| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 11/30/2005 3:04:25 AM |
It's actually part of a government conspiracy art! Every guy on on this site is going to add you to his favorite list eventually
LOL Jordang ... well, if they do, they can be sure I won't be sending them a message. Sorry, it's pretty clear on my profile I'm not looking for that kind of attention.
 | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 11/30/2005 3:17:48 AM | @artandsoul
Sometimes it might take a couple of days but I do respond to my e-mails. I use my favorites list for 3 reasons:
1) to sort out the good, bad, and the ugly (I'm referring to attitude, not looks)
2)as a way of identifying people who have similar interests to mine or maybe there is something in their profile which is a real eye catcher
3)as a way of identifying who I don't wish to contact as I have met some of them on other
sites. They were a$$holes then and are still a$$holes now
A. | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 11/30/2005 3:24:03 AM | i here you on that a-hole comment, angel without halo...i can't understand why they don't recognize me if i can instantly recognize them? sometimes i think its just the smell of fresh meat and i could be 98 and toothless but they wouldn't care if it meant getting a response and possible date from their IM...but thats another topic...
let us know what happens art...i'm curious :) | |
|
| |
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 11/30/2005 3:40:45 AM | | Angelwithouthalo, I appreciate this line from your profile: "If you would like to e-mail me, please feel free to do so as I do extend the common courtesy of returning any e-mails that I receive." Too bad "common courtesy" is so uncommon these days, especially on the internet. Hats off to you! | |
|
| |
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 11/30/2005 5:33:41 PM | @angelic
I came across one of those a$$holes a few nights ago and we had met on another site about 3 yrs ago and I can't believe that I actually agreed to meet him over dinner.(that's a whole other story or it could make for a good post) In the 3 yrs since I met him, he has not changed his pic (a lot can change in 3 yrs so I wonder what he's hiding) nor has he changed his profile line and description (now isn't that original) boooooring
I couldn't help it, I just had to e-mail him......couldn't believe that he would have the b*lls to respond. The end result he's the same a$$hole that he was 3 years ago!! I just sat here and lmao.... | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 12/1/2005 1:36:05 AM | Well, the bad news for those of you who want to remove yourself from someone's favorites list is that they DO NOT get a notification that you've done so. You just quietly disappear. Too bad.
That means if you notice they have put you on the list and send them a polite email to which after a week or so you have received no reply, you don't even get the pleasure of slamming the door a bit when you leave. You just have to basically sneak out the back door.
Obviously, you weren't important enough to even deserve a reply so they probably won't even notice that you're gone, especially if they have a long list of other favorites (most of whom they probably ignore also).
Maybe it's childish to wish they did get a notice that you have left. On the other hand, noone here has offered a convincing argument to refute my point that it's RUDE not to reply to a DECENT message from anyone, ESPECIALLY if you have placed them on that list. More than likely, that is what prompted them to write you in the first place. At the top of your favorites list, it says "Find out who has added you to their favorites list!" What's the purpose of that option? Obviously, to show who might be interested in you!
Sure, it's their list and they can do what they want with it. As someone pointed out here, there are no "rules" about who you place on that list.
Still, ladies (and gents), if you can't take ten seconds to answer a message from one of your "favorites" -- even if only briefly -- even if only to say, "sorry, I put you there because I enjoy your posts but I don't think we'd be a match" or "sorry, I put you on that list because I thought you were interesting but I am pursuing another relationship" or whatever --- think twice about who you add to this list. If that is how you treat your "favorites", God help the less "favored" who come into your world. Be exceptional; have a little class and quit sending mixed messages.
If this post turns anyone off, so be it. If you are that rude or can't see how rude it is, I wouldn't want to be on your list anyway and I certainly wouldn't want to be in a relationship with you.
My apologies to the decent ladies and gents out there for this "rant"! Still, I'm glad I got it off my chest and I know I'm not the only one out there who feels this way... and I still wish I could slam the door a little as I leave those lists!  | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 12/1/2005 2:53:11 AM | @artandsoul..
