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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/23/2007 2:41:05 AM | You did say you're "confused", then you use the term, `contradictory', then you rant.......???????
I respect all opinions, negative or otherwise, but I'm sorry, as for this, lol....... No merit. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/23/2007 8:43:48 PM | | Well Ive been on this site for about 2 years, so I can safety say in two years Ive had at least 100 emails lol. Now if I got that a day I wouldnt be here at the computer lol. Then you count all the other "social" sites Im on. I only answer emails if they are interesting, not some copied and pasted paragraph they send everything, they have a picture that is some what decent. Some people have mentioned maybe your writing the wrong kind of girl, what type are you trying to get? | |
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Posted: 5/23/2007 11:30:52 PM | NO NO NO NO NO
1 i dont feel i am a bad lookin lady.. sure i am older note i DID NOT say old because im not..
2 i am very honest in my profile and say exactly what and who i am lookin for..
3 my mailbox on pof gets rare mail but yes i have also gotten a nasty hateful one or 2 but i click spam or turn it in..
4 i dont give up... i keep tryin.. Sweet N Louisiana  | |
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Posted: 5/23/2007 11:52:42 PM | | I haven't read every reply of this thread, but I just thought I'd put in my two cents and say that internet dating has totally sucked for me so far. Actually, I found out that the last guy I dated was sneaking around behind my back with two slutty girls he met off the internet, so I know he's not having any problems with it. I guess you can't really generalize like you have, saying that it's great for all women and sucks for all guys. My experience has been the total opposite. The internet, unfortunately, has made it possible for guys to be even bigger players than ever before, whereas most women I'd say are still just trying to find a relationship and that is pretty impossible online it seems. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2007 5:52:19 AM | "I haven't read every reply of this thread, but I just thought I'd put in my two cents and say that internet dating has totally sucked for me so far."
I feel better that even the pretty women are having problems with internet dating! | |
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Posted: 5/24/2007 10:19:20 AM | Ultimately, I don't think it really matters who has the "advantage" with internet dating. Just that the real, good people don't seem to be making connections. And what is making this worse is that all the crap in between is only making it harder for it to happen.
As to the being a guy (and I happen to think one of the good ones) on these sites and being on them for quite a long time; it does become disheartening for the normal guy who really is just trying to find someone good to be with to never get any replies to emails, even of the reply was a negative one and that a lot of times my profile wasn't even looked at by the woman. For me even a negative reaction is better then no reaction. Also, I don't know if other guys have this problem, but for me (I'm not trying for attention here) the fact my profile doesn't get a lot of traffic (I know some of it is my settings and the area I'm in) just adds to the frustration. Again, I know women have their own issues with dating sites. It just becomes this whole circular thing as while some guys who don't get responses might just disappear from the sites, there are others who might think that changing tactics might work (spamming or sending sexual messages, etc.), so (just a thought) maybe women might be creating some of the stuff they hate. Ok, now I'm rambling abit...
Anyway, I honestly don't know what needs to be done to fix the problem, but the fix needs to be put through for the three parties involved; men, women and the sites they are visiting. People seem to let the sites off the hook for certain actions (not being specific just to PoF here, actually from what I've seen they've been pretty good), but the whole internet dating site thing (free or paid) needs to look into themselves and see whether they truly are for daters or not. I know I'm probably dreaming, but one can dream.
Maybe, just maybe, if we can get past the blame game and get past the problems inherent in these sites, maybe we can get to the relationships we all want. I know probably dreaming again...
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EC22
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Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 385 | |
| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/24/2007 1:20:14 PM | LMAO ... the biggest crock of sh*t I've heard on here.
The guys have their pick of all the women ... most of which are just looking for a sincere, honest, monogamous man. The men decide by breast and waist size who they will meet up with AND ... if you don't agree to climb in bed with them within a half hour of meeting them ... they're outta there!!!!!!
I'd like to know how it is that such a situation "sucks" for guys and is "good" for women.
Men on POF outnumber women by 2 to 1 or 3 to 1 ratio in many areas. That fact alone disproves what you are saying. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2007 2:14:17 PM | The guys have their pick of all the women ... most of which are just looking for a sincere, honest, monogamous man. The men decide by breast and waist size who they will meet up with AND ... if you don't agree to climb in bed with them within a half hour of meeting them ... they're outta there!!!!!!
I'd like to know how it is that such a situation "sucks" for guys and is "good" for women.
You are 58 and live in Florida.
At the age ... the ratio of men to women on POF is getting close to 1:1.
Also i would think older married couples from other parts of USA move to Florida when they retire so this increases the number of men who are unavailable.
In real life for 60+ years old ... the ratio of men to women is about 1:1.
In canada most single women are over 65 and they outnumber women from 18-64.
For younger people .. the ratio of men to women ranges from 1.5 to 3 depending on locati0n ...
The highest ratios of men to women are for 18-25 year group. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2007 2:51:48 PM | It amazes me how many people are on here looking. Did anyone ever really check it out? Now something really is wrong if there are this many hopefuls just waiting for that lottery. I'm telling you all, it is the changing of the times. People are always looking for better so here we sit by the millions. Fast forward 20 years and there will be more lonely, old people than ever before.
Everybody here isn't going to suddenly hook up just in time. Time will creep and the sun will set. Technology and over connectivity are wiping us out. What a sad era. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2007 7:30:57 AM | jewel re: " I probably should look on the bbw websites where women who are larger are worshiped."
