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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/23/2008 10:46:01 AM |
I have a few female friends who say they talk to a guy a few times and agree to meet him if he buys her a meal. Then they ignore him moving on to the next guy.
Nice, then girls wonder why they keep running into guys who don't like paying for anything.
Good times had by all. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/23/2008 1:10:09 PM | in msg 1406, warning sign said:
I love how someone can say that the ration of men to women is so much lower and therefore men get a bum steer on a dating website. How many people are you wanting to have in your relationship, anyway? I thought a relationship was about TWO??? And there are TONS of people on this site, and yet cannot make a connection. It only takes two, but that does not mean you will find that other match to you, regardless of the numbers. You can be swimming in men and still not come across one who has that fit.
Numbers matter. If are looking for that one in a million and you meet a million men then you will probably find him. If you meet ten, then you probably won't.
Now, most of us men aren't that picky. Still, we can't expect that the first woman who responds will turn out to be "the one". We can't even expect to get a first date, even if she looked a good match from her profile. You need a certain "flow" in order to have any hope of finding a relationship. Many men here are not even getting enough response to get dates. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/27/2008 8:37:36 PM | Numbers matter. If are looking for that one in a million and you meet a million men then you will probably find him. If you meet ten, then you probably won't.
Now, most of us men aren't that picky. Still, we can't expect that the first woman who responds will turn out to be "the one". We can't even expect to get a first date, even if she looked a good match from her profile. You need a certain "flow" in order to have any hope of finding a relationship. Many men here are not even getting enough response to get dates.
aint that the truth. i 100% agree with you man. most of us men, no matter how good we really are, or how good we treat life and women will never get responses.im so sick of talking to a girl and hearing about her horrible dates from pof and then never talking to her again. for once i just wish a woman would talk to me for the sake of talking to me. hell id be happy if some of the women i email would just talk | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 1:10:21 AM | pick a date upon which men will not make any effort at all and continue until you see women crawl to us.
they have it good because we are the willing ones of getting hurt, and they are less so to put themselves on the line.
so let's begin this boycott. they need us more than we need them. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 1:20:53 AM | | DEAR INT.DATE GUY:IF THE MALES OUT NUMBER THE FEMALES YOU MAY HAVE TO MAKE A BETTER IMPRESSION WHEN EMING A FEM DONT BE SHY GO AHEAD AND TAKE THE BULL BY THE HORNS,KEEP TRYING . | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 1:38:27 AM | Thanks for the update. I will try and duplicate your phony study and look forward to posting my results. Are women superficial and only care about tall dark and handsome.   | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 4:48:12 AM | | Yeah, you'd be suprise how many women in my local area that had "rejected" me that are STILL , YEARS later, still "searching", it's quite pathetic actually. Ironically, I think every woman in the "My matches" section rejected me....I get sick of seeing their faces when I sign-on :p | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 5:04:14 AM | I don't understand why the disgruntled and bitter continue on this site if they are so unhappy with what (and who) it has to offer?
Why don't you all just go do something else if it is so terrible? | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 4/28/2008 5:24:06 AM |
Op
Its no picnic for us women either believe me.
It's no picnic for women in OTHER ways, (the kind of curse the men wish to have)
There's this one woman I met online, she said she had recieved 250 emails in the past couple of weeks! Thats' how its hard on women. They get TOO MANY emails. She was kind of pretty too, I give her that (was probably the reason) but if a woman is even remotely cute, she's going to be a minor c elebrity in POF. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 6:00:29 AM | So Eborys are you saying your pissed off that women behave in exactly the same way that men do? Men do that ALL THE TIME. The look at the pics and if the woman isn't a stunner not only will they ignore them, worse they will e-mail cruel and hurtful comments. The only difference is that the women don't whine about it nearly as much as the men.
Thank you for speaking for the women. I, personally appreciate that. I am sure the rest are grateful as well.
I have never done search. I usually never initiate any contacts. Before I came to the Forums, I was getting mails right and left and since I always reply, out of courtesy, traffic was hard to manage. And I never posted my pics permanently as I found my profile was never read. Mail is manageable now as many old contacts are on msn. I get at least 5 IM requests and a couple of those shut the window when they start talking about how horny they are and I say, next topic please! lol PMs are fun!
I did an experiment a few weeks ago. I decided to send PMs to those who have me on their list to thank them and see how the response rate was. I also sent greetings to those on my favorite list. I do not know everyone who had me on their list but I know those on my own limited list. It is manageble now as the fav list I am on now have considerably lessened after some problems with meeting or Forums participations did not sit well with a few. ;)
I did not get 100 % response from my fav list. I would say 80% as some have not even logged on for a while. The others could not be bothered.
Now, of those guys who had me on their fav list, two read/deleted and removed me from their list. Probably 50% read and 25% responded and the rest have not bothered to read. The PMs are just sitting there unopened. Those I did not know lost the opportunity to know me and I lost the chance to find out why they even bothered to have me on their lists.
Now, what can you deduce from that? My rate for response from my female friends is 100%. We just exchange some tidbits and girl talks. But they almost always respond to my messages. Never has had a read/delete!
