| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 2/4/2008 11:35:27 PM | people are always blaming other people, if its not working.
If its not working you're doing something wrong.
now it might be that 90% of guys are complete idiots and 90% of women have unreasonable expectations and get the wrong idea about stuff
Gotta figure out to detect/appeal to the 10%
guys dont know how to appeal to women and women dont know how to distinguish good from bad. | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 2/5/2008 6:18:47 AM | I don't think a woman asks too much,
to want to see a guys face before she sees pictures of anything else..
on the other hand,,maybe we should examine a little closer this way of thinking. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 2/5/2008 10:28:09 AM | It's so funny cause this tread was started like 3 years ago and just never went away and after changing subject off and on a a few arguments included that were completely off subject, it's staying strong. I have to say that this is one of my fav treads to watch.
But let me get in my 2 cents again while were at it.
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Women do have it easy on this site cause guys are totally looking for eye candy.(sad fact)
Hell just get some half naked photos of you on your profile and you'll get a reply.
It's not our fault. Ladies it's how we were made.
It seems to be hard for men just to look past the physical boundries and get to
know the person that their emailing. Basically what I'm saying is if you want a
hotty then just go to a bar and find a drunk one. But if you want someone you can
stand to be around for more than 5 seconds read into who they are.
Most of the beauties have the personality of a piece of wood.
This goes for women also. If you want a guy to like you for who you are step
away from the lingerie photos and go for the regular shots.
2)
If you are a guy and are looking for someone to date on this site.
Don't, and I can't stress this enough, send them emails with "hey baby", "yer so hot",
or the infamous "I think I love you". You are a moron.
Basically if you arn't getting a reply back as a guythen your messing up.
I'm just saying don't talk to sober women like they're drunk.
If that's the only way you know how to pick up girls then your just
an idiot.
 out and I hope everyone finds the one their looking for | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 2/5/2008 1:29:56 PM | | tipicalcanada: So you think that it's men that can't get past the physical? News flash. Women are just as superficial as men. I've had meetings from online work out great then after a date or three been told I have the wrong type of hair, eyes, income etc. This is after getting along really good with the person by the way. The best one was after a week and a half of going out, the woman started squeezing my arm like I was being inspected. She said that my arm didn't seem like it was a certain measurement (can't remember the exact number but I think I was only off by an inch or two) and that she couldn't date someone with arms under this certain measurement. She seemed to have zero personality so it didn't really bother me but these experiences have proven to me that women are at least as superficial as men. So you'll understand if it makes me really angry to hear you say that it's a fact that men can't get past the physical. It's a tired stereotype that I'm getting really sick of hearing because it isn't true. An equal amount of these people exist in BOTH sexes. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 2/5/2008 3:40:55 PM | I have to agree,
Some people really look at the depth of a person,
and some just want what they have fantasized,
which will lead them only to disappointment,
some fantaies are meant to be just that..
a fantasy.
I think that is why marriages fail as well,
people want 24/7 happiness
and they sometime want someone
that is close to their fantasy,
but at the end,
they will realize,
that everyone has flaws.
Hollywood has misted the eyes
with fantasy dust. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 2/5/2008 5:59:42 PM | Well, my main problem is read my profile first before responding. And respect what I am looking for. Its frustrating when a guy from another ethnic group other than what I am loooking for. Or have someone who is old enough to be my father or grandfather. That's so disrespectful and I have had individual send me ignorant messages. I just delete them and block them. Its my dating preference and I all I ask for is respect. Well, I hope everyone has a good day.
p.s. sorry to get off the subject a bit  | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 2/5/2008 7:22:24 PM | cw35:
Well although I wasn't getting into that because I was only refering to why it's easier
for women on this site than men:
You are in fact are totally correct. Women want a guy that is completly out of their
league. If your handsome you must also have a good job and money. If you have
that than you need to have a great personality, be funny and romantic. Basically the
perfect man. Yes, you may get the same emails as a man if you put certain pictures up
on your profile but still is that person really you. If you don't want to be treated this
way stop going after the girls that are only looking for physical appearance. You can
spot these girls from the glamour shots on their profile.
But again I wasn't getting into that.
(By the way ladies that guy doesn't exist and if he does he's probably already married) | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 2/5/2008 7:34:47 PM | The totalllllllll opposite is true
I know alot of men on here and match and other places
The men meet alot of nice woman..
The mens worst experiences are, hmm she was really nice and we are just friends,
or we dated fora while but she is not the one for long term.
Or nice girl but no connection.
Ok the womans experiences omggggggg
are almost got raped, lying married man, had to get a restraining order, and one was even abducted from this site.
Go read the post about "your worst date ever"
You will see how the vast majority 99 percent of the woman's experiences were all dangerous and horrific and and psycho and awful
and the mens were what I said
and you will read a few mens responses in there saying
"wow I guess we guys really dont have it that bad.. the womans sound like steven kings novels"
soooooooooooooooooo
Yes woman get more emails but that means more nuts
Men get less but from quality woman...
and I do ask guys out and I know plenty of woman who do...
so I dont know what universe you are living in??? | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 2/7/2008 2:53:22 PM | | I'm sure it must be difficult for guys as well, but I've been on this thing for quite some time, and have met many guys, and only once have I met one that I would like to see again. He said he'd like to see me again as well, but it's been 3 weeks, and I'm not counting on it. Dating just sucks. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 2/7/2008 4:10:29 PM |
I'm sure it must be difficult for guys as well, but I've been on this thing for quite some time, and have met many guys, and only once have I met one that I would like to see again. He said he'd like to see me again as well, but it's been 3 weeks, and I'm not counting on it.
