| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/7/2005 11:14:18 AM | Well in my opinion I would rather date someone that is raising their kids because in all honesty they know exactly what I go through everyday. I dated this guy that has a 4 year old son. Him and his ex split up the child was 1 so this guy has been a "week end dad " for the last 3 years. I have a 10 year old son and an 8 year old daughter, I left my ex 4 years ago and while married the man was home maybe 2-3 months a year (military). With that said i've pretty much raised my kids on my own since they were babies, i've juggled the kids, house, work, sports since day one. This 'weekend dad' couldnt handle my hectic life it stressed him out lol This guy couldn't understand why one weekend i cancelled an outing we had planned becuase my childrne lost their priviledge to go since they did something that wasn't right. He toldme i was being unreasonable. One time he told me that he didn't understand why I was tired and the weekend my kids were gone I wanted to rest and take it easy.... He said to me you only work 40 hour a week I work 5 - 12 hours days. I just about drove him into the wall.... yes i only work 40 hours at my place of work but my day starts at 6 a.m. when i wake up my kids and ends at 9:30 p.m. when my oldest goes to bed! In between I work my day then i come home, i make super .. help kids with homework,.. take the kid to this sport and that sport you know the drill... so "work" doesnt stop at 4:30 p.m. when i stop being paid lol
All in all be patient you will find "the woman" that will understand what you live daily. Don't give up yet... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/7/2005 11:18:37 AM | | yes the Brady Bunch the more the merrier and it's even more fun when both have kids of similar age. My kids love other kids, it's quite cute to watch them with younger kids because they are so sweet and gentle with them. My daughter just turns into this "mom" and it's quite comical to watch. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/7/2005 11:04:19 PM | Not necessarily! I dated a man with 4 boys full time. The set of twins were 20 and still living at home, and a 14 and 12 yr old. The kids were NOT the problem.... the man was. Go figure.  | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/9/2005 3:54:43 AM | just a quick reply ..if the women are turning from you because of your kids ..well sucks to be them ..guys who step up and actually want their kids are are the greatest thing next to coffee . try to date only men with kids for the simple fact they understand about being a single parent. i love kids and a day at the park for a date is awsome ..keep looking the one for you and your kids is out there   | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/9/2005 1:24:40 PM | | I have same problem being a single mom., guys avoid me big time once they know I am a single mom. I love to see dads who take the role of a father and although there surely many guys who are single dads,,is is rarley "seen". I preferr single dads,,they know how to have their priorties in order and dont have their head in the clouds. single dads seem to cherish the lil thing life more and not take advantage of what life has to offer... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/9/2005 5:45:10 PM | The last girl I was dating, I met her when I had my little girl with me. She kept asking me out on weekends, when she knew my daughter was over. Finally, I told her that my daughter was a huge part of my life, that arrangements alway have to be made around her schedule, and basically, that she came first. Meant it as a discussion topic, because obviously there was a problem. Girl said, "Fine" as if discussing the weather, and then changed the topic.
Think I told her on our next date that it wasn't working. oh well. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/10/2005 12:33:47 PM | there are lots of women out the that are like that but even be4 i had my own children i dated guys with kids and i personaly think that there hot .....so keep smiling and remember not all of us womn are like that there are lots that love and respect men that are single dads you just got to find them hunny | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/11/2005 11:56:46 AM | | I'm still trying to figure out why it seems that alot of ladies are not into single dads...............................either that it is just me, hmmmmm | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/11/2005 5:59:40 PM | Me too.
All these ladies say they're into single dads, but I don't see a line up at the door.LOL
Of course, I know there are other issues, and I'm not the easiest guy to get along with... but I don't even get that many msg from ladies trying to *get* to know me. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/11/2005 7:57:15 PM | HaHaHa.. its not the kids I have a problem with. I love kids. Single dad's with kids are kewl too, however when I bargin on extra kids besides my two... I don't mean the man too.. he has to be grown up. That is hard to find.