I am a very patient women and do not take these things seriously. However, judging from my experience, there are many rude people here. And I will leave it at that! | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 7:54:22 AM | i encountered yet another tall, dark, and handsome requirement just yesterday.
i tell u, a boycott on men making advances on this site should start on may 1 and see how women will behave without the attention they are so use to having...it'll make them go crazy without it and would then be questioning if they are good enough, instead of how they presently view themselves as some have on their caption "are you good enough" BS. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 9:31:14 AM |
So Eborys are you saying your pissed off that women behave in exactly the same way that men do? Men do that ALL THE TIME. The look at the pics and if the woman isn't a stunner not only will they ignore them, worse they will e-mail cruel and hurtful comments. The only difference is that the women don't whine about it nearly as much as the men.
I disagree. There are plenty of threads where women complain about men not reading their profile, men who are only looking for sex, men who only date thin/fit women etc. | |
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kralp
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Joined: 9/25/2007
Msg: 1414 | |
| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 9:49:02 AM | | yes i think you have a point! i do think women prefer the internet dating thing or maybe they just like typing! men are more straightforward and prefer to keep the online dating to a minimum and hopefully do the real thing instead! | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 4/28/2008 10:03:16 AM | What a long thread!
No question, dating is all about appearance, well maybe a few exceptions!
But no, women don't have it made on dating sites.
Not from what I have heard first hand, or just read the forums!
The number of creepy, socially retarded or otherwise totally
unacceptable men, on dating sites, just boggle my mind! And
in all cases, these women were quite vigilant, and still!
Not only that, but I suspect, that the type of man, that so many
women find instant chemistry with, just arn't on dating sights
anyway! | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 10:07:41 AM | | I don't know what age you are, but maybe you are younger and you have this problem. I try to answer my messages. I think I am a fairly decent looking woman, and get a lot of mail. I don't go by how a guy looks, but what I think his personality is, and what he says in his profile. I have never blocked anyone. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 10:24:07 AM | Oh my god - I have never read such rubbish in all my life.
Wake up smell the coffee, internet dating is not for the feint hearted, there are men and women who have the patter to get dates, and there are those that dont.
There are more that dont have the patter and therefore dont get the dates.
Most of us are real people, sitting in a room, typing to a screen, with few friends (lost a lot in the divorce) and hope that someone will look at the funny icon pics and think - hey that person looks nice I shall message him/her. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 10:26:25 AM | | This statement is 100% true. All it leaves out is...women's romance is mostly in their heads. If you offer up a detailed profile, unless you are a 10+, you have taken all the romance out of it. I have picked up couoples of gay girls at bars nore frequently than on the internet. Ya gotta keep 'em guessing. The omnly reason I do the internet thing is to get shot down so I know what doesn't work. That way, when I get to the proper venue, I have a little more presence of mind. Sorry guys. Sorry girls. That's four decades of Master's in psuchology behind that observation. No complaints about Plentyoffish, though. They do a good job. Like the man says, it only produces results for the rich 10+ guys. Bummer. :):) | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 10:48:44 AM | That is so untrue. It sucks for women just as much as it does men I initate the contacting all the time and never get responses so that is highly untrue. If the person isn't interested in me they should at least contact me and tell me they aren't interested in me. I find it pretty rude someone can't response to my emails I send them. Men do it too, just as much as women. So don't just go blaming women. 
Just keep trying I'm sure someone will come. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 12:06:28 PM | | i have to agree but with a twist! i live in a small town, not that many guys or girls to choose from. the kicker is i havent had one reply from the ones i contact which are few.ive had better luck talking to , and going to see girls that live 75 miles away.and have met some nice ones at that , but theyre life is there and mine is here. | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 4/28/2008 5:17:11 PM | | ok plastic i can understand where you are coming from. alot of guys on here are only looking for sex and are very rude when they talk/email a woman on here. and i specify the word "guys", because a "man" like myself emails women nice things, i dont want just sex. i want to get to know a woman, makes friends, go out. but these women talk to the pervs and get pissed, then ignore the men on this site. its total bs. | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 4/29/2008 1:54:21 PM | Okay.....
My biggest complaint has been men who cannot communicate online enough to keep a conversation going. I do know how to get and keep a convo going.
However, there is a flip side to that - I've had convos with guys where I start the initial convo and I continue to be the one asking questions with him responding. Yes, the emails contain fodder to keep chatting, BUT not once do they ask anything about me. It's all about them (since the topics were questions I asked them about).
So how would you men gauge that? What would you say to that?
Everyone likes to have someone interested in knowing about them. But my experience has taught me that men like to talk to women about themselves far more than women like to talk to men about themselves. Would you agree or is this a perception thing? | |
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jcolsa
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Joined: 12/20/2007
Msg: 1424 | |
| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/29/2008 4:12:10 PM | YES is it is a huge uneven ratio..
Brother I have been here from a while and have only received 2 emails. One scam and the other from a 53 yr old woman in east texas.
With as many GOOD men on this site there is ZERO reason why I still see the same women with search longterm on here..
It is a humbling experience
Guys I will be crudely honest but some of these woman who post only looking for honest guy are just as dishonest and the guys they complain about
Women do have the advantage no doubt and i do understand being selective but I wish that if they were looking for something in particular they were honest about it and learn to filter their contact preferences.
Also do you guys really want a woman who is so shallow.
If a man cant find someone online he has an excuse?
Some women really don't
Don't get me started I could write a book
lately I've been asking women who reject me to email me so i can block them
i am tried of wasting my time with woman who would be worthless to me anyways..
on that note if anyone who know how to block from further contact without doing through email please email me.. Keep me from wasting my time | |
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