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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 7/23/2008 4:43:02 AM |
(curlyboop) You'll have to ask the guys in NY/NJ that question. A lot of then seem to want Sex and the City chicks. Not me.
Good thing, too, that you don't want a "Sex and the City" chick! 
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/10/2008 11:33:48 AM | | Dude, I beg to differ. It sucks for women too, I should know. Each and every one I have met on this site so far has turned into absolutely nothing and they don't even have the decency to say that they are not interested. I think I am just about ready to give up on this dating thing. I'm beginning to think I am better off on my own. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/10/2008 2:59:10 PM | I dont know if I can be of any help,lol, but I was reading about how women find men in uniform sexy. As much as it sounds stupid to me, some women out there would do anything to date an officer, a firefighter or a military guy in uniform like me
Try to put new pictures in your profile and ask your female friends to give suggestions to change your profile :)
If something dont work, try something else. cheers | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/10/2008 3:26:48 PM | I dont know if I can be of any help,lol, but I was reading about how women find men in uniform sexy. As much as it sounds stupid to me, some women out there would do anything to date an officer, a firefighter or a military guy in uniform like me
Correction: A guy already good looking IN a uniform is what women find sexy, not just any guy in a uniform. Women are going to look at an average looking guy in a uniform how she looks at most men...actually women are not going to look at them at all. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/10/2008 5:40:01 PM | lol read the original post and had to laugh i agree with everything the op said, obviously some women had to jump on this and say women have it bad too but really? like the op said I believe most women on the net tend to go for guys that are hotter than they would get in real life and to be honest why would the guy want to settle for less? When I say less I mean less as to what u would normally go for, or what you find attractive, not in the case of a lot of women online less as in terms of less than what the hottest person who emailed you is.
The whole online dating thing annoys me asI dont think im bad lookin but if I sent a email to an average looking chick-ie pretty but not stunning (im not fussy) I know it will be a near miracle to get a reply, even tho im sure if I was in a bar she mite at least talk to me.
Until women change their high expectations there will always be this stalemate, and to the women saying if internet dating so bad just stick to real life dating- Next time you go out bring a male friend or bf with you and get him to go talk to girls, U would be surprised at how rude and disinterested a lot of women are these days. You probably dont notice it cos you never see it from the guys point of view | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/10/2008 8:01:24 PM | Internet dating sucks depending on the individual. If you are hot - whether male or female, you will fare well. If you are literate or funny, you will fare well. If you are willing to get out of your comfort zone, you will fare well.
Like life, online is what you make it. People are attracted to shiny, happy people and its not something you can fake indefinitely. You need to be well-adjusted and accepting of yourself before others can accept you. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/11/2008 2:49:56 AM | BOOOOO HOOOOO HOOOOOO!!!!!!!!
Poor good looking guy!!!!
He's not getting the kind of play and action that he thinks he's entitled to!!!
Ummm.......where's the Smiley with the big "L" on the forehead? LMAO!
Imagine that! And lowly little me gets hits and unsolicited messages all of the time!
Mebbe those 15 first contacts saw right thru your line of BS ???
Usually, the women on here are tired of the "just looks" thing and are looking for quality "internally"!
Hmmmmm..........maybe you should start working on that or return to what is familiar to you? | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/11/2008 10:04:04 AM | some of the women losers here are losers on other sites as well ! if you check around
a bit some of the 'prolific, know-it all female posters' migrate to several dating sites
and spend time clickity-clicking their lives away here too....
amazing, but dumb stuff.....forum, pedantic, omnipresent, overly-involved posters
like your friend pinkstar | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/11/2008 10:51:21 AM | | lol at dirtyben, maybe if u didnt have it so good u wouldnt be so pompous, but the fact is u have to put way to much effort for so little return. I know im not self centered and can hold a conversation bout more than just sex but the reality is ill never get a look in because i dont look like a model. There will always be exceptions to the rule such as u ben but its a lil soul destroyin to send out how many emails, in order to get such a small response. I feel the op was right in his venting and had every right to say what he said | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/11/2008 11:03:19 AM | Eh, it's an ancient thread nd doesn't matter anymore and who cares? lol
The only reason that I get the POF action that I get, is purely due to personality.
