| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/29/2005 7:09:24 AM | | I find women with kids are more fun to be around, easier to get together and go places with our kids. I have yet to meet a woman that doesn't have kids and actually thought something could devolope....but you never know....keep you posted. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/29/2005 12:23:54 PM | Id rather date a man with children for they know what its like to be both parents.They are more family oriented and know what they want outta life and what they are looking for.They are more understanding and more grateful.I just think its great that a man can take care of there on children now that takes a real father to do so.
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/29/2005 12:37:14 PM | I agree that someones perception is their own reality, but saying "someone's leftovers" is just ingnorance and shows that person is bitter about something to do with single parents. I am a full-time single dad who has full custody of my daughter, I work at the very least 40 hours a week and I certainly would never "need someone" to raise my daughter. I am doing a great job of that myself and therefore have little respect for bebewood and her simple minded comments. Maybe her parents should have worn a condom? Food for thought. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/29/2005 1:44:03 PM | ^^^^^^^^papa
I have to agree w/you , it has been my experience that people assume you are looking for a replacement mom/dad for your child and that is not the case with most single parents. The line does begin to blur when you have someone you care for in your life, because as all single parents know, if a close trusting relationship develops, it is inevitable that time will be spent in part with your kids, because you can't just jump and run to their house in the middle of the night, or take a spontaneous weekend getaway w/them like singles w/o kids can.
For me, it has been hard to date men without children because they don't like the lack of "freedom" that comes with being a single parent, and don't realize that all that really means is you have less time and "freedom" in your life to party and get in trouble and do all the things you didn't know you wouldn't miss.
These days, when my 3 year old goes to his dad's for visitation, instead of seeing it as an opportunity to party, I find myself wandering around the house trying to pass time until he gets back and fighting the urge to call to call him every 5 minutes to see what he's doing. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/29/2005 2:15:06 PM | I have to agree with you on this. Everytime my baby goes to her mom for a day or two,I have to scramble to keep busy. With a kid you can do so much,but as soon as there are gone,I feel like I had an arm or leg cut off and I am hopeless! Then she comes back and I start thinking off everything I'm gonna do the next time she is away.Then she goes and I become a lost idiot all over again! | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/29/2005 2:47:02 PM | | I am glad to hear some women think that. I am a single dad of three, I quit looking as most women I have run into on here or in real life have said you are a great dad but I am busy,seeing someone, or most just ignore me...lol, in my experiance from what I been able to gather most don't want a man with kids. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/30/2005 1:06:24 PM | | The answer for me has unfortunately been, yes they do...especially if you have other things going against you. I am a very short guy, yet before I got married and had kids I dated just as many women as my other friends did. Once I got divorced, with custody of my kids, suddenly I was too short, or women came out and simply said, "I want to have kids of my own, not someone else's" and stuff like that. Even single moms tell me they can't handle the idea of a combined family. Maybe it's just the area some of us single dads live in (I'm in central Florida), I don't know. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/30/2005 1:31:27 PM | | Speaking as a former single parent and now single grandmother (I am raising my granddaughter) I admire single fathers who have custody of their children, or those that spend as much time as possible with them. Most guys disappear as soon as I mention my granddaughter. | |
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salfe
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Joined: 5/24/2005
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/31/2005 12:25:41 AM | I would have to disagree with surftiludie, although separated (by choice since the laws in Canada are different than in other parts of the world) I have tried to meet other people through more traditional means. They too were single moms. First, I felt that they chose to me moms simply out of convienence, and were easily awarded custody of their children. (this is another topic that can be discussed in length at a later date). They were very upfront that they felt that I spent too much time with my daughter as oppose to them. First, my daughter is my responsibility, and therefore my priority. Second, I place quality ahead and much more importance over quantity. Finally, I will always sacifrice myself before my daughter.
In perspective, children are only children for such a brief period in time, and that these are the most important years of their lives. We as adults, can easily postpone our lives until our children are more mature and less dependant on their parents. We as adults have many more years to enjoy our company with other adults.
