| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/2/2008 7:17:33 PM | i used to work in fine jewelry so i have a few suggestions. go for quality vs size. also, those who are serious about buying a nice stone buy loose stones and select a setting. stay away from those hideous marquis cuts, or the ugly pear shape. nothing says "i bought this at the mall" like a pear shaped ring in some gauche setting with too many little specks of diamond dust.
regarding size... does it matter... well...
as a female, i view it as a token of what value YOU place on her, and your love. of course, it's about love, and the size isn't the issue. but what IS the issue is that you are showing her what she means to you.
if you make gobs of money and buy the woman a tiny little fleck of a diamond, well, that pretty much says "you aren't all that important to me." it also says " i take you for granted," and " i don't have to go out of my way for you." if you ldon't make a lot of money, but you buy her the best ring that you could afford, it shows that you value her tremendously.
the woman, will have to show all of thier friends the ring that you got her. as soon as she tells everyone that she just got engaged, the first thing they'll wan tto do is see the ring...
it is a difficult issue because it IS about lov e, but the thing is... a man in love, will do anything he can for the woman who is the love of his life. he would spare no expense to win her love, he'd take her to the nicest restaurant... so with this view in mind.. what does it say about a guy if he can afford to buy a woman a one ct ring but buys her a 1.4 ct? too me it says, " you aren't that important to me."
personally... if i was to get married again..i'd prefer to use the money for something else...like an investment...down payment on some property...etc. but that is just me...rings...cars...weddings... too me they are all just a tremendous waste of money...
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:12:16 PM | For less than 3500, you should focus in karat's weigth and size and the decision should be according to the size of her fingers.
In a size 0 woman, it may look 'attention seeker' anything over 1/2 karats.
In an obesse woman, it may be 'not noticiable' anything below 1 karat.
For more than 4000, karat's weigth and size should be the least of your concern.
Focus in a minimum color of I-J; minimum clarity VS-1/VS-2; shape as standard round; cut ideal-type (not shallow, not deep) and graded GIA/AGSL.
Crash course, easy guidelines on bluenile.com
Consumer Report, for years, considers the most purity metal % piece of jewerly stores and quality/priced diamond engagement/wedding rings in Pawn Shop chain stores.
The reason to back up that reputation is simple: they don't make it, don't cheat and buy cheap. Yet, some women prefer appearance, store's name and a new ring, not a used one.
If that is the case, you may use the stone on a new custom made piece. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:12:41 PM | No, size does not matter. What matters is her taste. Actually, some women would abhor a huge rock and I'm one of them. Although our marriage never happened, my ex gave me the most exquisite engagement ring. Three of the teensiest diamonds one could imagine in a unique setting. The ring was from the 1930's bought in an estate sale. Cost? He told me it cost less than the televison he bought me for Christmas and that pleased me.
Be romantic and unique when you propose. That will be more memorable than the ring. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:19:01 PM | | Hell no! In personal opinion the diamond shouldnt be big at all 1/2carat or less! Women needs to earn their shit! My parents have been married 24 years my moms engagement ring was 1/8 carat and she didn't get more then a carat till last year! It shouldn't be about the size of the diamond it should be about how much you love each other! If she's going to be that concerned about how much it shines she doesn't really love YOU! | |
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| Does size matter ?
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:28:12 PM | | what gutter . I have to have a gutter when Im here . sheeesh I better get to a store to buy one lol | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:29:41 PM | Knowing that diamonds are an artificially-inflated commodity primarily ruled across the globe by a small handful of greedy companies, I am not impressed by them in the least, nor will I attempt to impress someone with them. I'll buy a diamond when DeBeers and all associated with it vanish from existence.
Even after supposedly "coming clean" and shunning their monopolistic history, they continue to be involved in questionable price-fixing endeavors around the world, paying out millions in settlements each time they're caught AGAIN.
Why not? It's not like the money comes out of their pockets. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/2/2008 10:21:55 PM | | I believe that what matters more to most women is the size of your heart how you propose rather than what size ring you give. | |
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| Does size matter ?
