salfe
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Joined: 5/24/2005
Msg: 226 | |
| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/11/2005 12:02:43 AM | | This earlier post is not intended to discredit, Sigmund Frued. He is one of the pioneer's in American Psychology, but to demonstrate other alternatives in the study of Psychology do exist. I also would question the credibilty of a student, over someone who has been exposed to and has had the chance to reflect upon the different ideologies of psychology. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/11/2005 6:27:48 AM | Hey ifuwish,
I Love kids. I'd like to adopt, if I had more money. They are very unfortunate they were born & the Mother doesn't want them. That's makes me very sad.
I'm very thankful I don't have any of my own. I'd be worried about them all the time!!
One of my ex's has an eight yr. old. I Love Her!!!!! She's smart, funny & doesn't poke fun
at people. I pray with all my heart she never, ever pokes fun at people. Her idiot father,
does. I HATE THAT!!!! Sorry if I "yelled" at you.
I'll just tell you 1 incident that happened. Miranda, her dad & I were in Stop & Shop.
Her dad called me another woman's name. She mentioned I should call him Tom (an ex. I
lived with for 15 & yrs.). I laughed so hard , she's so cool. I couldn't believe she said that!!!
I miss her, alot.
I hope you have a great wk.-end.
Take good care
Cheryl
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/11/2005 12:09:46 PM | Kids say the funniest things sometimes, my 9 year old last night said dad i don't want french fries i want STEAK. I laughed and guess what he had for supper, I had french fries  | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/11/2005 12:43:03 PM | | I would rather date a man that has kids or has been around kids alot. They seem to understand that your children come first more than men who dont have kids. I just wish I could find someone who looks more on the inside and not just on the outside. Looks aren't everything | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/11/2005 3:47:57 PM | | man Im having the same problem they talk about wanting a good guy thats responsible and they crap on you when you tell them you have kids and for the lil chick running her mouth about wearing a condom ,My children were concieved in wed lock so that theory dont fly.when it comes down to it if my wife wasnt spreading her self all around town I wouldnt be in this situation now would I ,Im looking for a woman with the maturety and back bone to be with a single dad raiseing two babys on his own,If your out there please write me thanks. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/11/2005 10:30:42 PM | | I, myself, actually prefer a single man with kids and especially when he is very active in thier life. Maybe that is because I am a single parent myself. I think it makes it easier for him to accept the fact that I have a child. I have no problem accepting another man's children. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/13/2005 9:20:29 PM | | I don't mind, having a daughter myself, I know what it is like to have your plans change because of something going on with ur kid or kids. I think a man with kids would be very understanding of that. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2005 10:40:12 PM | | It has been a long time since I started this thread. In fact I have one now off to college and the next in a year.I am encouraged by the responces.It's a shame I can't ever meet a woman who feels the same | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/14/2005 5:14:18 AM | I'm a single parent who actually prefers a guy who has at least 1 child(as I do),I love kids & most guys who have children tend 2 be alot less selfish than guys w/out kids...of course this is based on my own personal experiences...  | |
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Posted: 6/14/2005 6:33:47 AM | | I find the same happens with men.... i have 3 of my own plus i take care of my niece.... i dated a man for over a year just for him to leave me because i have kids.... the kicker is.... he has 7 of them i took care of 2 of them for over a year then he just ripped them away from me....... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/14/2005 7:47:38 AM | Before I started dating again - I thought I wouldn't date men with Children.
But now - I think it's great. It's all about the person anyway don't you think.
If they are great they usually have great kids.
My son is wonderful and a great judge of character.
I hope to meet someone who can accept my child as their own, with love and respect.
But I do not want more children OF MY OWN. That has been an interesting thing to get across to people.
Anyway = good luck to all. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2005 9:59:56 PM | I have 3 kids and I wouldn't mind dating a man with kids.I have more than once taken on kids that were not mine and i love them just the same.I think a GOOD dad is not only a heart warming but sexy thing and if the women you meet are not happy about your having kids then its her loss . believe me its hard for me too sometimes i think i will never find a guy who doesn't shy away at the mention of kids [except the ones who are only after one thing anyway they don't mind but thats not what i'm after]but don't settle for anyone one who shows anything less than love for your kids  | |
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Posted: 6/23/2005 12:12:00 PM | I personally myself give my heart to men that are single dads only because it's alot of work to raise children on your own, and not alot of men do that, instead they go elsewhere, and get remarried, etc etc. I myself am a single mother of 2 teenagers, and I've always thought it was harder for single moms to find that special someone. When I saw your pic I said....man you single dad? Your too hot to be single lol.....Wish I was in the U.S. lol
Good luck in your search
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 240 | |
| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/24/2005 7:11:40 PM | I think there are some single Dads that make excellent marriage partners, and likewise, there are some single men (childfree) that make excellent partners. It depends on the man and what a woman's preferance is.
Being a parent doesn't mean that one is more responsible. Unfortunately, I see too may people (both sexes) that should've never brought kids into this world.
