| Does size matter ?
Posted: 2/8/2007 11:22:08 AM | it doesn't particularly matter. size is one of 4 criteria used to determine the value of a diamond.
carat weight - this is the most obvious when you first see it - some women like big rocks, i can't stand them. 1/4-1/3ctw looks proportionate on my hand. if a guy i really cared about gave me a ring that was smaller than that, that would be fine too. the size of the rock is not proportionate to the quality of the relationship.
clarity - whether or not there's uncrystallized carbon or other defects. this is the one that i personally think it's worth paying extra to get good quality, because those "inclusions" are really ugly and can make an otherwise pretty diamond look bad.
colour - whether it's nearly clear, slightly yellow, or seriously yellow. i don't care about this one whatsoever, i can't tell the difference and a lot of other people can't either.
cut - affects how well the diamond reflects light, so a better cut will appear more sparkly. most people can't actually tell whether they have a good cut or not.
as for where to get a quality ring? i've no clue whatsoever. i haven't been looking at rings for 7 years now. | |
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| Does size matter ?
Posted: 2/8/2007 12:17:23 PM | | Size shouldn't matter at all! Neither should the price. If the man can afford it, than he should buy it. If he can't, then women should back off about how much of a "cheapskate" he is and try paying the price for a $10,000 ring herself, which she would only wear during her engagement anyway before letting it rot away in some jewelry box for life. If only De Beers hadn't launched this "diamonds-is-everything" campaign back in the 1940's, then men wouldn't find themselves in this ordeal, which destroys their savings for years! | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 2/8/2007 2:36:39 PM | I think it's incredibly thoughtful that you'd want to get her a ring with a diamond. i do. I also believe in the golden ring be it silver, white gold, gold. The joining of a couple in marriage(could be wrong here) is or I think my pastor stated is a joining of 3 gold bands.
A band is just as special and important as a ring with a gem. Depends on the views of the couple. has she given you some sort of an idea, that anything short of a diamond, BIG, would be unacceptable? If that's so, that's awfully shallow and materialist..
If its because you WANT to..Congrats!! Whatever you choose, I'd hope she'd be thrilled with your forethought and consideration.
Best Wishes! | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 2/8/2007 2:54:54 PM | Demanding, materialistic, shallow people concentrate on the size of the stone.
If thats the type person you want... get 2 carets or bigger set in 18 caret or better gold (or maybe platinum).
If its really about the relationship and not the depth of your pockets, then a piece of glass set in electroplated zinc will work. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 2/8/2007 3:51:23 PM | My husband was a master jeweler until his death three years ago. He taught me to admire large stones, as long as they were good stones... That is the key, quality over quanity. I had some small rings that he threw away when we got married, he said they were not worthy of me..
Two months salary is customary when buying an engagement ring.. However, nothing says you can't buy a larger diamond at a discount by getting it at a pawn shop, or from a private seller out of the paper..
Why not? Then take it to a store and have it sized, and cleaned.. Nothing says I love you like a big old honker diamond, nothing worse than having to whip out a magnifying glass just to see the stone.. | |
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| Does size matter ?
Posted: 8/30/2008 1:09:14 PM | Have you been married?
When "we" became engaged, we both went shopping together. I'm glad we did because the ring I would of chosen for him was more elaborate design , and money. I was in college at the time. He wanted something unique and simple.
He got what he wanted and I got what I wanted. Which was a totally different ring than he would of selected for me. Much better than me/he deciding what the other should wear everyday.
And believe me, if you are truely married you both will be wearing it everyday.
That tan line wil not show. | |
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| Does size matter ?
Posted: 8/30/2008 1:10:20 PM | Have you been married?
When "we" became engaged, we both went shopping together. I'm glad we did because the ring I would of chosen for him was more elaborate design , and money. I was in college at the time. He wanted something unique and simple.
He got what he wanted and I got what I wanted. Which was a totally different ring than he would of selected for me. Much better than me/he deciding what the other should wear everyday.
And believe me, if you are truely married you both will be wearing it everyday.
That tan line wil not show. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 8/30/2008 1:12:01 PM | If you are looking at wedding rings what on earth are you doing on a singles site????
The size of the ring does not matter. It's the meaning behind it that does. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 8/30/2008 1:36:07 PM | | Your supposed to spend like six months of your pay or something... Its not the size, its the cut and the amount you spend | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 8/30/2008 1:56:37 PM | | The amount you spend is supposed to be symbolic to show how much shes worth to you (in a sense). Overall, its just a symbol of your love to the point your willing to commit to law that your fidelity is real. For a girl it can show how much your worth as well, the more expensive the ring, etc. But realistically its just a symbol, a very sentimental one, that should be treasured nonetheless however. | |
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| Does size matter ?
Posted: 8/30/2008 4:19:31 PM | | It's the meaning of the ring that's important,not the size of it!!! | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 8/30/2008 4:53:35 PM | The size of the diamond (not the ring) shouldn't matter. But you only get one chance to get one. Do you want it to be memorable?
My ex bought me a second hand ring (that obviously had the inscription filed off then buffed, etc) I thought that was the cheesiest damn thing ever.
