| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 7/8/2006 11:31:22 AM |
But seriously, as a tall girl...who likes to wear heels...not even the 4 inch ones...just one, two, and occasionally three inch....I don't want to tower over the guy that I am with...makes for awkwardness...
Who is awkward here? You or the guy? I have dated a girl 4 inches taller than me and she nor I were awkward. And she had 20, yes 20 big O's when we were intimate. I hardly think she felt awkward.
I think what you meant to say was you feel awkward wondering what everybody else is thinking about you being taller than your guy. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 7/9/2006 5:27:48 PM | | I doubt that it is just the ladies that prefer men that are taller than them. I am sure most (not all) men also prefer ladies that are at least a little shorter than themselves. Why, perhaps because just as women like to feel protected and secure, men also like to be the protector. Women generally feel safer in the arms of a bigger and taller man (teddy bear type of guy) and men seem to like a woman they can easily pick up and generally protect. It all goes back to gender roles. Of course, we have all also seen couples who have the roles reversed, tall woman with short man, working wife with stay at home husband, decisive and commanding woman with submissive man. Anything goes, whatever makes you comfortable! | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 7/9/2006 5:36:44 PM | I'm 5'8 so maybe that's part of my problem!  I guess ya gotta be at least 6 foot tall, or else go join a monastery.
What's this thing about women wanted to be "protected"? I don't think I'd want to date someone who was so afraid of the world that they felt they had to date guys that were much taller than them. What do they want, a boyfriend or a bodyguard?
Sometimes I see really tiny women with big tall guys. I think they look silly. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 7/9/2006 5:53:21 PM |
I doubt that it is just the ladies that prefer men that are taller than them. I am sure most (not all) men also prefer ladies that are at least a little shorter than themselves. Why, perhaps because just as women like to feel protected and secure, men also like to be the protector. Women generally feel safer in the arms of a bigger and taller man (teddy bear type of guy) and men seem to like a woman they can easily pick up and generally protect.
What short guys are saying this? Where? Who? When? I haven't seen a short guy on here complain about a woman being taller yet.
And just for the record once again, just because a guy is taller doesn't make him a better protector. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/15/2006 12:41:38 PM | | i think short guys are very attractive im a thin woman only 105 lb.s im tall though 5'7" but i prefer someone my height or shorter | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/15/2006 12:49:15 PM | Tall or short...I think if the guy is cool with his height than so am I. I am 5ft8 and love to wear heels..if he doesnt mind me looking down at his bald spot (now that I may have an issue with!lol) neither do I. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/15/2006 1:18:47 PM | | It is nice to see that a real woman can appreciate a shorter guy . We are usually a better cuddler too!! And more appreciative of women. The biggest is that the average hieght 4 a guy is still 5`6 and that meens alot of you ..... girls are missing out only cuz your short sited !!!!! Less tall guys to try to find a nice guy!! I find as a guy that bigger usually means bigger in alot of ways an not at all whats in their pants!!! Bigger ego`s , ***holes an womenizers. They r big on themselves an alot I bet has to do with the astigma... girls like tall guys! So your actually at fault in someway as to why they r the way they r an so go girl go!!! Ya want the ass`s your gonna get what ya deserve. Im not saying all tall guys are this w3ay an not sayin all small guys are nice but it is sure an uneven balance that we ( short guys ) come out on top!!! Arent you tired of being treated like that? Comon dont be so short lived!!!!! I am 5`8 and wiegh in at 165 an always have I am well endowed an have never had a complaint from a woman. Especially my hieght! And my last relationship was 4 11 yrs . Beat that you tall guys!!! And she an I are still best friends ...Why ? Cuz short guys r nice !!!! Give it a try with an open mind not a short one... Thanx 4 being so womanly Kate cuz you will find a very nice guy that will appreciate you 4 who you r!!! | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/15/2006 2:05:50 PM |
The biggest is that the average hieght 4 a guy is still 5`6 and that meens alot of you ..... big toy-z...the average height of US males all ages all ethniticity is 5' 9 1/2" | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/15/2006 2:08:53 PM | I'm 5'3". I don't want to pass that issue on to any future children I may have, especially since I was told I'm going to have 3 sons. *lol*
I'm not sure why I'm not attracted to shorter men, other than the fact that all the important men in my life have been taller than I am. Maybe it's just a habit. Plus, I have really big brown eyes, and I gain the advantage over most men when I can look UP at them and give them my patented sad face | |
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chinua
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Joined: 9/30/2005
Msg: 361 | |
| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/15/2006 6:53:28 PM | I used to be picky about height...........not anymore I will date a short guy............unless he brags about being 'better' than taller guys..............thats a total turn off.........