Revenge (as petty as it may sound) can be sweet.
I appear on 9 favorites lists. Of the nine, there is only one who I have not made contact with as yet. This man is on my favorite list, reason being, his opening line is funny and it is my intention to send him a message just to tell him that I think it's a good line, however, I will be very surprised if I receive any kind of acknowledgement back from him. (that's his loss)
One of the men, who has me on his favorite list and I've added him to mine, is young and from another country. He messaged me along with several others on this site. He is a young man who was looking for nothing other than an opportunity to make friends online and improve his english skills!!!!!!!!!!!!! Take a guess as to how many responses he got ............ 1 and from yours truly. It takes me about 5 minutes to respond to his e-mails. If I had of ignored this person I would have missed out on making a friend and learning about another culture.
Just my two cents worth... | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 12/1/2005 3:12:39 AM | Angel, does that mean most of them did reply to your emails or not? I can't quite tell from your post.
From what I can gather from posts in many threads around here, it seems men get ignored a lot more than women.
Re "revenge": I liken the situation to getting a message that your attendance at a party would be welcome. You go and the hostess completely, deliberately and pointedly ignores you the whole time you are there. Do you just sneak out the back door unnoticed? Wouldn't you want to at least say before you go: "Well, thanks for the invite but spare me the honor next time, I won't be there!" ?
People! The more I get to know them, the more I like my dog -- and he's been getting on my nerves lately too! | |
|
| |
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 12/1/2005 3:27:45 AM | To the OP, I have often pondered the mysteries of the favorites list as well. I wrote someone, he didn't reply, but added me. I think it was over a week, but I did not remove him, and he ended up emailing me :) We chatted on IM, and it was a lot of fun, and I'm looking forward to getting to know him. (If you're reading this, you know who you are..... :)
I only remove myself from their list if they have kept me around for weeks and didn't mail me, and I know it's not someone who put me there from the forums.
However, if they add you, and you mail them, and they don't respond, they are flakey anyway, so ease the burden of their faves list and add some more of your own. :) | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 12/1/2005 3:54:59 AM | @artandsoul,
Of the nine men who have me on their favorites list, there is only one who I've not made contact with.
Now, keeping in mind that I use my favorites list as a filing system (I covered that one off in a previous post), I can tell you that the response rate from these guys is probably no different than what you are experiencing. I conducted an experiment last week-end just out of idle curiousity. Reviewed some profiles, added 5 to my favorites and sent a message to each guy. Results, I got one response and he was geographically challenged (this would probably make for a good post). As for the other 4 guys, their profiles were a good read, however, it was their actions or lack thereof that showed their true colours.
Go figure.......
Don't be too hard on your dog, if nothing else he'll always remain loyal to you! | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 12/1/2005 4:03:33 AM | @artandsoul
Based on your post, I've created a new category for my favorites list and you're the first one to be added to it -- the category is "I like the way this one thinks". You don't have to e-mail me, but if you do, guess what............you will get a reply!!!!!!! | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 12/1/2005 4:05:13 AM |
omy god man! are you desperate? you probably didnt give a chance 4the womanto respond .
Before you start beaking off, the intelligent thing to do is to get your facts straight and actually read the posts you are responding to. Over a week is plenty of chance to respond. I don't want to be chasing her to get her attention for the rest of my life if we ever did get together. If she respects my time and my feelings, I'll respect hers. If not, who wants her?
if you keep that up , the only p u s s y youll be talking to is the one that goes poopie in the litter box.
I'm not looking for a p u s s y to talk to. I'm looking for a real woman -- who has some class. With the way you talk, I doubt you're connecting with either yourself. | |
|
| |
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 3/18/2006 10:14:03 PM | Thanks for the irrelevant comments, Belgarion.
And thanks to you, artandsoulwhinerbaby, for being so obtuse, that you can't tell a good piece of advice when you see it.
