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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/10/2008 8:14:39 PM | ARE U FREAKIN KIDDING ME! SO FAR I'VE ONLY CHATTED WITH GUYS WITH THE ATTENTION SPAN OF A FIVE YR OLD & THE HARD ONS OF EITHER A 17 YR OLD OR AN OLD PERV ON 2 VIAGRAS...MY ONE SERIOUS PROSPECT, THAT SEEMED SO GREAT, AND! I WAS SOO EXCITED TO MEET...WHICH I NEVER DID..TURNED OUT 2 BE MARRIED..REMEMBER PPLE CAN FIND OUT SHIT ABOUT YOU!  | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/10/2008 8:28:25 PM | It sucks for women to, don't kid yourself, we compete for a very few good men, we get sick of all the losers,
maybe you should change your approach if your not getting any response, if you can't attract anybody on your good looks on the internet, you should have a good photo and write a great profile. Consider it a challenge!! | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/10/2008 9:04:12 PM | mzsomebody Sorry your having so much trouble with finding a decent man. There are some decent men on here that would treat you right. I honestly do believe that there are some decent men and woman here. But here is the problem i have come across. Speaking only for me, It seems that the only women that i can find (As far as Internet goes) that i seem to click very well with are always miles & miles away. I met one that was in South Africa about 2 years ago. We clicked so well, Even with all the miles that separated us, we could almost read each others minds. I had another one not long ago in England that i clicked very well with, But, The miles and not to mention all that water. It's enough to make a person wonder, "Is this just a cruel joke?" I can meet someone that i click very well with across that big pond (Not to mention half way around the world) but i can't seem to find one serious woman within 75 miles of me. I have had the same problem as you. But with women that are married and trying to hide it. Flakes and goof balls and the down right strange. And, A "girl" who claimed to be 22 (And looked it) that said she liked older men that turned out to be 17 and two months pregnant by another "older" man. So don't feel like the Lone Ranger. I have had my share to along with plenty of other men. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/11/2008 4:00:56 AM |
You know, You would think that guys like that would someday grow up. I stopped thinking below my waste in my 30's. I see plenty of women on here with there boobs almost hanging out. Not one have i ever messaged because i can't really take her serious.
LOL....yeah it's funny....what's real funny is....women would add content to their profiles...."yeah, I have boobs...I'm a woman...so naturally I do" Apparently, she was complaining about the emails this one picture....I swear she must've had the camera 2 inches from her bare cleavage.
She eventually took that one down....because she was getting unfavorable emails (probably from guy she had NO attraction to).
What's funny is, they complain about the "perverts" that email them because of it, when they are the ones being the enabler. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/11/2008 12:17:58 PM |
(mzsomebody) ARE U FREAKIN KIDDING ME! SO FAR I'VE ONLY CHATTED WITH GUYS WITH THE ATTENTION SPAN OF A FIVE YR OLD & THE HARD ONS OF EITHER A 17 YR OLD OR AN OLD PERV ON 2 VIAGRAS...MY ONE SERIOUS PROSPECT, THAT SEEMED SO GREAT, AND! I WAS SOO EXCITED TO MEET...WHICH I NEVER DID..TURNED OUT 2 BE MARRIED..REMEMBER PPLE CAN FIND OUT SHIT ABOUT YOU!
STOP SHOUTING!!!
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/11/2008 7:27:27 PM | compactdisc Said,
at least regarding favorites your doing better than me personally , ive been on 16 for a while now.
Well, Whoopi Do, I have been here almost a year(I know, My start date doesn't reflect it but i have. Been here three times as a matter of fact.) and i think i am on two members favorites list. But you know what, I don't care because i tend to delete them any way unless they ask or i have spoken to them. Which should prove one point, Not many of them speak. I am not in the least worried about trophies on my profile. To me having someone on your favorites list that you never talk to or didn't even ask is kinda creepy to me. If someone asks me because they like to follow my forum post or something thats OK, They asked and gave me a reason. But the ones who just add themselves and never say a word, CREEPY. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/12/2008 3:07:33 AM | Sometimes being on a favorites list is an indication that people like your forum posts. They think you are intelligent, funny not necessarily hot. All the favorites lists I am on are women and they are on mine, we love each others posts and keep up with them. I deleted my profile for a while and was on 30 something favs---all were people from forums except for one man who kept adding me and I kept deleting and finally gave up.
