| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 2/13/2006 4:31:21 AM | I am 38 and have 2 wonderful sons, 9 and 16. I would love to meet a man with children. I have only dated one man with a child. They seem more able to accept that not all plans can be fulfilled. Dates are sometimes cancelled. When a man has kids too he understands.
"I am one of those people who would never date a man with a kid. For some reason it shows that they failed somewhere. I don't understand how guys around my age have children, they haven't even been to school do they not want a good life? Do they not want more for themselves? I'm only 23 but I am being honest I am turned off by guys having kids"
I think the above sentence is very honest but somewhat ignorant. I believe the men that step forward and have their kids full time should be admired, just like the thousands of women that do. It's not easy.
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 2/13/2006 11:19:10 AM | | Ok I have ran into this question and tried to get an answer. First I think that my childern are more important than anything. So the type of woman I look for is one that loves kids. Second I thini that if you two are I love that she will love your kids also. If she does not then there is a major problem. If she is unable to accept that you have kids there is nothing saying that she will accept the normal small things that you do everyday.I got a divorce from my wife because after I got custody of my daughter she treated her differantly than the daughter we had together. This I couldnt put up with. I love both of my kids and dont want to be with someone who doesn't. I would rather be single and have my daughter grow up happy and with one loving parent. I understand your pain and just want you to know that its all good. God will handle it. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 2/13/2006 8:49:55 PM | | Personally... I'm looking for someone with kids... I never had the priveledge of having children so i eight want to find a man with children.. or even better... grandkids!! | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 2/14/2006 4:40:13 PM | | It goes both ways really. OSme of the guys I meet tend to back off when they find out I have children. I personally don't mind at all because then its easier to explain at the last minute when one of the kids is sick or something why you can't make it. Children have to come first and if the other already has a child they will truly understand! | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 2/20/2006 4:18:26 AM | i think the kids are absolutley the top on priority. if they are considered baggage then it must be those little gift bags we get at Christmas time. lol
Anyway I think singles scared of kids are because they are not wanting to be placed after the kids (which is somewhat understandable) and if things got serious, they may be instant parents of kids that aren't thiers, which opens up a whole different can of worms. | |
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amgine
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Joined: 1/24/2006
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 2/20/2006 10:18:57 AM | (single dad of two girls 8 & 5yrs)
why are women afraid or intimidated by guys with kids, Some people have
the impression that single parents of the opposite sex have too much
baggage because they've got to work to support their kids and also do the
fulltime job of raising them and spending quality time with them ... which in
their minds, leaves no time for a fulltime partner. Others feel threatened that
perhaps this single parent is looking to completely share the responsibilities
of raising their kids with a fulltime mom or dad (partner) ... and they aren't
ready to be parents ... so they choose to stay distant
well i think its more fear, fear that they cant have us when they becon, I read in
1 post that girls think we failed somewhere along the line, cos we aint with
our wives or somthing like that, I think its sad really i'v gotta suffer cos women
pin me as a FAILURE, well sorry if i'm such a FAILURE cos i left my wife,
cos, she left my oldest daughter (at the time 4yrs) bleedin to death till i got
home from work, only to rush her to hospital for her to get 17 YES 17 stiches
in her back. I'm such a FAILURE for fightin for full custody (which i'v had since
02) which mind you cost me little over $63,000 dollars, I'm such a FAILURE
for doin it alone 800km's from any family support with my youngest daughter
sufferin from Sever Atopic Eczema, in n out of specialists n hospitals, I'm
such a FAILURE for givin up my life for my kids, its just pathetic women think
like that, whats worse is the " Oh your so carin n responsable lookin after your
kids, i admire that" bullcrap i hear,, I'M NOT SPECIAL i just did what any
other human would do male or female in my position. I did what i had to do to
survive, i'v done approved acredited parentin courses so i can bring my kids
up the best i can, my attitude/motto is "its better 2 have tried n failed than 2
have never tried at all",, well i'm sick of failing i'm sick of "oh your so carin,
responsible, lovin, romantic guy BUT i'm just not interested" crap.. I guess I'm
just destined to live my life alone, women wonder y single fathers can be so
bitter at times when we really Give Our Lives to our kids, just to be treated
like a disease.. well my heart is growin colder by the moment dyin for love n
tender affection.. I guess it was the ultimate sacrafice i eva made but if i
could turn back time i'd do it all again for my kids | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 2/20/2006 4:06:26 PM | u know what i would love to meet a guy with kids considering i can't have any of my own due to medical reasons but i cna't find any guys like that around my age and i think alot of people just don't want to get involve with guys with kids cause they are scared the ex like the mother of the children are gonna start shit if anyone knows any guys single and has kids that are between 20 and 29 send them my way candace_brushett@hotmail.com | |
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Posted: 2/20/2006 8:37:21 PM | | I would rather date a man with kids men without children seem so selfish and self centered sorry guys but that has been my experiance.. | |
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rahc
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Joined: 12/31/2005
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 2/20/2006 10:57:54 PM | | i perfer a man with kids then a man with out but will take both.,lol guys without kids dont seem to understand my way of living aposed to single dads understand it totally. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 2/21/2006 3:47:29 AM | | ^^^what about the men that do understand it but the kids have moved out by the time you meet them? the guy would be mid-30s to 40 years old. | |
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Posted: 5/29/2006 10:01:51 AM | I want to let you know that after I read your article you touch my heart in a unique way.