You, my friend, are a far more better lookin and slimmer fella than myself.
So, If you aren't "feelin" it on POF, then it's one of two things.
#1. your profile sux or is boring and un-original.
or
#2. You are not demonstrating your personality to such an extent that they can identify with you.
Also, when you send out a first contact, she is on guard and very cautious. Also, you must contend with the dozens to hundreds of OTHER guys that have also messaged her. Unless you are DYNAMITE in standing out and impressing her, no chance buddy!
But, if you let THEM come to you? then the guard is down and you know that they are at least curious, if not interested! | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 8/11/2008 12:12:54 PM | A man has to bend over backwards to say the right things to get a woman's attention on this site, and that's only after he has just the right photo to get her to notice in the first place.
All a woman has to do is post a picture of her cleavage and doesn't have to say a word. | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 8/11/2008 2:40:29 PM | There should be a price tag next to each persons picture... of the older so-called wonderful ladies at least for sure..............
This will simplify things...also,,, each person who is emailing should put thier net worth...
So the wonderful ladies will not have to work so hard, finding out how much is half of the potential settelment...
This will also saAAAAAAave us men a great deal of time...so we can work harder so we can have more money to take them to nicer places,,, so they will like us more,,,and we can just write them the settelment checks faster so they can spend it on some new worthlees endever... and we can move on to a thread that has a calcualtor in it so we will know how much it will cost to date each wonderful ladys,,,,,,, AMATEURIZED, on a monthly basis ...
And, THE, entire concept of Internet dating is a nothing more or less than a joke,,, if it were not so I would have received AT LEAST ONE,,,single e-mail in the last 135 e-mails that I have sent out that would've been of a positive nature in regards to a reply...
These women are self-centered selfish and basically either broke or close to destitute as you could possibly be and still be breathing...
Knowing that some poor slob will come along and pick up the slack as soon as they roll off their feet and onto their BACK...
135 e-mails I sent out over nine months not a single positive reply,, and yes I can certainly understand why since I started posting I haven't gotten any positive responses but there were a hundred before that and each and every single one of THEM, in a,,
Where individually written to the individual woman that I wrote them TOOO....
Not a single positive reply, a and this is before as I said I started posting...
You tell me,,, why a person who works extremely hard and has many nice things owning a home in one of the nicest neighborhoods in America can't get a date from some skanky alcohol with three banged out credit cards and a beat up old jalopy...
Okay I will tell you... I make it perfectly clear that I am not looking for a woman that is broke and or destitute with a drug or alcohol problem....
That is why I don't receive e-mails of a positive nature,,,, it just seems that every single woman, a whether they say they drink or not and have a job or not one to make it perfectly clear in the e-mail and from reading my profile they're simply not interested and that is just simply fine who wants another, I'll call it drug addicted damn near destitute woman with a beat up old jalopy banging on your door at three o'clock in the morning...
Anywhere else in America besides South Florida and I wouldn't have a day off from dating and they would pay for dinner,,, but no NOT,here in South Florida,, the man has got to be a drug addict and alcoholic and hang out in bars five nights a week to get of a date with drug addict and alcoholic woman...
Otherwise tell me why I shouldn't get any positive e-mails,,, except for the fact that they read my postings now and I really don't care...
So you men, who also don't receive any replies to your e-mails should not feel alone in a quest for a good woman because there simply aren't any... and I know this because I have e-mailed all the ones that say they are in fact good hard-working ladies who are looking for long-term relationships...
They are all full of crap!
It's a God damned joke!!!!
