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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/30/2009 9:55:33 PM | | I think single dads are great. I actually prefer to date men that have kids, they understand where you are coming from when something with the kids comes up unexpectedly. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/1/2009 12:39:52 AM | | i have to agree there r so many men out there who have kids and wont be a dad at all or are only a dad when it is convenient so u being a good dad is a plus in many ladies eyes just do what you do if people don;t like that your a single dad than chances are the should not be around your children anyway | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/1/2009 2:51:43 PM | I've noticed that lot of the younger women on here who don't have children seem to once they find out you have a kid just delete your messages,
I'm 20 yrs old have a 2 year old son, and he is basically my world, I use to start out my messages explain i was a young dad and what not but 99% of my mail would be read and deleted, This includes Women who have children already,
Now I just send a Basic message.
Is there something i should say or change in my profile or am i just fishing the wrong crowd? lol | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/1/2009 3:03:31 PM | | I am right there with you, OP. I have a wonderful 5 year old little girl as well, and i find it impossible to meet anybody on here. I have my daughter 2 days one week, and 4 days the next week(me and my ex made an agreement without ever going to court) but nobody even gets to see that I am really a great guy, because they see the single parent part of my profile, and run away. There is no drama between me and her mom, we get along great as far as my daughter is concerned. She is married, and yeah I don't really care for her new husband, but I give him the respect he deserves, but it seems that not that many women on here want to take a chance with a single dad. It sucks, I know, but we just have to deal with it and move on. I keep seeing posts stating "the right one will come along" and I am starting to not believe that. I have been on here for 4 years, and have only gotten 2 replies, it makes me think, "am I that bad, or is it just because I have a child?" I would gladly date a woman that has a child, because I know that they would know how to treat my daughter right. I am not looking for a mother figure, just someone that is going to show her the respect that she seserves, and they have to understand that I cannot always go out on the spur of the moment when I have my daughter here. Single parents have it bad on this site, its just the way things are. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/1/2009 3:06:34 PM | | Sorry for anyone reading my previous post, I see that there are some spelling errors, I jsut type fast and sometimes don't check my spelling, lol. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/2/2009 4:42:05 AM | I'm probably repeating something that's been said somewhere in the 5 year(!) long thread, but I agree with several of the posters who have said that some people on this site seem scared off by single dads. I find it especially true in my age range (mid-40's) if her kids are older. The profile choice "All my kids are over 18" has become a red flag for me.
My challenge is trying to get past the initial reaction. Fatherhood is one of the many life experiences that makes me who I am. But like any single experience, it doesn't define me as a person or control my life 24/7. Unless someone literally has no connection to the rest of existence...no career, no family, no pets...then there's always something in their life that could interrupt plans for dinner or a vacation or anything else.
I know I'm just venting, but I wanted to get it off of my chest. I'll be quiet now.
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/2/2009 2:11:07 PM | | I wish it was true.. I am a single dad of a 16 month old.. I have her 60% of the time and her mom has her 40% of the time. It is hard to date and such with a child and very hard to find someone whose not totally desperate to date. I am very frustrated with the dating scene nowadays, so I am on the verge of giving up and just taking care of my daughter. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/2/2009 2:37:46 PM | | I would love to find a single dad that is actually raising his kids. I think that we would have a lot to talk about and maybe help each other out. I have 5 kids with only one home full time and I have rasied they all by myself. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/2/2009 7:19:10 PM | I would have to agree i would luv to meet a single dad as well. It would be nice to talk about things in our life as single parent. And plus single dads do understand when u might have to cancel due to the kids. But i have met some great guys who don't have kids who are great so don't get me wrong. But it seems that single parent have a better connection in alot of ways. Wish ther more guys who would date single mothers and dads at least around here. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/3/2009 7:59:52 PM | | I have to agree with alot of these girls on here. I'm a single mom of a two year old. He is my life. Alot of guys feel like it's their kids that are holding them back from a girl, it's not!! Even before i had my son i didn't mind dating a dad if he did what he was supposed to and take care of his child and his bills. Trust me it's not your kid and if it is you deserve better neways. I have met guys who seemed great with kids then a problem happens and they don't understand. One wanted to meet my son on the second date!!! Don't think so !!!! | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:34:01 AM | I have a few male friends who have custody of their kids.. and I give them full credit for doing it... and I wish them all the best..... and they do a damn good job at it.. My ex has my youngest son.... as my son wanted his dad to take "responsibility for him".. cos he had me for 13 yrs.. and now he has been gone for 12 months...
