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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 5:30:39 AM |
hi ; just find a bright red farrari or black , take a picture leaning on it and wait for the deluge of emails from the bottom dwellers looking for mega bucks , they think they hit the lottery then !
Maybe....but wouldn't the irate rightful owner in the side of the frame clue MOST people into the fact that the car's not YOURS?? | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 5:36:23 AM |
Everyone pretty much ignores each other be it the pretty people or the average. In other words everyone seems to be shooting everyone down.
I don't think that EVERYONE is shooting everyone down. I've had a couple of dates from here and met some great people, some that are now off site that I keep in touch with and consider friends. It's kind of like life. Not everyone you meet will be head over heels for you, but you make some friends, and maybe meet someone you want more with..... | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 6:09:42 AM | | I CAN AGREE WITH YOU ON LOTS OF THINGS YOU POSTED ABOUT PRETTY LADYS.HOWEVER,SOMETHING IS NOT CLICKING RIGHT ACCORDING TO WHAT YOU SAY.I THINK A LOT OF YOUR PROBLEM,HAS TO DO WIYH THE WAY YOU ARE GOING ABOUT APPROACHING THESE FINE LADYS.FOR SOME REASON THAT IVE FOUND,IS LADYS DONT CARE TO HEAR ABOUT HOW GOODLOOKING YOU ARE,IT SEEMS TO TURN THEM OFF.BUT ON THE OTHER HAND,THEY WANT TO SEE A PICTURE OF YOU ON A WEBSITE,GO FIGURE.TRY ADJUSTING YOUR ATTITUDE AND PERSONALITY SOME.DONT BE SO AGRESSVIVE WITH THEM,SEE IF THAT HELPS.ONE MORE THING I WOULD DO IF I WERE YOU,BECAUSE I DO THIS MYSELF,DONT POST A PICTURE ON THIS WEBSITE WHEN YOU ARE TRYING TO FIND THAT GIRL OF YOUR DREAMS.ATTRACTION IS THE #1 THING WHETHER WE LIKE IT OR NOT,BUT WHEN YOU ARE SEARCHING FOR YOUR SOUL-MATE,FIND A GIRL THAT WILL TALK TO YOU WHETHER YOU HAVE A PICTURE ON THERE OR NOT,YOU WILL FIND A LOT BETTER LADY IN THE LONG-RUN.THIS IS JUST MY PERSONAL OPIONION,BUT ITS WORTH TRYING,IT WORKS WELL FOR ME,AND IT KEEPS THE PRETTY LADY WONDERING WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE,THE CHALLENGE HERE IS TO WIN A LADY OVER WITH MORE THAN JUST A PICTURE,YOU HAVE TO USE YOUR PERSONALITY AND ATTITUDE AS WELL! | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 6/6/2008 6:42:38 AM | I thought I was responding to a different thread, but somewhere along the way, the title/subject line changed! ....but the general topic did not. Wow, 70 pages of comments! I definitely only read a couple pages and scanned a couple pages....all those great comments "in the middle 65ish pages," I missed, sorry folks!
In regard to various other posts;
I have to say that I think *very few* people get 100 emails per day...perhaps in a month, but let's be realistic here (and that may vary depending upon your geographic location/populace).  And that populace is quite low around here....
There are many of men who do NOT reply back at all, not even a "no thank you" response. I have spent plenty of time here at POF and other sites writing with no response of any kind...and they aren't "phoney" ads, as I have recognized the location of the photo or some other such thing. Personally, I try to reply to all people, at least once, regardless as to whether there is *any* interest. People appreciate a "thanks, but no thanks" (politely of course) response...it says something about character! If nothing more, some people may just make a good friend, and who can't benefit society by having and being a friend??
whatsallthis (and others): For a while now, I have been of the belief that *many* on the Internet have such high expectations and concur with your comment, "Internet "dating" sucks for everybody. We have all had bad relationships, and are looking for that perfect match that doesn't exist. Our expectations are too high, and at the first sign that (gasp!) we have faults, we tend to run away. Nothing worth having comes easy. " I will expound upon that by saying that I am often put on a pedestal ("you are perfect" or "perfection does exist" as subject lines in emails) -- to come crashing down when these men come out of their denial and fantasy, to realize, "Oh my! She is a REAL human person! She has flaws, faults, imperfections, character defects or whatever else you want to call them and all!" Of course, it is important for me (or others) to overlook *their* flaws, faults, imperfections, character defects or whatever else you want to call them.
