| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/4/2009 6:54:05 PM | You have got to be kidding! Thank god dating wasn't always this way, or I wouldn't have children and grandchildren! I have contacted several men and what I get back, if anything is one liners. I have received a couple that state they are already talking with someone, and the honesty is refreshing. But come on... I could die alone here. I'm not photogenic, but I'm far from a dog, so what, I have to put boob shots on here? Be real, I'm not going there. I didn't think my profile was any different from anyone elses, but I got nothin'. I'm not good at putting myself out there, burnt too many times. I like guy things, have always been a tomboy in dresses, but do I get any responses for fishing dates or just to talk, no.
The men online say they want a woman with my interests but their lying. Its just a larger forum for them to try to get laid. So don't go on with your bad self and act like all women are gold digging biotches, and men are victimized, because its not true. I think people are anal retentive online and if they don't read exactly what they want on your profile, your screwed. Or maybe they are afraid I'll show them up by catching the biggest fish! LOL I thought going into this online dating deal that people would talk to each other just for fun and hope to make a connection, but somewhere people have lost their faith in the fact that there are real people out here, with the same goals and ambitions as them. Its amazing the judgments that can be made on these short profiles. Whatever the case, the end result is the same, we're still looking. Good luck to all | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/5/2009 12:42:33 AM | Oh man... just last week my cousin went on this wonderful date with a chick... wait wrong story.
I've just been rejected 40 times since last week... whatever will I do? 
I think internet dating is probably more or less dangerous for women... sex fiends DO exist out there, and they can turn into violent murderers...
Men... yeah we have our terrible moments... but we're supposed to be all "tough" and whatnot... so no one pays much attention.
Chick above me-- that sucks. It's men like that that should lay down and die... they make us look bad as a whole.
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/5/2009 10:48:24 AM |
Judy Tanuda says "have you ever found your self dating because you were too lazy to commite suicide?"
I love Judy Tanuda....Resigned to the hopeful hopelessness of internet dating. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/5/2009 3:18:22 PM | OP,
remember it is said that 65 to 70% of the people on here are in a relationship. It is a good way for the women to feel wanted. That is what women need and crave. Just go to the bar and watch how the women act. They need attention and when a guy emails them and say you are HOT that makes them feel better. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/5/2009 4:44:41 PM |
plentyoffish10978 : Plenty of fish = plenty of rotten fishes.
Bitterness gets you what you have coming to you.
Which is basically nothing.
BTW it's "weight" not "weigh"
You can thank me later. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/12/2009 8:09:24 AM | | The guy that wants to take you off site immediately is a scammer from Ghana, Nigeria, Russia doesn't matter, they only want your moner. They might not even be a guy as the use models pics, pornstar pics whatever. YOU will never know who you are talking to. Joe | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/12/2009 9:18:54 AM | I do feel sorry for men sometimes and try to make up for it by paying by 1/2 of a date for beers or offering a date where it does not cost where we are both interested--e.g. hike in the park if we both like that kinda thing. That is if I can see he is as "poor" as me. A lot of times men look forward to going out as much as we do too. They like to go to the bar and have a beer now and then too. Sometimes they want to go the extra route and have food and even show up with flowers. Those are the men who know what women like!!
I think you have to narrow your dates down into the ones you feel are good matches for YOU first then ask the right ones out for you. I have a great deal of people disappear on me and decide they are just gonna dump me or are not really dates at all just "chat" buddies on there for me to entertain them for a night which is always a disappointment to those of us who are seriously looking. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/13/2009 11:56:20 AM | | That is so true! I would much rather be an average looking guy than an average looking woman on these sites. Especially over 40! Some of these guys need to man up and stop whining. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/13/2009 7:57:42 PM | | There is a lot of behavior online that I don't understand. Initial very positive replies followed up by static. Agreeing to meet only to cancel at the last minute for some inane reason. Now I don't mean to imply only women do this, but of course I only contact women. All I can say is I think there are a lot of nice people on the site and it's a numbers game. Fifteen emails is not very much. I've been on almost a year and sent out hundreds. I've met a few nice women whom I've dated for a while, but it didn't work out for various reasons. Just hang in there, you'll will be pleasantly surprised sooner or later. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 10:20:55 AM | Attitude is everything.
I'm average looking, a little overweight and don't have lots of $$$. Have no problems meeting women on this site..usually more than I can talk to at one time (sorry gals).
