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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/4/2005 6:12:14 PM | i have kids and i respect men that are single dads raising their kids and i do go out with single dads they are people to and they need love and companion. angela  | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/4/2005 6:14:14 PM | | dont give up i am a single parent of 2 boys and i date single men with kids i dated a man with 2 kids and we almost got married but he cheated on me and married the other woman. angela | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/4/2005 6:22:56 PM | | hi my name is angela i am glad you are going to get your son full custody if the women dont like it the heck with them i am a single parent and i like dating men with kids i have kids it would be like the brady bunch without alice i have 2 boys . cheer up you will find the right woman dont give up. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/4/2005 6:25:18 PM | | dont give up i have 2 boys and i want more children i would love to go out with a man with a 7 year old they are so fun when they young. you are putting to much pressure on you. if you live in carmel ny i would go out with you. i am a single mom of 2 boys. angela | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/5/2005 10:13:31 AM | | Are you Kiddng???????????? No! Listen,, MOST woman LOVE kids... And I think Most can love kids Every bit as much as thier own... I would give anything to find a great guy with Great kids... I can not have children. | |
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Barbs7
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Joined: 5/27/2005
Msg: 182 | |
| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/5/2005 4:23:46 PM | Well, I won't say I am happy to hear women are not the only ones with this problem. I have two adorable kids, 9 and 17 and as soon as a guy hear that I have two kids and my son is 17 already, the guy is out of there! Why is that? Yes I know it is extra responsibility blah, blah, blah, but aren't we old enough to deal with things like that now?
Isn't the purpose of this site to find someone you can share some good times with, not be lonely, and yes, maybe find the "one" with whom you'd like to have a relationship no matter what?
Just thinking out loud here. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/5/2005 7:59:03 PM | barbs7 - Well that's the purpose of this site, but so far the only nice, single women, who have intelligent opinions on this subject, live about 4 billion miles away from me! 
At least this forum gives us single guys a little boost.  cheers to all the single parents getting the job done. And boo to all the guys/gals who won't give us single moms/dads a chance.
There I'm done now! 
Chancy | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/5/2005 10:10:16 PM | I have no problem at all with a man who has children, with him or with his ex...
I do however, feel that it's important that I can see his relationship with his kids and how that goes before I decided on a commitment with him because I don't think I could handle someone who is a blatantly bad parent to his children and I don't think I could handle kids who have serious behaviour problems or hated me (few kids ever hate me).
I have my own kids, so that presents a challenge on both of our parts but with the right combination that can work just fine...as long as he isn't hoping that I will give him any as I really don't want to have any more children at this point in my life. Sigh... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/5/2005 11:00:28 PM | Well, this is all refreshing, but I am a single father, and as soon as I get close with a woman, they freak-out about me having a kid.
I never knew a child was considered by some women as "the plague". Too bad, as I think I'm an OK guy, and my son is very open and well behaved. And, yes, it's also by single mother's, not just single women. Too bad, I guess.
I'll survive... | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/6/2005 9:34:07 AM | "And, yes, it's also by single mother's, not just single women. Too bad, I guess."
That statement surprises me, I wouldn't think a single mom would turn down a single dad simply for being a dad. It takes all kinds, I suppose.
My boy is sweet and well-behaved with an endearing sense of charm, and my last boyfriend decided after a year of dating that he couldn't accept my son because he "looks too much like his father". LOL. He was purged through my front door before he knew what hit him. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/6/2005 9:46:37 AM | | as a single mom for the past 14+ years, I know what you are talking about. Have not met many guys who are interested in a ready made family. I do know alot of single dads out there and they are to be commended for taking on the responsibility of raising their kids. Personally, I wont get involved with someone who doesnt have kids. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/6/2005 10:58:22 AM | | So many of you single moms say you would like to meet single dads, yet I have not had much luck...so where are they/you? I am a single dad, and I have had no luck meeting a DECENT single mom here. I am not into the bar scene or church...where else do you single moms go to meet single dads? Clue me in here. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/6/2005 2:03:05 PM | Being a single parent myself, I actually prefer guys who have kids. They're more likely to understand when you have to cancel at the last minuet because your child is sick, or when you can't go out cause you don't have a sitter.
Danielle | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/6/2005 9:39:55 PM | I have heard from many women how they really like single dads and would date one, etc. but in my experience, it's kinda like the nice guy comments. Girls all say they want one, would be with one and all, but are typically drawn to the bad boys..
I think the same goes when you ladies talk about single dads.. You all respect us, think it's great and that we would be a great catch.....(just not for you). | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/6/2005 9:50:52 PM | | I know I like the "nice guy" the "gentleman" the "Single dad" the "responsible man" ... I can like and want all of the above, but.. I'm not going to want them if their personality stinks or they don't make time for me. So many men want to say... no one wants a single dad, well maybe it is not the single dad no one wants.. maybe it is the attitude he projects that turns women off? Not everyone is meant. | |
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salfe
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Joined: 5/24/2005
Msg: 192 | |
| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/6/2005 10:06:30 PM | chubbylicious
All I read is "I","I","want","time for me"
How's that for personality!
there is nothing wrong with such words as "us", "we", humility is a rare trait.
It just sounds so familiar, and just shy of "you spend too much time with the kids" I don't mean to take out on you, It's difficult to find somone who would rather ask "What shall we all do together?" Underlying words is all meaning kids are included too. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/6/2005 10:10:22 PM | Very rare trait indeed.
When "I" find a man.. with or without kids willing to share time with "ME".. then "WE" can be an "US" with or without kids, otherwise it will just be "HIM" "SINGLULAR" or with his kids.