I don't pay attention to favorite list, but am always curious about the testimonals. Were they written by former lovers or currrent interests? Either way, if you are bothered by it--move on.
I've tried meeting people in the real world--not any better than here or the other sites I have been on. I have made some friends, had some short term dating which did not work for one of us, met some weirdos and been stood-up. I have been to the singles groups, singles dances, bars, clubs, church(although I don't use this as a meat market-I truly do enjoy church) and associations. Nothing. All the ways of meeting people do not always work for us but apparently work for some.
The women who are overrun with emails are either very pretty or showing assets. I am not the former and refuse to do the latter. And so it goes......................... | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/12/2008 3:37:25 AM |
I deleted my profile for a while and was on 30 something favs---all were people from forums except for one man who kept adding me and I kept deleting and finally gave up.
You deleted your profile just because one guy kept adding you back to this favorites list? | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/12/2008 3:45:08 AM | | No, I was censured by the POF for posting breaking a rule, met someone and dated for a while. I deleted the profile because I thought that was the thing to do while dating....a true indication of single but not looking. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/12/2008 6:27:53 AM | You certainly are not playing your percentages here. It is a numbers game. The only advantage over approaching women at the produce section is that here they have given some indication of availability. But then, that can also be looked at as a negative. Any women with anything going for them will be having guys hitting on them in RL.
since it is free... I am fishing for someone in my age range as eccentric and interesting as me.
I am over 50.......I put the chances at less than .001%
I would never bother with a pay site
If you are 19 you can get online and have a hot babe in 20 minutes | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 6/12/2008 12:08:29 PM | Too many guys is a problem in less obvious ways, the generic female opinion that guys suck on dating sites generally ought to mean if you're a relatively decent guy you've got a definite advantage. However females seem more attracted to the guys that end up sucking thus perpetuating the generic opinion.
thus if you're a relatively decent guy your chances of success are more dependent on how well a given site prevents females from making bad decisions whether by accident or design.
This I believe, is largely to do with too much choice. There's studies that prove people making decisions with limited choices are much happier over their decisions than people given a lot of choice. There's a book about this:
http://www.amazon.com/Paradox-Choice-Why-More-Less/dp/0060005688
It's like when you go to the supermarket to buy something and there's 20 brands of the same thing. No one has the brainpower to make an adequate comparison of of 20 different things. At that point one's initial criteria is out of the window. What do you do, pick one at a random. Pick the one that has the most impressive packaging? None of these choices have any kind of rational reasoning about them. I suspect the same effect happens on most/all dating sites.
Take for instance the 20 thumbnails on the the inbox page, I see no evidence that anyone is clicking on me when I appear in that list. Yet on another site where the choice is only 1 in 4, i get a good number of hits.
pof is unfortunately equivalent to chucking 500,000 people in a room and letting them figure it out for themselves. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/12/2008 10:07:51 PM | Boy I got a kick out of this one.
Every man who's tried online dating knows this scenario plays out everywhere. But hey ..did you really expect to fire up a bio and pics and suddenly be surrounded by a harem? Sure the paid sites what you to "think" that somehow the Internet is going to bring a bounty of babes but it's just not likely nor logical.
Take for instance the scenario of divorce. Typically the mother takes custody of the child and the father has visitation. Who's going to have more time to look for that next mate. The mother who's generally taking care of the children M-F and every other weekend or the father who's got more than enough time to hit the online sites looking for the next victim (j/k) ?
It makes total sense why there are more men on sites than women. It's a time thing for the most part and I for one don't mind that women get to be more selective. It's really no different than when you were in the local meatmarket. 90% of the women in the place probably looked at you and thought "nope" but there was no "papertrail" here you have that papertrail of "non response" or "brush off" emails. No foul..this is par for the course.
Men always benefit from selective women. They tend to be loyal to the man they finally let through. It's then our job not to screw that trust up. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/12/2008 11:54:52 PM |
But the ones who just add themselves and never say a word, CREEPY.
I don't add myself to others' favorites lists: I don't have that power. I add others to MY favorites list.
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/13/2008 1:11:08 AM | woobytoodsday Said,
I don't add myself to others' favorites lists: I don't have that power. I add others to MY favorites list.
