| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/29/2005 3:22:17 PM | That situation sounds familiar. I am still good friends with my ex...I mean get with it...we have a wonderful 13 year old together and he needs both of us not to fight. I have had trouble in the past with women that cannot differentiate between the love a Dad gives his kid and the love his partner gets. I attend all school functions with my ex and her new husband and I feel my son benifits from seeing us work together as a larger family of choice. I have never dated a moman with kids but I believe that parents understand what it's like to have children and how important they are in our lives. Any single moms have any suggestions about how to avoid the jealousy trap? Thanks for any feedback | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/29/2005 3:42:51 PM | Justin, I am not sure you communicated this the way you meant, but I agree that people can get a sense of how you are based on how your children are. Alot can be said about the parent, in the reflection of their child.
Joy :-) | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/29/2005 3:44:00 PM | All these people in the same situation, can not find someone and they blame it on having kids... it is not the having kids that scares women or men off.
If your dating someone it is obvious they know you have children... they made a choice to date you after knowing you had children. So it isn't the children scaring these people away. It you as a person. DISCLAIMER: (you not as in "you" to point a finger at anyone in this thread who maybe have a guilty conscience and want to jump my post by putting words in my mouth... it is "you" as an example only)
About the "jealousy trap"... have you invited your partner to these functions with your ex, her husband and yourself? I mean maybe there is something you might be doing to cause her to feel left out/ second rate/ or your ashamed of her? Is she also to be included in your "family functions"? Maybe you should look and see if there is something you might be doing to cause this jealous reaction. If so.. maybe you can change it. If not and she is just jealous for the heck of being jealous... then maybe you are with the wrong woman. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/29/2005 3:56:14 PM | | I just joined this site, so I havent read but only a few of the replies to the original thread, but I would say that there are women out there like myself who would feel more comfortable dating or getting involved with someone who HAS small children still at home. I find myself looking only for single dads because I feel out-of-balance getting involved with someone with my 3 children still at home. I do however beleive that there sometimes is alot of transition that the children go thru testing both parents as far as jealousy and trying to get equal attention. I think if it was meant to be, both parents will somehow make it work for everybody. Dont be embarrassed to ask for professional help if you think the relationship is worth it, it will show your partner and all of the children involved that you are commited. Sometimes, it will "rub off" on other family members. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/30/2005 2:53:10 AM | | Heck no I don't mind it...hell I'd kinda like it.....I'd have the ability to have more kids running around the house with the benefit of not actually having to give birth!! That's always a plus for me...lol! | |
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Joined: 6/29/2005
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/1/2005 11:30:22 AM | | I think any man who stayes and looks after there kids when things go wrong for whatever reason are heros how many dads walk away from there kids and have nothing to do with them ? if a women dosent want a single dad or wants a man with kids then move on men some women are like that sorry to say .. i dont have a problem with single dads .. i am a single mother and i find it hard at times .. so i know how hard it must be for you all at times . So three cheers for all you single dads out there .. well do you all ... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/1/2005 1:59:18 PM | | OMG..please no! I love it when a man has kids..there is no substitute for experience...I have 4 and it just TAKES a man with kids to understand the demands of parenting. I am very leary of dating guys without..I've had them not understand why I can't just leave to go do something on a school night with no daycare....I just CAN'T! You guys with kids understand those things...Gina | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/1/2005 7:38:16 PM | I would date anyone with children. Since I have three of my own it would be refreshing to date someone who understand what it means to put your children first. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 3:30:28 AM | Hi i'm a single dad with 6 children 5 live with me full time and i have one i see three times a week i have found that most women run a mile  when i tell them about my children myself i dont mind if i find a new partner that has children. Take care all
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/2/2005 5:28:00 AM | How I felt about dating a man with children would depend on a lot of things.
If it were just casual dating, and I would never met his children, it would not matter at all.
If he is just trying to find a mom for his unruly children, then I would run the other way as fast as I could. A couple of years ago, I had a guy email me from another site, two im's later he was wanting me to move to his small southern town, marry him and be the mom to his 8 kids. All I might add all under the age of 5. He said he lived an hour away from the nearest grocery store. Sorry, but I could not block him fast enough!!!
If on the other hand I meant a man with children, that was wanting to get involved with me, because of how he felt about me, and we hit it off, I am sure I would soon come to be as attached to his children as I was him.
In general it is best to leave the children out of the picture until you have dated someone for a good amount of time, and see how the two of you feel about each other. Also talk about the kids a lot and look for reactions. If she for example gets mad when you have to cancel dates because of the kids, then you need to forget about her. When my children were young, there weren't many of my dates that I took home to meet them. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2005 3:38:23 PM | If the women you have met have hit the road when they found out about you having kids are just kids themselves. They may have been scared off thinking your looking for a mother for your kids, but the least they could have done is given you a chance.
I am a single mom and find the same thing happens to me with SOME guys. They find out I have a son, he comes first and they are gone.
Best of luck to you....I am more than sure you will find a woman out there that will take you and your kids as a package deal.
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khama
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/2/2005 7:55:00 PM | Re: DOUG68:
I have had the same problems as you. As soon as the cats out of the bag....
"You've got baggage".... GOODBYE !!
Story of my life...
Even women with kids sometimes do it... But they have kids too...
I think it is a paradox I can do without anyway.... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/3/2005 9:37:11 AM | I wouldnt mind dating a man with children...the option just hasnt risen...
id love to find a man that has the same goals/interests as i do | |
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Joined: 4/10/2005
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/3/2005 4:30:44 PM | | im a single mom of twins...so i dont have a problem w/dating a single dad...a man who stays to raise his children is a REAL man...if a man chooses not to date me because i have children, hey whatever, its not like im going to lose sleep over it...i let men know that i have children and that they do come 1st...some men accept it and some dont...so dont give up...have fun while ur looking for the right woman....shes out there ;) | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/3/2005 7:53:25 PM | I have come across the same thing as well, I do not have them full time, but my children are young, and being 37 most woman my age or older run the other way as fast as they can, I would agree with a lot of the womens comment I do perfer to date someone that has children, she would be able to relate to situations that come up with kids.
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/4/2005 8:44:06 PM | | I seem to keep running into the girls that dont want the guy to have kids.. I actually had one lady tell me it was her or my son.. I politely showed her the door... | |
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syllie
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Joined: 1/6/2005
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/4/2005 9:05:24 PM | | Just think.. all that over the fact my son came home from school with a migraine, and cancelled a date, I made dinner rented a couple movies I know she wanted to watch, unfortunatly that wasnt good enough :-( and yes he lives with me full time | |
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syllie
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Joined: 1/6/2005
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/4/2005 9:07:08 PM | | That really sucks. At least you tried to make up for the date by renting movies. Well, if it wasn't good enough, then you are too good for her. | |
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ayrlyn
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Joined: 7/1/2005
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/4/2005 9:30:51 PM | | I like guys with kids- not a preference but I hold nothing against them. I don't know if I would've said that a while ago but a friend recently became a father. Real eye opener. Besides, if a guy has a child and takes care of him/her then that shows he's responsible- thats spiffy ^_^ | |
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