| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/27/2009 9:28:48 AM | | I usually don't mind dating single dads, because they are more mature. It's nice to see how much they care about their kids. I don't know its just something about them. I've only dated a few guys with kids, but I guess they give off the 'good potential father' vibe (since they are already fathers, lol, makes sense). | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:19:36 AM | | Makes no difference if a man has kids. Might mean that you both just have to work a little bit harder to make it all work. Good luck, not all women will be scared of and if they are they're not for you. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/27/2009 9:15:57 PM | | As much as possible I am avoiding to date single dads..nothing wrong with single dads but I dont like to deal with their kids.At this time I dont like kids probably it will change in the future. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/28/2009 8:04:20 AM | | Thats awesome! I definately am NOT looking for a mommy for him he has one and she does a fine job! I pride myself on being an awesome dad. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/28/2009 11:05:40 AM | I do understand what you mean of NOT looking a mommy and I know ..im not the kids mommy.What I mean of I dont want to deal someone's kids like...I have no patience watching or taking care of them..I like kids I can only stay with them for half an hour more than that Im done.
Some dads who has teenagers that some of them has no manner,has no respect with thier dad's girlfriend,there's a time that you and his teens will argue..some of them will yell at you"YOU are NOT my mother so dont tell me this and that.
Sometimes the ex's will enter the scence and will tell you "hey..what did you do to my kids"--you cant win them.
Sometimes part of the cause of the break up of the relationship are kids,dealing with kids,the difficulties of raising them,the fight and arguements between you..thier dads ,the kids mom..etc.
I know that not all of these ive mentioned will happen..its only my opinion.
In general I cant imagine myself to be with someone's kids. Im not a good candidate for single dads. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/28/2009 11:49:39 PM | My first time posting here, so I apologize if this doesn't show up like it is supposed to.
Anyhow, I am a single father who has my 8 year old daughter 50% of the time. We have a two week on/two week off situation. She is the one who actually asked for it to be that way, believe it or not! It works out great and she gets to spend equal amounts of time with both myself and her mother.
What I have found so far, is that most of the women I have met can't handle the arrangement I have. They say it is attractive that I am so involved in her life, but once that two weeks comes around that I have her, they seem to lose interest and fall off the face of the earth. I generally have a rule that I do not introduce my daughter to anyone until there seems like potential in the relationship evolving into something a little more serious. I have dated single mothers before and found it very difficult when they introduced their kids right away. It's that whole instant attachment thing, and if something doesn't work out, it sucks for everyone. in any event, my daughter is my priority, and when I have her I try to spend as much personal time with her.
I'm starting to lose hope that I will find someone now. I think being a single dad hasn't really caught on for the dating women out there. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/29/2009 12:19:47 AM |
I'm starting to lose hope that I will find someone now. I think being a single dad hasn't really caught on for the dating women out there.
Don't lose hope. Whenever I hear of a couple who get along well when it comes to raising their children after divorce, I often wonder why they broke up in the first place. So is there any chance of you and your ex getting back together?
If not, don't despair. Your daughter needs all of your attention right now anyway. When she gets a little older, when she is a teenager, she will be off with her friends more often than not, and your dating life may be a little more productive. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/29/2009 12:29:46 AM | [Whenever I hear of a couple who get along well when it comes to raising their children after divorce, I often wonder why they broke up in the first place. So is there any chance of you and your ex getting back together?]
No way, definitely no chance at all. We are definitely better off friends. It's actually a miracle that we do get along as well as we do now. And it's better for our daughter that we can be friendly towards each other and put her first before our differences.
I can definitely see your point about when she gets older and has more of her own social life. It's just tough, and not much fun being alone. Definitely more fun to have someone to share life with! I have a lot to offer, and in general think I'm a pretty good guy. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/29/2009 2:58:00 AM | If I am going to go out with a single dad, I want his ex in another state, and his children either teens with their own social life, or adults. I have gone out with single dads, and there is a heck of a lot of stress. Guys say they do not want another "mother" for their kid(s), but then what happens when or if she decides she wants her own, or needs to let the guy she likes kid know that she is there for the dad's life.
I find it terribly rude to tell a woman you are interested in being with for a long term relationship that she has no "mothering" bearing on his kid. She will eventually if she wants to be a good wife, and if they decide to have their own kids, those children will become half siblings. I have half siblings, and they hated me until I was 12 years old, and left home. Years later, they accepted me.
Set boundaries, fine, but do not tell a woman you want in your life that your children have no bearing on her unless you (the single dad) have left your children with the ex wife in another state.
