| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/12/2008 12:01:00 AM |
Women should be overwhelmed that he took the time to even contemplate ONE WOMAN out of a cast of billions (yes, billions).
Yikes, BDJ.... (You too, DaisyPetals)...
How about both should be overwhelmed with flattery, and happiness, that they found each other out of billions?
IMO... That's what 'the ring' should represent.
BTW, Ladies .... Why is no one talking about giving their man an engagement ring. What... I'm the only one that had??? 
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EDIT: He had asked me to marry him; I said Yes, and he slid the ring on my finger. The following month, I slipped his onto his finger... floored him... lol... priceless. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/12/2008 5:47:55 AM |
BTW, Ladies .... Why is no one talking about giving their man an engagement ring. What... I'm the only one that had???
And this is why I bow to you as a credit to your species.
*takes a bow*
And why "Sparkling" is so fitting in your name. You're a beacon of hope in a very shallow pool of materialistic kin.
He had asked me to marry him; I said Yes, and he slid the ring on my finger. The following month, I slipped his onto his finger... floored him... lol... priceless.
That made me just about snort, so what a great way to start the day off...thanks.  | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/12/2008 7:06:30 AM | BigDaddyJinx...
Here's my card! Now, if I could just find the right man to appreciate me! Amazing how hard that is these days.
Sparkling... you go girl! Love your idea. Can I borrow it for the future? I think that is awesome.
Tonight is the unveiling to the family. Can't wait to be a part of that. I guess it will be entertaining tonight. I just hope the guy doesn't catch on. I feel really bad for him. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/12/2008 8:17:31 PM | | It doesn't matter how much the rock and metal cost, the spirit in which it's given is what you can never put a price on. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/12/2008 9:32:27 PM | | engagement rings are a farce. this is not an ancient tradition. it was started by Debeers in the 1930's. diamonds are also wildly overpriced. its a total scam. If it wasnt for the fact my mother wants me to use her engagement ring I wouldnt buy one. If you must buy a ring , buy a gem that actually has some value emeralds or something. | |
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| Does size matter ?
Posted: 12/12/2008 10:58:47 PM | | Nope. Whether it's a cheap ring or the most expensive... most of them end up in pawnshops. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/13/2008 12:23:05 AM | | If you can't take it with you when you die than it doesn't matter. Pick the one you want or you think would look best on her and when you get married stick to your vows and the promises you make in them. No one on earth could ask for anything more. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/13/2008 2:53:07 AM | | I don't really care for diamonds, and would be perfectly content with a ring that was a small gemstone or stones in a nice setting....would not b expensive, and the size of the ring does not matter to me (unless it is too small, as in I wear a 6 and a half ring and it was a size 5, etc.) | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/13/2008 7:12:17 AM | I accept that this issue is important to most women and, as a man, I will never truly understand it.
I think the women here are saying what the ring means in terms of love and commitment and I think the men here are saying that the reaction towards the ring, across all variations, tells you something about the person. I think both can be right here.
I think guys can make an effort here to find some compromise to make a woman they love happy within reason even if they don't get it. I think the girls can try to see this from the male perspective, no one wants to feel like they are being extorted, and frankly, most guys feel like the engagement ring issue is tantamount to extortion. I also think women can try to recognize when a man is really trying, really trying, instead of invalidating his efforts across the board because she doesn't like the way the ring looks. And I don't mean trying as in working a second job to pay for the ring but trying as in making an effort to make some attempt at trying to make his woman happy. Too often I find most women fail to see the intent behind a gesture.
I don't know why this concept is so hard for most women to grasp, at least from the male perspective. Don't you ladies want someone to love you for you no matter what. Sickness. Poverty. Crisis. Failures. No matter what, you want a man to love you for you right? To stand by you no matter what? Why is it so hard to see that a man wants the same thing. That you will love him regardless of a ring.
The argument isn't about a ring, it's about the value of unconditional love.
