MrWine
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Joined: 1/1/2007
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/11/2007 4:12:26 AM | I don't think there is a connection between having sex on the first date and having a serious relationship with that person. With one person, I had sex on a first date and it lasted 8 years. With another, I didn't have sex till much later and it lasted a couple of months.
The only connection I can see is that if the sex on the first day is not good, then the chances of a serious relationship are slim
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/11/2007 4:14:30 AM | | its possible the best relationship i have had had sex on the first date; it didn't work out, but it was a good relationship while it lasted and was my longest relationship to date about 2 1/2 yrs | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/11/2007 8:40:08 AM | I too had a one-night stand that became a four-year stand! to my surprise i notice a number of other posters on this thread who say the same (and for exactly the same duration). all i will say without going into detail is that the girl in my case was the best girlfriend i had and has been the worst ex-girlfriend anyone i know of has had!
we had a child soon after getting together and it can be very painful because our child wants us together and i wish we could be esp. for our girl but without going into the long and lurid saga it's impossible
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/11/2007 11:31:01 AM |   Wow...these "sex on first date" threads are all over the place lately!
Must have been QUITE a weekend for some folks...heh! (she says with envy)
Yeppers..(raising hand) had sex on first date before. (Maybe more than once...ain't telling  )
One memorable time ended up in marriage and 2 great offspring. Another one ended up in a relationship with for several years.
Sheesh...the times I dated and dated and did no more than kissing for the first few weeks, ended up wishing we DIDN'T have sex, or that we did much sooner because we then quickly discovered we were NOT physically/sexually compatible. Does make a BIG difference folks! You can enjoy one another in many ways, but if sexually incompatible, someone in the relationship usually ends up sacrificing.  | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/11/2007 11:47:33 AM | Agreed......
And with saying that, what becomes very important, to me at least, is to bring that sex together in a mutual manner, and both being open and honest enough to share your health records. There is nothing wrong with discussing getting tested if you think you MAY have the chance to be intimate when together.
It is much better to find out sooner than later, if you are compatible, and have enough chemistry, in bed, in order to make that side of your relationship match what hopefully you know about the mental side and how you stimulate each other in that area as well.
Just my opinion........  | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/11/2007 2:18:42 PM | | Yes, mine lasted 7 years and only ended because I didn't want to settle for the rest of my life. My life and needs changed and unfortunately grew in an opposite direction of his needs and life. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/12/2007 7:49:48 PM | I believe it can happen . Most the time i don't see that as the norm but i suppose it depends on your feelings before and after the act itself .  (for a certain poster . ya know who ya are)  | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/12/2007 8:26:09 PM | | Yes, and have been there (not on the first date, but very soon thereafter). The bottom line is that there is a big difference between Lust and Love, The first can be instantaneous but the second takes time to develope, so it is very possible for things to be that way. I know for me personally I don't prefer to be intimate immediately, but find that several weeks to a couple of months is what normally feels about right for me since sex without any emotional content or connection is like icing without the cake- regaurdless of how sweet the icing is, without the cake it just doesn't satisfy! But by the same token I do like to have my cake and eat it too, and if the wait is too long then I begin to wonder if there aren't other issues or hangups, or just incompatible sexual drives. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/12/2007 8:46:11 PM | First date March 1991, ended up spending the night together, almost 17 years and a couple of children later ... have rarely spent a night apart.
I can be honest and say that the serious relationship took time to grow, and there was a little questioning of why we jumped into things so fast; but I also know that getting in the sack so soon was the hook that allowed the relationship to develop into something more. | |
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Kixxie
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Joined: 2/11/2007
Msg: 139 | |
| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/12/2007 11:09:10 PM | | I cant answer that one.....I dont have sex with anyone after the first day or week. I dont have the "coveted coochie" thing going on, but I dont sleep with someone I barely know. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/13/2007 12:09:25 AM | No way, sure may have spoke alot and so on, but that is intimacy and people these days are making me sick, no morals connected to that. I feel you have to be in love, can't be without being IN LOVE with the person, period. That's how i feel about it anyway. If there's a spark and the person can't wait for you, then forget it and move on cause that person didn't deserve you, in the first place! happy fishing
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/13/2007 12:30:50 AM | this is my first post but i really enjoy reading these forums! thanks to you all for having the guts to put it on the line...
i keep reading yeah its possible to have a serious relationship after sex on the first day...gee, mine lasted for 12 years! great relationship, [that was mine] and others i read it lasted 7 yrs or 4 yrs or 10 yrs etc etc...
is that the definition of success? maybe if we waited a little and made sure they were the one, it would last 37+ years like mom and dad, what happened to til death do us part? | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/13/2007 1:25:52 AM |
I don't think there is a connection between having sex on the first date and having a serious relationship with that person. With one person, I had sex on a first date and it lasted 8 years. With another, I didn't have sex till much later and it lasted a couple of months.
The only connection I can see is that if the sex on the first day is not good, then the chances of a serious relationship are slim
I agree
With the remark that if the first interaction - not necessarily sexual but any kind - is not pleasant, chances decrease, so I don't see sexuality as an exception.
i.e. if the first thing you do together is not sex, but say a dinner at a restaurant and if that doesn't go well, than chances to continue are low as well. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/13/2007 1:33:33 AM | No way, sure may have spoke alot and so on, but that is intimacy and people these days are making me sick, no morals connected to that.
moral values "what is good" or what is "not good" have been changing constantly in human history...
is "just sex" ok or not?
for some people yes, for some not - none of the two are better than the other in fact.
if you are against "just sex", it doesn't mean you have higher morals, only different ones. but not higher.
we could actually start an opposite thread asking "is it possible to start a serious relationship without sex on the first day?" LOL:) | |
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