Much of the time, it does not appear to be a 2-way street, but a 1-way alley with a brick wall at the end -- that is, if you don't turn quick enough! I continue to ride that cobblestone alley and look for the side turns and the glimpses of light realizing, at times, I will most certainly come close to running into that proverbial brick wall. I take my chances and try not to become too jaded. It is always a surprise to me why men complain about not get responses...when their profile is clearly indicating a jaded, bitter attitude...who in their right mind would want to even begin something with that sort of introduction?? there are enough other things (foibles and imperfections) that crop up in due time. I am sure many of the men that don't have a pic on their profile, don't write to the women that also don't have a pic (but definitely do write to those that do have pic's - hmmm)....how ironic, that they don't get responses...
The Internet has created a society of people that find it easy to dispose of other people. Things that would (I hope) never be said or done face to face are easily done online. How sad, for humanity as a whole.
All I can say is, keep fishin'!  | |
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| Internet dating: it's an EXTRA!
Posted: 6/6/2008 7:15:22 AM | Many, many people have stated, many, many times, that InterNet dating is a SUPPLEMENT to finding a date/dates. It's not your ONLY option.
It's like Mag rims on a car: nice to have (if you like that sorta thing...), but the car drives just fine without 'em.
Now quit yer whinin' and get out there!
Sheesh...
Arlo  | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 7:20:59 AM | | Funny, but all the talk about girls judge men by their photo and that's it for the majority of them.... well, Men do the same thing to women. If the picture or the body isn't the supermodel, they come back with no reply to your efforts, or they deny you for the exact same reason you say we denied you. So your theory on men get overlooked only - just doesn't hold up. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 8:33:24 AM | I contacted a guy on a romance forum (not here) who said he couldn't get a date because he was too short. We emailed for a bit - he never asked me any questions and answered mine with one word. But I forged ahead - after all, in his post he claimed to be this wonderful man with a heart full of love than nobody wanted.
So finally he asks me a question: what is my age? I tell him. *Poof* he disappears. I don't care - if a man doesn't want me then screw him. But I thought it was funny that he was complaining that women didn't want him because of something he couldn't change - his height - while he felt perfectly justified in not wanting me because of my age, which is something I can't change. Lest you think I was trolling for a guy in his teens, there was exactly three years between us.
The moral of the story: We all overlook and we are also overlooked. You can't take it personally. I'm sure each and every person on this thread has turned someone down. And that is ok ... | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 10:17:20 AM | compactdisc, you said:
x-rayTechGirl
but how many of the messages do you reply to, do you reply politely to all the messages you recieve or do you ignore the less attractive guys.
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I reply ALL the messages that i receive,either they are my type or not.I dont know what the favorites is all about and i still email them back saying"thank you for choosing me as one of your faves.
I know how it feels to be rejected ( men)but some men are taking advantage of my kindness,instead of getting mad to those men who shows rudeness to me,i just simply blocked them for good.
I have lots of funny (not haha) experiences that ive encountered here,but it does not stop me to see what's on there.
dont take it personally if someone "IGGY" you, for me its part of the package finding the right one for you.
I also dont believe what people says in their profile,TALK is cheap.People sells themselves,thats why in my intro : i said:Ill see you through your colours and i dont really read loooooooongggggg profiles,who cares if you look like Brad Pitt at our age does look really matters?When i was at my younger years i chose looks and ive dated lots of good looking guys out there but the relationship never last.
Pictures? some people are not good in pictures but they are way better in person who knows when that picture have taken that they put in thier profiles.
Sometimes even people click its still nothing.It happened to me compact disc.We both clicked the chemistry was great.We both physically and sexually attracted to each other ,we had so much fun together,but you know what was lacking the true feelings/commitment on his side.That's why i dont really believe the chemistry thingy that some people talk about that its really important.I still go what a man feels for me and his determination to commit.I am not saying "marriage " what im trying to say "just into the relationship" of being boyfriend/girlfriend.
