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| | Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women. Page 118 of 126 (86, 87, 88, 89, 90, 91, 92, 93, 94, 95, 96, 97, 98, 99, 100, 101, 102, 103, 104, 105, 106, 107, 108, 109, 110, 111, 112, 113, 114, 115, 116, 117, 118, 119, 120, 121, 122, 123, 124, 125, 126) | Dating can suck PERIOD. That's just the nature of it. Think about it. You have to allow yourself to let someone into your "space" that most likely is going to be a disappointment. EVERYONE can be considered to be somewhere between insatiable and desperate at any given time in regards to finding a companion. The stage you are in is dependent upon whenever your last enjoyable in-person relationship occurred. If it has been long enough, you will try anything.
Let's face it. Why do people do sites like POF when they can just go to a bar at happy hour, or a concert, a museum, a karaoke event, shoot....even a frickin' dog park!!! Most likely because they want to screen for just the right person and reduce the probability of getting involved with what turns out to be another one of those crazy azz *insert favorite adjective here.
No matter what you do, it's a frickin' gamble. Just keep it in perspective and try to have fun with it. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2012 1:00:04 AM | | I dont know. I am FRUSTRATED. Have tried my very very best to treat a man I dated nicely. His head was only on sex. Nothing wrong with making love when you are in love. But all I got is: I want sex. I want sex. And he WHINES like a child if he doesn't ALWAYS get his wants.. Help me. I am ready to quit altogether. Please ANY suggestions. Or just have I only met boy/men with no maturity or respect! | |
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Posted: 1/17/2012 4:51:03 PM | So far the original subject line is true. I could date a new guy every night if I really wanted to. I got over 100 emails in the first hour I made my profile. Now they have tapered off to around 40-50 a day. I really didn't expect this much attention when I made my profile on here.
A guy friend of mine who used to be on here warned me about it though. He said he rarely got any first contact emails. Like one a month, which I couldn't believe because he's a great looking guy, nice job, responsible. The only downside to him would be his height I guess. He said the reason he didn't get many replies was because he's not 6'0 and I kinda agree with him. Women want tall guys. We'll even take a loser guy that's tall over a shorter guy that's got his shit together. It's not right but that's how it is.
He also said there are a lot of women on here that are addicted to the attention they receive on here and many women often end up being serial daters. Again I do agree with this. Lots of my girlfriends are serial daters and don't take anything seriously. Most often use guys to just get stuff free. Which I can't blame them I guess. Men are so willing to kiss butt in hopes to getting some.
Anyway my verdict. Internet dating is great for women. Sucks if you're a short guy. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2012 6:47:09 PM | | Since I cannot speak for the guys, maybe you girls can confirm this for me. Internet dating is very misleading. What the guy puts into his profile is some kind of fantasy. It's never a good indicator of who he is. Nice flowing language, making him seem like the prize of the world, hard-working when he doesn't have a full-time job, family-oriented but only when his Mom invites family over to her house, where he just happens to live. Caring? Usually about himself. It is sooo discouraging for someone like me who gives everyone a chance and finds a similar thread with all my dates. Where's the good guys who really want a relationship and know how to be responsible in one?????? Go ahead guys, rip this to shreds......lol | |
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Posted: 1/24/2012 6:19:30 PM | | I'm with you Eborys. My experience with online dating sites SUCK! I send out messages and if I'm lucky they'll get read before being deleted, but not very often. I'm fed up with the crap to be honest with you. I'm a decent looking, funny guy with a full set of teeth, a good job, and I keep myself clean. WTF? Honestly its really giving me an attitude. UGH!!! nuff said... | |
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Posted: 1/26/2012 3:34:58 PM | For women its like being a kid in the candy store with a pocket full of cash and no parent in sight to put a reign on them. So most women can gorge themselves each and every day without any recourse or conscience because the candy store is always full of suckers!  Yep, it sucks for men big time there is no doubt about that! | |
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Posted: 1/26/2012 4:56:15 PM | It sucks for the "Grandpas" because they email women in their twenties and thirties and seriously expect a response back. It sucks for young women because they get hundreds of foolish emails and very few that are quality or age-appropriate. It sucks for the women over thirty five because men their age are busily sending silly useless emails to very young women, and ignore emails from women who are their own age or even (gasp!) a year or two older.
