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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/1/2007 9:44:52 AM | | An old post, but I can certainly relate. I've been raising my 2 daughters & my son by myself since '99, and I'm a survivor of a near-death mugging which happened in Wpg. in the spring of '98. Even after recovering from servere injuries, I've managed to do a decent job of raising them. I've not had much luck dating, as every gal I've met & showed an interest in has run the other direction as soon as my children were mentioned. I guess it doesn't help by being obviously disabled to some degree either (a cane in hand), but really, the odds are that most people, men OR women, are somewhat reluctant to aquire a "ready-made family". After I moved to the "safety" of the country, I certainly had no shortage of women whom I didn't even know, walk up to me on the street & tell me that they thought a man shouldn't be raising kids on his own. Not that they were offering to HELP, just that they didn't think a man, able-bodied or not, was capable of doing it, and they felt duty-bound to point that out to me. Needless to say, after only six months living in Riverton, I put my home up for sale & have been trying to get back to the "safety" of the city. This is the only place I've ever lived where I've seen KLAN-GRAFFITTI. So it goes. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/1/2007 9:53:45 AM | Personally having children myself I would prefer a man with children. Then he is more likely to understand the responsiblities that come with them. Any woman that would leave because of it isn't someone you want around anyway. It means she's too immature to handle the responsiblilty, and she's smart enough to realize it.
My boyfriend had that issue too, and it might have something to do with WHERE you are picking up these woman. Not that there a many places to pick up, or met singles.
Do you have your children fulltime? | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/1/2007 12:50:39 PM |
Any woman that would leave because of it isn't someone you want around anyway. It means she's too immature to handle the responsiblilty, and she's smart enough to realize it.
Or it's not about "maturity" or "immaturity" and some people just don't want to deal with the issue at all?
I can say it never fails to happen that some single parents automatically shitcans any single person who doesn't want to date them or help raise their kids as defective.
The reason single parents can date other single parents more easily is because both sides have an equal amount of issues and complications that cancel out each other. That's it. One side can't point out the obvious drawbacks of dating a single parent because they bring those problems and struggles to the table themselves. Let's not pretend that a single parent is dating another single parent because it must mean you are getting a "better mate" No, a single parent dates another single parent because neither side can do any better than each other most of the time.
This is not hard to figure out. If you had a horrible time dating before you became a single parent, why should the situation get any better? It will only get worse. If you had an easy time dating before you became a single parent, why should the situation get any better? It's going to get worse but not as bad as those previously mentioned. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/1/2007 1:45:15 PM | Hello All
I have found that women will send a msg to men who have kids and say
that they are very good to take on kids .. i have 3 kids and a grandchild who i bring up
and the msg i read about ladys dont want to know a man with kids i have found to be true in my case .. dont know why this is .. i have even had msg once asking how i would
take this lady out if i had kids .. so i dont bother i use the site just to try and make friends but after the msg about kids you dont get anymore ..
keep smileing
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/1/2007 2:15:39 PM | | i agree with what you said and i am a single mom and doesnt mind if their was a single dad that had a child that he wanted to be involved in the dates. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2007 8:18:45 PM | | You know it really doesn't matter....i thought by looking at this i could get a pulse for the women that didn't like a guy with kids but it really doesn't matter. My daughter will always be the most important thing to me and no sexual relationship can even be compared to it. I think that whether its men or women with kids, you have to accept them as a package deal and that you will have a totally different relationship with them as a spouse than the relationship they have with their kids. It seems to me that you would fall in love with them as a family or you would not fall in love at all. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/1/2007 10:11:45 PM | To me, I think if a man has a child(ren) thats fine with me, Sometimes its for the better. If they are in the child's life on a regular basis. It shows they are a family man. I say to all the men that have been turned down by women that don't like you having kids, well it just means they are not worth it. Good luck to all you men and cheers | |
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Posted: 6/18/2007 2:02:33 PM | Too Bad No Women On This Thread Live Near Me!!! So far Plenty of Fish has meant no fish for me. I have had alot of women check my profile and as soon as they see that I have a daughter It is the end of the line for me.  | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/18/2007 3:01:48 PM | | IF THE WOMEN THAT U HAVE SPOKEN TO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH SINGLE DADS THEN MAY THEY ARE NOT THE WOMEN THAT ARE WORTH ASSOCIATING WITH, | |
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Posted: 6/18/2007 3:04:39 PM | | WELL I HAVE 6 CHILDREN AND I USED TO BE SCARED OF TELLING ANYONE THAT I HAVE CHILDREN LET ALONE HOW MANY.NOW I AM PROUD OF EACH AND EVERYONE OF THEM, | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/18/2007 3:52:32 PM | | Then you have to keep looking my man! Women who are single moms appreciate men who are a dad to the kids. Like many women have stated, most guys bail. And if a dad thinks he is only worthy of a women without kids, that isn't fair either. Evens the playing field so to speak. If you both have kids and accept them nobody is the under dog, and you both know what to expect and accept each other for who you are and what you have. Kids are such a blessing, and NEVER a mistake. A man who ownes up to being a dad is a total gem, and I hope one day I can be so lucky to find a guy who loves kids as much as I do and welcome his into our family. BRADY BUNCH! I have the boys... got any girls? LOL | |
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Posted: 6/19/2007 4:05:13 PM |
No, a single parent dates another single parent because neither side can do any better than each other most of the time.
