| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/14/2007 7:54:33 AM | | I wouldn't mind dating a man with children. Children are a blessing and a man that steps up to raise his own alone is a man to be admired. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 9/14/2007 9:16:42 AM |
as soon as they find out I have kids thats the end
not sure how to work the message quote.
As soon as they find out, they should know from reading your profile. Kids are part of being a single parent being full time means they are always at front of your attention and demand and get your time.
Usually when something is not working for me looking at what I am doing provides and answer on how to fix.
Perhaps you are fishing in the wrong end of the pool. Notice both boys and girls complaining about the same issue so could have something to do with species that frequent the shallow end.
Or as has been suggested earlier there are a lot of issues related to bringing too families together that would get in the way of some peoples expectations.
Heck at a minimum you now have four people who have to learn to play nicely together instead of three. Both have more children than one? Just do a quick nose count and allow for more complexity of personalities. If natural siblings have trouble relating then figure on potential for conflict being multiplied.
The old I know couples who blended families and was able to observe the interaction of the children. This is way more than, hey I think you are cute lets do something together. So cut the runners some slack. Change locations. Best of luck. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/2/2007 3:49:53 AM | Outside the Door
He was only four
Playing outside my door
Running free
Laughing merrily
Not a care
Curly wavey hair
Innocent and energetic
Exuberant, kinetic
Soon he became five
So much alive
Ball at his feet
Making my life complete
Six and seven
Years made in heaven
Eight, nine and ten
Starting to comprehend
The early teens
he was becoming mean
A sports machine
Living life's dream
Years roll on
He's becoming noble
I start to worry
Becuase he's no trouble
So much given
Seeing my son living
In years to come
May he be as one
I hope he takes as much joy
In his own baby boy
Who can want for more
Someone to adore
Than a lad of of four
Playing outside one's door | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/2/2007 7:03:45 AM | i prefer men with kids i have them and frankly men without kids dont know how to deal with kids on a regular basis. there is just something about daddys, melts my heart when they talk about their kids | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/8/2007 11:31:17 AM | Quote: "Single dad here, with a full time, lives with me 3 year old beautiful little angel, she is the center of my life and I must say that it is hard to find someone who is willing to get involved into a realtionship with kids, I'm not looking for a mommy figure for my daughter....she has one " ME " . I'm looking for someone for myself, but it is still hard finding the right one, I'm looking for someone who has kids too, and its not that easy."
I don't mean this to be horrible to any one, but coming from the point of view of a lady that hasn't got her own children, if you have a relationship with a guy that says his child is the centre of his life, where does that leave you?? At the bottom somewhere and that is why some women tend to avoid that situation with a guy that has children. They're not being selfish, they're just taking a sideway step before they get involved and get disappointed at never being the centre of their guys universe, which is usually what everyone wants to be when they're in love with someone.
Having just been reading through all of posts that the men replied to this post as well, makes me wonder what they want a woman in their life for (that doesn't have children of their own) cos they are saying their son/daughter is the most important thing to them, they will always come first etc, etc, so then why are they looking around for a woman to be with? I just don't understand it to be honest. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/8/2007 12:45:44 PM | Bieng a single male w/kids who do not live with me , the woman whom you do meet are on the opposing side looking in to see if you would be a good provider, careing.  . S0me woman ,just like men do not want children after a certain point in there lives, more like someone for them,no distractions.We have chosen these experiances to learn,to grow, to become who we said (in the begining) we would be. So to everyone ,don,t give up,get along," for everyone that decides not to get involved, there is 5 more in the waiting,ask for what you want in life" What do you mean , house keeper not incl,   , Wes.... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/8/2007 5:41:19 PM | hehehe that's easy my friend. Women are shocked for one that the man got his kids and why not the court system is 99.9% in favor of the women in getting the children which by the way excuse my bluntness "Sucks". But then you have the other aspect aside from the shock value of my god he has his kids or (baggage) to them you also won't have enough of the one thing a woman wants most from you and wants you to dedicate solely to them "MONEY".
Sorry to the few ladies out there not like this. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/8/2007 8:56:41 PM | Man who has his life together who just happens to come with kids? Adorable, amazing !
Man with dreadful parenting skills and really dreadful children looking for a housemaid to rescue everyone- RUN!
So the difference is mainly in the man himself- not the children...
I also read on the forums of mum's whose children have some serious health issues that would seriously impinge on the quality of life you could share with that person - that is an issue - not necessarily related to the parent as a human being - but a life decision on what you really want to have in your life.
I have heard of step parents or potential ones of either gender not being accepted by the children, and that, would make life hard and some people simply walk away burnt, and resolve not to be burnt again...
Think too, someone who walks away may have gotten very used to living a particular lifestyle. Its no indictment on them. Life just thinking of yourself and another adult is very different to packing up a car with six people...
The people most likely to take on other children, have a level of confidence in their ability to cope...something not everyone feels...so it isn't a value judgement on the 'dad" but a truthfull recognition of something within themselves...that they don't want to promise something they are not sure of being able to deliver on.
