| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/22/2007 6:08:11 PM | I wish all the single dads who make threads about not being able to find women and all the single moms with threads about not finding any men would all get together in one big room and find each other and stop making these kind of threads over and over and over.
If none of the millions of members of the opposite sex on this site dig you...don't put the blame on your children. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/22/2007 6:17:42 PM | I would love to date a guy with a child/children.
I was married briefly to a man with a young baby boy, I took care of him and loved him. Too bad the father was an ass. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/23/2007 2:48:16 AM | | I think that those women who don't want to be with a man who has children, are usually too much into themselves, and have never had to take care of , or give up things for themself. Usually, these women want no responsibility because they have lived their lives for themself; so to turn a non mom into an instant mom is highly far fetched. I am not saying women who don't have children, don't want children; so please don't be a HATER, I am just saying that the women that do turn away from a man with children are not the kind of woman you want in the first place. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/23/2007 6:38:04 AM | | I am a single mum and the only reason I was slightly put off was that a guy I met was a single dad and his two boys lived with him. His ex wife had them every other sat/sun. And I am the same with my child. So the only thing that presented a problem was that whenever we wanted to see each other we both had to have sitters (if we were going out). I would never have a problem with a man that has children but trying to spend time together away from the kids (at the beginning as not good idea to involve them straight away) was the problem. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/23/2007 3:07:01 PM | I have found that mentioning your a single dad is absolute social suicide. No matter how well things are going, when those few words spill out, all thats left is me with a confussed look, and a dust cloud from them going moch 2 the opposite direction. Maybe I just attract shallow women, I don't know, but "I'm a single dad" has become the most effective birth control I have ever seen.  | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/23/2007 3:11:50 PM | | I do not see a single dad in a bad way at all. I always ask him to tell me about his children. If a woman or man makes a decision not to date a person with children it is their choice, they are the ones missing out on a posibly great life. I would say IMO that a person like that is shallow, but then if I had children and a person thought that way I would not want them around my children!!! They would probably not have any compassion or extra love for that child therefore they wouldn't deserve the love of that child, and as we all know.. children love unconditionally (the young ones). | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/23/2007 5:49:11 PM | I personally find single fathers (dads) extremely attractive. Any one who can assume the huge responsibility and personal sacrifices of raising their children alone understand what parenting means. I'm sure most single fathers are not looking for another mother for their children but simply a companion for themselves after babies are to bed. I know that where I'm at. Keep looking, she's out there.
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/23/2007 6:57:04 PM |
biggfish26 : I have found that mentioning your a single dad is absolute social suicide. No matter how well things are going, when those few words spill out, all thats left is me with a confussed look, and a dust cloud from them going moch 2 the opposite direction.
Its no wonder they have a confused look, they should know you're a dad from the start. Being a dad is the first thing a girl learns about me and if she goes mach 2 the other way that's great because that way we didn't waste each other's time. It weeds out a lot of girls but I want those ones weeded out anyway - being a single parent means that dating you is a package deal.
bigfish26: I don't know, but "I'm a single dad" has become the most effective birth control I have ever seen
so...uh...does that mean you were having a problem before with getting pregnant too easily?  | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/24/2007 8:49:34 PM | I agree with you, freefallinT! If a woman has a problem with a guy being a single Dad, or vice versa, then tell that self centered, controlling, vicious person to GET GONE. Our FIRST PRIORITY, folks, is to our children.
I do not care if a person has every desirable trait out there, except that they "do not approve of," "regret," or "feel in competition with" my children...they would be GONE.
A parent/child relationship is ENTIRELY different than an adult dating relationship. Those that DO NOT UNDERSTAND this and feel that they must be FIRST in every facet of their partner's life are control freaks who deserve to be alone.
How about balance? Wouldn't all of our lives be much more satisfying if the people that we cherish embraced each other, rather than envied each other? YES IT WOULD. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/25/2007 7:04:08 AM | It's been 6 months since you posted this but I say YES there are a few of us out here that would date and not mind if a dad has kids. That would be why you are called a dad, you have kids. If a woman cannot accept that then you don't want any part of her anyway.  | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/25/2007 10:53:36 PM | I am a father raising his 2 children Full-Time!
Their mother is no longer around and I take care of them all by myself. Yes, it is hard at times, but we have done whatever we've had to, to make it work.
I'll get eMails from women saying how much they respect a man like me, but that's basically about it.
I think a lot of women see that I have my children Full-Time and see that there's no way for me to spend any time with them. Yes, it's hard to get time away from my children and finding a trusting teenager or adult to watch my children while I go on a date, has been hard to find.
The most important thing is to me is that my children will always know that I have been there for them and have put them first above everyone. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/29/2007 7:26:12 AM | im a single mum of three wonderful children, and i work 5 - 6 days a week, but always find time 4 the children, my past relationships hav been with men, that hav always had 2 children of his own. which i like, coz then, i know that he is a family man, that loves kids, weather they are his or not.
