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I would tend to agree with you in certain aspects of what you say in your post. I have an interesting reply posted in" Dating experiences - Aggressive men. . . .like 'em or not?" that you may want to read. The important thing is to understand, that all of this is learned behavior. We are products of our surroundings and reflect aptly to that notion.
We as society, as a civilization have undergone many transformations over our existence in regards to the favorable opposite sex. Science tells us that by shear instinct, we seek out a partner that exhibits favorable features that will extend our gene pool into the next generation.
History has shown us otherwise with fads and trends in all classes of society over human existence that this is not entirely true. Hence, there was a period in the 1920's for instance where the preferable female mate of choice by many was a women of a larger body size.
Currently the candidate for the ideal female mate seems to be that of something between what is airbrushed on magazine covers or what we have crammed down our throats by the mass media on a daily basis!
Have you ever noticed that in movies, commercials,etc. . . .that you hardly ever see people that are considered obese or unattractive by today's standards being used to promote products or make movies? Even on most "reality" shows. . .they hand pick who will be on the show in relation to the marketing demographic. The fact that is blatant. . .is that the very most intimate thing that we seek, be it love, has a "FOR SALE" sign on it. And this has and will become more of a cash crop for those that seek commercial prosperity. .. . solely at the expense of each and every one of us! And yes, some women that fit the "GOOD LOOKING" by today's standards category, are reaping in the spoils of this modern day commercialism of humanity and can't get enough of it.
We are becoming a disposable society in mindset, where it is getting easier for each of us as "individuals" to break away from the common ties that have held humanity together, to being numb to the effects that we have upon each other. The term "independent" as an individual has come at a great cost to all of us and yet again this to has given way to offer another opportunity to capitalize on our emotions. . . .it's all about money!!!!!
I've been involved with online dating, on and off for some 5 years now. When I first discovered it, it was in it's true infancy. . .a hush,hush topic. It did not hold the appeal that is rising in it's favor now. Then again this industry has grown into a multibillion dollar venture for the top dating sites. I'm glad there are still sites like this around that offer some of the basic services for free. One thing you may have noticed, is look at the pictures of the women on the full pay sites as opposed to the free sites! I noticed there are more of what we consider "good looking" women that have profiles posted there as opposed to the free sites. Why do think that is????????? MONEY!!!!!!!!!
Cause yet again, the greedy almighty business machine has forged it's way into another area of our lives. I often wondered about this early on. . . .I mean how many of the profiles are legitimate and how many are creations by those companies to entice consumers to lay out their cash in hopes to meet with and form a relationship with one of the" beautiful people"!
And I see recently that my suspicions have been warrented. . .in fact it is being found that dating sites have been doing just as I have fore mentioned. How nice it is to see once again that our emotions are being exploited! Things we do to each other in this world just amazes me!
Not to say that there are not some legitimate people on dating sites or that it doesn't work. I have had one relationship that was formed from meeting online. . . .lasted about a year. And others that have become friendships that have spanned the entire length of the time I have been at online dating sites.
I've found that a good mixture of online dating and dating the conventional methods are a decent approach. One kinda cancels out the other and allows one to remain Sane! Just know that your not the only guy on these sites that has had this experience. You write almost verbatim, what I have seen others write before about the experiences that they have faced on these sites. Even for myself, I have been down this road more times that I care to admit, yet I have gain great wisdom from it all!
Most of the women you are writing to are not going to respond to you and that in itself should tell you something about their character. . I'd stay away from them all together. It may be more of a mindset change, yet I personally go for the average girl that displays a uniqueness about her that is unparalleled in comparison to the cookie cutter trophy girl that every man supposedly wants these days. You'll find a more genuine, realistic woman without outrageous expectations and more realistic requirements that I think are a little easier to work with.
And the most important thing, is to devise the ability to not let online dating become any more personal than you have to. . .don't take it personally if you write a woman and you never hear from hear. Just keep moving forward and ahead and you'll find her. . . .nothing good comes easy. Once you do find her .. . .you'll see she was worth everything you've gone through thus far.

I think maybe that men are suspicious of women who make the first move, especially if they are attractive.

(bigshrek) If someone obviously hasn't taken the time to READ your profile before messaging you, they should expect to be deleted without an answer.

(prettite) 1. I think a lot of women don't understand that you guys expect a reply even when we're not interested. Most women I've talked to would prefer not to receive any reply then to receive a rejection, including myself.

2. I personally have tried several attempted initiations, with very little success. I think maybe that men are suspicious of women who make the first move, especially if they are attractive. They are probably wondering what an attractive woman is doing on here to begin with. So I don't usually do that anymore.

Try to be the best you can be, and don't wear your heart on your sleeve, and don't take it to heart when you don't get a response.

Isn't it better than hearing "thanks, but not interested?"

the topic title is obvious. no debate is necessary. i don't understand why the moderators are allowing a debate in futility.

I've come to the conclusion that people like drama and games in their lives and that rather than just accepting the way men and women are and moving the hell on with life and love, they continue to try to change people.

With "most" all women searching in vain for their pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, only a few will receive it, for most of us guys are not millionaires, or well-off but have an "average" income and lifestyle.