You seems to be a nice lady,and someone I will like to know more about.
Best regards,
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Posted: 5/29/2006 10:02:46 AM | I want to let you know that after I read your article you touch my heart in a unique way.
You seems to be a nice lady,and someone I will like to know more about.
Best regards,
Jose | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/29/2006 10:26:42 AM | Condom what a B**** I was Married for 15 years when i had my sons and the B**** ran off with her boss and left her (Kids) left overs with there dad to raise alone... some of us don't feel our kids are left overs from another relationship, Rather taking responsibileity for our last relationship? Get fixed will ya i would hate for your children to be called left overs!!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/30/2006 4:51:31 PM | hey people im a single mother of 3 girls ive been on and off with my ex for the past 5 years every time we brake up i have problems trying to find a man the min they find out i have kids or even hear the word kids there gone thats the end of them me myself i would love to meet a man that has kids him self single dads are so awsome i wish there were more in the owensound area!!!!  | |
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Posted: 5/30/2006 8:08:44 PM | well i just went out with a guy from pof that has 2 kids ... he met mine and we went out places with mine ... but i never ever did meet his or even see pictures of them. When he'd have his kids - i wouldn't see him till they were gone back to their moms but when i had mine, he'd be over here .. even sleepover here.
When i asked, he said no I couldn't meet them for another few months. Needless to say, it didn't work cause i felt too excluded out of that and everything else in his life ... maybe he was married !?! lol | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/4/2006 1:30:11 PM | | So many single dads and single moms having problems finding someone. Whats the problem? Distance? maybe we should all just move closer together LOL | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/4/2006 1:53:17 PM | People should stop being so judgemental and open up their minds. I mean who cares if someone has kids or not. Unless you really don't like kids it really shouldn't matter, what should matter is how you feel about the person. Most people aren't looking to find a parent replacement for their kids they are simply looking to find a partner for themselves. Kids are kids, how could anyone not like them. When I meet someone I look at the person as a whole, and if that whole involves a child or two then so be it...I'm not about to turn away from happiness cause the guy has kids, if anything I find a man hanging with his kids very heart warming.
I'd like to address this part of my message to Lucky Vet.
Your way of thinking really sucks...children are not someone elses left overs, they are a blessing. Not sure if you have kids, but if you do...How would you like if someone referred to them as your left overs, or otherwise. Don't insult the rest of us with your narrow minded attitude. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/4/2006 6:10:04 PM | I was married to a man with 3 daughters and I had no biological children coming into the marriage. We are now divorced. I still believe he is a good person, but I have one word to say to these single dads that no one may have considered.....Biological Mother (ex-wife). She can distroy the new family, make the kids try to emotionally, mentally and in some cases physically abuse the step-mother. You single dads need to keep the ex-in-check. My marriage ended basically because of her meddling, and I have had several friends who also have terrible marital problems because of the 'ex-factor'. Maybe a single dad who is a widower is the best mate.
Just my thoughts
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/4/2006 6:23:00 PM | Your right about the ex-wife/or ex-girlfriend. Was step-mom to my ex's three daughters for two years, and the hardest part at the beginning was his ex...but I stood firm on my opinion of her medlying and eventually she and I came to terms and tolerated eachother enough to do what was best for the girls. But my ex didn't do anything to stop the medlying, she and I had to come to an agreement....he didn't want to piss her off.
I would still date a man with kids, the thing I'd do differently is make sure that he keeps his ex out of our business right from the beginning...if that wasn't possible then I'd move on.
I still admire responsible/active fathers. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/4/2006 7:33:52 PM | from my experience they do mind,Ive had several tell me that there kids are grown now and they want to live there lives without dealing with little kids ,seeing who I cant make my kids grow faster and Im never gonna give them up,here inlize the delima,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,so the number of women out there looking for a single dad are slim ,but Im still looking for her and when I find her it will all be worth it,where ever you are hun,I love you and cant wait to spend my life growing old with you.....corny huh? | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/4/2006 9:00:25 PM | Hey Doug
I am a single parent and I know what you are talking about. I have also encountered bad experiences with dates that don't have or have never had kids. I myself from my own experience prefer men with kids whether they live with them or not. | |
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