Be charming & funny, have a positive attitude ...esp on your profile. Have a life. Pickup some grooming tips. Learn to take pictures...keep your shirt on, avoid pics of yourself in bars with other women and most importantly LOOK LIKE YOUR PICS.
I think the real reason some of you guys are whining about this is because you are not getting laid. Yes it's super easy for women to find sex partner..get over it. Again have a positive attitude and the chemistry will develop with the right person. | |
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LBA26
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Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 2590 | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 9/12/2009 4:44:27 AM | i dont feel i have difficulty getting responses on here... im not the best looking guy in the world i know.. but i make an effort and try to send a message that will at least instigate a conversation - i also avoid anyone who blatantly loves themselves far more than anyone else ever could..
i think some of the old-fashioned protocols appear on here too though - things like its the guy who has to do the messaging/arranging etc.. so it will always be easier for women. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 9/12/2009 6:28:05 AM |
The guy that wants to take you off site immediately is a scammer from Ghana, Nigeria, Russia doesn't matter, they only want your moner.
Not necessarily, I mean I'd figure the whole purpose of this site is to meet people, so why would you want to drag it out with endless emails back and forth?
Now if the person asks for money immediately, then I can agree that they are a scammer from abroad looking to prey on some unsuspecting victim. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 9/12/2009 6:58:07 AM | i have to agree... the quicker you actually meet in the real world the better for me..
hasnt anyone else noticed that this place makes first dates harder because you've already done most of the finding out about eachother talking that people used to do on a first date?? | |
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mtw24
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Joined: 7/28/2009
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 9/14/2009 7:30:54 AM | Yes it does suck for guys and women find it easy. I have been on so many site that think what the point. I have set limit on distance of about 35 mile from were i live email people in that area all i get read/delete on he and on Match not interested. On different site i found that people email me they live 35 to 100+ mile way. Which not great.
for Men we have very small list of thing we look for women. online and bar/clubs etc
for Women they have list which is very long. They should think about cutting the list down a bit because may end up being single for very long time and cutting chance of meeting a nice guy. FOR ONLINE DATING THAT IS. BUT NOT SO MUCH IN BARS/CLUBS etc.
As their are more men and women which you ask out and have better chance finding someone. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 9/14/2009 12:44:30 PM | I saw a profile of a woman that lives in my area and all she had written up was "Just ask" repeated over and over ad nauseum.
At a guess, she probably got a whole inbox filled with emails and if a guy did it, he may as well close down shop because that's essentially online dating suicide because no woman would even give him a second look, or a first one for that matter.
It's probably best to use this as another outlet for meeting people, just don't rely too much upon it or you'll be discouraged rather quickly with the lack of responses/flaky people. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 10/5/2009 9:13:58 PM | Bah. I don't know about women not responding to emails.
Since I've registered less than a week ago, I have sent 3 emails and 1 lady replied on the 3rd one saying my profile really caught her attention and she would like more pics of me. She's pretty damn hot as well.
So far so good I guess. Hope yall luck turns for the better. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:45:58 AM | | I just wanted to post in this epic thread! I think it is due to the fact of the medium more than anything. The internet is painless and quick, real life requires relationships be built. Think of most of your friends, how did you meet them? Generally school, work, or other places were you basically spent tons of time together regardless if you wanted to or not. Just think if this site was PlentyofFriends.com it'd suffer similar problems. People need to invest in each other more. Think of all the time you spend browsing profiles, e-mailing back and forth, reading forums, and whatever else, that time would be better spent going on one date. Give people a chance, until you meet them you really don't know that much. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 11/22/2009 3:24:21 PM | I'm sorry but "you get lucky once in a blue moon"? Really?????????
If so, then your chances of getting lucky are better in real life. Trust me, that is a fact.
Body language speaks way louder than words, and that is a fact.
This site is all about judging people's looks. Since its free, no one takes it seriously (except for the good-looking females with multiple issues, and the 22 year old girls with 2-3 children). Seriously, this has to be the worst thing online. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 11/22/2009 3:27:34 PM | | If I were you, I'd spend my time looking for women outside. You're simply too good for the ones on this site. And ya call be judgmental but we're only on this Earth for another 50 years so what is the point of spending them in front of a PC, "hoping" that something might happen. Paranoid Androids are we?? | |
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