I would say a man with a large family, hire a nanny - so a prospective partner does not feel she is being recruited... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/9/2007 6:30:44 AM | | It seems the opposite for me. I met guys who seem great but as soon as I bring up my kid they head for the hills. I'm sorry but my daughter is the biggest part of my life, if you dont like it, then its better that I dont waste my time. Dont get discouraged Doug68 there are women out here that would sometimes rather date a guy with a kid because they know how important they are. Dont get me wrong though it is nice to meet a guy without kids so the scheduling is easier to work out. Sometimes time alone with someone who doesn't have kids is great so you can be the you that you used to be. I have meet one guy is great with my daughter and they are better friends then we are....isn't that just my luck. LOL | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/9/2007 7:02:31 PM | | I guess not having a child makes it hard to understand about the child coming first but (most) people with kids know exactly | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/9/2007 8:51:26 PM | | I think there are some messed up women out there, if they have a problem with children your too good for them anyways so try not to let them bring you down. I think the women you've met are probably scared of the responsibilities that come along with kids and just aren't ready to handle it. Maybe seek out women that have children of their own that would be my suggestion. They would probably be a lot more understanding and you'll have more things in common with them. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/10/2007 3:44:08 PM | | thats not what I have found. women i have dated like me more when they see me nurturing my kids, they see the soft side of me, they have told me it totally turns them on. I have been the heart breaker in all the dating since my divorce. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/10/2007 4:01:02 PM | | Men with kids are sexy and intoxicating. And when you see them interact on a positive level, it is fabulous. Any woman who would side step a man because he is handling his responsibilities , I promise you, will hope and pray for that exact man when she is knocked up I promise you. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/21/2007 7:59:50 PM | Ok im a woman with no kids i came in this forum to be nosy lol
For me if i meet a guy on here i have more to consider before meetin them where as if a guy has no children id meet in a heartbeat.
I think most single people would rather meet someone without kids as a rule.
In many ways i think it best all ways round.
I lived with a guy with 3 kids and in honesty i hated almost every minute of us havin them.
It just wasnt me and thats just bein honest.
I got no kids through choice.
As a parent you have preparation knowin baby is comin and gradually buildin up to 3 kids, suddenly i had 3 people 5,6 and 10 runnin round i want i need etc i couldnt do it and end i didnt want to. didnt have to.
Is a single woman right for you? For your family ? Theres alot to consider.
If i was a single parent i think id want someone who had kids so its not all doom and glum there are women u will appeal to, theres plenty of us to go around after all lol x | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/21/2007 8:04:05 PM | oh and incredibly well said sexysamantha !
I have dated guys with kids and like u said no woman wants to hear the words my kids come first.
It may well be true and we all adults we know that deep down we dont need to hear it!
I'll be quiet samantha made a point people with kids should listen to and hear! | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/21/2007 8:07:59 PM | | I think I am starting to perfer men with kids..At least they understand that calling me on Friday night for a date on Friday night just isn't going to happen..Not to mention when I get off the phone quick to attend to a screaming in pain son, he won't be as offended.. lol (yea did this once and the guy was pissed at me..dumped him like a hot potato) | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/21/2007 11:48:28 PM | | yea i have that same thang happen to me i dont understand it eather cuz women wit kids want a guy wit out kids to understand their a package deal but when i say my kids come first they say we wont work cuz ur kids will take up all ur time | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/22/2007 3:14:44 AM | Of course they do!
It boils down to "Why should I assist in putting effort into helping to raise another womans child(ren). What's the return for me from this man, in his current situation, as my children are :-1)now about to leave the nest and/or do not need a decent male role model? . 2) Won't accept him with his offspring", or,3) I do not want to adjust to a new dynamic family-type situation with young pre-teenage children involved.
Also, it means a lack of control over the man involved-
yes, for a caring father, the children are put first, they depend upon him for their emotional/physical needs; and by a sence of necessity/duty and paternal love he has to do right by them.
Even if his own happiness is, shall we say, of no consequence or importance.
If you are a single dad then FORGET female love, companionship, friendship-you'll NEVER get them while you look after your child(ren)-not just in my experience either.
I hope I'm wrong- but then my 'Pandoras box' has been emptied. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/22/2007 7:45:53 AM | I agree..as a single mom I would much rather date a man who has kids...or at least has raised kids. It would be so much easier to relate.. children are a big part of ones life.
I am not sur about taking children on though (as I already have one)...it's a case by case thing. Depends on the situation, age of children..etc... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/22/2007 3:34:14 PM | You know kids are a single parents treasure. They bring happiness when no one can. They listen to you when no one else can. They can certainly make you laugh when no one else can.
I've been a single parent raising 2 chldren for over 7 years. I don't regret not being able to meet those pretty women who once found out I had two teens ditch me. It's better anyway, because they don't understand the role of parenting. Women may not want to become mothers to your children or maybe they don't want to compete for attention from you. They may also might not be ready for an parenting role.
The best suggestion I can give you is to let God bring the right person to you. Just as Abrahams brothers were looking for a wife for him, they searched with a certain quality in mind (feed their camels with water and then offer it to them). In short, this woman was the right woman for Abraham and just as the story was told, they lived to be happy and died at old age.
I say these things to encourage you that being a single parent raising your kids is an honor. They love you you as a father for sticking around and loving them no matter what they do. They will always love their mom, but will now love you more than a mom and more than as if you were a dad.
Women who don't want to be with a single dad raising kids are only looking out for themselves and will continue to do so. They have no idea the faithfullness and loyalty you can bring to a relationship whereas other single guys fail to recognize and keep in any relationship. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/22/2007 6:54:10 PM | for all u single dads out there from a single mum , myself and all my girlfreinds think that single dads are fantastic it shows that ur a real man who steps up to take the bull by the horns no matter how hard it may get. but mates dont fret single dads are the best kinda male u can find women shy away because single dad = ex wife and an angry ex wife is not as inviting as a tiger if u get my drift. keep faith my friends 
jo | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/22/2007 9:55:42 PM | I would be soooooo Blessed to find a single dad who would date me. i have two sons of my own and a single dad situation would be awsome for me...
-cali, santa cruz | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 10/23/2007 12:54:00 AM | | I don't mind a dad with kids, I only had son's so a little girl to play dolls with migh be nice. My friend on the other hand does not. I think most women that do not like dad's with kids is more worried about the ex not the child it self | |
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