Even more colorful personality.
HaHaHa | |
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salfe
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Joined: 5/24/2005
Msg: 194 | |
| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/6/2005 10:21:34 PM | A man who becomes part of a child's life will never be a "HIM" "SINGLULAR".
We'll never be remembered for how much we love other's, but always be remembered by those who love us.
see how beautiful the words "us" and "we" can be if put in the right context. | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/6/2005 10:25:49 PM | There has to be a balance. There is "we" and "us" with kids.. and there is "we" and "us" without kids. Adults need time to be adults too. If you can't be a "we" or and "us" without the kids, then there is no possiblity to be a "we" or "us" with kids. So in that case "I" wouldn't be interested, and "you" can do without "me". 
For the record, I have two children and I would love one day for there to be an "us" to do things together. However, you can't just hop into an "us" without a "we" and you can't get a "we" without spending a bit of time with just "me", and visa verse. | |
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salfe
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Joined: 5/24/2005
Msg: 196 | |
| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/6/2005 10:42:12 PM | The thread reads "single dads with kids" not "single dads with independent young adults". I choose to put "KIDS" ahead of "me". When it comes to "Balance" the needs of a "kid" always outweighs "my" own. Mature adults can be "adults" when "kids" are not around. Ie. when they are at "school", or "sleeping", or "camp" or "grandparents" etc... By the way, did "I" EVER mention the word "interested" just an observation. LOL | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/7/2005 5:38:27 AM | Ok did I ever mention I was not talking "directly" to "you" but to your post using "we" "us" etc as an example, nothing to do with you? Just to make that clear, cause it seems to me that you may of took something personal there. Remember you started the "we" "us" examples.
Don't twist my words. I don't put myself before my kids, but I have found balance. I can do for me as well as them, and us. I have needs and they do too... nothing about puting anyone ahead of anything else. I know right where my priorities lie. All I was saying is, if you want to get to know someone there is a time and place for everything, and sometimes kids are not included. There are alot of times when kids are included, but not always. Alot of people don't understand this... we all need a break, and we all need to be something other than "our kids" mom and dad. We need to be ourselves singluar too.
I don't know why you even picked apart my first post in this series of rediculas "quote" postings to bring up the "I" "Me" thing. I am so not about all that. I have a feeling you just wanted to pick something apart and I got lucky.
Go away, your dismissed. | |
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salfe
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Joined: 5/24/2005
Msg: 198 | |
| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/7/2005 7:50:18 AM | chubbylicious
I didn't mean to take it out on you, you were just caught in the cross fire. This is a thread asking people "Do women mind single dads with kids?" I was merely giving my opinion. I didn't intend for you to take it so personal. "we" did not refer to "you" and "I". Why does everything have to revolve around "you"?
I wanted to convey that your first post on the second page sounded a little seflish after reading the post to which you replied. You are too quick to generalize, and maybe to some degree I'm just as guilty, but, in that particular post it did sound, to be blunt, "selfish" by using such words as "I" , and "make time for me". Then you attacked men in general by using phrases such as their "personality stinks" or "the attitude he projects". I don't mind if someone criticizes and individual, but criticize an entire group.
I'll make this simple, I wanted to merely convey the message that in the case with parents and kids, kids are part of the package. You created an impression that you were separating "him" and "kid(s)". Please review your posts, you did more than once. With the case of single dads, you souldn't alienate kids from their dads, they're part of the "collective package". Like wise, it should be clear, that there is not an option, without the "kids" there is no "us".
As a single dad, and please if this has happened to other single dads with kids (again reffering to the title of this thread) I have found in past relationships, that those relationships didn't work out because I felt, that the women I was involved with, constantly complained that the "kids" were hindering "our" relationship. I personally, as mentioned before, put kids ahead of myself, but hey, that's just "me".
It appears that you need a man, more than a man with kids
best of luck c_licious | |
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| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/7/2005 8:49:39 AM | Well to some degree I agree with both of you. There must be balance between the kids and the relationship of the parents. It's hard though because kids do take so much time and attention.
I personally would want to get to know someone one on one and be sure there is something permantent or long term before involving the kids anyways, so, again, I think you are both right in a way.
There are so many issues to consider before bringing someone into the fold. Parenting styles, lifestyle, etc etc. I think it would be best to sort as much of that out before the introductions to the kids.
Just my thoughts
Chancy
PS. maybe you two could natter at each other by email, it's really off the topic of this forum.
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salfe
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Joined: 5/24/2005
Msg: 200 | |
| Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/7/2005 10:08:46 AM | thanks for your prospective.
I thought that I was in "topic". I felt that this individual had other issues.
It's a delicate subject, I agree with you in one level, however, just to add another level. since kids take up so much time and need attention, Why invest your time with someone, without knowing how that person will react around your child(ren). One needs to look at the entire equation.
Obviously, it is important to know the person, before introducing them to your child(ren). There is only one question to ask "Will this person harm my child?" if the answer is no, there is nothing wrong in introducing children with stangers. It's part of social skills that they need to learn. As a parent, it is our responsibitly to ensure that it is done responsibly.
Now, getting back to main topic I guess I took it too personal an individual was too quick to judge a person, and how she generalizes men. We are all unique and have different personalities and attitueds, that's what makes us special, but to judge a personality as "stinky" or an attitude that "turns women off", instead of embracing the differences, In my opionion, there is an opportunity for growth.
For the most part I find that women don't mind single dads with kids. It is all up to the individual and their perceptions on life on how they view themselves, as well as others
good luck | |
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