| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/17/2008 2:28:29 PM |
Yes this nasty attitude of yours pervades just about every post you have ever made. I think you have bigger troubles then just being short. You are hateful and nasty which is an extremely unattractive quality. Nobody wants to be around a mean pessimistic person. Try looking on the bright side of things and be a little more optimistic.
Nasty attitude? He is only being honest and giving a valid opinion. If anything, you are the one who continues to jump on these threads to attack short guys.
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/17/2008 2:38:37 PM | Well, Alienware_Adam, you too have preferences when it comes to women. You don't want one with kids. Not that I blame you, but that is a dealbreaker for you. I read your profile and women don't just wake up one morning and say, "I wanna have kids with an a**hole who'll cheat on me (or whatever) and then find a single guy who'll accept a single/divorced mom with kids." People fall in love and think it's going to be that forever kind of thing, both men and women. And then things don't work out and that's life.
Where you're at (NYC) a lot of women are going to be superficial anyways (not saying they're not in the country because some are). You seem to have a good future ahead of you, so what I'd suggest is to take some vacation time and go to Latin America or Asia with other men and a 'mail-order bride' company. Spend about a week there touring whatever foreign city you're in and meet lots of women. Don't go looking for a girlfriend or a wife. Just go to have fun and sample something different. Usually interpreters will be on hand to help out if the ladies don't speak English. If you haven't made out with a lady yet, remember, prostitution is legal in Nevada.  | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/17/2008 2:57:15 PM | Im A short guy.Im 5'6" Im in shape I skateboard pro and Being smaller pobably helps.I dont really work out Even though it looks like it.Its probly my body type.Im good looking and wouldnt trade looks for height.You see these hot grils with these tall fat guys that look like they have down syndrome!I guess heighth is a sabliminal attraction.
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/17/2008 3:05:09 PM |
I guess heighth is a sabliminal attraction.
It can't be subliminal because women expressly put it in their profiles. If it were subliminal, women would simply find "something" more attractive about men who were taller over men who were shorter. But that's not what's going on when a woman posts a height requirement which rejects all men shorter than an arbitrary marker.
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/17/2008 7:57:31 PM | "Short man's complex" is an unfair stereotype, I think. I've dated tall men who were overly-self confident and full of themselves, but I can't classify all tall men that way."
It's comments like this that reassure my faith that normal thinking logical women are still out there. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/18/2008 8:15:05 AM | I guess heighth is a sabliminal attraction. It can't be subliminal because women expressly put it in their profiles. If it were subliminal, women would simply find "something" more attractive about men who were taller over men who were shorter. But that's not what's going on when a woman posts a height requirement which rejects all men shorter than an arbitrary marker. (ok....this is my last post for today) Zain. Joined: 9/21/2005 Msg: 1207 view profile History Ladies: your take on short guys? Posted: 4/18/2008 3  31 AM "Short man's complex" is an unfair stereotype, I think. I've dated tall men who were overly-self confident and full of themselves, but I can't classify all tall men that way." It's comments like this that reassure my faith that normal thinking logical women are still out there.
^^^^^^^^ Ummmm....have both you guys ( Zain and Jonathan) saved this thread to your favourites list
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/18/2008 9:09:50 AM | Height is a physical characteristic. So is weight or body type, hair color, eye color, facial bone structure, skin tone and clarity, and so on. I'm not saying that the impact those characteristics have on a person's attractiveness are all equal, but I think they work the same way. We each like some things more than others, and there are some characteristics we don't like at all. What we're attracted to isn't uaually the result of a thoughtful process.
If we discuss skin, and why people are often more attracted to people with clear skin, people will offer explanations. Some of the explanations for a preference or requirement are going to seem more acceptable than others. Some will say they're just attracted to clear skin, and that will seem a little simple, but OK. Others will focus on clear skin as an indicator of good health, admitting that it might not be an accurate indicator, but still. That will get the text equvalent of a raised eyebrow. Someone else will go beyond the implications of clear skin = health, and say that unclear skin hints at disease or defect or bad lifestyle. Then things will get heated.