OK, I stand corrected. But let's not split hairs here. It doesn't matter how a person gets added. I don't add any one i don't intend to speak to or hasn't spoken to me. It's creepy either way you cut it if i add you or you add me and we never speak to each other. As far as i can turn the favorites list is about as useless as tits on a boar hog and should be done away with. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/13/2008 1:16:13 AM |
Men always benefit from selective women. They tend to be loyal to the man they finally let through. It's then our job not to screw that trust up.
Excellent. Problem is finding the man we want to let through.
To the ones who will realize that while the majority of us are not 'beautiful' on the outside--we have much to offer on the inside. Most women will accept an average man because we find the whole package interesting, while most men are looking for the 'Girls Next Door'. For those without a TV-those are Hugh Hefner's over tucked, over siliconed, over bleached, mostly underbrained three live in girlfriends. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/13/2008 6:38:12 AM |
I don't add myself to others' favorites lists: I don't have that power. I add others to MY favorites list.
Exactly. Most of us don't keep track of or talk to a lot of the ones that add us.
Anywho...because of this thread, I have decided to add MORE hot local men to my favorites list...I'd hate to have men complaining that they don't get added as much as women do, so don't worry boys, I'm doing my share. Surprisingly, it's not that terrible. : ) | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/13/2008 11:19:07 AM | outofthedesert Said,
To the ones who will realize that while the majority of us are not 'beautiful' on the outside--we have much to offer on the inside. Most women will accept an average man because we find the whole package interesting, while most men are looking for the 'Girls Next Door'. For those without a TV-those are Hugh Hefner's over tucked, over siliconed, over bleached, mostly under brained, three live in girlfriends.
To tell you the honest truth i have been with some very pretty women in my time. I have also been with some average looking women . I personally found out that i get along better with a average looking woman. Reason being is the really pretty ones i went out with turned out to be very stuck on themselves. It's OK for a woman to feel pretty, But the ones i have been with were the "Pretty and know it" kind. They come across arrogant and "I am better than you" . That was always a turn off to me . To me, a average looking woman will score more points because they seem more reasonable about men and relationships. Don't get me wrong, I know there are some pretty ones out there that are just as pretty on the inside as they are on the outside i just never came across one. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/13/2008 11:38:01 AM | compactdisc Said,
c`mon then ladies please let a few more of us " average " guys thru and into your world and give us " average " guys a chance to prove our worth instead of snubbing us " average " guys.
Listen Dude, It's alright to blow off steam and talk about the things that bug us all but geeze man, don't beg. What you have said here sounds that way. If a woman wants to talk to me then that is OK. But if she doesn't, That's OK to. This is the way i look at it, There are to many women out there to worry about whether one wants to talk or not. I think i have already said this on this thread once. You have to learn to be comfortable in yourself before a woman will be comfortable with you. With what you said here it makes you seem needy. Believe me dude, to a woman that's a BIG turn off. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/14/2008 5:41:38 AM |
I don't add myself to others' favorites lists: I don't have that power. I add others to MY favorites list.
(DJChickie401) Exactly. Most of us don't keep track of or talk to a lot of the ones that add us.
And again: we know this HOW, exactly? We can only go by the evidence that we can sense. We don't know who's added you, or why. All we can see is the number.
Elementary, my dear DJC.
Anywho...because of this thread, I have decided to add MORE hot local men to my favorites list...I'd hate to have men complaining that they don't get added as much as women do, so don't worry boys, I'm doing my share.
Arlo | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:03:22 AM | The Profile Reviews forum is full of guys asking why women don't answer their emails. Why not ask the woman why she didn't answer? If a guy cared enough to ask, I'd tell him.
If a man sends me an email that makes it plain he has actually read my profile, I will respond, even if I don't think we'll hit it off. And if I don't want any more emails from him I will say why.
But if it looks like spam, I nuke it. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:25:43 AM |
And again: we know this HOW, exactly? We can only go by the evidence that we can sense. We don't know who's added you, or why. All we can see is the number.
Elementary, my dear DJC.
How about because I (and countless other women) have posted it? Just a shot in the dark....
How about you take all those women into consideration and find out if the one YOU are viewing is collecting favorites or has a lot of forum friends/strangers on her list by talking to her and finding out what she's about?
Naturally if she doesn't respond - then it's a moot point. You move on. Simple, simple. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 6/14/2008 1:22:38 PM | I fully agree... the women have full control on internet dating sites... and I agree with another reply on this thread... about most women are only on here for an ego boost...
Most are just here to play mind games and have no interest in finding love or even chatting... | |
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