I would suggest 1 caret, but it all depends on what you can afford. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 8/30/2008 5:11:58 PM | what style of ring and karat of the stone(s) would really depend on the woman.
as i'm not fond of rings or diamonds it wouldn't matter much to me. a simple thin wedding band would suit me just fine. some girls are all about the glitter, but honestly a big showy rock on my finger would be a worry and would probably be a nuisance too. nice and simple for me thanks. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 8/30/2008 5:39:49 PM | This is funny. Today I was at the salon and my stylist was admiring the rings on my hands. I have four stack rings all by Hearts On Fire and yes, they are beautiful. He said to me, "I feel sorry for the man that proposes to you." I told him, "any man who thinks it is about the ring for me, is not the man for me."
The truth is this, if I did get married again, I would wear a band, maybe it would have diamonds, maybe it wouldn't. I just know that if I did get married again the last thing I would be thinking about would be the ring. I would be thinking about the man and how we felt about one an another. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 8/30/2008 5:44:31 PM | | does not matter...sometimes the bigger the ring, the bigger the headache. loving me and respecting me is better than any ring. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 8/30/2008 5:48:20 PM | It's not the size that count's (really). The tradition that you spend 2 month's salary on the ring, so figure how much you make in 2 month's & that's about how much you should spend. But if money isn't an issue then you should be her what she deserve's. Take a close friend of her's or a family member with you to pick out the ring. Good luck & congrat's. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 8/30/2008 6:04:00 PM | Another way to get around the "I want it to be a surprise" dilemna is to buy a nice diamond and have it mounted on a very simple slender band. In that way, you can also spend a little more money on the diamond itself. You can probably ask her what shape diamond she likes without blowing the whole surprise.
Later, the diamond can be incorporated into the wedding band or another band can be selected for the engagement diamond.
A year or so later, as the actual wedding date approaches and you are looking at wedding bands, you've recovered a little from the engagement ring expense and can spend a little more on the bands if you wish.
Another point, in most cases, the value of a ring lies in the diamond, not in the setting. If you separated a diamond from its setting, the separate diamond will [should] increase in value, while the setting, in most cases, would just become scrap gold. After time, most settings start to show their age but a diamond always looks brand new! | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 8/30/2008 6:14:56 PM | | the size of a ring to me does not matter because you are married person not the ring. its what in the heart. | |
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| Does size matter ?
Posted: 9/2/2008 4:24:05 PM | | I'd rather see a guy buy something that he's not in debt for the next 5 years! If you get this big expensive ring, you're paranoid about losing it or damaging it or having it stolen. It's so much nicer to have a more modest ring that you're comfortable wearing all day, every day! Hey, even if the guy can afford a high-priced model--heck, save the money and do something that you both can enjoy, like a real nice honeymoon or put it towards your new abode. Maybe this is too practical for some people, but oh well, it's always worked for me. | |
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| Does size matter ?
Posted: 9/2/2008 4:37:22 PM |
What if i cant afford a ring?...
What should I do?
make one yourself. | |
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| Does size matter ?
Posted: 9/2/2008 4:41:25 PM | Frankly I'm of the opinion that any woman who's not happy with whatever ring you give her is a woman you should run from!!!
Life never fails to amaze me rofl 
I was quite literally, JUST talkin' about this very same issue with a friend off these forums about the ring, and it's importance.
That's awesome. Life FTW. 
Anyways, I told her, now as I'll tell you all, that I remembered a story about a friend of mine who had bought an engagement ring for his woman. She was also the Mother of his kid. He first showed it to his friends, myself included, and we thought it looked great. He told us where he got it, what he paid for it, and so on. He was ready to propose soon.
As it turned out, he did propose and she said to him (paraphrasing) "Are you kidding me?! What's that?! How am I supposed to show THAT off to anyone?!".
Naturally, he was devastated.
But like a jackass, he took it back, and spent the "traditional" 2 months salary thing for a "better" ring that she could feel comfortable showing off to her friends. I still remember the night she showed us, his friends, this "better" ring...we ignored it all night. One actually said "I liked the other one better". She was incensed that not one of us even gazed longer than 2 seconds and just shrugged when we saw it.
So yea, there's several shallow types left that still rate the ring size/cost/type as "how much he really loves me", or "what I deserve". It's easy enough to say when it's not your money to be spending...
I think it's a joke.  | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/2/2008 5:20:57 PM | | To be honest it does to me! I believe that every woman is different so u should always ask the one u love what she thinks. I have had alot of friends that think the smaller the better. Diamonds are a girls best friend and I love to show mine off! U should just start at your local mall and go in and be educated on them. Cut, color, clarity, and size are all important. Each store will educate u on them and some stores teach u more than others and some are really over priced. I worked at Zales and thought they had the worst diamonds I had ever seen. U could see the carbon in them with the naked eye which equals poor quality and cheap diamond. I live in West Lafayette and at our mall I prefer the diamonds at Andrews! Good luck! | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/2/2008 6:44:28 PM | | I haven't read all of these msgs...but the last one about Zales...they are great for colored gems...if you're going to buy a diamond from Zales, you will pay top dollar for a good quality stone....their lower quality stones really do have visible flaws...frankly...you might not want to go to a Zales for a diamond ring that you want someone to wear everyday for the rest of their life. Probably your best bet if price is not an issue is to go to your local jeweler with a good reputation. If you know something about diamonds...then search in pawn shops...make sure you get a written statement that the gem you are buying is a diamond and not moisanite. Make the pawn shop owner put in writing that he/she has used a moisanite tester and not just a diamond tester and that the stone is not a moisanite. Best pawn shops are usually located around casinos...sad but true. Remember you can always take the stone(s) out of the pawn shop ring and put it in another setting..so look at the stone quality rather than just what the stone is set it. | |
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