What seems to keep this topic (men's height) going is the explaining. I think we seldom fully understand what we're attracted to, and explaining just adds to the confusion. I guess its human nature, and maybe particularly male human nature, to want to logically explore the "why", especially if the "why" pertains to something that holds us back, or seems to. I just think its misguided.
Being a short man is a disadvantage socially, in the sense that it reduces the number of women who will be attracted to you initially. Arguing about it isn't likely to change the numbers, because for the rare women who sees some bias in her behavior and decides to look at short men differently, another will be turned off by the dsicussion and close her mind a bit.
Accept your height. Accept that men generally apply for the company of women, (those women who get applications) women do the hiring, and height may matter. Work on the aspects of your "resume" that you can polish, and keep your head up. That was true on page 1 of this thread, and its true on page 49. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/18/2008 12:35:05 PM | Alright guys ... doesn't matter whether your short or tall ... to get to the heart of the matter -- when your laying in bed, body heighth doesn't matter ... | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/18/2008 3:39:12 PM | Interesting article.....
Found this on MSN the other day
http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=6933&TrackingID=516311&BannerID=544657&menuid=6>1=26000 | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/18/2008 3:47:52 PM | ^^^^^^^^ Ummmm....have both you guys ( Zain and Jonathan) saved this thread to your favourites list"
I haven't but that's a good idea. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/18/2008 5:16:37 PM |
Interesting article..... Found this on MSN the other day http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=6933&TrackingID=516311&BannerID=544657&menuid=6>1=26000
Good read.
I recognized Hurdle #3 myself with the last girl I dated (Who was 5'7). Everywhere we went, we would always get looks. I don't know if it was because she was beautiful (which she was), that she was taller than me (she always wore heels, and I love women in heels no matter how tall they are), or because she was caucasian. Or it could be all 3. Who knows.
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/18/2008 6:40:31 PM |
If we discuss skin, and why people are often more attracted to people with clear skin, people will offer explanations. Some of the explanations for a preference or requirement are going to seem more acceptable than others. Some will say they're just attracted to clear skin, and that will seem a little simple, but OK. Others will focus on clear skin as an indicator of good health, admitting that it might not be an accurate indicator, but still. That will get the text equvalent of a raised eyebrow. Someone else will go beyond the implications of clear skin = health, and say that unclear skin hints at disease or defect or bad lifestyle. Then things will get heated.
I agree with this, but I think it's deeper than "clear skin". I think it's more like skin color. People will always have a preference for a certain race over another when it comes to what attracts them, but it can still be offensive. The reason it's offensive is because race has social significance far beyond dating. And that's the reason that height requirements are also seen as offensive by some guys (especially short guys). Yes, selecting a person based on their race (or rejecting him based on his race) is no different than selecting/rejecting a person based on whether or not they have clear skin. But because race (and height) have broader connotations, it's still somewhat offensive to some people. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/18/2008 6:41:21 PM |
^^^^^^^^ Ummmm....have both you guys ( Zain and Jonathan) saved this thread to your favourites list
How did you find this thread to post this reply? Maybe you have this bookmarked.
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/20/2008 12:31:59 AM | I came across this on a woman's profile tonight, "5'10 and up cause i dont date midgets!" This woman is only 5'5". So when did 5'9" become midget? It's laughable how superficial some women can be.  | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/20/2008 12:53:12 AM | | It doesn't matter so much to me. The best loving I ever got was from a guy 3 inches shorter than me! However, he was terribly insecure about his height -- if we were walking along holding hands, he would feel self-conscious and drop my hand because he felt like that somehow highlighted how much taller I was. It drove me crazy! I always told him, "Why do you care what some stranger thinks? You don't go home to them every night. They don't cook you dinner. They don't give you backrubs. That's me. I do that, and you've already got me." But he just would not get over it! His insecurity is part of the reason we're not together anymore. It didn't make me swear off shorter guys, but it did strengthen my resolve not to put up with one who gets embarrassed about it. I'm 5'7! Lots of men are shorter than me. Get over it! | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/20/2008 7:56:44 AM |
So when did 5'9" become midget?
mmmmmm.....probably around the same time my height (5'3") did....LOL!! Had a guy 6'3" refer to me as a midget. Didn't keep him from wanting to DATE me, though.....
