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| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 12:35:35 AM | | Whats all the fuss about? Nice guy or not... maybe she's just not that into you!!! Not every girl has certain criteria or standards for which she measures you against. For some it is personal taste. Every guy is a nice guy... some to everyone... other to select people. But because your nice should I have to feel compelled to be attracted to you... ammused by you... intrigued by you... or excited that your saying hi? I think not. But you take the chance in case I am. And all this talk about girls making the rules about dating and holding some power. For me, I may meet men online because they say something that grabs and holds my attention, but for the man who grabs it without saying anything, the one I contact, is the one with the power. Its a two way street so stop talking like this is a peice of cake for a girl. We do the work too you know. And boo-hoo... I am a nice girl and single. But I don't need to ask the world why that is. | |
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| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 10:22:21 AM | Apparently Smiley9 has no problem dishing out criticism of men but as soon as a man criticizes women- WHOAAA BUDDY!!! You must have deep rooted psychological issues! 
Naw, couldn't be that women just have no idea what it's like (or know exactly but want to keep it this way) and therefore just tend to say "suck it up and deal! take it like a REAL MAN!"
As for comments re: women do a lot to show they're interested... yeah, I can't think of a single instance when I've ever seen a female make the first move, but I have no doubt that a few women... maybe as many as one in 50... have done it.
I swear, most of you women think that when a guys shows interest in you it's the first time he's done so in months. If you had to make the first move over and over and over again you'd feel differently too! | |
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| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 10:36:16 AM | Also as I prevously pointed out it's not so much a "nice guy" thing. I'm pretty sure most guys, at least in secret, think we have to work way to hard for what we get while for women, working at it at all is pretty much optional. And sorry, smiling, tossing your hair, (or some other ambiguous "signal") or doing your makeup before you go out really don't count as work...
You know what- if you girls were regularly coming right up and talking to and asking us guys for dates, and actually showing obvious outward signs of interest in guys other than "perfect 10s", I'd totally agree with you. But since 90% of men would never get a date if they didn't do the legwork, you (you meaning "women collectively") don't have much room to criticize. | |
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| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 10:46:06 AM | I keep hearing the, 'women don't like nice guys' whine. Well here's a reality check. Niceness on its own doesn't cut it. Are we to attach ourselves to the nearest nice guy just because he's nice? You need chemistry for a start. Unfortunately chemistry doesn't always distinguish between nice and not nice. Nice guys see this, feel aggrieved because they think their niceness should be enough on its own and the 'women don't like nice guys' myth is born...
But some of us are looking for nicenesss plus all the other things. I know it can be done as that's what I had with my ex. | |
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Le Roi
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Joined: 11/19/2005
Msg: 30 | |
| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 10:53:56 AM |
The nice guys r the ones that r married happily
Rose,
That's not true!! I'm a nice guy and I'm not married. Unfortunately you women have a different definition of what "nice" means.
My experience is when a girl says she wants a "nice" guy, she's really saying she wants a tall, dark, handsome well endowed type of guy.
My best guess is that 99 % of all profiles are not truthful (both male and female). Every girl I've been in contact with on this site have lied about one thing or another.
If a woman on this site truly wanted a "nice" guy or "kind hearted man" you can bet your boots that I would not be single! | |
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Le Roi
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Joined: 11/19/2005
Msg: 31 | |
| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 10:54:55 AM |
The nice guys r the ones that r married happily
Rose,
That's not true!! I'm a nice guy and I'm not married. Unfortunately you women have a different definition of what "nice" means.
My experience is when a girl says she wants a "nice" guy, she's really saying she wants a tall, dark, handsome well endowed type of guy.
My best guess is that 99 % of all profiles are not truthful (both male and female). Every girl I've been in contact with on this site have lied about one thing or another.
If a woman on this site truly wanted a "nice" guy or "kind hearted man" you can bet your boots that I would not be single! | |
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Le Roi
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Joined: 11/19/2005
Msg: 32 | |
| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 10:56:35 AM |
The nice guys r the ones that r married happily
Rose,
That's not true!! I'm a nice guy and I'm not married. Unfortunately you women have a different definition of what nice means.
My experience is when a girl says she wants a nice guy, she's really saying she wants a tall, dark, handsome well endowed type of guy.
My best guess is that 99 % of all profiles are not truthful (both male and female). Every girl I've been in contact with on this site have lied about one thing or another.
If a woman on this site truly wanted a nice guy or kind hearted man you can bet your boots that I would not be single! | |
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Le Roi
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Joined: 11/19/2005
Msg: 33 | |
| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 10:59:31 AM |
The nice guys r the ones that r married happily
I'm a nice guy and I'm not married. Unfortunately most women have a different definition of what "nice" means.
My experience is when a girl says she wants a "nice" guy, she's really saying she wants a looker.
My best guess is that 99 percent of all profiles are not truthful (both male and female).
If a woman on this site truly wanted a "nice" guy or "kind hearted man" you can bet your boots that I would not be single! | |
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Le Roi
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Joined: 11/19/2005
Msg: 34 | |
| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 11:01:18 AM |
The nice guys r the ones that r married happily
I'm a nice guy and I'm not married. Unfortunately most women have a different definition of what nice means.
My experience is when a girl says she wants a nice guy, she's really saying she wants a looker.
My best guess is that 99 percent of all profiles are not truthful.
If a woman on this site truly wanted a nice guy or kind hearted man you can bet your boots that I would not be single! | |
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Le Roi
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Joined: 11/19/2005
Msg: 35 | |
| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 11:02:32 AM |
The nice guys r the ones that r married happily
I'm a nice guy and I'm not married. Unfortunately most women have a different definition of what nice or kind hearted means.
