| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 8/19/2005 1:49:32 PM | Hello Doug,
I prefer single men with kids. They know how to relate to issues with being a single parent as to where singles with no kids have no clue. I am a single mom of 3 and its just as difficult with single women with kids as it is for men. I love kids and if I am dating someone and it has gotten to the point where I have met the kids I except them as if they were my own but I would never take the place of thier real mother unless thier mother was a deadbeat. There are to many people in this world looking for one thing as far as sexual and that is not what it is all about exspecially when children are involved in a relationship. We may not succeed in the laws of love the first time and its even harder after we have had children but that does not make us any less, infact that makes us stronger as people and even more full of love and respect for the next person and hopefully the last person in our lives. Good luck with everything and if you ever want to chat feel free to message me.
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/12/2005 2:06:19 PM | I have found that I would rather date single moms with kids, because they understand what I am going through with all the issues kids have growing up and the stages they go through. I have dated a couple of women who didn't have kids and as much as they were always saying they understood what I was going through and what was happening, I often got "The Look" which told me I was obviously putting the needs of my children before her needs. And if I tried to explain why I chose to respond to my kids' needs before I responded to hers, I got the "your kids are just spoiled because you always run to help them."
O.M.G., Lady!! My kids are 3 and 7! All they underestand is their own needs, and if you can't wait a half an hour for me to deal with these issues, then you better leave because I am going to be responding to these two wondereful children of mine for the rest of my life.
Hmmmmm. excuse the rant, please.
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/25/2005 9:48:33 PM | | I don't mean to be callus, but what the hell are you doing with 4 children at 25? It is hard enough having one, and finding a man. Men are chickenshits when it come to responsibility and you are going to have lots of responsibility for a man. Good luck to you. Hope everything works out. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/25/2005 9:54:16 PM | | I think as you get a little older you won't find it such a problem. Young women are not ready for the responsibility of children, and they think you are crazy for raising them. Myself, I have tons of respect for single men raising their kids. It is done alot more now a days. I have an ex who sees his daughter 2x a month and thinks that is too much, of course he is raising his girlfreinds kids. I would kill to have an ex who helped out in the raising of our child. Lot of Luck finding the perfect woman. I hope it works out for you and your son.. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/25/2005 9:58:50 PM | | Hey Woody, take heart. I know where you are coming from. My ex has a girlfreind who thinks if he sees my daughter more than 2x a month it is taking him away from "her time", and she feels that my ex should not do anything with my daughter, but should go to all of her kids school meetings, sports, etc. B"***"s like that should be shot. I am looking to find a single dad, one who has the same thoughts on being a dad that you do. Good luck | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/25/2005 10:12:24 PM | Honestly that is not right! Ppl have serious issues! If the women can't handle you have a child that is part of you then that is their loss not yours! I'm actually with someone that has two beautiful kids and I wouldn't change that for the world! They are the best things in my life!
I know most women/men become afraid of a single parenting and possible can't handle the fact of having a role as being one from another person but their own child/ren | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/26/2005 8:18:12 AM | hey I'm a single mother and it's hard, but I knnow it's hard for the father's too but guess what we are all in the same boat and the ship is coming for us, I love seeing father's with their children...its a turn on actually....knowing that there are men out there that care for their seeds of life and being a part of their life. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/26/2005 1:44:18 PM | Hi Doug!
Well I think some women can be scared but I think its women whom have no ideal what commiment it takes, or some might shy away due to the dealings with the kids mother if you and her hity it off, could be a number of reasons, but being in the same boat as you,I have kids and men dont like it either or are worried of my intentison etc... but you keep your chin up u will find her someday:-) and that one will be worthy to be near your kids... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/26/2005 1:59:27 PM | Hi there CountryBoy75 dont frett you will find your country girl who will acept that two kids, I too have same problems as you.. so I can understand your futeration.. chin up kid... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/26/2005 2:22:18 PM | Hey there scraminreel! I was browsing this forum and I saw your 2 cents as you called it and wanted too say I too so understand what your going through I recently was in a relationship that he decided 9months maybe this isnt really for him,and then he had other issues but kids where a big one and I thought DAMMM!! not another one.. i seem too find the wrong ones. but hey anyhow I just wanted too say your situation is alot like mine so it goes for bothe genders sigle parents whether its the Dad or the mom we all in same boat... and thats my 2 cents 4 u.
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Joined: 9/6/2005
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/26/2005 2:35:44 PM | Here's my 2 cents, and keep in mind it is just my opinion and from my own personal experiences. Men, for the most part, base their choices on appearances. Most women who are "strinkingly" beautiful do not want to be burdened with playing mom to anyone because they tend to be very self center, if not self righteous. I've known many women who refuse to get involved with single fathers and even split-custody dads because they want to be center of attention, all money spent on me and they aren't willing to compromise.
Personally, I believe that a woman would be foolish not to love a man who loves his children. I am a single mother and I'd be overjoyed if my daughter's father cared enough to be in her life even on a part time basis. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/26/2005 2:42:19 PM | some don't mind.. some have kids of their own. and have in the past helped raise another persons kids.. the problem is fear that the relationship will end and you lose the relationship you had as the mother or good friend of some awesome kids and it wasn't their fault things didn't work out so they lose the new mother figure or friend they had too...
i don't see a problem with a man having kids also but his and mine might not get along so we'd have to have get togethers and see how each others kids get along with each adult and the kids get along with the kids ect.. lots to consider.. but not all women are against ready made families.. i jumped into being a mother to a 2 and 5 yr old when i was childless and i loved them to death then i had my own child i just always saw me as having three. the hard part was the divorce and losing two i practically raised cuz he was never around... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/26/2005 2:55:51 PM | | I think it's shameful for women to not want to meet or date single dads. I'm a single mom of 3 and I know it's hard to find someone nice and yes most men run for the hills when they find out how many kids i have...but you know what if they want to run let them run. I admire single dads, it's hard being a parent, not only with juggling schedules but then trying to find someone who wants to be with you and the kid(s). So keep looking, the right woman with the right attitude will come along...good luck | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/26/2005 3:02:49 PM | That is nice to here that there is women out in this world that do like men with kids. I am the same as Doug as soon as they find out I have kids they are gone. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/30/2005 12:36:54 PM | | I was wondering if those with kids are understaing when dating those who don't have kids. For example, would you enjoy being told that you always be second? I'm single woman dating a man with a child and I do find it difficult but not because of the child but because of the mother. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/30/2005 1:03:13 PM | | if anything thats something i look for, I myself have a child and alot of times guys without kids just don't get how much time children take up in your life. So I personally think that if a guy has kids (and spends time with them) then he will get the fact that my child comes first. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/30/2005 2:55:18 PM | | There has got to be an easier way to meet some women with these ideals... I have had the same situation/problem with the last couple of women I have met as well... So to all you women who don't mind children... woohooo and cheers as well... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/30/2005 2:57:04 PM | | Well even though I am of the female persuasion, I can not speak for us all. However I think a man with a child shows responsibilty and that he can for someone other than hmself. Only a truely ignorant or selfish woman would mind such a thing. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/30/2005 2:58:18 PM | | lol okay but what if she had 3 kids and only one father? Or is it just the idea of her having alot of children that truely bothers you? | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/30/2005 3:00:05 PM | | Where are you looking for dates? Other than online? There are plenty of women out there that would not mind dating someone with a child. | |
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Joined: 8/29/2005
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