| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/19/2007 9:57:30 AM | sure you can...people seem to treat relationships like fad diets...tweaking this, changing that...when really, a healthy relationship is about hard work and committment, just like a healthy weight is.
I'd love to meet a woman, just once who doesn't throw the " oh and I won't be sleeping with you on the first date" out the first chance she gets. I mean seriously, let's try to be big boys and girls ok??? | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/19/2007 10:04:17 AM | | actually ive had a LTR with a girl i had sex with roughly about 3 hours after we had met. So yes, that isnt supposed to be possible. Thats the thing about rules sometimes they dont apply | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/20/2007 10:47:11 AM | | Only if the girl is very smart and very attractive. Very attractive women don't really make a guy wait long. They know he will stick around. usually the guy is trying to make her stick around. Personally I have had only one relationship where I had sex with the girl the first week. The rest of the time it never lasted more then a week. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/20/2007 12:03:23 PM | | Seriously I think it takes the fun out of the chase and really who wants to be with someone who gives it up on the first date or even within the first few dates. I can say from personal experience it is better to wait than to jump into the sack and get it over with I mean it gets awkward if you are not into that person and it just ruins whatever chances you wanted to have with that person especially if you like them and are hoping for something more than just a basic one nighter. That is just one pesons opinion but all the more to you if you make it work, hats off to you. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/20/2007 1:44:06 PM | Why not? I'm not saying it would be my choice to have sex on the first date, but if it was a first date with someone I had become to know through emails and long phone conversations I would say oh yeah it's possible! Hell, I might even answer the door half naked...................   | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/20/2007 2:18:37 PM | I think its possible, but not very probable - for the people who did it on one occasion and it worked out - congratulations.
I think for most people they would have to have sex with 100 guys on the first date to find one that would stick around for more than a couple of months.
I think it is the biggest mistake you can make in a 'relationship', and I speak from experience. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/20/2007 5:16:28 PM | I kept reading a colorful deal of different opinions here around this thread, and I think the point is, deciding for a first day sex seems a real bitter medicine between morals, guilty, fears, and health concerns, which altogether kill the main deal of making love or sexing a partner we feel horny to.
Sex shouldn’t be that complicated, we make it very complicated, individually. 
I would say, just brace yourself with great and good condoms – bring the magic box full of rubber hun…, don’t do oral sex with someone you don’t know yet, and just enjoy it for freedom’s sake! Anyways, “sexing now or never” is not a factor that will determine if the “oh so called” “serious relationship” will make or break! It takes more for two to tango!!! If the guy or the girl disappear, so what! At least you got it hopefully done great! No? If it does not taste good, then you’re then at least very sure, you won’t buy a “serious relationship”, for you have the real cat out of the bag! Meow!!!!
Better is to have a freaky moralist off on the run than one right there on the top of your roof and nerves, tell ya!
I am also not saying to be jumping on changing pads like a pro porno excused by – he - you feel like horny every day with every one…, oh-woo stop a minute and let’s discern here, for it is called very risky promiscuity – the porno-pros know it better, but once in a while have a good bet, so, why the heck say no to your instincts, just for the sake of morals? Oh please. What morals is gonna do for you? Say, like be old and pure until your best hormonal years have past and later then your reach your mental-pause with a horny mind and an unresponsive body??? Ready to feed Viagra industry? BS!!!
Live now, defer no life pleasure, for you might maybe not have a chance to taste it by tomorrow! Be the one to live up your best stories! Ladies and Gentlemen, enjoy!
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/23/2007 6:33:12 PM | | Psychology Today magazine had an article about this not too long ago. Statistically speaking something like 85+% of relationships that have sex within the first week will dissolve in a matter of months. I think it was 87% but not positive. I can't remember exactly how long they said, but it was something really short like 2-4 months or so. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/23/2007 8:16:54 PM | I think, like most people here, that it would depend on how mature you both are.
Personally, I don't know. I would like to think that in this day and age you would at least talk about what kind of lifestyle the two of you have had in the past and where you expect it to be in the future. What you expect.. and what she/he expects and wants out of a sexual relationship.. or a relationship period. Depending on what you are going for I guess.
It's just scary no matter how you look at it... AIDS is a bad bad thing. I don't think I would do it.. I would rather wait until I knew more about that individual, like when was the last time they had sex and have they been tested since then or not. Call me paranoid.. but.. well.. it's my body!
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/23/2007 8:44:52 PM | it depends on the people i guess, if the physical attraction is that great, go for it. As long as both people go into it open minded and want a relationship and not just sex it could work out.They might make it longer than people who wait to have sex whether or not we choose to admit it sex is a important part of a relationship and if someone doesn't do the things you like and vice/versa, and you're both not inclined to start a sexual relationship at the same time it just adds irritation into your relationship that wouldn't be there if you were both on the same wavelength, at least that's how i look at it. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/23/2007 9:09:43 PM | | Possibly. I depends on the intentions. I would not recommend to any woman to end up in bed with a man within a short time from the meeting date, if she is looking for a serious/long term relationship. I would not respect a man that does it prior to assessing the potential of the connection. Call me old style....I am! Of course if none of them is looking for a potential partner, then it is a different story........but still ......sex with a stranger is a dangerous matter. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/23/2007 9:16:13 PM | Every now and then there are just people that you bond with almost instantly. With someone like that, having sex right awaydoesn't seem like instant gratification.  | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/23/2007 9:25:22 PM | we are adults! we know the truth! that is to say, if the chemistry is there, stick around and see what can be made of it. it doesn't matter how fast the sex took place, because the sex isn't totally important. not in the context of what is going to maintain the relationship in the dawn of the darkness. although, good sex never hurts.
simply put, if one must be judged, there are more serious things to judge them by. sex is a natural human inclination. we often do what we feel. but this should not influence how you feel about that person. and for those who say stupid things such as if she did it with me who else has she done it with; just realize that no matter how many she did it with, it was something about you that made her want to settle down and stick it out for the long run. and that goes both ways!!!!!!! | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/23/2007 9:32:09 PM | I agree with don'tmake cookies, having sex on the first meeting is not a great thing, can impede getting to know one another, not to mention it may not be comfortable after the first meeting having just gotten super close to a person without really knowing the other person at all. I think it can impedes getting to know the other person because once you have done it your most likely going to continue and not really get to know the other person. At some point your going to have to get out of bed and get to know that other person..not just their body but what type of person they are. For me I think it is best to wait till you know each other well but that is only my opinion. I have known others to have sex on the first meeting and they are married years later. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/24/2007 1:09:07 AM | I met a guy and we wor seein each other a week,well 2 days a week
and we slept together after a few days and we have a pretty strong relationship with a baby on the way!
but i guess it all depends on if you know it's going to work out or not thou!!
not all people seein eachother are the same!!
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 10/24/2007 9:48:20 AM | | I met my late wife for a lunch date. It did not end until 7:AM the next morning. You can guess what happened. We were married 6 months later and lived together loving each other for 17 years before she went to God. That is MY strory. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/10/2007 12:54:09 PM | It can work if you want it to. An ex of mine this took place. I think it was more about timing. Not the fact that she was a hoe or me a slut for that matter, more about we felt such a deep connection and when myself and my friends did this double date thing it just worked out perfect. All that ended 5 years later but that’s my story not to say yours won't have a happy ending.. So the value of this is in fact you can make anything work if you commit to it, don't label people and accept there strengths and weakness. It all comes down to connection of interest. If she was willing or you willing to have sex that first night sure as shit if you commit other nights will follow However if the both of you make it clear what you want in the beginning that’s up to you how it will end...!!!! | |
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