If men would accept the (demographic, social, physical) reality that they need to date women their own age, internet dating would suck much less for everyone.  | |
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Posted: 1/26/2012 8:21:58 PM | | Wow, seriously? If a woman is looking for sex, then yes, it's easy to find guys. I can't count how many times I've initiated contact and gotten no response, but it's certainly more than 15. And then you can add the guys who have communicated with me but never seem to actually want to meet. I've read quite a few guy's profiles that say things like, "I only date women with long hair," or "you must be at least an 8 on a scale of 1–10" (and that guy was probably about a 5). And what's with the statement, "Even for a good looking, educated white guy like me, internet dating is a very humbling experience"? Does being white mean women should be falling over themselves to date you? Wow. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2012 2:49:28 PM | | Sucks for women too, especially women who want more than sex! I have some losers that think that if a woman has a good job she can probably make a good "sugar mama"..Not happening with me..I think we all have flaws and have different idea's on this. Just because a woman has a few extra pounds doesnt make her any less sexy than those stick chicks! Being sexy to me is feeling good about your self and knowing what you want and how to get it..Guys we dont have to be a size 2 to be a great woman...Just saying! I am a lot smaller than I was a few years ago and am proud to show it.. Expand your search and you just might find a great woman!!! | |
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Posted: 2/15/2012 2:23:02 AM | On the other hand, (some )women( like myself ) receive very sexual vulgar messages from men and it makes me feel so bad about myself .... it's a humbling experience for me too. Trust me the picture I post is proper and not sexual. Sometimes I feel like guys are really like animals....
I also get comments like men asking whether my picture is real( seriously?) or not believing my profession, so annoying.
As for me its pretty much the same in every day life, guys approach me but they always have the wrong idea. Writing flat out the criteria on the profile doesn't seem to help on POF since guys message you WITHOUT reading your profile. They just message you after seeing your pictures.
Oh well...
It's kinda hard for all of us, isn't it?
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Posted: 2/15/2012 3:33:19 AM |
I also get comments like men asking whether my picture is real( seriously?) or not believing my profession, so annoying.
Well, not many people encounter a PhD holder that's still in their 20's....at least not on dating sites. Congrats on such an accomplishment. Smart and beautiful all in one ;-) | |
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Posted: 2/15/2012 4:11:27 AM | Im a gay guy who just turned 40, so imagine how difficut that is, to just even find someone willing to meet or chat. I have no expectations of finding a BF here, I just tell myself im lookin for friends, that way if something should develop, then great! And if not, thats fine too. Str8 ppl have much much more to choose from simply cause there are more str8 ppl, There is such a small gay population. So I used to date str8 men, but i found that turned out to be a heartache every time, so now, im gonna find someone who is totally gay and is ok with it. Gay guys are shallow too, when i was 20, i had lots of propositions from guys. Now, Im 40 and its like im all washed up! So wether your gay, str8, or in between, i think online dating is definately difficult for all groups in some way or another. Wish you all the best of luck! We all deserve to be loved! | |
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Posted: 2/15/2012 12:40:09 PM |
Let's face it. Why do people do sites like POF when they can just go to a bar at happy hour, or a concert, a museum, a karaoke event, shoot....even a frickin' dog park!!! Most likely because they want to screen for just the right person and reduce the probability of getting involved with what turns out to be another one of those crazy azz *insert favorite adjective here.
Well it depends on where you live, my small city doesn't have the activities and places like other bigger cities. No dog parks, yeah bars, but that isn't the easies place, girls surrounded by guy friends, or boyfriends, who knows..having their guard up, etc. So sometimes its not so easy meeting girls, not to mention the stores are like a ghost town. Hardly see girls in their 20s at grocery stores, or at all malls, if there is they are with a guy or highschoolers. Or if at retail they apparently are more interested in shopping.. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2012 12:55:10 PM | POF Bin Berry Berry Guud 2 mi
lots of dates, lots of exciting women, almost fell for one!
lots of disappointments too but that's what makes it interesting.
there would be no light without darkness. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2012 11:23:17 PM | Online dating just magnifies the importance of appearance. Most people only care about looks, both men and women. Women on dating sites want tall pretty boys and men want voluptuous knockouts. Obviously there are exceptions but for those of us who aren't pretty boys or swimsuit model women, we're left in the dark.
I think online dating both destroys self confidence and over-inflates egos. People who are attractive become egotistical snobs because of all the attention they get and those who don't get attention can lose a lot of self esteem.
I've heard of and personally known some success stories but i think online dating does indeed suck overall. It creates unrealistic standards b/c people can literally "order" a date, complete with stats and preferences. It's a meat market, choose the best cuts. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2012 12:49:28 AM | Online dating is a SKILL that can be acquired, IMO.