Do I mind a man with kids? I'm 49 years young, I wouldn't date someone with a 2 year old. We would be in very different phases in our lives. On the other hand, my ex BF had 4 kids (20 to 31 years old), they were delightful.
He is a very loving father to his kids, he's always there for them! On the other hand, he was almost too giving. Each of his kids were given a car; the youngest had access to his credit card and charged $600 in clothes (without his permission). His 2 sons (24 and 25) lived at home, basically a free ride. The one son worked so he paid $300 rent, although there were no chores, no rules, etc. The other son went to college, therefore, he didn't pay rent, no chores, no rules. I really had a tough time dealing with that. His oldest daughter when she married, the wedding was $15K (6 years ago), all he did was sit back and write the checks when his daughter's fiancee's parents ran the show. When he told me that, my first thought was "here is someone that can't say no".
When I looked at the overall picture, him having 4 kids, no retirement plan at work, and a fairly decent job, whereas I have no children, own my own home, have a retirement plan at work, and make good money, it was a scary venture to me. One hand told me he was an excellent catch because he has a great sense of humor, is honest, and we had quite a bit in common. On the other hand, I felt "go for broke", it kind of intimidated me because I couldn't see this guy saying "no" at times to his grown kids. He talked about marriage in our 4th month of dating, but I felt too much pressure, and the overall picture was more than what I could deal with at the time.
We remain good friends. He told me last month that "my kids come first". I admire him for being honest and for valuing/adoring his kids. On the other hand, he hasn't started living "his life", and what will he do when the kids are 30+ years old and living out of state? | |
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Posted: 6/26/2005 7:42:49 AM | Hi! i dated a guy who has a kid, i love that kid but again, the ex wife seems to be in total control of that guy. I have been real patient..but there are times, when you get brushed aside and your feelings get hurt, and there is never a "sorry". So i decided to end the realtionship.
I am a single mum myself...with a teen child. But,there are so many things you could do with kids, kids are kids...and his kid and i got along from day 1 since she is small..i could fuss with her..wish the dad was like the little one..things would have been different. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2005 6:30:27 PM | It is just the wrong women for you in my opinion, if it is really about the fact that you have kids and nothing more. Are you sure it is that, or is it possible it could be something else and they didn't have the consideration to share that with you in complete honesty?
I am a solo parent myself and have been for quite sometime. My children are first and frankly if that means being by myself for the rest of my lifetime so be it.
Really, having someone to share a lifetime with would be a blessing when that day comes and when it is meant to be it will happen. No worries here! :-)
Enjoy Life...Enjoy your Children! :-)
Joy | |
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Posted: 6/27/2005 6:31:36 PM | | Im a single dad/2 and i get compliments from the ladies all the time about how unusual but very good it is to be a dad with the kids.I actually would rather have a single mom as a gf because shed be able to relate on so many levels .Thats my 2 cents. | |
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| jay
Posted: 6/28/2005 5:41:32 PM | i'd say its about 70% of the woman shy away from men with kids.
but what can u do.
if they run just gota keep looking untill u get the right one | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/28/2005 8:13:00 PM | I don't mind a single dad or a married dad. I just plain don't mind.  But the point is do the kids mind their dad?
Seriously, a man who loves his children AND provides their care is a very precious person in my eyes. Whether a parent is full time or shared time, it is one of the most important things he or she can ever do.
If a woman is not interested in a man with children who are not her own that is her choice (and to me says volumes about her). I do think this is another area where there is a lot of bias and inequality.
Bottom line is people are individuals. I don't have a strong desire to be a step mother nor do I want a step father for my (grown) son, but I would love to find a man who is what I want and if he is a part time or full time Dad that can actually be a plus in my book.
My strangest proposal ever was "I want to be ____'s stepfather (Not just red flags there - bells, whistles, sirens...) nice thought but not what I need.
If the woman you are interested in has no interest in your interests, I say lose interest. Fast! | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/28/2005 8:34:51 PM | | i think the whole people run when they see kids line is played out. Most people will judge you or who u are and you can be fake as much as possible but your child wont be. The man or women looking to date you will be able to see your downfalls through your child, so makesure they are happy and well behaved and it shouldnt be an issue with most people | |
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Posted: 6/28/2005 9:01:01 PM | i have had about 10 guys tell me they arent interested in me cuz i have a kid or its against the rules in a family for a guy to date a girl with a child of her own..which i think is bull..but i just move on..my prince is out there somewhere.... | |
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Posted: 6/29/2005 2:45:41 PM | I think it depends on the age of the woman. For myself I would love to be with a man that has kids, and he could accept my daughter. My dream has always been to have a family, but it can't happen without mr. right. lol.
It would not scare me, but if the women do not have kids then it would be hard for them to accept just like men. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2005 3:04:19 PM | | I feel for you!! I have the same problem, I cant seem to find anyone who can accept the fact that I have two children and that they mean the world to me!!! Where are all the single ladies in southern Ontario.......... | |
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