Its great 2 find men that hav children already, coz kids are great, i love them, i love the family sense in a great family man | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/29/2007 7:37:54 AM | Seems that single women without kids find it harder to accept that a guy has kids of his own. Having said that, some single moms don't want a "blended family" either.
I'm part of a large number of single moms who say they'd prefer a single dad to the average single guy-- they would have so much less explaining to do as far as why the kids have to come first and why they couldn't go out tonight because their child has a fever. When you're a single parent, the kids need to come before the date. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/29/2007 3:00:53 PM | Well put. I find it doesn't matter how many times I explained it to my date that the kids come first, nor did it matter how I approached the kids come first subject, every time the "kids came first" came up, it was a challenge.
This is a tuff subject because women without kids have a lot of freedom they don't realize they have. At the same time, dating a single mom is a double edge sword, because if it's not my kids, it may be her kids that need attention. It makes it hard to find the time for each other. I have found it extremely difficult to make either type of relationship work.
Oh well, I love my kids and they make my life so great. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/30/2007 8:47:56 AM | | I would welcome meeting a single dad myself, actually prefer it. I would think a man who raises his child/ren understands first hand the demands of parenting and would appreciate a single mom all the more! I've tried to date men without children and it just doesn't work. It has also been my experience, that even the men who have visitation want a woman who's more spontaneous and available at a moments notice. We can't just take off for the cabin when the mood strikes, well unless we bring the kids of course! Being a parent doesn't work that way, we live by the calendar and sometimes have to schedule dates or other outings a week in advance. If a single father accepts my one child with special needs, I would graciously and lovingly accept his too. I appreciate that his kids come first, even before me! | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/1/2007 5:08:52 PM | | well i can say the experience is saddening. my kids don't live with me. me and my ex just had a falling out. i haven't been able to find anyone. i can attract women when i go out. but yes, when they find out i have kids... they change. i wounder will i ever feel another human being. and how is it that my ex is dating.. does she not tell them? or is it her in her hate for me she tells them that im not there for her or the kids? when i am. the whole thing is very frustrating, & lonely. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/1/2007 5:23:26 PM | | This was some good reading. I can't wait till I get a girlfriend and she is bombed with blue's clues and the wiggles. That party frame of mind goes out the window fast. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/1/2007 10:51:57 PM | | I'm a single mom, would love to meet single dad with kids. At least they know what i 'm going through with kids. Be patient, someone will come along, ur just meeting wrong kind of woman. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/2/2007 3:07:30 AM | No this one dosn't .....just because a man has children dosn't mean he couldn't be the man of your dreams,,,and it would stupid of any woman to expect otherwise in this day and age.
It dosn't bother me in the slightest...if he is the right one,,,so are the children.
I have found more andmore men do have there children at home,,,and i can't see this being a problemm,,,peolpe are divorind in there droveds these day and this should be expected , and even thought about as a possibilty.
well thats me done...and if a nice man is out there, please get intouch...not bothered if your working or not.
I am i am a civil servant, and my children are grown up....
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/2/2007 2:36:12 PM | if the women run the other way then they were not the right woman for you. not all of us run. i feel more attracted to a man that has custody of his kids. i think it shows that men are more responsible when they have their kids. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/1/2007 10:05:24 AM | Single dads understand more about life's responsibilities especially if they are custodial parents. Even if they're not custodial they had to mature fast in order for them to care for their kids. I admire the commitment that single dads show when they really care about and are there for their kids. Also, I think it depends on the woman as to how important it is for her to have her kids be the first ones for her partner in the relationship. In my opinion kids from a previous relationship are as important to a dad as kids from the current relationship. Can the woman in the current relationship love the single dad's kids as her own? I think the answer is a definite yes! It takes someone who is willing to make the relationship work and take it seriously though.
I can also say that is more of a balancing act than anything else. As a partner u wanna be there for him and be part of his life, join in on the fun and be part of his life in his kids (since they're a crucial part of his life). Understanding that his kids come first is key. Nevertheless, how far back do u step away so that he still spends time with u as a partner but also with his kids? No one ever said it'd be easy I guess! lol | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/1/2007 10:17:52 AM | | well from they women that I have seen in the past year they love the fact that I am the one that has my son and raising him, for the first month or so. Then its another story that they get frustrated because during the week I am with him and only able to see them on the weekends. I dont believe in introducing the kids into a realationship untill its been around for a while | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/1/2007 3:59:50 PM | | I have, and I would do It again in a heart beat.... If us woman expect some guys to do it, us woman should have no problem dating men with children.. Besides all you single father out there, It shows you have values, and thats hard to find these day!! | |
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