| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/9/2008 4:45:31 PM | I am almost 5'11...and I do not like short guys as dating material. I have dated someone that was 5'9 and it just didn't do it for me. I want to feel like the girl. I want to wear heels and not feel ginormous. Plus, short guys complain eventually about my height, because they want to be manly as well. It is just not attractive to me. I want to be picked up and held, I want to be thrown around on the bed, I want to not have someones feet touching my calves when we are making out, and he is on top of me. I don't want to feel like I am with a little boy, I want to look up to kiss someone, not down. Those are my reasons. To each his/her own. Besides, there's someone for everyone right?  | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/9/2008 4:56:24 PM |
I broke my rule and went for a date with a shorter guy recently (thought I may have been too selective before) only to be asked if I minded walking in the road whilst he was on the pavement so he looked taller!
I'll stick to my guns and go for the taller guy if you don't mind! (If I ever find any! lol)
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Sorry You had bad luck on your date with a short guy. I think it is a mistake shunning us all because of some loser who does not represent us all. I am secure in my hight..i am sorry that your date was not. He is some one I'd break my rule of Pacifism over .
Thee are good guys and bad guys at any hight.
I have never dated a man that is shorter than me. It's not because I wouldn't want to date one. Since I'm 5'5" and the height of an average man is 5' 9", most men would be taller than me.
Well if ever a short man were in your area that meets your criteria give him a chance by all means.I like your attitude. Some short men thinkl they are at a disadvantage and do not even ask average or tall women out.
As for Annikat and Marius. I havve to say If your going to argue or fight do it on your own time through emails and not here. I am inclined however to agree with marius, because as a tall man, I find my self very masculine in many ways and even more so than some of these "taller men" . I will agree with you annikat that evolution has made us the way we are (thought someone of your beliefe system should never use evelution as any berring of human nature!) I will also aree that it is prefference of yours to like tall men ( not every one though) and that some men ( not me) go for larger breasts. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/9/2008 5:04:14 PM |
I am almost 5'11...and I do not like short guys as dating material. I have dated someone that was 5'9 and it just didn't do it for me. I want to feel like the girl. I want to wear heels and not feel ginormous. Plus, short guys complain eventually about my height, because they want to be manly as well. It is just not attractive to me. I want to be picked up and held, I want to be thrown around on the bed, I want to not have someones feet touching my calves when we are making out, and he is on top of me. I don't want to feel like I am with a little boy, I want to look up to kiss someone, not down. Those are my reasons. To each his/her own. Besides, there's someone for everyone right?
That is your prefernce and I can not fauklt you on that. I will say that The right man ( regardless of sture) will make you feel like a girl. It is attitude and sex apeal. It is confidnece and swagger. A tall man just has to be tall, a short man has to be all the things I listed.
I jneever have complained about my hight ( or most things for that matter) I hate it when opeople complain to me, so why do it to others. We all complain from time to time. It is all part of human nature.
I am weight lifter so I can pick up and hold you despite your amazon stature.Sitting in someone lap you are looking up to kiss them usually .
Yes you like tall men, and you are quite tall. it is a preference, but the right guy is out ther for you, regardless of stature. You want to feel all girly, there is a man for you despite how tall he is. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/9/2008 5:10:24 PM | kissofbliss...
If a woman is unable to feel like a woman or feminine with an avg or shorter man, then wouldn't this lead to the fact that the woman is insecure with herself if she needs an outside factor to feel feminine?
You ended by saying, "There's someone for everyone right?" I would like to believe that there is, but when both shorter and taller women want a tall guy then it doesn't leave much for the avg and short statured men. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/9/2008 5:15:24 PM |
kissofbliss...
If a woman is unable to feel like a woman or feminine with an avg or shorter man, then wouldn't this lead to the fact that the woman is insecure with herself if she needs an outside factor to feel feminine?
You ended by saying, "There's someone for everyone right?" I would like to believe that there is, but when both shorter and taller women want a tall guy then it doesn't leave much for the avg and short statured men.
I have to agree with you. I hear it from a alot of women. " i cant date a short man, cause I have to feel like a women." The ecuses are always the same, about dinner and dancing. It is how you feel about your self in publivc. I love how they al;so use that the guys "complain" about her or their own hight. Insecurity is insecurity. Tall women are as much an out cast for many men as are short men. It is threads like these and media that contiue to make men and women insecure about hight. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/9/2008 11:11:41 PM | I wasn't going to respond to this thread; actually, debated whether to put my two cents in, but said.."What the hay..."....so here goes.
