" meanwhile he's like... "I'm very pleasently surprised, can we go out again.. can I call you" ok so my head swells up, I'm only human. | |
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marol
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Joined: 10/28/2005
Msg: 74 | |
| dating an overweight person?
Posted: 2/2/2006 12:47:19 AM | | in certain circumstances maybe some credit should go to the people who made mention to those overweight that they should be more attentive to losing weight, as it seems to be a incentive in some cases, but many mention losing the weight and then feel somewhat exhalted to diss those that may of had their best interest at heart in mentioning the positives of the prospect of them losing weight..thus the potential weight loser showing that "shallowness" resides with themselves also | |
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Posted: 2/2/2006 1:09:28 AM | @marol
Well if you mean one like this Azz hole did:
Slim and petite is what gets my attention. I'm grossed out by big girls because that is a masculine quality. You get swollen an disfigured being fat which is like have a disease. we are programmed to be repulsed by fat swollen people. lose that weight.
You can forget giving someone like THAT credit for anything!!! And from what I saw.. there was only person who wanted to diss a person.. others might have just agreed with them.
People are different, and not everyone can eat whatever they want and not gain weight. Some people don't realize they are gaining as badly as they are until it's BAM there. There are many many reasons for gaining weight, and for some of us it is an uphill battle 7/24/365 to try and lose it. I can understand a person has their own desires for certain type people and that is ok for them. But they shouldn't look down on people because they are heavier than they should be or not as physically attractive. The way I see it, whoever you are looking at and thinking they are ugly.... YOU could have been born them, and how would it make you feel if people treated you differently???
OUCH.. just fell off my dang soap box again... | |
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