| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/29/2005 4:07:53 PM | | Well, essene, I just don't want these guys getting the wrong idea. If they find out they have to buy dinner and utilize the telephone first, they might get upset! | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 12/9/2005 11:21:24 PM | | It sure can, It's been 8 years so far. The problem with having sex the first time, especially for guys is you start thinking " if she did it with me the first time....." | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 12/9/2005 11:49:58 PM | Turn it around..You had sex with her on the first date and I assume you initiated it..
(excuse me if I am wrong)....You didn't say no...Should she trust you? Or should she rule you out because of it.?
I think it is possible to have a relationship when there is sex right away..but Not when he man has questions about "if he can overlook" what he himself just did too. Not saying you do..just saying..It depends on what you mean by the question. Some men think.."well she was with me right away..maybe she'd do that with anyone"..but..You just did the same thing..
Maybe she has been celibate for a year..maybe she had too much to drink...Maybe she really likes you..I have no idea...You do not know much about this person..so the real questions are: do you have things in common..are you compatible..do you want the same things..Takes time to find that out, whether you have or haven't had sex..
If you rule her out because she was with you too quickly that means you think as a male you have a right to satisfaction whenever you can get it..but women do not..and if they want some there is something wrong with them..You like it and you enjoy it..but it is part of the male priviledge. Eegads in this day an age, who wants to deal with that?
I do wait and the reason is, I could fall for someone..before I even really know who they are. Plus it is usually men who can not handle the added level of closeness...and take time to develop feelings. (usually)
.. Personally, I'd be concerned about letting go to 7-11 .You might have relations with someone in the dairy case!
Just kidding....and i hope it works out if you want it to...............J | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 2/28/2006 4:37:15 AM | It depends on the attitude of the 2 people involved ----
if he's of a mind that she's a cheap whore but he'll hit it just for kicks, then clearly no
if she's completely indiscrimate and not sincere (i.e. havings sex not because she enjoys it and is truly excited by him, but because she has other hangups and is appeasing them through sex), then clearly no.
if they are both sincere, open, respectful people who are free to experience whatever they want in life because they have no committments to anyone else and they happen to be hot for each other ---- and that takes them into exploring each other's minds as well ---- then anything is possible.  | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 2/28/2006 4:44:59 AM | He forgot the addendum to that rule- during said waiting period, there must be at least two dinners, several alcoholic beverages, and multiple phone calls telling object of your affection how beautiful they are.
All sounds good to me :o)
I had sex the first day me and my ex met we were married for 8 years so I have to say yes  | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 2/28/2006 6:38:57 AM | Ok, so some of you are saying that that even though it's been a very long time since I have had sex and I met someone and wanted to have sex with them on the first date I would be a hoe? I would be judged by this one thing even though I have waited a very long time to have sex? This is absurd. Not that I would do this because I know this is the outlook but come on. If you have two consenting adults why does it always have to be on the woman that she did something wrong? The guys a stud and the woman's a whore. Will these stereotypes ever change?
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 2/28/2006 6:52:14 AM | | well now don't push for sex if it means that you will feel less about the person you are seeing, most men and women tend to jump in...women more because we are sensitive and it seems like if we say no then we lose the contact with a guy we like....but in the true sense we should not expect or be expected to have sex too soon...if you feel you have connected with someone special then you can talk about this to them...if not well you are in for the emotion ride....should i ? or shouldn't i? discuss how you really feel about all of this before hand and go from there.....good luck | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 3/1/2006 6:20:32 AM | | I'm going threw a similar situation I met someone that I'm haveing deep feelings for, not because we both agreed on haveing sex on the first date but because I realy feel comfortable with him and we are both in the same situation. It has bin more than one date and I don't know if he feels the same way. I don't want to scare him off and I'm only takeing this one day at a time for I never done this sort of thing before In my life.We both have bin hurt in a past relationship and we have a hard time to trust again. I know people have a hard time to control their feelings. I did'nt expect this to happen but It did and I don't want it to end but if it does I know life goes on I learnd that from experiance, and I know he does'nt want a serious relationship because of what he's going threw right know and I understand that totaly.Hope someone can help me on this. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 3/1/2006 6:46:06 AM | | Im actually in one right now...Ill let you know how it gos....as of this moment...I dont know her but we had sex. I think its a bit weird..I like to get to know women before I sleep with them...this is a first for me...and it will be a learning experience. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 3/1/2006 2:55:08 PM | I think there would have to be two very strong and focused individuals who can separate out the euphoria you feel when starting a new sexual relationship from the qualities you need to find in a partner for a long-term relationship. Sex is just so addictive that it causes us to overlook people's character, etc and think there is a connection when there just isn't.
For it to work for me, I'd have to see the sex for what it was and look for other clues to relationship bliss. I'm honest enough to admit that I'm not sure I could do that. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 3/2/2006 3:45:09 AM | | Of course. When it comes down to it, if you are into each other and can establish a level of commitment and not let pettiness interfere with the value of your relationship you can have a successful relationship whether you sleep with the person or not. After all, you're likeminded in that respect. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 3/2/2006 3:48:50 AM |
What about coffee before sex...does nobody believe in coffee before sex anymore. WTF is the world coming to?
I often wonder that very same thing. Who makes rules that say you have to get to know someone really well before you endeavour in adult activities? Back in the day things may have been more 'respectful' you may think, but it was also more brainwashed and restricted freedom. Tell me that isn't true? So much 'moralism' and 'guilt trips' and connotations to actions not deemed appropriate. Who says they aren't appropriate? Who decided? | |
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