Posted: 9/2/2008 10:51:35 PM | i guess it depends on where he's going to wear it! 
sorry OP, i just couldn't resist. it's been a long day!  | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/2/2008 10:58:22 PM | it is a difficult issue because it IS about lov e, but the thing is... a man in love, will do anything he can for the woman who is the love of his life. he would spare no expense to win her love, he'd take her to the nicest restaurant... so with this view in mind.. what does it say about a guy if he can afford to buy a woman a one ct ring but buys her a 1.4 ct? too me it says, " you aren't that important to me."
I think I just threw up a little in my mouth...
Yep.
I recognize the taste.
What a waste of ink. Like I said previously, so easy to say when it ain't your money to have to spend...  | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/6/2008 10:26:08 PM | | I think the size of the ring depends on the woman. I am a woman and I would like a nice ring, but not gawdy, I like delicate intricate things. And I like alexandrite and saphire more then I like diamonds. I ilke diamonds but I love colored stones so Id want a coored stone with little diamonds rather then a big rock | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/6/2008 10:43:41 PM | | Just make sure it's AT LEAST as big as any ex's engagement ring - mine wasn't, and cost way less. I know, because I found both receipts! | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/7/2008 12:23:17 AM | I am one who believes that the little things in life matter most. It means more to me to get a small something from someone from the heart than to get a grand gesture of affection from someone who just went and bought it to impress.
However, I think marriage is forever. You are buying a ring for the person you are suppose to be in love with and would do anything for. You are giving a ring to the person that you are going to spend forever with. That is the time to give a grand gesture of affection from the heart. I would think a cheap ring would mean that is what he thought of me. Going out to find a ring I would like and to my taste is the thing to do. I am all for ring bling bling when it comes to marriage.
A ring is three months salary. If someone does not want a big, good quality ring, that is their right. If someone wants a good quality and big ring then that is their right.
I know if I were getting married, and he was into wedding ring bling bling, I would save until I could get him the ring he wanted.
Let my inbox now be full of hate mail calling me a gold digger.
~Carrie | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/7/2008 5:27:07 AM | Yeah right...the bigger the rock, the more lusterous the gold...The more she'll adore you...
You know, if you have to ask that sort of question, you probably don't have much of an idea what love really is...Maybe you should stop and re-assess that which YOU choose to believe in... | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/7/2008 6:14:32 AM | | There is a web site called Blue Nile that can teach you everything you want to know about buying diamonds... Size v. Clarity v. Cut v. Budget. The size of the ring itself matters a lot because if it's too big it may easily slip off your finger and you'll lose it. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/7/2008 6:21:15 AM | First of all does she even WANT a ring? Some women whether for aesthetic or work related issues or personal taste dont even want a 'real' engagement ring. Many women don't even like diamonds (gasp!) so you don't even have to focus on 'traditional' wedding rings.
Some women have issues with pawn shops and consignment stores but personally I think once you put a piece of jewellery on most of us dont care where it came from, it matters who gave it to us! (karma is a myth, the only vibes I ever get is from sitting on my stereo speakers and cranking the bass !)
If you do decide to purchase one make sure it's in a style she likes - I suggest taking her window shopping beforehand to see what she likes and balance it with what you can afford.
Btw - bigger is not always more expensive - the jeweller will go over cut, clarity, colour and carat with you.
Honestly - yes a large diamond is beautiful...but if she loves you its not gonna matter if you can't afford one.
Good luck and hopefully...Congratulations! | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/7/2008 6:37:39 AM | | Size doesn't matter but to some it does.......ooooops.....wrong thoughts.....just joking...but many do think there is a minimum size...just go to the produce section for carrots....but the jewelry store for diamonds....lol | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/7/2008 8:35:46 AM |
However, I think marriage is forever. You are buying a ring for the person you are suppose to be in love with and would do anything for. You are giving a ring to the person that you are going to spend forever with. That is the time to give a grand gesture of affection from the heart. I would think a cheap ring would mean that is what he thought of me. Going out to find a ring I would like and to my taste is the thing to do. I am all for ring bling bling when it comes to marriage.