I'll buy a ring for someone someday if I'm lucky and meet someone great. Whether it will be expensive or not, I don't know. Even if I don't really completely understand the whole issue as a guy. But I'll never give it to someone who refuses to validate my need and desire for unconditional love. I'll just take great care in making sure the person is worth marrying in my eyes period. If I do that, the ring issue is going to take care of itself. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/13/2008 12:32:22 PM |
don't know why this concept is so hard for most women to grasp, at least from the male perspective. Don't you ladies want someone to love you for you no matter what. Sickness. Poverty. Crisis. Failures. No matter what, you want a man to love you for you right? To stand by you no matter what? Why is it so hard to see that a man wants the same thing. That you will love him regardless of a ring.
The argument isn't about a ring, it's about the value of unconditional love.
I love your sentiments. That is what I want. But...I do want a ring, too....
Just something that he knows I will like because he took the time to find out what makes me happy.....and it makes him happy, too. I am not talking about huge, flashy and blingy. Just a nice traditional token of his love and a symbol of commitment. I am just a traditional woman.
You are rare man on here and it won't be long before a woman who recognizes a decent man will take you off down the aisle.
Choose wisely for a woman who is also rare.
Good luck! | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/13/2008 1:33:56 PM | i say buy a ring that is a token of your love not a display of your ego.
spend the money you saved on a ring on future flowers, notes and special cook at home dinners like lobster or steak. show her your love in other ways as well. at night in bed, whisper in her ear "i love you more than life itself my darling".........then..........
BANG HER LIKE A SCREEN DOOR IN A HURRICANE!!!!!!!!
she'll get the idea. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/13/2008 3:33:08 PM |
And this is why I bow to you as a credit to your species.... *takes a bow*
Ohhh, BDJ .... I just loooove when a man talks dirty to me  lol
And why "Sparkling" is so fitting in your name.
Well, my word ... 
You're a beacon of hope in a very shallow pool of materialistic kin.
Well, shoot ... 
*sigh* ... I have a couple of acquaintances that are of the materialistic bent ...which is why they are just acquaintances, even though they can be somewhat pleasant in other ways. Women, men, or even kids of that ilk, for that matter - I don't have much patience with, nor time, or use, for them. **well, now? ... that didn't sound so nice for Sparkling Me, now did it, Rose? Meh. **
...what a great way to start the day off...thanks. And, thank you kind Sir, for the recognition, and compliments * bows in return * Wishes for a Very  to you, and your's, BDJ ... | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/13/2008 3:48:03 PM | ^^^^ Edit: ***so glad I came to check in to see if Cat stopped in to post about the "Engagement Ring Unveiling Dinner" results! ***
Com'on Cat ... Inquiring minds want to know ... 
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/13/2008 6:33:34 PM | Hey Rose, maybe Cat was at the dinner and some manner of this chat was leaked and some heads exploded, causing collateral damage to all nearby?
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/13/2008 9:13:54 PM | It depends on the individual, how secure they are in the relationship & how materialistic they are.
It truely would not matter to me. I still have the plain gold band my first husband gave me. I no longer have the diamond engagement/wedding set my 2nd husband gave to me- it was traded in to get my sister a pair of diamond earrings for her graduation from college.
My mother passed away a few years ago. She had several pieces of jewelry with diamonds. Originally I was supposed to receive her rather large diamond ring that my dad had worked years to buy for her. She was shocked when we discussed it before she died (she had been ill w/emphysema for several years & knew she had little time left). I told her I'd decided that I did not want the diamond or any of her other diamond jewelry. Instead, I wanted to be left her original wedding band that had no jewels at all. I felt that there was something more special about that ring, that she had received on her original wedding day, over 50yrs ago, then the large diamond she received after some 10+years of marriage.
FYI my original heading on my profile read "I'll never ask for diamonds!" Material objects may be the goal of many these days, but I am not one of them.
The last serious relationship I was in, I proposed to him on Sadie Hawkins day & bought him an engagement ring-it was so worth the look on his face! | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/13/2008 10:03:13 PM | Carats are in a diamond, carrots you have with a steak dinner.
Now OP I am the type of woman that prefers a man to buy me something sweet but not necessarily expensive. I just think diamonds are very materialistic. Good luck with the ring. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/13/2008 10:48:48 PM | I will admit that I have not read all eight pages worth of posts, but of the half that I have read no one has mentioned the other qualities which go into assessing a diamond and its worth. The four "C's" are listed as:
1) Cut
2) Colour
3) Clarity
4) Carat
A 1.5 Carat diamond with a low ratings in the other 3 categories may be worth less than a .75 Carat diamond with high ratings. Poster Cat's friend may well have received a very valuable rock if its ratings in all categories are high.