Have you called him? If not, why not?
Arlo | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 2/19/2008 1:33:34 PM |
I think it "sucks" for both sides in different ways. Plus+, speaking as an older woman, younger girls have a easier time out there than I do.
The older a person is then it is HARD ...
The woman who do NOT reply to email are causing many GOOD men to just give up and this is why there are so many players and guys looking for sex left on POF
These types of men got nothing to lose ... and will mass email woman....
I rarely email now since i can NOT remember when i got an reply other than a few "No my Types" replies.
Many woman just wait for men to email them...
At many events organized by Plentyoffish members there are MORE WOMAN then MEN .
That means there are MORE woman than men on POF looking for relationships which include long term, dating and friends ...
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 2/19/2008 6:17:08 PM |
At many events organized by Plentyoffish members there are MORE WOMAN then MEN .
That means there are MORE woman than men on POF looking for relationships which include long term, dating and friends ..
I'm not convinced that it means that. I think it just means that women are more likely to go to a singles mixer than men.
Consider Silicon Valley. Few places on the planet are more mail dominated. 3.5 men for every woman on any dating site. Two men for every woman at a salsa class. And yet:
Speed dating events almost always have more women than men. This, in spite of the fact then women almost never repeat and men often do.
Singles Meetup's often have more women than men. | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:03:37 AM |
I'm not convinced that it means that. I think it just means that women are more likely to go to a singles mixer than men.
Consider Silicon Valley. Few places on the planet are more mail dominated. 3.5 men for every woman on any dating site. Two men for every woman at a salsa class. And yet:
Speed dating events almost always have more women than men. This, in spite of the fact then women almost never repeat and men often do.
Singles Meetup's often have more women than men.
Woman and Men who are VERY SERIOUS about finding someone will try all methods and that includes singles mixer.
Most people on POF are NOT serious about internet dating .. and are just window shopping
Many woman will NOT email a man first but wait for him to her.
Since many men get tired of sending email without getting replies then they quit sending email.
This mean most woman on POF will NEVER find a person here by first contact by him email her ... but instead have a great change by attending a POF event.
Woman who email men have a greater change of finding someone. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 2:14:58 PM | | mmm well I have proably sent email to 90 men on POF and might have received a response from 5 men, so many men do not even have the manners to respond with "Not interested, have a nice life" or whatever.... | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 4:29:08 PM |
mmm well I have proably sent email to 90 men on POF and might have received a response from 5 men, so many men do not even have the manners to respond with "Not interested, have a nice life" or whatever....
Most people will NOT reply to a person with NO photo and that is NOT manners but some people are VERY shallow and judge a person ONLY on locks.
Some people will even BLOCK a person from emailing them if they are NOT displaying a photo on POF. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 7:03:51 PM | | At this point my only interest in POF is to get info on events. I have attended several in the last few months. Not that I've had any luck (most of the women are too old, smokers, and/or from out of town) but at least I'm getting out there instead of wasting time at my computer. Most people have better manners in person than on the Internet. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 2/22/2008 8:03:49 PM |
I know a few women who will go out with a guy get him to pay for dinner and move on to the next guy, they have no intentioon of getting serious and just are on here to get free meals
Message: This happen to me ~ My very first "Met" off POF~ I don't know if it was her only "intentions" but definitly the main one. ~ Poor girl, I guess she was in a spot and was working her meals in. ~ I wasn't put off by that as much as other flaky behavior she offered. Needless to say ~ I was taken back by it.
So this is Internet Dating! ~~ It's never happen again ~ I met one I really liked for breakfast ~ then she took her old boy friend back ~ or so she said. ~ Stopped before it got going!
There is a million ways it can fall ~ it's been fun ~ I've not been hurt, or paid out anymore then I would any other way. ~ It's entertainment.
I can safely say ~ I can sit at home alone on a friday day ~ and not feel as if I"m missing anything. ~
As far as the thread post ~this can suck for "anybody" ~ or the best thing thats happen to you in years.
There is just as many goofy men out there as there is crazed women. Maybe more!
I truly enjoy my contacts here ~ it's enriched my life ~ and I can cut it off and on.
~dar | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 2/23/2008 1:53:13 AM | | Just going from my own personal opinion and observations having been single now for over two years and using internet dating as one option of meeting people.. I think it has just made it harder and harder for genuine women and men.... sex is given away too freely nowdays.. I find it so hard to meet someone who isnt just after trying to bed you for one time.. it doesnt seem to matter what site you are on, the profile can saw one thing.. but you quickly learn they are players.. idont think this is a generalisation just against men, but i think it possibly works both ways.. well has to doesnt it.. takes two to tango.. i really believe now that it makes it harder for those genuninely looking for someone to have a relationship with.. as well as it starts to chip away at any trust you were putting in people.. I dont know if the internet is to blame but possibly more the fact that pure sexual gratification is more acceptable and open than has been and the internet is just a means of finding willing participants.. well thats my thoughts and feelings.. so i dont feel that women get it better... think both men and women have difficulties with the modern world of internet dating! | |
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