Here's my hint for you:I am not impress to people who says in thier profile the requirements that says'YOU MUST be like this, and that....i just smile at them,they sounds like a dad to me.I am very simple yet complex person and i havent found that anywhere yet.
hope this helps your questions. | |
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| Internet dating
Posted: 6/6/2008 11:17:18 AM | | I think it's hope that keeps us all here. That, and the allure of entertainment and the the suspense value to the human mind, of by chance finding that right one. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 12:25:59 PM | curlyboop Said
I contacted a guy on a romance forum (not here) who said he couldn't get a date because he was too short. We emailed for a bit - he never asked me any questions and answered mine with one word. But I forged ahead - after all, in his post he claimed to be this wonderful man with a heart full of love than nobody wanted.
So finally he asks me a question: what is my age? I tell him. *Poof* he disappears. I don't care - if a man doesn't want me then screw him. But I thought it was funny that he was complaining that women didn't want him because of something he couldn't change - his height - while he felt perfectly justified in not wanting me because of my age, which is something I can't change. Lest you think I was trolling for a guy in his teens, there was exactly three years between us.
The moral of the story: We all overlook and we are also overlooked. You can't take it personally. I'm sure each and every person on this thread has turned someone down. And that is ok
Curly boop , I have to admit that this is one of those things i don't get. Your cute, Very cute as a matter of fact. The only thing that would stop me from messaging you would be the fact that your to far away. But, besides that,well, Just shows how nutty some guys can be. But, then again, I am turned on by women my age. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 12:50:58 PM | I did a search in my age and local radius... 51 men and 42 women. Not exactly the extreme ratio some are claiming.
That depends on age and geography. You are 48. Around your age group, the ratio is almost even. But for people in their 20s and 30s, the ratio can be 2-1, 3-1, or even 4-1 depending on geography.
The moral of the story: We all overlook and we are also overlooked. You can't take it personally. I'm sure each and every person on this thread has turned someone down. And that is ok ...
This is true. However some people ( regardless of gender ) are much more picky than other people and would reject someone because of something that is very minor or not even noticeable. For example, some 5' 4" women would reject a man who is 5' 10" or 5' 11" because he isn't 6 ft tall. A 5' 4" woman probably couldn't even tell the difference between a man who is 6 ft and a man who is 5' 10". Are they entitled to do this? Yes but they could be turning down a good match just because of 1-2 inches. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 1:25:50 PM | Actually, if you think about it....ever seen those useless videos in an advertising banner that loops over and over some hot chick looking into a webcam and smiling you while she chats with you? (Or makes it appears as such?)
Notice the ads only show women, and not men...at least most of the time.
So, with that said, this supports how dating sites seem to push or in the favor of women., right? | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 1:46:19 PM | | if your so good looking why are you looking on the internet??i wish i had the good looks then i would'nt be looking on the internet,so your good looking and had no emails im not good looking and had no emails.dah | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 5:36:14 PM | Go to there local grocery store meat dept, and talk to women there. They would have better luck.
I doubt it because women hate being approached by men. Women don't go out actively looking for men (even if they are single).
So there is no best place to meet women because women don't want to have nothing to do with men in most places. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 6:04:14 PM | Welcome to LIFE, in general....to boil it down, women have what men want, and they get to chose....
Send out 400 emails....see if you get 3 or 4 that are of interest and run like the wind.....
It is just like sales....if you have a mediocre product it may take knocking on 100 doors to get someone to let you in the door to talk, and then it may take 4 or 5 of those chances to get to the next step......
Good luck to you, maybe you just need to be more interesting to the ladies....isn't there a new Mike Myers movie coming out, where the Love Doctor gives advice.....get some.... | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 7:11:40 PM |
So there is no best place to meet women because women don't want to have nothing to do with men in most places.
Women don't go out actively looking for men (even if they are single).
I would have to say, this hits home here. I guess this is why alot of single women end up with more cats than boyfriends in their later years.
Good luck to you, maybe you just need to be more interesting to the ladies....isn't there a new Mike Myers movie coming out, where the Love Doctor gives advice.....get some....
Actually, all the advice in the world will not help.
This whole "Being more interesting to the ladies" is the pathetic equivelant to the days when the court gesture would try to pacify the king/queen.
Or some spoiled 5 year old that gets bored of a toy in a day or two. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 7:33:16 PM | TheGoodMan Said
I doubt it because women hate being approached by men. Women don't go out actively looking for men (even if they are single).
So there is no best place to meet women because women don't want to have nothing to do with men in most places.
