| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/30/2005 7:09:40 AM | I come across the same problem as most single fathers. I have join custody of my son week on week off but as of the last year and a half my son has stayed with me full time cept every other weekend.
Ive been single for 5 years this january son is 5 now.
The problem i find most the time when i am either talking to a potential gf is
1: find out i have a son and run
2: after talking for a month and dating they meet the son and run
3: they get a reality check of what parenting is like
4: in my case have flashbacks from the movie problem child :)
biggest thing i see with single girls is that they are looking to start fresh, get married, and have kids of their own between the ages of 20-30.
im not saying all women are like that but i havent had the opportunity to meet one that respects and understands that i am a single father and can understand im a package deal.
Do i get depressed over it, No. Did i used to get depressed, hell yea all the time for around 3 years till i realized that if women can understand and accept my life then they arent worth the effort of my emotions.
best thing to do is just provide a positive outlook for your child and let someone special come into your life. You cant force love overnight. it will happen on its own. Just stay positive | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/30/2005 8:25:37 AM | | I agree for the most part. It does seem like men are more accepting of single moms than women are of single dads. I think it is horrible, but true. I have no problem with single dads- how could I? I am a single parent too. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/30/2005 2:34:19 PM | | I think single dads have it just as hard as single moms do tring to find someone who won't run at the first sign of kids. kids mean responsiblity and for a lot of people that scares them off. Me personally i would love to meet a single dad, that wouldn't run from me, I got 4 little ones so. but I think most women like single dads expecially if their looking for long term relationships. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/5/2005 9:21:35 PM | I think single dads have it tougher then single moms only because society deems it "out of the norm" kind of like years ago when being an unwed mother was not acceptable. but in this day and age of "anything goes" men shouldn't have it harder. I wish my kids' fathers' had 1/2 the interest in them as some of the fathers here.
and i also wish there was a few that lived closer to me lol nothing sexier then a guy holding his child  | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/5/2005 10:10:09 PM | Personally I often think it's easier to date a guy with kids, whether he has custody or not. He understands better if or when plans have to change.
Kids rule your life no matter what their ages and s**t happens. Sometimes single guys just don't get it and can be resentful of the responsibilities.
I love kids, I have two and always wanted more. I can't have more now but I have always welcomed the other kids into my life willingly. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/5/2005 10:17:21 PM | | i hear ya Doug68. i think it's great that you are raising kids your self. i am a single parent my self and as soon as i mention that i got a kid thats it.so i know what you are going through | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/6/2005 5:10:13 AM | | It seems its the other way around to me. I dont mind Mr right having kids.To me it looks like a man doesnt wont an already made family. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/6/2005 8:05:14 AM | | Alot of guys don't. but there are plenty of women that don't either. hell there are plenty of women that leave thier kids for the same reason. i live in a small town on cape breton island (actually it's the biggest town in canada lol ) and i know of plenty of women who were married and had kids,that just don't want that lifestyle. it's a damn shame though that they wait til after walking down the aisle and bringing innocent children into the world to decide that they want to be fancy free. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/6/2005 8:11:17 AM | | redneck_Baby, if you find one see if he has a brother (LOL). I have raised 4 by myself, now my youngest is 15 and I'm still looking to meet a single dad or man, that wouldn't run from me. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/6/2005 8:42:06 AM | | As a single dad I think I'd prefer someone with kids, I enjoy mine alot and wish I had more. I have had the experience where a person without kids can't understand why you won't leave your kids alone at night or why you go straight home from work every day. My kids are my number one priority, and always will be. Honestly they are two of the best people I know and we talk for hours everyday, constantly laugh, and really enjoy each others company. Funny part is they want me to have more kids too. I'll just keep looking someone's out there. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/6/2005 9:03:46 AM | | well they say there's someone for everyone, but to what extremes do you go about finding them???? in a perfect world we would easily find someone to be our partner that accepts us for who we are,all our little quirks and all. but since life isn't like that, we have to work hard to fight for what should come naturally to the human race. love and acceptance. which is where compromise comes in i guess. or maybe i have it all wrong and that's the reason i am by my self lol i wear glasses, should i check if they are rose-colored???? but dang that's a good song lmao | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/6/2005 10:33:46 AM | I personally would prefer to date a man that has children, only for the simple fact that they can relate--not saying that a man with no children cannot be a wonderful "stepparent", just that there is more of a common ground.  | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/6/2005 7:47:27 PM | | I would actually prefer a man that has kids to one that doesn't. As I am a single mom, a man with kids would be more understanding when it came to kids' needs. I am therefore understanding when in comes to their kids too. A man that is affectionate and loving with his children is usually the same with a woman, unless his kids control his life and don't want him dating! | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/6/2005 8:15:48 PM | unless his kids control his life and don't want him dating!