As for the poster before me..........kids don't always inherit their parents height- neither one of my brothers are as tall my dad(who's 6')...... | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/15/2006 9:03:02 PM | Venus1214 wrote:
"I am 5ft8 and love to wear heels..if he doesnt mind me looking down at his bald spot (now that I may have an issue with!lol) neither do I."
OK, Venus. In my 4" heels, I am 5' 10". Does that work for you? | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/15/2006 9:07:49 PM | moviebuff4u wrote:
"speaking as a short guy ( 5'4" ) i am mystified by this and also feel that i am being treated like second class."
The second class treatment is a form of discrimination and prejudice called heightism. | |
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mizbex
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Joined: 7/14/2006
Msg: 364 | |
| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/16/2006 3:46:01 AM | | I don't know how many more "short guy" posts I can take. I prefer shorter men, but with muscular builds. The truth of the matter is this, most shorter men make a bigger deal out of their height than anyone else does therefore letting it affect their personality and everything else they have to offer. My ex was 5'8 and an ex Marine and a runner, also very handsome, in our 17 years together, I don't think we ever spoke about his height, it was a non-issue. Normally, when a shorter man has a problem dating or finding women, it has nothing to do with his height. Think about it. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/16/2006 4:57:23 AM | Well I am only 5'7"
I can defend and protect my friends or someone I am dating better than most Tall guys.
Alot of tall guys that I know are kind of wimpy.
I do tend to date shorter than me although I have dated girls taller than me and it didnt seem to be a problem. | |
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weena
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Joined: 7/21/2006
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/16/2006 5:03:34 AM | | as long as the guy doesn't have a problem with me being taller than him when I put on my heels, we're good to go! | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/16/2006 7:14:34 AM | | I couldn't agree with you more... on all counts! I'm 5'5" and am attracted to tall men as well, but over 6'..! I've gotten emails where the guy is 5'8 and says "I'll wear heals"... one guy actually got insulted. Like you said, we all have our likes and dislikes, and we shouldn't have to justify our tastes..! | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/16/2006 12:10:11 PM | YAWN  You know a topic has been done to death when the 5'5" guy who you think should be empathetic is sick of the complaints. It's not just the height issue either that's bugging me already. Am I too tall? Am I too short? Am I too fat? Am I too bald?
Do you people not venture outdoors? Look around! I see couples in all varying shapes and sizes. Sometimes they're physically matched, sometime they're not. Yes, your physical attributes play a role but trust me, that's the least of your problems. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/16/2006 2:26:04 PM | Do you people not venture outdoors?
^^^Nope, they're busy making their "checklists" longer.
It's a race between Gravity and Mr. Perfect.
