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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 10:48:44 AM | That is so untrue. It sucks for women just as much as it does men I initate the contacting all the time and never get responses so that is highly untrue. If the person isn't interested in me they should at least contact me and tell me they aren't interested in me. I find it pretty rude someone can't response to my emails I send them. Men do it too, just as much as women. So don't just go blaming women. 
Just keep trying I'm sure someone will come. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/28/2008 12:06:28 PM | | i have to agree but with a twist! i live in a small town, not that many guys or girls to choose from. the kicker is i havent had one reply from the ones i contact which are few.ive had better luck talking to , and going to see girls that live 75 miles away.and have met some nice ones at that , but theyre life is there and mine is here. | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 4/28/2008 5:17:11 PM | | ok plastic i can understand where you are coming from. alot of guys on here are only looking for sex and are very rude when they talk/email a woman on here. and i specify the word "guys", because a "man" like myself emails women nice things, i dont want just sex. i want to get to know a woman, makes friends, go out. but these women talk to the pervs and get pissed, then ignore the men on this site. its total bs. | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 4/29/2008 1:54:21 PM | Okay.....
My biggest complaint has been men who cannot communicate online enough to keep a conversation going. I do know how to get and keep a convo going.
However, there is a flip side to that - I've had convos with guys where I start the initial convo and I continue to be the one asking questions with him responding. Yes, the emails contain fodder to keep chatting, BUT not once do they ask anything about me. It's all about them (since the topics were questions I asked them about).
So how would you men gauge that? What would you say to that?
Everyone likes to have someone interested in knowing about them. But my experience has taught me that men like to talk to women about themselves far more than women like to talk to men about themselves. Would you agree or is this a perception thing? | |
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jcolsa
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Joined: 12/20/2007
Msg: 1430 | |
| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/29/2008 4:12:10 PM | YES is it is a huge uneven ratio..
Brother I have been here from a while and have only received 2 emails. One scam and the other from a 53 yr old woman in east texas.
With as many GOOD men on this site there is ZERO reason why I still see the same women with search longterm on here..
It is a humbling experience
Guys I will be crudely honest but some of these woman who post only looking for honest guy are just as dishonest and the guys they complain about
Women do have the advantage no doubt and i do understand being selective but I wish that if they were looking for something in particular they were honest about it and learn to filter their contact preferences.
Also do you guys really want a woman who is so shallow.
If a man cant find someone online he has an excuse?
Some women really don't
Don't get me started I could write a book
lately I've been asking women who reject me to email me so i can block them
i am tried of wasting my time with woman who would be worthless to me anyways..
on that note if anyone who know how to block from further contact without doing through email please email me.. Keep me from wasting my time | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/30/2008 8:28:18 PM | Wild Heart:
When did "convo" become an acceptable abreviation for "conversation"?
But then I hate it when cell phone commercials say "dropped calls" instead of "disconnected calls"! And when did it become acceptable to say "passed" instead of "passed away" when someone dies? "Passed" what? "Passed" a semi-truck? "Passed" a kidney stone? The mangling and **stardization of the English laguage continues! | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 4/30/2008 8:35:18 PM | Disagree. It makes men INCREDIBLY picky and provides them with an endless supply of women who will jump into bed with them at the drop of a hat. As one writer once said "no call girl service could be more efficient or effective" . For many guys it's get laid and then
They don't even bother saying "next". | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/1/2008 9:12:57 AM | It makes men INCREDIBLY picky and provides them with an endless supply of women who will jump into bed with them at the drop of a hat
This is completely wrong. There is NOT an endless supply of women because of the ratio. Men outnumber women in my area by about 2.5 to 1 ratio. If an average looking man contacts a bunch of average looking women, most of his emails are read /deleted. Therefore it is a very limited supply of women that might be interested in an average looking man. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/1/2008 6:02:23 PM |
This is completely wrong. There is NOT an endless supply of women because of the ratio. Men outnumber women in my area by about 2.5 to 1 ratio. If an average looking man contacts a bunch of average looking women, most of his emails are read /deleted. Therefore it is a very limited supply of women that might be interested in an average looking man.