good point ntz, but i think that would bring on a totally other forum lmao | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/6/2005 10:07:23 PM | That's too bad!!
You have found the wrong girls. You need to be looking for women not girls ( i don't mean age either) Maturity is what you have to look for. Personally I think single dads are Hot & Sexy nothing better than seeing a Daddy with his kids especially a real man that has taken the kids best interests to heart. Single Dads are sexy and as far as I know most real women think so. Keep fishin'  & you will find the real woman your looking for Doug | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/6/2005 10:36:49 PM | I know the feeling...I have the same thing...but you have to look at it this way, ignorance is bliss....I would love to meet a man that has kids instead of meeting a man that has never been married and no kids. That alone puts so many questions into my mind such as; "ok, lets see he is 44, single and no kids and never been married...what is wrong with this picture..."
If a women were to met you and run for the hills when she sees that you have kids, then you know what she is after any ways....and you dont need something like that. You need a women that wants to me a mother or already is a mother and not willing to have any more babies. That would be ideal for me...Im 44 and a single mother of three girls...trust me I know the feeling, men see my girls, especially my 5 year old and runs for the hills, guess I know what they are after....and I wont give out so easily. I am what you call a challange!!!
wow this was posted a long time ago!!! your life may be different now and if it is I wish you the very best and if not hey look me up!!!
Denine | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/7/2005 7:32:27 AM | | i'm a single.. Mom of 2. I wish i could find a guy that has kids...cuz at least he has views and morals... and not one that is just into sex and getting what he wants and leaving... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/7/2005 10:41:50 AM | | I don't mind single dads with kids. I actually like them because it shows that they are responsible. I think that women that stop talking to you as soon as you tell them that you have kids is because they wonder if you are still doing their mom. It's something that women can't control. Well, I wish you find the right one that will love you for who you are and not for what you have or don't have. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/8/2005 9:39:59 PM | | I would date a single dad anyday...they know how hard it is to raise kids on their own...I give a round of applause to them | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/8/2005 9:52:04 PM | | It's the same way on the other side of the coin. As soon as guys find out I am a single mom, they bolt. I think the single moms and dads need to get together. The more the merrier right? At least then, we could hire one babysitter and split the cost! :) | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/9/2005 12:35:41 AM | | As an older single dad .I find it hard to find a woman that can accept me wanting to spend time with my son (11).Some say they have raised their children and aren't interested in raising someone elses,especially at this time of life.Others want to have a share of his time with me.I once took my son along to meet my lady friend and her friends .She was drunk so that help me decide not to include them in my time with my son | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/9/2005 1:38:14 AM | | I personally don't mind a single dad with kids.I am a single mom who has been divorced for 2 yrs now and when a guy asks if I have kids and I say yes,its ok,bye,don't wanna talk to you anymore.If I dated a single dad,it would give us just another thing that we have in common. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/9/2005 2:20:21 PM | wow you know readind thru here seems like there are others like myself(single dads) so tell me why is it we or I keep meeting the wrong people who don't want singles dads you know we're not how do you sa... a mom but a companion who can accept who we are and what we do.....unfortunatly I have a double whammy against me..no a triple actually because not only am I a single dad but I also have a very demanding career as well..then there's the fact that I have divorced 4 times...yep 4 you'de think I'd just give up trying huh? I just keep meeting the right for now's not the right one for good,I'm pretty much at a point of thinking that she doesn't exist..so I joined on here to maybe at least meet someone to be a friend with same interests..or at least some of the same interests would be nice...any comments what kind of people do you guys meet..or better yet are any guys in the same boat or did you give up after 1 or 2 marriages? | |
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