As they say....."To each their own......"  | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/20/2008 8:47:06 AM | "I came across this on a woman's profile tonight, "5'10 and up cause i dont date midgets!" This woman is only 5'5". So when did 5'9" become midget? It's laughable how superficial some women can be. "
No kidding, with profiles like that it's no wonder why people think dating sites are a complete waste of time.  especially for short guys it's one thing to have a height requirement but another to refer to short men as "midgets" that's just downright insulting. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/20/2008 9:08:28 AM |
I came across this on a woman's profile tonight, "5'10 and up cause i dont date midgets!" This woman is only 5'5". So when did 5'9" become midget? It's laughable how superficial some women can be.
That's exactly the type of battle-hardened online dating hag that makes this experience such a joy. Sometimes you sit down for some profile cruising, get a few like that in a row, and you want to give up on the human race.
I'm 5'10", but sadly, I don't date morons.
And yes, I'm sure guys' profile are even worse. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/20/2008 11:17:18 AM | | What's wrong with midgets? David Lee Roth of Van Halen had midget bodyguards back in the day. And I don't think he was singing "Might as well jump. Jump!" to them. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/20/2008 4:51:38 PM |
If shes 5'5" and claims she does not date guys under 5'10" and to her, anyone under 5'10" is a "midget", wouldn't she be the real "midget" compared to a guy thats 5'9" since shes only 5'5" herself? People like her make me sick. That is hight bigotry and Hypocracy all rolled into one. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/20/2008 4:57:00 PM | Hey Chucky - I beat ya
***My preference on dating ANYONE at this time in my life is retired military or a prior federal agent under 53 with teeth, hair, taller than a munchkin, (preferably 5'9)
Stated height of the profile owner? 5.nothing. Top that and I'll send you a rose.
Someone tell me, what is it with women and stilts... | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/20/2008 5:11:03 PM | 4duty...
I wonder if these things are really a preference or a requirement with this girl.
Now I'm a midget and a munchkin. I just had a girl the other week after dancing for about five minutes at a club say "wow you're short" and then went off after the song to the bar and wanted nothing to do with me all night. I think I may need taller shoes. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/20/2008 7:59:42 PM | Chucky, if you're meeting girls in clubs, then you're going to the wrong place. Sure, there are a lot of girls in clubs, but for the most part they're going to have a laundry list of what they want in a guy. If you met her "height" requirement, would you meet her "car" requirement next? See where I'm going with this? And what would you do with one of those girls when you got one? Marry her? Actually, any male who's even thinking about getting married in California (the land of never-ending alimony payments after divorce) should get his head examined, especially if he's marrying a gal he met at a nightclub.
If you're not willing to look overseas for a female companion, then how about the Mormon church? Sure, it's conservative and you'll have to give up caffeine (and alcohol, if you drink), but if you're looking long-term it's a much better bet than the nightclubs. And Mormons have single wards and dances too, so you don't have to give up dancing if you like to dance.
Hopefully you'll figure out where to look for women and find what you want. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 4/20/2008 9:08:15 PM | ^^^
Right on, al though I'm not too sure about the whole mormon thing...
but clubs really are the absolute WORST places to look in if you're looking for a decent woman. I know from personal experience. clubs are also very shallow hostile and competitive environments It doesn't matter how nice of a guy you are or how interesting of a personality you have. it's all about this stupid shallow thing called "game" playing the "game" usually involves lots of stupid mindgames and if you're tall enough she'll probably reject you because of the clothes you're wearing or the kind of car you drive or you're bad dancing skills and so on They always find something. If you're looking for a decent girl chances are she won't be in some club getting drunk and going home with a complete stranger. | |
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