When I was 19 (I'm 46 now), I was involved with a man that was 6'4". We went out for three years and, I was very distraught when it ended. (Not going to get into the reasons and explanation on why it didn't pan out..but whatever...)..the point is, since that time, I have dated men that are shorter. I have always felt a bit intimidated with men that I have had to look WAY UP HIGH to or stand on my tippy toes to give them a kiss or a hug. It just isn't comfortable. I don't feel "protected or safe" by men that are tall that most women state... AND don't give me that, "But it works when you are horizontal comment" as I JUST don't feel it. I am 5'4" and feel like I am shrinking as I am getting older and just prefer men that are closer to my height. (About 5'6" to about maybe the tallest...6'0", but not even sure about the 6" part...)
I just like the shoulders being closer together when we are walking hand in hand and everything just feels more "cozy" to me. That's my two cents worth. Take it or leave it...your choice. ~~Beth~~ | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/9/2008 11:31:49 PM | Well if this is a "contribute your 2 cents" thread, let me just add that my preferences seem to change at different stages in my life. I sometimes only am attracted to tall men and sometimes really prefer men closer to my own 5'9". I even once had a crush on a man who was an inch shorter than me, though in general I tend to not be turned on by a man I look down to make eye contact with.
I think when you are meeting men through online dating there is more of a tendency to use filters for attraction, with height for men and weight for women probably being the most pervasive ones. But when you meet people in person, especially if you socialize with them over time, then you fall for the person and the body package means less. Online its more an idea of a person you are attracted to (or not) rather than the actual person. Even once you meet, it's out of context so you put more emphasis on descriptives and what those supposedly mean to you.
I think shorter men, heavier women, darker women, etc. do better socializing to meet mates than going online looking for them. You have to work past too many prejudices when people can only know you as a list of attributes and your attributes aren't the ones in vogue. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/10/2008 8:38:29 PM |
I think shorter men, heavier women, darker women, etc. do better socializing to meet mates than going online looking for them. You have to work past too many prejudices when people can only know you as a list of attributes and your attributes aren't the ones in vogue.
I think this should be sort of the "take-away" point from this thread. But I don't we should be neutral on these people who use prejudices to filter people out. I can't say that they are "bad people" but they certainly are "shallow people". And yet, you still have many people on this thread who think that it makes perfect sense to filter people based on some arbitrary height or weight or any other physical characteristic.
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/10/2008 10:18:27 PM | depends on how you define shorter. anyone below 5'8" is probably not going to do it for me although that isn't written in stone....it is the whole package that matters. Recently i met a guy who may or may not be as tall as 5'8" (I think he fibbed) but he is so awesome i am seeing him again. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/10/2008 11:18:44 PM | | virgogrl, I hope this new guy doesn't ever read your post, because objectively, it's pretty offensive. You're a teacher so presumably, you're intelligent. Turn your statement around and substitute weight, or bust size (or any de-constructive measure of a person's value... or just the self-image issues that you're rather sensitive about) then see how special it makes you feel. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/10/2008 11:53:32 PM | | I am 5'7 and I've dated a lot of woman who are taller than me, But I do wonder if many woman have turned me down due to my height. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/11/2008 12:06:04 AM | | Many women are incredibly shallow and its odd how a woman who is 5 foot nothing-5 foot 4 and weaighs 110-120 wants a guy 5'10 or tallker and weighs twice of what she weighs. Who wants to be crushed? I guess many women are shallow when it comes to height and many men are shallow when it comes to a woman's weight. I'm not that picky as long as the girl does not crush me weighs less than 200lbs, height does not matter to me we are all the same size laying down. But in reality I prefer a girl under 5'8 and I don;t care how short she is. But if I met a girl who was 6 foot tall I might date her if she was willign to date a short guy. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/11/2008 9:12:42 AM | | Short guys need love too. Do not pick on women who date short guys, maybe they did not get anything else. Women are average 5'5", so an average 5'9" tall man is okay. But alas! Most women get dissapointed online when their man tell them they are 6' 1" and in person they are 5'8", so what is the real deal? Do they care or not?????? | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/11/2008 10:22:33 AM | | I prefer someone taller than me...lol...but at 5'4", and that is stretching it a bit, I like anyone taller than me.lol! | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/11/2008 10:36:47 AM | Ok Kate, so I haven't read the whole thread here but I must be one of the SHORTEST guys on here, and I've really not had the same experience as most men when it comes to getting a date or a long term prospect. Some woman feel short men are 'scrappy' because they think they have to try harder and fight for what they want. Not all men are like that, and I think it is a shame that nature has chosen to suggest that woman inadvertently look at taller men because they are a better fertility prospect, and a protector all in one.