Serious note though... I find alot of single dads with kids tend to think they don't have a life outside their children. It is a good thing they want to be the best dad they can be, but... there is a time when dad needs to be a man. Go out and have a bit of fun without his kids.
I'm a single mom with kids and I have learned it is not selfish to tell them kids you are going out for the night and you will see them in the morning. (not meaning staying out all night, just they will be sleeping when you get home) Some men are worse than women about "worrying" about if their kids are going to be alright without them. YES they will. Trust me on this one. 
I go out once in a while after my children have gone to bed (a time when I know I won't be missed) or one night on the weekend. It works out great. Kids sometimes need a break from their parents as well... stock up the goodies, rent a movie and have the "camp out in living room" night.
If I can find a man that can set aside time for just me, time for himself, time for him and his children, and then time for him, me and our children. That would be awesome!
Balance is the main key here... something I find men have a hard time with. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/11/2005 9:24:47 PM | | I know exactly what you are talking about. I find I have very little time to myself let alone anyone else. Work and then come home to my son. Though his mother tries to take him most Saturdays for the night but he normally wants to come home instead of staying the night. I can;t figure that out, he never wants to spend the night at his moms. But thankfully my dad will come over and watch Josh for a few hours while dad plays on the computer. My 64 year old father is addicted to BF1942, lol. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/11/2005 9:24:56 PM | | I know exactly what you are talking about. I find I have very little time to myself let alone anyone else. Work and then come home to my son. Though his mother tries to take him most Saturdays for the night but he normally wants to come home instead of staying the night. I can;t figure that out, he never wants to spend the night at his moms. But thankfully my dad will come over and watch Josh for a few hours while dad plays on the computer. My 64 year old father is addicted to BF1942, lol. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/11/2005 9:25:02 PM | | I know exactly what you are talking about. I find I have very little time to myself let alone anyone else. Work and then come home to my son. Though his mother tries to take him most Saturdays for the night but he normally wants to come home instead of staying the night. I can;t figure that out, he never wants to spend the night at his moms. But thankfully my dad will come over and watch Josh for a few hours while dad plays on the computer. My 64 year old father is addicted to BF1942, lol. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/12/2005 9:48:00 PM | | Hi-I'm new to posting but had to ,for this topic! I am having a hard time meeting a guy because I AM a single Mom...but I had my wee lad when I was 41...(he's nine now) and guys my age have become grandfathers now! They don't want to start over again I guess...my son and I have a great life but I waited a long time to become a Mom because I wanted to be financially OK and finish with the crazy life of an advertising exec...and now of course I can't seem to find anyone who has taken the same route! (Anyway...we ARE happy...maybe I did everything backwards?) What do ya think? | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/18/2005 1:35:39 AM | | I walked away from a 15% ownership in a large well known Engineering firm to raise my monkey. And I have never been happier. I spend 24/7 with her for she is only 2. I am the only parent she really has and I am the luckiest man alive. Unfortunatly most women think they have to compete with my child.But they don't. I find it hard to meet women and alot of women shy away once they find out that you are the primary care giver.Why is this.I'm not bad looking or an idiot.I am not conceided or smelly.I shower and shave when required.LOL! But all seriousness,I love kids.There are a hell of alot of single parents out there and I am one of them. Single parents need love too!.... I lost where this was going and monkey is up wanting to go peepee. good nite! | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/20/2005 10:16:23 AM | | I am a single mom, and I almost prefer single father's because they understand that your child will always come first, and tend to be more settled and serious and not out drinking and partying all the time. I have a lot of respect for single parents because it's a rewarding yet demanding responsibilty, and other single parents can relate and respect that. If the women leave, let them go. They ultimately aren't in it for the long run, would probably not stick around for the hard times(inevitably, there will be rough spots in any relationship)and would be a bad role model for your kids anyway. Never lower your standards for anyone. Love is about acceptance, not conditions. I hope that helps. ;) | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/26/2005 7:55:07 PM | | Thanks! But my child is my life blood. I wouldn't be able to not be in my kids life!Plus she is funny and quit an actor. | |
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