My experience is when a girl says she wants a nice guy, she's really saying she wants a looker.
If a woman on this site truly wanted a nice guy or kind hearted man you can bet your boots that I would not be single! | |
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Le Roi
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Joined: 11/19/2005
Msg: 36 | |
| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 11:02:59 AM | I'm a nice guy and I'm not married. Unfortunately most women have a different definition of what nice or kind hearted means.
My experience is when a girl says she wants a nice guy, she's really saying she wants a looker.
If a woman on this site truly wanted a nice guy or kind hearted man you can bet your boots that I would not be single! | |
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Le Roi
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Joined: 11/19/2005
Msg: 37 | |
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Le Roi
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Joined: 11/19/2005
Msg: 38 | |
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| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 11:33:45 AM | Yes, nice plus "all the other things".... tall, dark, handsome, rich,****, funny, drives fast, has 3 tattos, build like Vin Diesel, a 10 on looks,
charming", never dsagrees with her, gives her whatever she wants, does something "cool" like fly planes or skydive, has social status so that when she is with him SHE gets social status too(!), etc. etc. etc.
Basically what they're saying is "I mean, c'mon guys! Why can't you just be good at and have everything a girl could want, taht way we'd actually like you and you wouldn't bore us!" | |
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Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 41 | |
| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 12:01:53 PM | RedViking, Your on the money. For myself, Yeah, Being burnt to a crisp makes you gun-shy. I came across something when I gave up alky (Stronger than me) The women who show attraction to a dude is usually someone Drunk,on the high end of his game and couldn't care less if he got lucky right then (He's drunk) Loud and friendly to all, big grins and an obvious 'easy-target' for women to take advantage of. I take advantage of being an extrovert by acting drunk and overly sociable,(no I ain't gonna score unless I change my mind). It presents a bevy of women who want to join the fun or find out what your so happy about. THE HOOK, Blattently ignore the one who comes on to you first by ignoring her publically, and Pointedly. There's your "challenge" to a woman you want ,and let her do the legwork. Not many women,if any, take well to being turned down buy an "easy-target" Its socially auckward for them (They are not used to"Denial",*Not by an "easy-target"~Period,/ Gee-men know it All too well) Now she has to find out what SHE'S doing wrong. And it keeps on until they get what (they THINK) they want, You. Yeah, When I get too cozy with a woman (treat her equal or above) I get dumped, When I act like I Tolerate her and might not, She's all over me trying to find out why not. Sad, But True. No I ain't rollin in women either, I don't LIKE acting the fool just to score. Thats something Shared not bought, Uumm goes for about $40 bucks in NY, but I'd rather pay "sister Palma" than start that. | |
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| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 12:06:56 PM | | I got more women hitting on me when they seen me with another girl..when i am by myself it is much more difficult to get women's attention...i don't know what that means...can any women elaborate on this phenomenom?. | |
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hans_n
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Joined: 11/22/2005
Msg: 44 | |
| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 12:28:09 PM | good advice,
but on the same hand, go back to your bad boys and get treated like shit
but ill try to just say, hey i like you...but that doesnt seem to work either,
i think you wanted to be treated like shit
but it just not in my nature....
so.....whatever....who knows.....im still alone so **** it..... | |
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| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 12:28:28 PM | fightersbreath
I don't know what you mean, but you seem to be alittle delusional or you're just not being as open as you can be.
Now I know there are some guys out there that pretend to be nice and then they have different motives and stuff, but clearly not all those guys are like that.
I think with all do respect this is ignorance on your part to get a firm understanding of how people function and I think that society has so perverted peoples views on one another that it's just stupid.
There are man nice guys being rejected over things they SHOULDN"T be rejected over and they DO WANT A COMMITMENT but they get played on and they get judged for no reason.
So I think with all do respect that you maybe look in the mirror and think why people are they way they are and understand how apathy and ignorance really screws things up. | |
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hans_n
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Joined: 11/22/2005
Msg: 47 | |
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| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 12:38:05 PM | | I agree with you 100% REDVIKING..I gave up years ago...Tired of all the games and lies....Women claim they want a nice guy,But when he comes in her life.She states she wants to be friends...Then you go along with that...Then about a month latter she is shacked up with Mr.Jerk(YOU know the type,Cannot hold down a job because he has 10 dui.s,ABUSER)You see she spends all her time trying to change him..She will not give a nice guy the time of day.....Meanwhile complaining she is in a abusive relationship to every TOM,DICK,and HARRY,But will worship the ground Mr.Jerk walks on.....Personally i gave up on it.I careless...I got better things to do with my time to live my life like a soap opera.(Drama) | |
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arktic
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Joined: 12/28/2004
Msg: 50 | |
| Will all the nice guys stop asking why we dont want them!
Posted: 11/28/2005 1:21:41 PM | This is the internet any one can build an elaborate profile showing how awesome they are. since this is ABSOLUTELY IMPOSSIBLE to prove, women must take risks and assess everything in your profile and make a choice to respond or not. Why do women have this choice more than men? 50/50 does not apply in the real world as far as initial attraction go where every one gets a shot. The absolute laws of nature do not change, men will always more aggressively pursue women and women will choose from the more, some exceptions. Look at your self and how many times you will quickly click on and click off of a profile if there is no physical attraction, it is the same for women as a rule and is the nature of it, even if the profile may rock. So if you think you lack in the looks department you have to utilize your other resources, this guarantees nothing, but you are here and it shows you are alive.
It amazes me the things we do and how strong our need to connect bond and breed really is. | |
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