Call me self-fish, but I like to have a man all to myself, and not worry that I am intruding on his kids time, or the ex wife. Maybe single dad's might be happier finding single mom's? | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/29/2009 3:52:50 AM | | i have a son, who i dont live with but stays with me at weekends, and i find when i take him out to places its great, as its easy to start converations with others, chatting about the kids etc | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/30/2009 8:27:42 AM | i definatly dont mind dating a single parent dad i dont know where you are all from but there are women that are decent around  | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/30/2009 8:50:44 AM | The man I met here in POF and am in a relationship with has three teens ages 13-16 (*whew!*)
When I was 'available and looking', it depended less on whether or not a man had children or the ages of his children than it did what kind of person and father he was. Compatible with me and with my style of interacting with children (including our ideas on child rearing) was the only factor I considered when a man happened to have children. It did help that my own children are adults. My options could include a man with or without kids .. while not having to factor in mine too.
However -- To read in a profile or be reminded over and over that his kids came first would have triggered my red-flag alert. Children ALWAYS come first. It's an unwritten rule. Goes without saying. If you were to discover during the dating process there's a problem with that, then you and she are not compatible as a couple. End the relationship and go fishing again. Problems come up when we don't act on the red-flags we clearly see in an effort to hold onto a relationship that can only bring problems which are not likely to resolve themselves over time.
Know who you are. Know what you want in a lady. Know your parenting style (and theirs!) Accept nothing less than you're truly willing and able to compromise (which is where the knowing yourself comes in.) | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/30/2009 9:11:07 AM | | Yup, it means you took them away from their mother. Least natural thing in the world. Gives me the utter creeps. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/30/2009 9:40:46 AM |
Yup, it means you took them away from their mother. Least natural thing in the world. Gives me the utter creeps.
What a bizarre thing to say.
If you're serious, please elaborate.
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/30/2009 10:00:50 AM |
Yup, it means you took them away from their mother. Least natural thing in the world. Gives me the utter creeps.
So it is completely "natural" for a father to have less of an involvement in the lives of his children? A mother is the "natural" parent....so what the hell is the "father"? A sperm donor devoid of any parental instincts because he has a penis?
~shakes head~
Please do elaborate on why you would think such a thing..... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/30/2009 10:21:04 AM | | I have had bad luck with this also, once a girl find out that I have full costody of my three sons they hit the brakes. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/30/2009 10:46:25 AM | "they hit the brakes"
I remember now that he did initially feel I would end our budding relationship once I'd gotten to know his teens. Seems them hitting the brakes had happened before for him, more than a couple times. Parenting is huge. If a lady knows she isn't ready or doesn't see herself nurturing someone else's children, best to learn that sooner than later. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/30/2009 10:47:35 AM | | not at all......most single dads are awesome and make great parents. The problem comes that they can't seperate the dad time from the date time......and will drop everything....even mid sex....if something comes up with the kids.......it's these single dads that make many woman go.........NEXXXTTT! | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/30/2009 1:52:24 PM | | sorry pearl but i think u need to go and talk to someone and get some help because your obviously not right in the head . not all mothers are maternal and not all mothers make good mums get a grip woman | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/30/2009 2:15:49 PM | | I also have found that women sometimes aren't open to guys with kids. I think it might have something to do with the crazy baby mom drama that sometimes is heard about. But against that we are just one person and have only control over our actions not hers. I will always be that Father that wants his son, loves his son, and can't live without his son. So if that leaves me single for the rest of my life so be it. My son means the world to me and if he isn't welcome than I don't want to be and it probably wasn't worth it anyway. I am sure there are women out there that would go out with single fathers, its a big world, doesn't mean we fathers are going to find them. But I wish you all luck. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/30/2009 2:23:10 PM | | I agree with what you said about the mothering issue. I am a single father of a 4 year old boy and if I get into another relationship the new figure in my sons life is going to be a parent whether they know what to do or not. It would be rude and unfair for the father or mother to expect anything differently. Just as I except the fact that her new husband is a father figure in my sons life whether I like the fact or not. Mason knows who his father and mother are. My child will learn respect for all adults, but maybe that's just my military upbringing. Boundaries and/or rules are a necessary step in parenting anyway, so they shouldn't be thrown out the window because of a new person being introduced into the child's life. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/30/2009 7:56:38 PM | First of all if a women minds if you're a single Dad and have kids then she isn't right for you. What happened to meet someone fall alittle, get to know them and then slowly ntegrate the meeting of the children. Not a good idea to introduce just anyone to your children. I don't care if you're a woman or a man. Kids come first and the significnt other will build over time to be someone that fits in to this new life. But, repecting the children by not just introducing one, two, three, four and so on and so on. The way we have relationships will impact our children for the rest of their lives. Show the children how to respect each other in any relationship and you should expect the same in return.
So, do women mind men that have children???? No if she is a respectful women. Thanks, :)
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