Really, then what's up with the Not Read/Deleted and the refusal to even meet someone for a coffee who clearly looks great and shares your interests. I know. When the woman is Black it doesn't count.
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/1/2008 6:13:36 PM |
Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
I've often wondered why anyone, male Or female would continue to take part in something they think "sucks". If the OP was even close to true, this site (by now) would be dying - not growing.
Some Men seem to enjoy this site as well as do Some Women.
Others? Well, it seems that some people glean their happiness from whining.
This site doesn't suck! I've met some Great people here - both men and women! I've had some "interesting" dates, made some wonderful friends and .. sure I've had a couple 'encounters' I have no intention of repeating - that's just cuz we'ze dealin wit humans! lol
I answer all my emails (cept the ignorant ones), but I don't always get answers to those I send out - Again - So What?
Wasting energy and/or time on something that isn't working means you're not spending time or energy on the things that make you happy. If "you" feel this site sucks, I've heard they'll actually let you leave! This pond has no bars, we're all free to crawl up onto dry (Dry) land!
Good luck!
A.S.is
((some people say "suck" like it's a bad thing ..))  | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/1/2008 7:06:02 PM | It's pretty simple, really.
People don't leave, even though they think it sucks, because they still want the end goal and don't have any better ideas.
Face it. For an awful lot of people, dating sucks in any context. They came here hoping, nay, *expecting*, that online dating would be better. It isn't, so here we are.
Some people enjoy the forums but I can't imagine there are many people who actually enjoy online dating. If they did, that would sort of imply that it was working for them, and if that were true, they wouldn't need to be here anymore. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/1/2008 8:02:43 PM |
If you are spending some considerable time emailing, talking on the phone before making a date, and then she agrees to spend the time with you, you're talking about each investing maybe 20 hours in the pre-date and first date. So, how many women do you think are really going to spend all that time, for a $15-$20 meal?
OMG! Is this seriously what dating has come to? You invested that time for the chance to meet people, get to know people better, and possibly find the person who might be right for you. I'm happy with a cup of coffee, or a free walk in the park. No one should be looking for more on the first meeting than a quiet place to talk and get to know each other. Stupid women like this ruin it for all of us. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/1/2008 8:09:45 PM | Really, then what's up with the Not Read/Deleted and the refusal to even meet someone for a coffee who clearly looks great and shares your interests. I know. When the woman is Black it doesn't count.
The read / deleted and unread / deleted happens very often when men email women. I don't see how that makes internet dating worse for women. How do you know that these men rejected you because of your race. If your emails were read /deleted or unread / deleted then they obviously didn't tell you why they weren't interested. There could be a million different reasons why a man isn't interested in you. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/2/2008 7:11:58 AM | I can't believe I get my threads deleted and this self pity whining session doesn't...can somebody explain this to me? If you think pof sucks, then maybe you should take a long, hard look at yourself. I can send you over a box of Kleenex if u need em. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/2/2008 7:32:10 AM |
When did "convo" become an acceptable abreviation for "conversation"?
This from someone who has spelling mistakes in their profile AND in the above line....pft.
Glass houses.
Luvablekittten I'm with you - people on here seem to give me the impression that everything is so complicated and the simple act of meeting someone new is not even enjoyable anymore. I always enjoy meeting someone new and even if it doesn't lead to anyone, I never regret it or think I wasted my time.
I don't see many people on here saying things like that - everyone talks about how other people waste their time! Quite unfortunate.
Blueknight1 - I agree, when I feel myself getting a little "tired" of POF. I remove photos, hide my profile and change it to reflect not looking. I have this crazy notion that nobody would be interested in me when I'm feeling negative and a tad bitter. I hear it works for some though lol | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/2/2008 7:52:49 AM | | When I email a man they read and deleted or just delete it without looking or they read it not delete it maybe their interested who knows? and I'm not ugly I know that I'm pretty average. I'm sure other women send emails and the man reads and deletes it too so it does suck for women too. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/2/2008 8:18:03 AM | Before internet dating both sexes seemed to meet through friends, co-workers and family members. That seems to be dying out. What I find funny are the women (not all of them but there are some) who have a long list of criteria for a guy to meet before she will even agree to go for a coffee with him, then complain they can not find a man..their criteria is not realistic and they say they are entitled to the best. Funny if they can't meet a man who meets their criteria what will they do?