Best to do some research and visit a reputable jeweller rather than a pawn shop.
To the poster who gave her man a ring - Kudos to you! Back in 1987 I presented my SO with a ring, but I didn't label it as an "engagement ring" although he wore it as one, and we ultimately used it as his wedding ring. Subsequently, we began to speak of marriage and rings for me. Although we had decided on a pink sapphire (before the celebrities made them so popular) I received a beautiful diamond ring, in a setting designed to enhance the appearance of my hand, several months later. (Reason for the diamond rather than the pink saphhire was so his traditional parents would actually believe we engaged and getting married, and I was okay with that - mostly!)
So, to conclude, your research should include finding out what your lady would prefer, and there's no better way than to actually discuss it with her. Perhaps even look at options together, and explore differnt stones, too. She doesn't have to know where or when you'll present it to her - you can keep that as a big romantic surprise, like my guy did!
Remember, size does not equal quality. Happiness to all! | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/13/2008 11:31:04 PM | | Find out what she likes, ask her friends ask her family but only people you know you can trust. If you're at her place, peek in her jewlerry box, If you're thinking of asking her to marry you then you've probably heard the "I always dreamed........" story. Just think about how much you love her, what she loves, and chances are unless your girl is seriously materialistic then the size of the ring won't matter, she'll love it because it's so much more than just a ring, it's a little girl's dream come true. Don't focus on the size, focus on the meaning. | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/14/2008 2:55:37 AM | Carat is a unit of weight
Carat is the unit of weight used to measure the weight of diamond and gemstones. Keep in mind that carat is only a unit of weight, not size. A one carat sapphire will be physically smaller in size than a one carat diamond because sapphires are a more dense (heavier) stone than diamonds. The term carat is abbreviated as c. or ct. when describing a solitaire diamond. T.C.W is the abbreviation used to describe the total carat weight of diamonds when more than one diamond is used.
Karat is a unit of proportion
Karat is the unit of proportion used for measuring the purity of gold. It describes how much gold is contained in a particular item. K or KT are the abbreviations used to signify karat. The measurement scale for gold is based on a range of 1 to 24 parts, with 24 karat gold being 100% pure. Pure gold is too soft for ordinary use and is typically alloyed with other metals such as copper, silver and nickel to increase hardness.
Carrot is a is a root vegetable, usually orange or white, or red-white blend in colour, with a crisp texture when fresh & native to Europe and southwestern Asia. Does the size of the "Carat," "Karat" or "Carrot" matter? Is bigger better??? It depends on who you talk to... And whether or not your mind is in the gutter...
As for rings; "Does the size of the ring matter?" My ex-gf said it depended on the reference: 1st) the ring around the tub, 2nd) the ring around the collar, and 3rd) the ring in my nose.
Unless you know the quality of precious gems, pawn shops are fraught with imitations and like *Karma* stated, it's there for a reason..." If your relationship is 2nd hand (pawnshops) go for it, if it's genuine, go to a reputable jewellery store. Your purchase should reflect your affection, ring size is immaterial, it's the size & depth of your love that goes with it.
**~Remington55~**
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| Does size matter ?
Posted: 12/14/2008 6:33:37 AM | No size does not matter - but as for the ring - what's suitable for your joint finances. Personally I'd love to have a guy put a ring on my finger but honestly, I think financial decisions should be joint. I know not many will agree with that but I've always made a good income and I can step up to the plate and share the burden of costs in all things so why should the guy be my walking ATM? He can shovel snow, I can't do that very well, he can lift heavy furniture so I can vacuum under it (can't do that either). I need a big strong lovable man not a cash machine.
If a man slips a ring on my finger you can bet he's going to get one back from me and it will be fantastic. If he can't wear a ring at work because he works with his hands he's going to get a gorgeous gold chain to hang it on his manly chest. Grrrr.
What does your intended want? | |
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| Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 12/14/2008 7:02:56 AM | | size of ring only matters to the woman who is not truely in love. When in love with someone i could care less if i could barely see it it was so small. the point is ...it came from the man I want to spend rest of my life with. Love is not about money. | |
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