And i suppose dating YOU would be better than dating another single parent?
I'm a single parent, and there's no way i'm dating you, simply because i CAN do better than you. I wouldn't let you within 10 miles of my daughter. She'll have a REAL role model in her life, not someone with unoriginal, pre-programmed thoughts and nothing more to offer than a pair of tits that will be sagging in 5 years. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2007 6:55:00 PM | | I tend to flock more to the guys who have kids rather than the ones who dont understand that the child comes first. For some reason most men without kids think that the relationship is more important than the child, not the case, and to find someone who understands that is a great thing. Keep your chin up...the right one will walk into your life when you least expect it! | |
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Posted: 6/22/2007 12:19:58 AM | i do think u could be right hence i waited seven years u see i have 2 out 3 disabled one
girl 23 has mind of sixteen but its catching her up the other a boy who up to last year could hardly walk since opp hes going to cross the pennine way next month. other middle one she ok has a boyfriend who lives with us he helped alot since wife passed away its been hard but i had the reward now its my turn but has yet found no one been her since jan ok some of them look but hey i know i notthe handsome most bloke i cant help my looks it was given to me my brother said put him back but here i am folks | |
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Posted: 6/22/2007 9:39:19 AM | Dancing Queen,
I agree that it's not about "maturity" or "immaturity." A man or woman without children is in no sense less "worthy" than one with children.
I do not agree, however, with your statement that "a single parent dates another single parent because neither side can do any better than each other most of the time." A single parent tends to "match better" with another single parent. There is no need to denigrate single parents. Why is a man or woman with children any worse than one with children? Why is dating a single parent "settling"?
It's not that you're being unfair to single parents. You're being unfair to yourself. You seem to imply that a single parent is looking for someone to help raise his or her kids. You also imply that single parent has "issues and complications." Neither is necessarily the case. I'm a single father and I can tell you that my kids have no need for a new mother. They already have a good one. And although I'm far from perfect, I have no greater "issues or complications" than I did before I had children.
I do have less of an ability to support a woman financially. That much is true. But I don't need -- and have never needed -- a woman to support me or my kids. If you're looking for someone to support you, there's a word for that. And I would argue that if you're looking for a guy to serve as a piggy bank you have many more "issues and complications" than a single parent ever could. No man -- with or without kids -- wants to play that role. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/22/2007 10:31:09 AM | | I actually perfer single dads.. Seeing how they interact with kids shows me how they would be with my kids... And most guys with out kids are scared when they hear I have kids....Bring on the single dads | |
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Posted: 6/22/2007 10:37:17 AM | | While DQ has an eloquent way of expressing her views, I cant understand this harshness she has for single parents. Every post I have read from her has been brought across well, exept her rather obvious stereotypical attitude of single parents as a whole. It leads me to believe she has been burned by one, dating wise, and therefore, has placed one bad apple amongst us all. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/22/2007 10:45:36 AM | ^^^^^^^^^Yup i noticed this too with DQ.
Single parents are people first and many are doing the best they can. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2007 3:30:31 PM | I completely agree with SenileGranny.....she said exactly what I would have said......... a single dad UNDERSTANDS life with kids ! And will be more accepting of my kids - faults and all !!
I dont actively only look for single dads, but I would never ever rule them out or avoid dating them or anything like that. They get what my life is like! Especially if his kids are in hockey too, and how insane life can be then !!! LOL | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/22/2007 4:09:28 PM | I used to think I didn't want to date guys with kids, but that was before I had children of my own.
If you date a man with kids... you get to see first hand if and how responsible they are. A man that is a good father is the best thing for me to witness, and makes my heart melt. And also, since I have kids of my own... then they already understand the priorities that come along with having children and how you can't just drop everything anytime someone wants to see you or go out with you, so we have that mutual respect and patience. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2007 4:30:23 PM | I so agree with what I see in several of these comments.
If they run when they find out you have kids, then hallelujah, you did not waste anymore time in a relationship.
I have not really dated anyone that did not have kids since I have been single. I have three boys myself and I want to be with someone that will understand what it is like to be a parent. Both having kids can add different complications, but it is what I personally would prefer.
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Posted: 6/22/2007 6:00:43 PM | I am someone who stated that I preferred if the men who contacted me did not already have kids. The reason is not because I have an issue with men who have kids, or that I have an issue with kids. I work with very high needs kids on a daily basis, kids with trauma, emotional trauma, physical abuse, etc. I want to have kids of my own hopefully.
The reason I put this as a preference is because even though I want kids, I don't think I would be ready to jump into a family that is already there. I want to spend time with the person I love first before having kids. | |
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