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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 3/18/2006 5:31:38 PM | men have this 'switch'
(kinda like a lightswitch)
they are able to just 'TURN IT OFF'
just like that
they are o so interested in you as a fellow human
then? doop-OFF!
you are now not even a mere memory
just as valued as last week's trash
MOST females are NOT so lucky to come 'equipped' with this device
man, am i JEALOUS of MEN! | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 9:08:38 PM | Thanks to everyone who replied(except the few idiots who posted the rude/stupid replies)...I'm over this guy now though. It's been a few months since I posted this, and I realize I'm much better off alone than with an ***hole like him. And so many people assumed I'd had sex with him--I guess I didn't mention before, but I never had sex with him. I'm still a virgin(due to never being in a long-term relationship in my entire life--people get sick of me after about 2 weeks), and he knew that and SEEMED ok with it, but apparently he went off to find himself a whore, or a bunch of whores.  | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 3/18/2006 9:43:03 PM | i agree with Tario2
I think the bigger problem is saying I love you within a month, however, that is just me.
disclaimer:i only read the first 4-5 posts
I'm still a virgin(due to never being in a long-term relationship in my entire life--people get sick of me after about 2 weeks), and he knew that and SEEMED ok with it, but apparently he went off to find himself a whore, or a bunch of whores.
well there is your answer...personally i would take the virgin ...they are more rare than whores | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 10:00:53 PM | THERE IS NO WAY HE CAN LOVE YOU IN THAT SHORT AMOUNT OF TIME... HE IS JUST TELLING YOU WHAT YOU NEED TO HEAR, TO GET HIS LITTLE WEENIE WET... AND YOU LET HIM. ... A BOY WILL TELL YOU THAT HE "LOVES YOU"... JUST TO GET WHAT HE WANTS' A "MAN" WILL TELL YOU THE TRUTH. THIS "boy" DOESN'T CARE ABOUT YOU...HE ONLY WANTS' TO GET HIS ROCKS OFF... HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU OR MISS YOU...TRUST ME I KNOW. WHY BUY THE COW WHEN YOU CAN GET THE MILK FOR FREE...'DUMP HIM"...DON'T BE A SUCKER | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 11:32:41 PM | im 50 and age doesnt matter it happens with men/wemon at all ages . I was with my guy for a year and a half and during the first year hed not call for a day or two until Id call him. I told him i didnt like being the only one who called, and how it hurt my self esteem to feel like I was chasing him. well last november he did it agian , and I didnt call him . I didnt hear from him for a month , so I packed up his things and left him. Im a beauty at 50 great shape and Im self employed , I lke myself and didnt need some little shit tearing down my self esteem. I loved him allot, but I love life more.
Im dating some one new and although it still hurts Ive moved on. Its about how you feel about yourself.I know I should have dumped him sooner.  | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 7:57:25 PM | | oh god yes! my theory is these guys are either insane or they already have a woman that they thought about breaking up with but then they make up and youre out of the picture....as i always say me are like buses..you miss one, there's always another one to come down the pike...lol | |
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| He's just not that into you
Posted: 3/19/2006 8:05:57 PM | There is a book out there now that will answer all your questions, it is titled
HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. I don't remember the Authors name , but that is the title.He's been seen on oprah and talks about this very subject. Try getting the bok and then maybe you can spot the problems before they occur and prepar yourself. Good Luck | |
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| He's just not that into you
Posted: 3/19/2006 8:06:17 PM | There is a book out there now that will answer all your questions, it is titled
HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. I don't remember the Authors name , but that is the title.He's been seen on oprah and talks about this very subject. Try getting the bok and then maybe you can spot the problems before they occur and prepar yourself. Good Luck | |
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Posted: 3/25/2006 5:38:08 PM | Well.....the only thing I would like to say is....its a fact that most guys look for a quick fling and sex ( sorry guys....I am amongst one of those shy guys who have a hard time dating bcos I aint got that BAD BOY niche and I look for someone genuine ). I would say its the girls who spoil such guys by giving them sex too early in relationship without any commitment. If you offer more toys to a kid, he is obviously bound to get spoilt. I know a lot of women wont agree to this, but just sit back calmly and think about it. If a guy really loves you....he would appreciate your company not ravage your body.....and its a study made in UK that guys dont like to have wild sex with the ones they really Love.