The funnier thing is some of these women say that men should ignore their own criteria so that the man will date her..if he does not he is shallow. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/2/2008 9:02:12 AM | Yeah, I got blown off by a 44 year old woman (I'm mid 30's) because "I think we have spoken before, and I'm sorry I don't think we're a good match, good luck in your search!"
And she wasn't all that to look at actually.
Ironically, she's in "My Matches" go figure, eh? | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:01:32 PM | | I assume you've had a bad experience due to the fact you were hoping to be someone's knight in shining armor, but when they saw you, they turned away. That's not anyone's fault. People can be shallow sometimes, But that doesnt Give you the right to bash women for their preference. Looks does matter to an extent, however it's mind over matter. No one is perfect! So if you were turned down due to your looks, then you shouldn't stress over it. She isn't right for you, move on. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:13:26 PM | hey classic want to get a model?
and you have a real honest truthful bio
try match city.com,
i have an honest bio and honest pics, hey i'm no rock star
i'm no glamour boy in the last two yrs i have to tell girls younger than my daughters
that if they are that interested that they will have to work for thirty yrs to keep up the
medical insurance while i bomb around in my hot rod and play golf and fish
while i'm retired and they are at work.
i'm guessing they think we would be so happy to have them that the skys the limit!!!!!!!!
but suprise this is real life here.
i'm 59 these girls are 24 -34 and beautful
give it a try but i would be wary of to much ardour and marriage interest
watch words oddly placed wording in messages not all translations follow
natural word patterning for us
good luck
maverick49( sugardaddy) as the replys lean toward | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:33:21 PM | The gist I got from the OP's post is that real life is treating him much better than virtual life (is that a bad thing?).
The words he uses to describe his internet dating experience exude frustration, disbelief and even pain; he even goes as far as to devise and masterfully carry out a clever plot to expose the wicked wenches and prove his perceptions:
1. that they all dismiss him because of .. his looks(?). They didn't say it was because of his looks as he states he's received no replies (unless they did write and he knows that this is, in fact, the reason) but suffice to say that this is what he believes (why?);
2. and that these women are here for their egos alone, instead of fulfilling their duty(?) obligation(?) to accept his advancements, as they do in the real world -- or something like that (is there a thesis published, I wonder?)
Rumplestiltskin suddenly comes to mind (final scene when he's stomping on his hat and tearing his beard out) What I find myself asking is why would someone put themselves through all that, when they have PROOF that women do not treat them in this way 'in the real world'?
OP? Pain is not a good thing, why keep doing what is obviously hurting you? I mean, think about what's at stake here: Your own sense of self worth and appreciation is in the hands of other people's actions! Actions over which you have no control! *gasp*
If this is how you feel, wouldn't it be logical to stick to what's working for you, i.e. the 'real world'? There's a solution to problems like this. Really .. there is.
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jcolsa
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Joined: 12/20/2007
Msg: 1450 | |
| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 5/2/2008 4:04:29 PM | Read Deleted
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Yah I grow very tried of this. It's a waste of my time because in most case I took the time to read compare profiles and honestly believed we could at least have a conversation..
For me it would be nice if either the men and or the women had to option to remove whoever was or did read and deleted from any furture searches...That way no more potential wasting time with them move to someone worth it .
NOW HEAR THIS !! I jcolsa am here to help take some of your worries away ( because I care) ok are ready for this
you have mail setting http://www.plentyoffish.com/mailsettings.aspx?
Use them somebody went through the trouble to help you find what you are looking for. and block unwanted contact.. Really I should be seeing filters in most of the ladies ads | |
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