I've been on 3 different bbw sites, the men there that I dealt with, 100% only wanted sex and they want you to buy sexy lingerie too. Not a single one interested in a relationship. At least here, you can chat with folks you have similar interests with, and joke around. I may even just turn off my profile and lurk in the forums! LOL LOL | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/25/2007 9:12:17 AM | (((((The other day I was sitting by the bus station. I saw a male pigeon chasing a female pigeon. Other male pigeons tried to get in the way and steal his girl. But no, he was a determined pigeon. The female pigeon was squawking for him to get away, but he wouldn't, he just kept running after her in his pigeon run. Finally, he snatched her with his beek and tackled her. Immediately he proceeded to mate with her.))))) Oh yeah that is the real model of how men should behave towards women. Oh jeeze what is wrong with some folks out there.
Yes by all mean physically chase women down , hold them down and forcibly mate with them .omg what a fool. They are animals fool. They don't have much intelligence and we do .Well most of us are supposed to anyway. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2007 9:41:41 AM | Op,
I think they were rude to not say something back to you. Manners seem easy to toss away online. I do think most people like to see' who they are talking too,an idea, so makes not much sense to not have a picture of oneself on the profile or in the mail sent.
For, we are going to ask for one anyway...to see who we are talking too.......that is human.
They should have at least said something back to you to not be rude. If they are on many favs lists , the mail can be high volume and take a bit to reply, but even a short note of thanks ,tell me more about you , I am not interested at this time, we seem to be not a good profile fit , or etc.......or just anything....would have been the more polite way to handle your mail.
Even if not on many fav lists, the mail can be high volume.......and take some time......but you should have had something said to you at some point.
I have not read your profile, so I can't say anything there.
Also, keep trying, put a picture out there so people can see who is talking to them, and hope for the less shallow , egotistical people,,,,,as there are just as many males guilty of that syndrome. It has to improve, this is the www.
Good luck to ya!
Gren.......Now, I will dance like a :
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Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 393 | |
| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/25/2007 10:36:37 AM | Depends on how you look at it... a different POV:
good for men:
* they can shop
and not feel bad about walking right past the ones they're not interested in
* they can find stuff out that sometimes takes a while in person
like... children? spouse? smoker?
* they can suggest dates on their own terms
rest assured the next time they're at that coffee shop, there will be at least one lady there interested in meeting them - and that's why she's there
* they can sell themself
just put an ad up, and have the women come to you
you may not get the time of day in a dark bar, but here you have a captive audience - she will get your message
you have better odds that she'll find out more about you than just your looks too
sucks for women:
* sometimes it feels like we're on a porn site, and can't escape
even with blockers. i appreciate the enthusiasm and creative writers, but that's what my romance novels are for
* picture books in kindergarten
there is a word requirement - in profiles - and I also ask for in emails
* super impatient or painfully insecure
sorry I don't live online. I will get your message. I will!
yes I read the message. I have not yet responded. Don't freak out yet! It's not deleted
the guy doesn't believe I'm interested in him. I initiated the contact!?!
or they never want to meet. We're in a public place, and I'm probably half your size. Animals and babies love me!
* the lies
they're married. they're looking for no strings attached. they're looking for an arrangement. their photos are 15 years younger than they. they never intended to meet anyone
* the looks - but no bites
shy? cat got your tongue?
if you saw me at the grocery store, would you say something to me? or keep as quiet as you are here? | |
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Posted: 5/25/2007 11:22:42 AM | | My emails are sweet & sincere and I rate myself about a seven. Yet I hardly ever get any replies. If only these women knew what they were missing out on! So ladies, if you just look a little deeper, you'll find that there are many diamonds in the rough. A lot of us men are worth a closer look. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2007 11:25:59 AM | I would say internet dating sucks for guy especially if they are not what the majority of women consider attractive.
If you are what women consider attractive you will do alot better simply put. Because people are looking for the highest of what they can get
Personality is second Looks are first before anyone can argue watch how people pick thier choices to look at the profile
1) If they are attracted 2) the rest of the profile.
Looks are the number one on dating sites and since the women are out numbered they can pick and choose whom they want to date. it simple
From a womens perspective yes alot of guys if you are hot will want to just have sex with you that would be why you are hot in the first place its called evolution
Better looking people will always get more contacts because of evolution they are more optimally designed to attract the opposite sex. Uglier people will generally be the better people because they will have to be a person that others will want for long term | |
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Posted: 5/25/2007 11:37:02 AM | PHK,
sucks for women:
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* the looks - but no bites
shy? cat got your tongue?
if you saw me at the grocery store, would you say something to me? or keep as quiet as you are here?
I don't see a problem here. Maybe they *are* shy. Maybe they need time to compose an opening email. If you are interested, you should step up to the plate and send your own opening message! | |
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Posted: 5/25/2007 12:10:56 PM | I think Ebory is right in that for initial contact, women have it easier, simply because of the dogma that the man must start the process. Now, don't get me wrong, I e-mail fellas all the time, but often don't receive any reply. Fine, no worries, I keep looking.
I have noticed however, that if I start the contact, the guy is just not as keen as if he started it. Maybe guys do not like to be chased? But really, internet dating is disappointing, and I think F. Scott Fitzgerald told us why a long time ago:
"Daisy tumbled short of his dreams, not through her own fault, but because of the colossal vitality of his illusion... No amount of fire or freshness can challenge what a man will store up in his ghostly heart. " F. Scott Fitzgerald, the Great Gatsby | |
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PHK
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Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 400 | |
| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/25/2007 12:40:44 PM | I don't see a problem here. Maybe they *are* shy. Maybe they need time to compose an opening email. If you are interested, you should step up to the plate and send your own opening message! I've done this a few times but as the previous poster mentioned, the communication tends to continue with timidness
To each their own, but I prefer someone more expressive (and aggressive?) about their passion... that applies to more than just sending a simple email
Confidence is sexy | |
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