So ladies the choice is yours......spoil the guys and then later crib over spilt milk or get to know the ground basics of really beautiful minds and pick one amongst them. I would say most of the nicer guys are more introvert due to the fear of losing you.....This was just a perspective of a good guy.....who has failed a lot and learnt a lot.....but still the basic rule remains the same....." NO PAIN NO GAIN " | |
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Posted: 3/25/2006 5:52:25 PM | | ...Because sweetie..guys on here are big talkers! all talk no action! .you should not let it get to you! those guys are just "Players" and do not desirve you...and they will get ..what they give( Carma).. ...dump..the loser and move on..dont look back, the right guy for you is out there...just dont be..needy! ask yourself " what do YOU want in a man! you have to be careful on here! to many players ...just know...and respect ...yourself first! good luck..and chin UP! | |
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Posted: 3/25/2006 6:12:15 PM | | this is gonna sound bad, but I have done the same thing in the past, well I have never told a girl I love her the first month i've known her but I have mislead girls unintentionally. In my mind the relationship is over and I begin to withdraw Till I finally say something. definitly not the appropiate way to go about it. mind you I was much younger then. you should be happy that it happened after month. think about the people who get married and then some tool pulls that with them. | |
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| He's just not that into you
Posted: 3/25/2006 6:17:31 PM | The authors names are Greg Brehrendt & Liz Luccillo( a writer and a consultant of Sex and the CIty). And, yes the reason why he's not calling is because "HE"S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU". And, be honest "You're Not That Into Him Either" written by Ian Kerner, Ph.d
If you really think about it we're getting hung up on men that we never really wanted in the first place. We've lowered our standards without even being aware of it. If you keep ending up with men who can't be relied upon to do what they say they will do ....then you're not being discriminating enough.When he wants to be with you , you want to be with. There are no doubts, no excuses, no waiting for the phone. You don't have to analyze the relationship or ask friends for advice. There are no games. It's that simple! | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 3/25/2006 6:22:01 PM | I nkow what you mean...Its so hurtful..I keep having my heart broken in pieces over and over..Its not fair...I have been blessed with a huge heart..and have wonderful qualities..yet its never enought.
Have you ever read the book "hes just not that into you"..It hurt to read it..but a friend gave it to me and it helped..
The guy I was seeing for three months couldn't tell me he loved me..just how mcuh he wanted to spend his life with me, how happy he was etc. etc..but then he had "feelings" for another..so i did the most difficult thing..I let him go..and guess what..he didn't come running.he went to the other girl..
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 3/25/2006 6:30:11 PM | Hi ShanunaDanielle first i wanted to tell you that I think your question is a darn good one. I have been through a similar situation. I was seeing this guy I met on yahoo personals for about 9 months. We both got to the point where we believed we met our solemate. Then one day he told me he needed time. I thought ok the guy has been single and is use to his own space I gave that space while watching him go on and off line. So then I decided to im him when I saw him on and he didn't answer the im just acted as though he was never on. Then it got so every time there was a disagreement he wouldn't call, talk or nothing untill I would email him and tell him i was going on because he lost interest. Well to make a long story short he hides from me on the computer and we no longer see each other because I decided that if he loved me and i was his solemate why dose he go out of his way to hide on line.So now I am hurt because I fell for him and it seems we are not compatible. But why after all those feelings are there do the just not contact you. Do they think of you at all.Are they playing games Guess there is no answer. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2006 6:54:41 PM | | Its not you its him. Your very attractive, maybe he just dosen't think he can fill you'r plate. Time changes everything, find personal interests that you enjoy doing and someone will come along. Now I just need to follow that advice for myself. I'm a new member of the lonly hearts club out here fishing for someone to be with. We all just need to take a deep breath and chill. Find a dose of possitivity with in ourselfs and keep smiling. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2006 3:15:13 PM | | I'm sorry, I've often felt like women do that to me. I'm not sure what it is, but I don't think it's simply a gender thing. I think it's in the people that you try to get to meet you. I could be way off, but I've experienced a similar situation with girls myself. As you said, who knows anymore these days. I can never tell anymore who is real and who is fake. Then again, I'm not sure I ever could. Still, I think it happens to all of us, male or female. They simply realize they won't work with us I guess. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 3/27/2006 3:27:12 PM | He is doing that because he does not know how to deal with it. He really does not love you at all , but can face telling you that. But he probably doesn't mind sleeping with you though- He is interested in that, but he does not love you at all. If I were you, I ignore him completely. If he does not have the respect for you -then piss on him. next time he wants some - tell him youre not going that route anymore--he can just go jack himself off-- I despise men who do women that way. Really, if your giving him sex then that all he wants from you..
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