The ONLY thing a woman has to go on is your pictures, and some TEXT. THAT'S IT. It's extremely hard to get a feel for who someone is just by reading what they say. Guys need to learn the SKILL of making a funny/interesting profile, and that is done through trial and error. Make a profile. If you aren't getting any responses, go back and tweak it until you get the success you want.
And for woman, they seriously need to search through a whole CRAP LOAD of stones to find a gem. There are so many people on here that turned to online dating because they are too shy/insecure/self conscious to meet a girl in person, and you can find these people from their profiles, usually. Women have to go through a million of the same profiles before they might find an interesting guy that she thinks is worth her time.
Women don't have it any better than men as far as this site is concerned. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2012 9:56:19 AM | I can't condone outright fraud.
But I will say that essentially you are correct; women on these dating sites are very spoiled.
The attractive women get far more attention here than in real life, and it inflates their egos. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2012 9:52:53 PM | | Okay, second try. I will post this in segments. In answer to the OP, it can be bad for women, too. No, not joking. Some ladies here are not supermodel or cheerleader types. You work with what you have. 100 messages is maybe the whole of a year or two. not a day. But you do go out and give it your best shot. If you're lucky you'll find a person to date and possibly marry. If not, you just keep trying. But yeah, you do get the ones who just talk and never get past that. Does it stink? Yes, especially it you meet one or more you'd like to date and there's one roadblock or another. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2012 4:31:26 AM |
There are so many people on here that turned to online dating because they are too shy/insecure/self conscious to meet a girl in person, and you can find these people from their profiles, usually. Women have to go through a million of the same profiles before they might find an interesting guy that she thinks is worth her time. '
So shyness should be a criterion for not dating a man? There's plenty of shy men out there who are "gems", but these men are just invisible to women. Instead women go for the backslapping extroverted types who aren't afraid to approach and often find out these men are the insecure asses they complain so much about. Women are so judgmental, fickle, and picky both online and offline, that's it's understandable why some men have just given up. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2012 5:11:36 AM | Internet dating is not hard if you go after the women who want you. Therefore look at the women who have viewed you then zero in on them.
If like a lot guys seem to do on here, that is, just carpet bomb as many women as possible and throw missiles all over the place, yeah sure, one will hit the target but there will be a lot of wasted ammunition in the process
I have found internet dating a very easy way to meet women. Why ? Because I go after the women who want me or who could be interested in me.
Now let’s get racial.
White men generally have more dating options than other races of men, if you’re a white male and your struggling online as well as offline then you must have weak game. But to all men in general if you are finding your diary empty.
1) Work on your game and your profile.
2) Go for women who want what you have to offer (Viewed you)
3) Get some good photo’s,- Photo’s were your doing something…skiing, running, something sporty. Ditch them photo’s taken in your house or bedroom.
4) Cut the chit chat. Get her number. Keep phone convo to 10 mins max and meet up for a drink as soon as poss. Women aren’t as worried about danger as you’d think. They want to meet.
5) NEVER moan about your lack of success with women. This sends a sub conscious message to her brain “He can’t be all that if other women don’t want him”
After all that if she does reject you then don’t moan, be angry, stalk her or try and change her mind. Just say “Ok. No problem. It was good date but I hope you find what you are looking for* and say it like you MEAN IT. That way you will separate yourself from all the other loser guys who get angry, insult her and try to get her to change her mind.
Plus acting like the gent will make her doubt whether she made the right choice in rejecting you. You want to make the women think that she is not powerful enough to affect your reality. So quit the moaning. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2012 6:07:29 AM |
"1) Work on your game and your profile. "
Vague.
"2) Go for women who want what you have to offer (Viewed you)"
If a woman views your profile and doesn't contact you, it means she doesn't like what she sees.
3) Get some good photo’s,- Photo’s were your doing something…skiing, running, something sporty. Ditch them photo’s taken in your house or bedroom.
Not all of us play sports.
"4) Cut the chit chat. Get her number. Keep phone convo to 10 mins max and meet up for a drink as soon as poss. Women aren’t as worried about danger as you’d think. They want to meet."
Easier said than done.
"5) NEVER moan about your lack of success with women. This sends a sub conscious message to her brain “He can’t be all that if other women don’t want him”"
Of course moaning isn't going to help. Moaning to a bunch of strangers doesn't help, either, except to relieve frustration.
"Plus acting like the gent will make her doubt whether she made the right choice in rejecting you."
Rarely does a woman change her mind after rejecting a man. | |
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I'm sorry some of it is mostly true but wait aren't men like this too? 