THE keys guy369 | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/11/2008 3:36:32 PM | Hi is a woman allowed to reply to this? I have not long joined on here and yes you are right you can be bombarded with emails and IM's which unfortunately is why in the end you don't even try to answer, it becomes hopeless, I took this to be because I am a new face and soon it will go deathly quiet. With regard to you stating about women being picky and choosy, I do refer to chemistry in my profile and we are all attracted to different people for whatever reason, who I find attractive my friends would probably say what is she doing with him? Invariably we are all attracted by looks first and you could be the best looking guy in the world but without a personality and chemistry on the date it's going nowhere! I just don't think you can generalise about looks for that reason , it just sounds more like you are miffed because somebody you were attracted to didn't answer, well like you said you don't have a problem when you are out, so you just weren't that particular woman's cup of tea. Personally what does it for me is a nice smile, a soft face and warm eyes and I haven't seen many smiling faces on here I put my hands up to rarely initiating contact with a guy, not because I am stuck up but because I am shy and old fashioned!You are right I wouldn't be a guy for the world. However there are also a lot of sleaze balls on here who IM you and start with HI SEXY, (I'm not saying you did)well you know where that conversations going don't you, in two words ,so again I will probably disappear at that point, so to say it is an ego boost is not entirely true sometimes you feel you are not getting any respect at all actually and you crave normal intelligent conversation! If you actually go through a stack of photos on search how many people are you actually attracted to per page we are all unique for a reason because somebody will be attracted to your particular uniqueness and the quest to find that person could be a very long one. Hope this sheds a different light on it for you and we can all be friends  x | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 8/11/2008 3:43:01 PM | sorry I have to disagree there ,if you stuck a pic on here in just your thong I would  about laughing , likewise when I see guys flexing muscles with their tops off, so if it's really that easy for us girls to just get our cleavage out ,what is that saying about the guys, that they really are that shallow,I think you have just insulted them or is it a guy thing?  | |
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 8/11/2008 4:11:19 PM |
it just sounds more like you are miffed because somebody you were attracted to didn't answer,
anjula: It's not that somebody that he was attracted to didn't answer him. It's the fact that EVERYBODY that he was attracted to didn't answer him!
If his messages were anything similar in tone to THAT post? I don't think that sheep would reply!!!
Mebbe he should just be like me?
It ain't easy bein this cheesy!!!!
Can't lose your cool man.
I won't mention that somebody first contacted because of what I wrote in this thread alone.
OOPS!!!! Did I let that slip out??? | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/11/2008 7:06:03 PM | Jeez, I can tell ya from my experience that gals have it tough too. I have no problem messaging a guy I find interesting, but very few have responded. And NO I don't get 100's of e-mails a day, probably because I dont have a pic of myself with my-ahem assets hanging out for the world to see. Guys are just as rude on this site as gals. On a place like this its unfortunate that looks are pretty much what gets the attention of people. I myself like to see some substance and thought put into a profile, but there obviously has to be an attraction of some sort. I know that a lot of people don't have great pics so you have to take it with a grain of salt.
I guess you just have to keep plugging away. Maybe you are seeking out the wrong gals, how picky are you about who you try and message? Maybe you need to be a bit more open-minded yourself.
I hope it works out for you. I like to think that we are all looking for that special someone, and you can't just expect to find them without putting in the effort. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/11/2008 7:22:23 PM | I came to the conclusion a long time ago that the only men that would beat a path to my door were couriers. You need to get out there online just as if you were at a bar or dance - tits up, smile dammit! Try to be pleasant and for the love of god, stop ragging off about how it sucks to be you.
No one wants to hang out with angry people or those having a pity party (yeah, I know, it's your party & you can whine if you want to), but the reality is you need to be fit company in order to date. Take stock of yourself; what you seek in life; who you are. Accept yourself warts and all. There truly is someone for everyone out there - granted, some people are hogging all the hotties, but hey, eventually it will come around. You just need to be open to it.
Oh, ....and Ben? You are hot.... I'll ttyl
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| Internet dating: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!
Posted: 8/11/2008 7:51:08 PM |
A man has to bend over backwards to say the right things to get a woman's attention on this site, and that's only after he has just the right photo to get her to notice in the first place.
Not only does a man has to bend over backwards to get a woman's attention, he has to do a complete circus act.
They say having photos increases your chances here, that wasn't the case for me. The only thing putting photos in my profile did for me was having more women check out my profile. thats it. | |
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| Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 8/11/2008 8:05:12 PM |
It sucks for guys, plain and simple. And dont come and tell me that its the same for women too because that is bull sh it. Um.. I've been on several dating sites with a photo and let me tell you online dating sucks for attractive women as there are not many good looking guys on dating sites.. same as in public. Alot of the attractive men (my age) are taken and are not on dating sites I've been on...that's just the honest truth. I think most people here are to meet friends and chit chat online. But hey, the site makes money with our traffic. | |
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