Hurts me not to have him but it was his descision.... but i dont mind dating single dads...
Well done guys...... kisses | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/4/2009 2:02:14 PM | | same goes for men.. as soon as they find out I have a teen age son. POOF , gone. I would relish having someone who cherishes the kids they have. I happen to love kids. I treat all kids as if they are mine, and a gift rom God, which they are. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/4/2009 2:38:37 PM | I have been a single dad for 5 yrs, since my son was 3yrs old ,and all I can say is "woman dont date single dads!"
I meet alot of woman and have even been asked out more than once , but the minute they find out I have an 8yr old at home ...well , you can see it they're eyes.
I love being a dad , and if it means being single ...so be it.
Im not bitter, just wish I could meet someone that wants more than sex.
Rick | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/4/2009 5:23:47 PM | | I would like to date a single dad. I am a single parent also and feel that it would be easier to date someone with a child. We would have something in common. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:48:26 PM | I'm they type of person who has no-little drive to have my own kids (doesn't mean I don't want any). So if I meet a nice guy that has a kid or 2 I would be fine with it :)
As for other girls... No idea, I don't understand 99% of them anyways lol | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:10:55 PM | | Absolutely love them myself. I have children and I am watchful as to how they react with their own. Now if we decide to be friends and we meet up, that is cool. But if we are dating and he wants me to meet his children too fast and want to see mine, then I will be concerned as I wonder why he risks his children having confusion over the people who are 'possible temps' paraded in front of them. That is just my opinion. No, I have no problem with a guy with children. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/6/2009 10:25:02 PM |
Gives me the utter creeps. Any woman with utters isn't a woman.. cows have utters... and other barn animals
Actually, cows have udders......I'm just saying.  | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/7/2009 12:20:11 AM | but reverse the question, how do women feel about guys with children,
ive been single for 7 years now, my daughter was born blind and slightly autistic
she is a great child, always playfull never crys, for me i think (from what i read) i should be a prize catch
i dont smoke dont drink, never take drugs and all those things girls say they dont like in a guy
of course i meet some girls but soon as they know i have a daughter of 7 they dont swim, but grow wings and fly
so i understand the guys dont want to take care children thets not there own, but its not just us | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/7/2009 2:37:54 AM | | Hey brother I feel your pain. Good for you that you are an involved Dad! I have my son, he is 8 three nights per week. I feel it is a selfless and noble effort to try to stay a hero to your child even after a divorce. I was not their fault why should they suffer. I have had the same problems but you know-they are only little once and then it's gone forever. We have to stay true to what we know is right and hopefully the right woman will want to share the wonderful experience with us. I have accepted the fact that my happiness and such comes second to being a great dad. If I die alone, I'll die knowing I made a difference in the world and left a legacy that will live long after me. I had an absentee dad and it affected my life. So i want to make sure my son never feels that way and has the best life he can have. People like you and me have a higher calling-it's a good thing stay the course. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/7/2009 6:02:03 AM | When the topic of kids come up while I'm chatting with Pof females yeah it spells the end.
I have added that I raise 3 kids on my profile and now its been nothing but crickets. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/7/2009 8:58:28 AM | Not all women are cast in the same mould..
The ones that mind are probably shallow narrow minded people, and not worth knowing.. maybe pof can add criteria for selections:-
when doing searches..(or fishing : fishing: ) we fill out parts of what we are looking for
-must not have kids
-dont mind kids
just a thought | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/7/2009 6:00:09 PM | | Im raising my two little angels, Its hard work but its rewarding. So far i have taught them rights and wrongs, how to respect people and be polite and they are so well behaved. If i didnt win the court battle they would have been stuck with thier mother and dragged up. I often wonder if women with out children are turned off the idea of dating a full time dad. But oh well who cares, its thier loss, not mine. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 7/7/2009 8:09:58 PM | | i would love love love to meet a single dad.. i'm a single mom so having kids in common rocks.. there's an understanding there that isnt there or has to be learned if you date people that aren't mom's or dad's when you are one.. i find it easier to bond if a single mom is with a single dad.. that would be awesome. | |
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