It's really sad as I've only ever had one girlfriend in my pityful adult life (only pityful to the extent of the lack of partners) and in the end, I didn't completely fall for her because she was the only experience I'd ever had of being with someone and I guess I wanted to be more 'normal' by having had several partners.
I've been on this site on and off over the years, and often I find the frustration of others a comfort on the forums. You're either an instant likeable person or you're not. It's so harsh to be weighed up so quickly by your height, even though females I've talked to in the past are kind and say that being 5.0ft is not a problem. If 5.8ft is short then what must I be???!
There is a site I found recently for those under 5.8 (which I wont post here) but there aren't a lot of people on there and they are mainly guys.
Kate, thanks for bringing this up as it's an interesting topic...
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/11/2008 5:29:44 PM | Chances are us short guys will have better luck in real life than we will ever do in online dating. Here we're looking at profiles and see if we like the idea of the person, while in real life there are so many more potential variables than can make all of us more appealing.
The idea of a short guy in the dating world isn't really all that great. I think all of us who are short has felt that at least once in our lives. So instantly we're fighting an uphill battle that chances are we can't win, anything else is probably less important when it comes to the majority of the girls looking for a guy online. Just look at all the short guy threads, I think there's more short man posts and discussions than anything else on this site.
I've personally accepted the fact that this is how it's going to be. These are the rules and whether we like it or not, the rules aren't going to change drastically anytime soon. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/11/2008 5:38:41 PM | | Seems to me that it is all about how someone carries themselves. The "presence" that they have. Sadly though, none of us can help who we are or are not attracted to. I know personally there isn't one particual "type" that I find attractive...just has to be an overall additude. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/11/2008 6:25:08 PM | Im 5'6, so its not like I'm a really tall girl. I met a guy here on POF who was 5'5. He knew how tall I was and previously dated a girl who was 5'8. When we were hanging out, he turns to me and says, "Wow, this really isnt going to work. Your a bit to tall for me!"  | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/11/2008 7:28:24 PM | "I would rather date a tall guy in good shape then a short fat and balding man."
Only short men have these attributes? you've never seen a tall man who was ugly fat and balding? I've seen plenty of them.
Oh and Tom cruise is ugly"
I can't comment on Tom Cruise's attractiveness because I don't swing that way. but There are plenty of ugly tall men in Hollywood as well. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/11/2008 10:05:35 PM | | Well, I think most women want to be smaller than their man..and a lot of women wear high heels too...I have dated both really tall men 6'5 and shorter men 5'7 same height as me...it really is all about the person inside...Someone may have a list of things they prefer in a mate, but that list could change if you hit it off and click....take Tom Cruise & Katie Holmes.. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/11/2008 10:13:12 PM |
Sadly though, none of us can help who we are or are not attracted to.
So you are saying that you have no control over your thoughts and actions then? | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/11/2008 11:05:12 PM | | Tom Cruise is not exactly the best example, Any man can succeeed with women if he is rich and famous regardless of how tall he is or what he looks like | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/11/2008 11:48:11 PM |
Im 5'6, so its not like I'm a really tall girl. I met a guy here on POF who was 5'5. He knew how tall I was and previously dated a girl who was 5'8. When we were hanging out, he turns to me and says, "Wow, this really isnt going to work. Your a bit to tall for me!"
sweetblonde19,
I definitely would not turn you down. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 3/12/2008 12:00:01 AM |
Sadly though, none of us can help who we are or are not attracted to. So you are saying that you have no control over your thoughts and actions then?
Not sure who made the original statement you are replying to chucky ,but although we are in control of our thoughts and actions we are not in control of who and what we are attracted too.If people were in control of who they are attracted to then there would be no pedophiles.
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