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/16/2006 4:44:08 PM | | I have often thought I was the only woman alive that didn't care about how tall a man is! A beautiful man is a beautiful man- regardless of his height. You have to be considerate and intelligent to capture my heart, whether you are 5'5 or 7'5. The only problem is that short guys get weighed down by the rest of society (and some cruel female comments) about being short and it being unmasculine, and then you wind up with some short guys with "short guy complex". Uuugh... now that is an ugly syndrome of uber-masculinity that results in the short guy being overly macho, picking fights and driving trucks that are too big for anyone not hauling a trailer full of livestock. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/16/2006 5:00:09 PM | | My ex husband was only 5'8" and I never knew he was considered short until someone told me he was. I thought he was the perfect height for me | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/16/2006 5:55:29 PM | I think this thread, like so many of the other threads about physical attributes, is perpetuated by this whole online dating thing. Online dating has created a menu mentality when it comes to dating. It forces us to define our "type" that we are looking to date. height, body type, hair color, age. We get so used to browsing/searching for potential dates using these qualifiers that we have all become driven by them. I think in the "real world" of dating we are much less dependent upon these physical parameters. Sure, looks may initially get you attention in the real world. But then personality, charisma, character etc follow that up very quickly. Someone may be moderately attracted to your looks, at least enough to interact with you, but it is the personality that builds upon that initial attraction. Or in some cases someone may not be all that attracted by your looks but your personality is very attractive to them. This is missing in the online dating arena.
When we use online dating all we have are these static physical attributes to go on. Sure we have a cleverly crafted (he says tongue firmly in cheek) profile that defines who we want to portray ourselves as. But it is that menu of physical attributes that we use to even select whose profile we want to peruse.
Folks, it all comes down to personal preference. We all have to have some criteria of who we date and who we are attracted to. Otherwise, none of us would be here cause it simply would be a dating free-for-all in the real world. We have to accept peoples preferences for what they are. Sure, I have been disapointed that some of the women i have been attracted to found me too short, or lacking a full head of hair. But those are the things they like, the things they want in a man. We all have these preferences, so we cannot denegrate someone elses preferences just cause they do not include us. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/16/2006 6:22:59 PM | ^^^I agree with what you say but want to add something. This preference thing has gotten much worse and continues to do so since the online dating scene began. Why are there so many beautiful women who can't find a man? Nobody will tell me there were this many lonely people before the internet dating option popped into play.
Being picky is great. A huge grocery list of "have to haves" is great AS LONG AS YOU CAN GET THAT and very few can and are... so hence they remain single for years and years waiting for a breath taker to come by. We as a society are getting pickier, and more demanding, we want things yesterday...not now. We are used to changing whatever it is with any product we buy until we are completely satisified. We are used to instant gratification with everything. And unfortunately it has rubbed off into dating. We are all in a catalog and that is not the way we were supposed to be hunted. Sorry, we are getting a bit spoiled and we want, expect, and demand it all when and how we want it. Some people on this planet are happy just to get a meal each day while others....(think they are the planet) | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/26/2006 11:01:48 PM | | I have been on this site for more than a year and it appears that most women base attractiveness on height. I am 5 foot 3. I am a nice guy which is what most women say they want however I send them a message and they dont even have the common decency to respond and say that they are not interested... Too many women on here base what they feel is attractive as numbers. Tell me where are the women that dont care about height? | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 8/26/2006 11:17:42 PM | I have to say that basing a decision to date someone based on height is indeed discrimination. We as short men have had a hard enough time in life. Men that are taller get better jobs, raises easier and all that stuff. Why is societies view that the man has to be taller than the woman. I mean I am 5 foot 3 . I guess woman that wont date a man based on his height or lack there of feel superior in some way than those shorter men. I mean for years women have been looking for the "bad boy" types and they all seem to get treated like crap. So maybe they think that they can in turn take the revenge out on the shorter guy cause he will not put up a fight. That is dead wrong. I am someone that will at a moments notice stand up for myself. I am not saying I have the short man attitude I am just saying that I am not afraid to stand up for myself and I dont care how tall the person is I am standing up to
I mean I simply wish that women would be more honest on here. Tell me you dont date short guys. I hate it when someone just assumes that I will forget... so they dont even show common courtesy and respond and say they are not interested. How hard is to respond and say you are not interested. Not that hard at all. I mean women state what they want
a nicey guy
a honest guy
a good communicator
a sense of humor
Nowhere do they put they wont date short guys. So maybe they are just simply looking for attention becausue they are missing it from other pats of there lfe
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