Sorry Dude, But i have to disagree with you here. That's why i don't let this mess here on POF bother me.. I have met a couple of women here but i have had a whole lot better luck because i get out from in front of this computer and get out in the world. Maybe it's the kind of job i do. I do meet a lot of women in my work. My work takes me in and out of a lot of stores. So all i can say is it works for me. I go to different social gatherings on the week ends when i am off to. I don't go to bars or clubs because i don't like the element that you mostly find there. It's like i have already said before. There is all kinds of opportunity's to be around different people. The problem i see with most people is they don't take the opportunity's that come there way because there either to shy or they are afraid they will get shot down. Me, I am not in the least afraid to get shot down. Rejection does not bother me at all. I don't mean to sound c.o.c.k.y. It's just i know from experience that for every one that shoots me down there are 10 that will go out with me. I have enough confidence in myself to know i can get a date be it here or outside of here. You don't live 46 years with out learning something about women. One thing they do like is confidence in a man. It's more easy for me to show my confidence in myself in the real world dating life than it is here because women here are to willing to hit the delete button without a second thought. So, As for me i will keep doing what i have been doing . When i find myself in the right opportunity to speak to a woman in the real world then that is what i will do. Works best for me. I have never met a stranger in my life. It doesn't scare me one bit to speak to a woman i meet anywhere. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 9:21:00 PM | liveh/driver Said
I CAN AGREE WITH YOU ON LOTS OF THINGS YOU POSTED ABOUT PRETTY LADYS.HOWEVER,SOMETHING IS NOT CLICKING RIGHT ACCORDING TO WHAT YOU SAY.I THINK A LOT OF YOUR PROBLEM,HAS TO DO WIYH THE WAY YOU ARE GOING ABOUT APPROACHING THESE FINE LADYS.FOR SOME REASON THAT IVE FOUND,IS LADYS DONT CARE TO HEAR ABOUT HOW GOODLOOKING YOU ARE,IT SEEMS TO TURN THEM OFF.BUT ON THE OTHER HAND,THEY WANT TO SEE A PICTURE OF YOU ON A WEBSITE,GO FIGURE.TRY ADJUSTING YOUR ATTITUDE AND PERSONALITY SOME.DONT BE SO AGRESSVIVE WITH THEM,SEE IF THAT HELPS.ONE MORE THING I WOULD DO IF I WERE YOU,BECAUSE I DO THIS MYSELF,DONT POST A PICTURE ON THIS WEBSITE WHEN YOU ARE TRYING TO FIND THAT GIRL OF YOUR DREAMS.ATTRACTION IS THE #1 THING WHETHER WE LIKE IT OR NOT,BUT WHEN YOU ARE SEARCHING FOR YOUR SOUL-MATE,FIND A GIRL THAT WILL TALK TO YOU WHETHER YOU HAVE A PICTURE ON THERE OR NOT,YOU WILL FIND A LOT BETTER LADY IN THE LONG-RUN.THIS IS JUST MY PERSONAL OPIONION,BUT ITS WORTH TRYING,IT WORKS WELL FOR ME,AND IT KEEPS THE PRETTY LADY WONDERING WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE,THE CHALLENGE HERE IS TO WIN A LADY OVER WITH MORE THAN JUST A PICTURE,YOU HAVE TO USE YOUR PERSONALITY AND ATTITUDE AS WELL!
All i can say is you didn't have to yell it but at the same time, AMEN BROTHER. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/6/2008 10:55:36 PM | | I agree completely with the poster. Women basically have to do next to nothing to find a guy on these sites. Guys have to do all the work and face all the rejection. Women rarely im guys and they rarely send emails unless the guy sends one. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/7/2008 2:42:26 AM |
I agree completely with the poster. Women basically have to do next to nothing to find a guy on these sites. Guys have to do all the work and face all the rejection. Women rarely im guys and they rarely send emails unless the guy sends one.
Not this woman ... I am an active seeker. In terms of rejection, only a handful of the guys I reached out to wrote me back. I've only had three say "thanks, but no thanks." I wish one guy hadn't bothered because he sent me a VERY insulting email - how dare someone as lowly as me write to him? A recent guy made me chuckle. After writing a nice email about all the interests we shared he wrote back and said, "sorry, we have nothing in common." Code for of course: I'm not attracted to you. Obviously, he hadn't read my note.
You have to be pretty tough to do this. But that is true for love in general. It is for the brave.
Thanks for your kind words, Eddie2704. | |
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