Why do people still insist on applying real-life dating rules to this artificial environment?
manners, no manners, inconsiderate, blah blah blah....for the 1,000,000th time....
TAKE THIS, AND ALL DATING SITES WITH A GRAIN OF SALT. Have fun with it, but keep your expectations realistic.
 | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 1/30/2008 3:59:19 PM | | O boy unanswered emails, tell me about it, how can it take anyone 2 weeks to anwser my email and then with only three words "how are you" god if it take them 2 weeks to compose that well get a brain.(my dog could be better) is it only me that is sufforing from this problem? | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 1/30/2008 4:07:55 PM | I believe geographical location to be important, I put all the guys on my favorites that are in my city. This is only four or five, considering my age.... then as newbys come along, I add them to my favorites... it opens up conversation, and I know they are nearby and familiar with favorite hang-outs, making it easier and smoother for dating experiences. If a favorites answers my e-mail and starts getting heavy with sex talk or any other inappropriate stuff, I just simply tell them, then block them.
So FAVORITES live near me.... that's all! At least until we establish a date. This usually has worked very well for me. At least, in getting dates. | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 1/30/2008 4:35:40 PM | | Actually I agree with the OP to a point.. When I first joined I was put on 13 peoples fav list in the first week. After 3 weeks I received contact from 2 of them and realized that the fav's thing was quite a lot of nonsense not to make a big deal over. At this point when someone puts me on their fav I will wait 2 or 3 weeks and if they make no contact I just politely delete them. It's just no big deal in my mind. I'm not here to win a popularity contest I'm here to meet people and for the forums. | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 1/30/2008 4:52:43 PM | Don't take things personally.....I e-mailed one man a few times and he never wrote me back and then I saw that he put me as a favorite...but I didn't get annoyed or upset because he never wrote back....and he was so cute too  | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 2/5/2008 5:02:30 PM | MSG-#1 ~OP~ wrote:
Why did you put me on this list if you won't even answer a polite letter from me? Is this the way you treat your "favorites" in "real life"? Wow this is one of the best posts I've read on here and I can totally relate.I'm sure some men are guilty of this too. I try to respond back to every email I receive. I've been contacted by some people on here and then suddenly they stop responding. Yet you can see they have read the letter(s) you sent,and they have added you to their favorites. Some times just seems like some sort of a game to some people. I think if someone sends a respectful email then it's rude not to respond back. Even if someone is not interested I would rather they respond back and say they are not interested rather than to read and not bother responding. I could go on and on about this but I think some people just do this to tick people off possibly to test their temperment. In some case's it's their loss and your better off that they did this because they're most likely not even worth the effort you put into emailing them in the first place. | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 2/16/2008 7:10:29 AM | | I've had a few conversations with women on this site and I think it really boils down to the fact that some people (the OP) are more serious about actually meeting people and finding someone we really click with than others are. A lot of people on here seem to have a very 'high school' mentality about the whole thing which is really sad. I've always likened a woman not answering an email from me to saying hello to her in public, only to be ignored. This used to REALLY bother me! But now I just figure that if she's that self-consumed and rude, then she's worthless to me anyway. So to make a long story longer.....hahahaha....if they add you to their fav's and don't reply to your email, take yourself off their list and forget about it. If it's meant to be, it'll be man! | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 2/16/2008 7:24:15 AM | | I've been on this site a short time but I'm continuously surprised by how favorite's list seem to create such anxiety in people. If it bothers you then do yourself a favour and stop looking at the list of people that have chosen you as a favorite. Internet dating is stressful enough as it is. | |
|
| I'm on your favorites list but you won't answer my email
Posted: 2/16/2008 9:25:02 AM | | I feel the same as you artandsoul. I feel if you add me to your favorites and don't talk to me, I remove you. I don't want to put on your waiting list. I usually add people that I have talked to a few times and think of as friends at least. The ones that add me and I never talk to......I remove myself from their list. Not into stalker lists......LOL. Really, what is the point of a "favorites" list anyways? | |
|
Home
login 