In conclusion, in my opinion it is disruptive when one has "in-the-box" type of linear thinking, and does not allow themsevles to open up to both sides of the story, thus enabling them to be enrichred and view life in a brader perspective. They're are selfish people that do exist simply because life was handed to them on a silver spoon. I don't intend to be negative, there is always hope that are people who are sensitive to the bigger picture thus enabling them to make better decisions. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/31/2005 1:21:38 AM | | it's bizzare but of so true everywhere you look anymore women with double standards are everywhere. my situation is that i am a single dad with 2 little boys, there never was a child support order or custody order with them, i take and pay for my kids cause i love my kids, when the eldest was born myself and their mother sat down and had a truce as it were, we realized that we would be linked together forever and there was nothing that anyone could do to change it. this is great for me because my children have both a mother and a father, not a mother and a sperm donor. needless to say we get along, there can't be hate between the parents of your children and expect your children to turn out just perfect. well apparently the fact that myself and their mother talk occasionally just buggs the heck out of women. i mean whats the problem, they have a mom and a dad, we communicate, i give willing support to the kids and her occasionally.... i don't get it when i look at women with children, which i prefer 100 to 1, i look at the relations between the woman and the childs father, face it i don't want to have a child or even be with a woman that drops the childs father like a sack of rocks and goes for the support like a crutch. Money doesn't replace a father, and for those women that think differently, i feel sorry for your kids | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/31/2005 10:12:24 AM | Here's to all you women out there who think we single dads with kids are hott guys, gives me hope in knowing one day I might find a loving good woman to share my life with who won't run off just because I have kids.   | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/31/2005 11:13:04 AM | | i feel this way i have kids but still have nothing against meeting someone who has kids w or w/o any handicaps . but it would be a relationship id take slower for both out sakes and the kids. i think a man being a single dad is cool and deffanate eye opener that hes willing to take on a challange. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/31/2005 11:19:30 AM | | and to add i have the best saying ive ever used and heard is "why do ppl w closed minds always open there mouths". just a thought i never understood why ppl that cant seem to open up to other ppls oppinoins always have to open there mouth and cant seem to shut up about things the know nothing about. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/31/2005 11:26:19 AM | | sorry its just i read another fourm on here and agree i dont know why ppl just because they couldnt work out there relationship dont put there kids first and get along just for there kids. i wouldnt have it any other way .that my kids dad get to pick them up when ever i dont have other plans just to spend time w them oher that every other weekend and call and talk to them when he cant see them wouldnt bother me a bit as long as he doesnt try to start shit w the new man in my life and i would give him the same respect w his new person in his life as long as she treats my kids well when their there .same w my new person in my life i would never let some one come in and just start to take over as father to my kids .such as spankin opr any thing of that sort. | |
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salfe
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Joined: 5/24/2005
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/31/2005 1:11:02 PM | | I apologize surftiludie, was a late night, and confused your post with another, I'll be more careful with the mouse next time. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 5/31/2005 3:15:52 PM | | I am a single mother, I have a 2 yr old son, I find it easier to date guys that have kids, they are more understanding when it comes to wanting to go out, The only real issue I have ever had with dating a single dad was he thought his kids were better than mine, to me in a relationship they should equal. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/1/2005 5:28:14 PM | Well I personally think that many of them do. I's happened to me twice already that at the mention of the fact of having 2 boys and one being adopted cause his real daddy is an ass''''''
and doesn't want him. Mabe it's just my experience but as a single father I find it extreamly difficult to find a date. When I didn't have children, it was very easy. Can someone let me know why women shy away from single dads so much? | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/2/2005 10:04:10 AM | | I've been a single parent, on my own with the kids, for three years now. Or I suppose I should say "single dad". I find that women find it very attractive, and will date but that's it. I have found that many want to be friends or maybe even just have a part time exclusive sexual relationship, but they would never commit to more than that. This is because I have children. I suppose that it's better than nothing so long as I never introduce anyone who is not too serious to the kids. lol. Guys, we've just gotta accept our lot in life, and be thankful that we can be a part of our childrens' lives. There are definitely worse things in life believe me! | |
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dino12
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Joined: 5/31/2005
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/2/2005 7:44:38 PM | | I like a man who can make a mean mud pie! LOL I don't mind a man with children at all. I agree with you women, much better men. It will teach them patience and understanding. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/4/2005 5:12:14 PM | | I have too say that having my child full time is a blessing. I am entitled to watch as many cartoons as humanly possible. Plus I get too play in the park on the swings and no one can say anything. Being a fulltime dad is the coolest job ever and the benefits are incredible! | |
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