I'm glad that I have enough common sense to fall into the trap of trying to buy someone's affection. I can't stop laughing with all these direct comparisons to the expense of the ring equalling how much they care for you.
A man shouldn't have to buy your affections. Nor should there be a price tag associated with them.
The shallowness of modern society will always amuse me, and ill me at the same time.
Unreal.
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/7/2008 8:59:03 AM | I normally tell the honest blunt truth on these forums, but there's way too much chance I might incriminate my pocket book on this one. If the woman really loves a guy it wouldn't matter if he asked for her hand with a ring ding, or a platinum bling. Women with tiny engagement rings are not seen as having little value to their man. Just because he didn't put any effort or expense or time into getting the ring doesn't mean the woman doesn't mean anything to him. I have to stop typing while I can keep the laughter at bay. Those of you fortunate enough shopping for engagement rings check out Simon G's site. Old world class and detail with today's quality craftmanship. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/7/2008 9:00:07 AM | The size of the ring is crucial. If it's too small it won't fit on her finger and if it's too large it will keep falling off.
Glad I could help. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/7/2008 9:11:52 AM | "Nothing says I love you like a big old honker diamond, nothing worse than having to whip out a magnifying glass just to see the stone."
Wow. If your lady has this attitude run for the hills!!!!!
I think a great new tradition is getting a ring made. Go to a reputable goldsmith and have your engagement ring made to both your liking. It does not have to be a big honking diamond (not that there is anything wrong with that if you are loaded) but if you do not have a huge amount of money to spend or think that 5k plus for a ring is ridiculous it is a great way to express your love with out having to go broke proving it. You can use any stone you choose or none at all. The diamond industy is dirtier than Hollywood, make sure you know the origin of the stones you buy and get you moneys worth. Your love for her has nothing to do with the size of a rock. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/7/2008 10:18:32 AM | No!
The Engagement Ring is a suprise! (you have to pick that yourself, then the secret is out)
The Wedding rings are inevitable, so pick a decent but modest one!
As for the size, Ostentatious rings serve only two purposes
1 they are nothing more than eye candy for envious friends!
2 they are part of the guilt trip used by jewelers to bolster their already huge profit margins!
Just remember a small good quality ring does not mean that you love her any less
And if she loves you enough, then a curtain ring would suffice.
Best regards
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 9/13/2008 12:21:21 AM | big daddy ink~
um...actually, if you read my personal feelings about the matter... my attitude towards money, and such, i pretty clearly stated that i would rather that the money be used for something like a downpayment on some sort of income generating asset... but that is MY opnion, and not neccessarily the opinion of many women on the topic.
and by the way...when you get married to someone... its not your money...and her money... it becomes both of yours. even if you keep separate finanances you are still in a legally binding partnership. so if you marry a partner who is financially irresponsible it can effect you too...
which goes back to the statement that i obviously need to clarify... i told the poor guy.. if you really love this woman buy her the best ring that you can afford... the key word here being afford... why a couple would want to start thier lives out together in major debt over a wedding or a ring is beyond me...people do it all the time... but what you are being so snarky about i cannot say...
perhaps it's because you have no career...adn that's really what you are being snarky about... you feel insecure about it. you are afraid that the woman of your dreams...she'd reject you because you could never afford to get her a ring... well... that's too bad...you could always DO something about it rather then lash out due to your own sense of inadequacy...
or it could be that you are one of those guys that makes a lot of money then uses it to control the person he is with... always acting like you have leverage, or "power" over them because you have more money then they do... you could afford to buy the woman a really nice ring, but you couldn't be bothered, because instead you only care about what YOU want instead of trying to go out of your way to make a nice gesture towards someone you supposedly love... yuck!
well anyway...good luck working through those issues...whichever ones they happen to be...
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